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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:18:19 PM | | I know two guys who are like this. They require some 'training'. One just thinks it's cool to make it seem like he's so busy that he can't answer the phone. The other has a wife and kids, and he's sick of taking messages for the generation who seems to have the phones glued to their ears. So neither of them liked to EVER answer the phone, preferring to let me and everyone else leave a message and then get back to me at their leisure, even when I knew they were at home (yes, I checked it out, they were on their ass sitting doing nothing). I decided to make some changes. I started calling, and leaving a message telling them I was going out to some place I knew they wanted to go, was sorry I had missed them and maybe next time, but I was leaving the house RIGHT NOW. After a few weeks, surprise! They started answering the phone. Amazing what a little incentive will do. Women, pick an activity you know he will like. Get tickets. Prepare to take a friend, or go alone, so it should be something you like too (if you wind up going alone, later make up something about who else you wound up taking with you). Call him, say your boss just gave you tickets and you need to find someone to go with. He won't answer, then when he calls back, don't answer his call, you can always say you must have been 'out of range' or something. The next day tell him it was a shame you missed him, but you ran into Jimmy/Sally/Leroy/whoever right away and they went with you, and how wonderful the game/concert/show was, and how he really missed something great. If after a couple of these episodes he still doesn't answer the phone, he never will; either he likes jerking people's chains or he isn't interested in you. Either way, you should then move on. Yes, manipulation at it's finest, but sometimes that's what it takes to get a response from these people. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:34:45 PM | Can be a variety of many reasons. If you do hear back from him, just ask why he does this. Also I'd see these too as red flags. Married, another girfriend, etc.
Better to know all these things now than later. Honesty is the best policy all the way around from both parties.
YOU deserve the courtesy of his answering you one way or another.
Just remember, we live now in a society of mega selfish people, they dump you via cell, text, or just don't speak to you. They are also called cowards.
You deserve far better treatment than you're getting. Don't wait on him and hang by the phone, what a waste of your time and life. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:41:09 PM | I have a friend that just went through this. Matter of fact, it was amazing how obvious it was. I was surprised that she didn't walk away the first time it happened.
He doesn't want his girlfriend/wife to catch him cheating.
Sorry...
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:10:44 PM | | If he calls you and you dont answer but you call straight back, and then he doesnt answer then control freak springs to mind, I used to go out with someone years ago that did that, it was his way of trying to get me wondering....and if this is what hes doing its working! He may be married he may not, I think only you can know if theres something not quite right, we always tend to know deep down, even if we try to excuse it, or deny it :-) | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:52:02 PM | he doesnt answer the phone? lol
ya that does sound like a red flag that hes married or something. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 4:07:05 AM | i often don't answer the phone and I am not married, I don't even have a girlfriend. I simply hate the sound of a ringing phone due to annoying few months I endured in college, so I turn off the ringer on my cell. I'm also lazy about returning phonecalls. My friends, family, girls, they all **** about my phone habits.
And unless I have am in need of occupying or am coordinating some kind of meet up I basically ignore text messages.
I wonder if any women think i'm secretly married haha. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:22:14 AM | | Hey Anotheragain, I would like to get in contact with, could you raise your age limit by 2 years or just send me a note? Local guy | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:11:57 AM | I wont answer the phone to my partner at work.
My time at work belongs to my boss not my partner ! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:01:49 PM | I truly find it amusing how some people's lives revolve around that tiny piece of motorola plastic. I never could understand why anybody ran to answer a ringing landline before cell phones.
I also wonder what the monthly bill must be like for people whom I see in public with the cell constantly pressed to their ear. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:35:56 PM | | Maybe, but who cares....either way sounds like he has something to hide. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:38:16 PM | First of all I'd never call a man at work.. I never called my ex-husband at work either.. to me that is taboo..
But I do think he has something to hide.. after several dates he should at least be checking in with you from time to time.. does he do that? And does he return your calls in a timely manner? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:39:15 PM | | Hey, OutMind.... proof of insurance and a valid ID? LOL That's hilarious. Actually, I belong to background check.com... go there, it may cost you $35, but you will find out everything. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 2:33:41 PM | I hate talking on the phone, I can do for hours but I'm really thinking HANG UP ALREADY! So I hate giving out my phone number and I sure am not going to invite someone to my home after only a couple of dates, I don't know the person that well and I sure wouldn't accept someone trying to force it.
He could be married, I mean how well do you know him? Obviously he is not into you calling him, etc. so the question is, is that what you want and if not, then he's not the man for you. There is no right or wrong way really, it's about what you want and are you getting it, because if you accept less you will always be unhappy. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 5:53:40 PM | Be smart,
the next time he calls you and he wants to get together, tell him you will get back to him but and when the times comes to calling him back, don't call him. When he asks you why you did not call him back, just tell him that it is pointless calling him since he never answers his phone. Get him right in the butt and you will see how he won't like it. Then tell him that if he wants to continue to see you then he will have to show you a little more than he has in the past example answering his phone etc... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:02:19 PM | Why the hell are you calling him at work?
I think phones are meant for calling OUT on. I only answer like one out of five calls.
Some people call at the most inconvienent times (until I train them) now if it is somebody special I might make allowances.
I think the OP should lighten up on the calls let the man breath. And don't call him at work grrrr. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 7:43:04 PM | I think phones are meant for calling OUT on.........
LOL, if this were the case then phones would not exist because no one would answer them if everyone was calling out and there would be no communication. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 8:02:51 PM |
LOL, if this were the case then phones would not exist because no one would answer them if everyone was calling out and there would be no communication.
Hey I am a woman logic makes little sense in my realm. Now don't call me I'll call you! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:14:21 PM | | I see this and I think the same thing, you had best move on, "I know a heart ache when I see one" and this is it. If he doesn't return your calls, and doesn't answer them then I'm sorry but "He isn't that into you" accept that and move forward. There are plenty of fish in the sea why settle for a "bottom feeder" . change your bait and fish in a different area. Men tend to be like a frozen pie crust, flakey with no filling (feelings). They play games too. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 10:13:45 PM | | thats huge..no home phone number?? have you already had s-e-x with this dude?? Sounds like he's just playing games with you..you don't give his age..but i bet he's younger than you?/Could be many reasons why he's acting this way..but 'flushing' him out is the only way to know for sure.. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 10:37:40 PM | The last time I called anyone on my cell phone - I called my mom.
Mom died in Feb 2005.
I am sure I average under 2 times a month - that I even turn on my cell phone.
When I do turn it on - there is all of this bullchit on it lol.
I really should learn to to use that phone .. lol ... if nothing else I could clean off all the crap (text messages and crap) easier. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 10:50:58 PM | i mean, don't JUMP and LEAP to conclusions, but be careful.
I had boyfriends/dates that never ever answered their phones and always had their phone turned off. They said they had their reasons, but it was not a good relationship when we talked once every other week or so. ask him why he never answers his phone, ask if there are certain times that are better for him. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 11:14:39 PM | | Sounds like a control issue to me. He wants to be the one doing the "chasing". | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:10:27 AM | Gosh OP, I was going to suggest you email him with your POF email account, but
sandra0413 has left the building | |
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