| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:50:05 PM | | well,it would be too easy,wouldn't it...so what will eventually happen is,that you will not know whether to make a fuss over any special day with him and he won't have to,so forget all special occasions...my ex was a jerk on his birthday..I took him out with his kids and the waitress brought a little muffin with those memorial day sparklers on it...he promptly took them out of the muffin and stuck them back in upside down,muttering,about hating birthdays...he just felt centered out..so who can figure?..Ican't...go out with your girlfriend on your birthday...or,you can embarrass him by throwing a big party,send out invitations,lots of sparklers..lol....and hint that you want one too...it happens, a lot,especially in long term relationships...one forgets or doesn't make an occasion and the other one gets hurt...how old is this guy? | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:16:39 PM | | yes I agree quixote...ever heard of a woman giving a guy her charge account or credit card?....I did...he never had any money...even tho he worked...if both work,then one would think that both parties would have their own credit cards...specially if they aren't married and if you are married,well,isn't that the way it goes?...one would expect that if you are using your spouses's credit card,they would know what you are buying..no?..like stuff for the house,gas,food....not personal things...I find men on here are very negative and seem to want to start fights...most don't really like women...like women are gold diggers..always seems to centre around money...why would anybody buy a present for someone with their own money?...do people do that?And,you don't have to buy a present...you can do something nice instead or make something or go somewhere...or just have a nice candlelight dinner... | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:18:08 PM | I giggle at all the hatin' in these threads. It's as if the loser de jour did his badness to everyone who replies, and they all want to punish him, fix him. Folks, it hasn't occurred to you, but OPie may be a loser, too. Don't forget, she's been around the calendar with her beloved. She knows he isn't wrapping any packages any time soon, not for her, anyway. And there she is, and her bright idea is to make a guessing game out of it. She's where she chooses to be, and you hollerin' scolds ought to take it down a notch.
OPie, by all means, fvck with his world instead of telling him what you want. In fact, I suggest you have a big birthday party for him, with lots of cake and ice cream and a clown and a pony. Just don't tell him where it is! When he doesn't show up, give every guest one of the presents on their way out. When (and if) he asks about it, shoot him.
Cheers!
Vulf  | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:33:18 PM | Sounds like one of my past relationships... How can you forget someone at Christmas??? When our son was young he thought I was on Santa's Naughty list... I started buying my own Christmas presents.
I would leave, I did leave... it is not about the gifts, it is about being remembered. Having someone think about you.
~Charmed~ | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:31:06 PM | You need to get yourself a book called WHY MEN LOVE B1TCHE$ by Shelley Argow, get it, read it, and get some self respect. You wont regret it. I certainly would be thinking twice about that relationship and whether my needs were being met, if they are not and you have communicated this with him and he still chooses to ignore you, then kick his ass to the curb. You teach people how to treat you, so teach him you demand some respect here and dont put up with it a moment longer. Its about someone thinking you matter enough to remember, honey, it appears you just dont matter to him | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:35:21 PM | He is only doing to you and treating you in the way that you allow him to. He does not do anything for you but yet, you stay around and allow him to ignore you. Yes, ignore his birthday. Ignore his calls and ignore him. But since you are going to stay with him no matter what we say, ignore his birthday and have him take the next trip out to see you and see if he likes that.
Do what I do, if you are giving and not getting anything back, go on strike and see how they like it.
~Carrie | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:41:10 PM | | You're an idiot, he's a loser..and you HAVE no relationship...I am going to check your profile to see how old you are. You sound like youa re under 21..? | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:49:37 PM | It really would not matter to him if you gave him things or did anything nice for him.
He will not apprciate it or you. If you want to go for it But really I hope you wake up one day and relize he is not worth the time.
A special birthday does not require money. As far as him going out for 12 hours and leaving you really what is that all about.
The no job thing that is happening all over right now but respect for someone who drove that kind of a distance should have been a no brainer.
Really before you get to far with your feelings for this man I would rethink he disrespect for you . Birthday or not if you drove all that way to spend time with him and he left I would have gotten into my car. Checked my purse made sure I had all my money started it up and left after an hour of him being gone.
Now if you like all the drama then he sounds like the perfect man cause he cares for no one. So you would have lots of things to feel sorry for yourself I am sure. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:05:10 PM |
I always travel to him as he's unemployed at the moment and says he can't afford to come to me I think this says it all. I bet you let him cum in you though. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:32:52 AM | His forgetting your birthday is the LEAST of your problems.
Could this guy possibly BE a bigger loser?
I wouldn't drive 300 feet for this worthless asshat, why would you drive 300 miles?
I think this says it all. I bet you let him cum in you though.
Bwahahahaaa!!!! | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:14:14 AM | When you expect nothing you get nothing. There are plenty of guys that will treat you like crap that live in your neighborhood, so why drive 300 miles?
Seriously, you do know that you can do better than an inconsiderate, long distance unemployed guy, right? Normal men work hard, love their girlfriends and remember important dates. Look for a man that has a close relationship with his family and friends, is well liked &respected by his peers and does not make excuses when he makes a mistake. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:16:20 AM | I think the "no birthday pressent" is the least of your worries with this guy.
What are you doing????????????????????????????????????
This is insane. Why on earth would you let someone treat you in this manner??? All I can say is, after this one, the men I've dated have been total angels!
Don't waste another second with him.... | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:50:17 AM | The mention of missing holidays were mentioned so the "relationship" must have been going on for a while. How long has he been out of work? Is it a transient event or is he really an unemployed loser? Does he treat you well? Some guys are like that so if it bothers you need to decide if you want to hang around and just get used to it. I try not to celebrate Christmas or Valentines day or other overly commercial common holidays. I do try to make personal events like birthdays special though. Not knowing many of the facts it does sound like you are desperate.
Some may not have liked my last comment but I was merely saying that I bet you are having sex with this guy. He's certainly not going to make an effort to change because by you accomidating him he thinks everything he's doing is fine. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:27:50 PM | | He has abused you in the past, and you let him. He hurt you, and you said nothing, so don't be surprised if one day you explode in a passive-aggressive stance and knock his block off.... at the same time. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:39:49 PM |
so don't be surprised if one day you explode in a passive-aggressive stance and knock his block off.... at the same time. I would be surprised because by definition passive-aggressive behavior doesn't include knocking anyones block off, even at the same time. | |
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| He Ignored My Birthday, Should I Ignore His?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:27:11 PM | Doesn't sound like a happy relationship. How is he the rest of the time?
Many men just don't have that piece of the brain that links dates with annual events. Evolutionary flaw or something. I give a little leeway with the remembering thing and just remind them when a date is important to me. But your man KNEW. And left you alone while he went and got trashed....You seem to be doing all the heavy lifting here. Might be time to take a look at yourself and see if this is how you want it to be for the conceivable future. | |
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