| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:02:37 PM |
Thank you for making me feel less freaky!
You're a beautiful woman with a picture of your naked back and a tat... and a few holes in
your face... big whoop. You sound sweet, together and quite "normal"......
I wanna know more specifically what others have said.....
DETAILS WOMAN!  How can any of us help figure this conundrum out if we don't
know details!
Spill...... | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:12:38 PM |
Darn I wish you were a freak, I'd get freaky with you. oops maybe I'm who you're writing about.
To Yuckmowth....is that WHY you call yourself "Yuckmowth"? 
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:15:25 PM |
DETAILS WOMAN! How can any of us help figure this conundrum out if we don't
know details!
Spill......
I've been told on several occasions that my face is too "sensual" and that regardless of what I say, how I dress or whatever that I'm a "closet freak". Which only leads me to attract the wrong kinds of guys. Regardless of whether I am or not...that's not the type of guy i'm trying to attract. I don't dress overly provocatively. Just normal. And I'm an average, real type of chick. That's it. Yet...I get the "You're a freak" comment A LOT. So that's it....what do you think, bullielover62? | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:16:49 PM | I'm so old, I remember when "freak" was a compliment!
OPie, you can't choose what other people will say to you. You certainly can't protect them from whatever about you is new to them. And that's all this means. Many people have thin experience of their fellow people, and quite a few of those avoid meeting and understanding a variety of people. Naturally, to someone with such limited experience or such narrow expectations, most of us will seem freakish. So don't worry about it. They're telling you about themselves, who they at least know. How could they be talking about you, a stranger?
The bright side of this kind of thing is that you become more aware of your own baseless assumptions (we all have them), and you refrain from snap judgments, no matter how appealing they may be.
Don't you?
Cheers!
Vulf | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:38:23 PM | [QUOTE]How do you attract quality men without coming across as either a school marm or a freak?
I'm not very savvy at this dating game and really can't stand it to begin with - any tips or advice?[/QUOTE]
Yeah.
# 1) Be yourself!
# 2) way more important: ENJOY BEING YOURSELF! | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:04:42 PM | | I read nothing in your profile that states freak. You like tats and piercings... oh well. Nothing wrong with that. at least you do not have a blood and death fetish! | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:24:55 PM |
I don't dress overly provocatively. Just normal. And I'm an average, real type of chick. That's it. Yet...I get the "You're a freak" comment A LOT. So that's it....what do you think, bullielover62?
You're strong, you exude confidence and the men that are attracted to you are also afraid
of you.... That's my take.
We all put out a vibe... some of us are more aware than others how we affect those we come
in contact with. You may be putting out some sort of energy that scares guys off....
Ask your closest pals what they think. All we're doing here is guessing... and that's not fair
to you. As I said, you're beautiful, you seem together, so all I can surmise is that you're not
aware how you're coming across and there's gotta be something going on here.
Once, maybe twice I'd let it go... but if you're getting this a lot, you're doing something and
it's up to you to change that behavior or just live with the "freak adulation".
Ask your pals.... and get back to us. I wanna know what's going on. This is on you to really
get in touch with your body language, your communication skills and your basic energy
pattern....
PM me if you want.....
bullie | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:09:27 PM | Babygirl...always be yourself, no matter what...There is someone for everyone. The people that call you a freak are just intimadated by your individuality and spirit...Theres an old saying...F---K em if they can't take a joke! | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:24:36 AM | Well, OP, a lot is going to depend upon the "in person" factors, like Bullie said. Just looking at your pics, though, I can give you my impressions. Your face is sensual, and that combined with the dark eyes and short hair, piercings, and tattoos, will attract a certain kind of guy. (I'd guess BDSM, gothic, reads anime`, and usually pagan). How did I get all that? Let me break it down how a guy might think of you.
1) Sensual face -- ok, you're definitely a girl.
2) Short hair -- you're a girl, but you're not typical. Maybe lesbian? Looks good, though, so pixie-ish.
3) Tattoos and piercings -- you're a girl, maybe lesbian, and on the wild side. Wild side girls are definitely kinky!
4) Dark hair -- Gypsy. Very much on the wild side.
5) Has a kid -- Ok, you do like men after all. Freaky!
Now in this sense, "freaky" is a positive statement, but I can see how guys might think that you're part of a certain subculture and say "freaky" in a negative sense. | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:10:44 AM | | I might be wrong but from OPs last explanation I think you feel you're attracting men who are looking for intimate "freaky" encounters and you want to find a guy that will respond with a date- get to know you mentality... and I believe you're even attracting some of those that would like to get freaky with you here in the thread... lol... well I think keeping not looking for intimate encounters, marrieds, age range would help... and lets face it, the freaky men looking for $ex are going to contact anyway.. I am sure they contact any school marm too looking for a different way to stroke... so it's part of the issue with online dating there are those pervs out there and I guess for those looking for the same it's ok... but to weed through them to find Mr. Nice with a hint of bad is difficult... | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:14:47 AM |
If you're being called a freak because you have a few piercings and tattoos, then you it's obvious the guys calling you that are uptight losers who don't deserve your time anyways.
What he said.
what do you care what people who don't know you think?
There's that too. Honestly. I can see caring about what family and loved one's think of you, but random dating site folk? Pfft! Chalk them up to "not interested" (them in you or you in them... works either way) and move along.
People who go out of their way to insult you or make strange remarks about you based on almost nothing aren't worth the keystrokes you spent on the initial question. | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:47:41 AM |
I can see caring about what family and loved one's think of you, but random dating site folk?
I totally agree and, typically, that is my standard way of thinking; however, my problem is that I get this from close friends, acquaintenances, and now people I've just met...makes a girl start to wonder....?!
But I think Aurora772 broke it down the best and I can see now where it's coming from (this makes TOTAL sense):
1) Sensual face -- ok, you're definitely a girl.
2) Short hair -- you're a girl, but you're not typical. Maybe lesbian? Looks good, though, so pixie-ish.
3) Tattoos and piercings -- you're a girl, maybe lesbian, and on the wild side. Wild side girls are definitely kinky!
4) Dark hair -- Gypsy. Very much on the wild side.
5) Has a kid -- Ok, you do like men after all. Freaky!
So, thanks guys! Appreciate it! | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:24:00 AM | I'm glad you're so relieved, OPie. Now, can we get you into that Nazi milkmaid costume? A lot of freaky butter needs to be churned!
Cheers!
Vulf | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:25:31 PM | | why? i can't see anything wrong with you or your profile. anyways us freaks gotta stick together...lol | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:32:42 PM |
I'm not very savvy at this dating game and really can't stand it to begin with - any tips or advice?
Here's a tip: don't do things you can't stand. | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 10/14/2008 6:32:58 AM | I think your very beautiful...
I think that tats and piercings comes with a reputation
Its like a sign. Like in the the old days where if a certain ier was pierced it was a sing to let others know if your were gay or not.. LOL who wrote that rule book? LOL
Be yourself its all good
If you would like to go out sometime let me know I am from Jackson
clayton | |
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| Always called a freak
Posted: 10/14/2008 6:41:09 AM | maybe the guys who are calling you that are trying to get your attention (like the little boy who pulls on the girl's pigtails in class)...if that's the case, then it's also just as immature
enjoy being who you are - an attractive woman who lives life the way she wants to
and consider if people who write to others merely to insult them are really the type of people whose opinion is worth considering
to people who share common interests with you (tat's and piercings) your likes are going to be very attractive and if *freaky*, it'll be in a good way | |
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