| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:10:20 AM | | I've said goodbye to online dating quite a while ago. The old fashioned way doesn't work for me either, so I've said goodbye to that too. | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:46:23 AM | Online Dating.... The old fashion way of dating.. Blind date dating... Someone you've known for awhile dating... Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah!
It is all the same Sweetie! With different ways of proceeding it!
Whether it's "online dating", "offline dating", "overthe line dating", or under the line dating"... It is still dating!
It's all got to do with the two people involved. Their attraction towards one another, compatibility, sometimes the age is a factor..... and so on....
Geesh, online got nothing to do with her girlfriend!
It's all about "Who we are"!
Just my ten cents worth, price has gone up along with everything else:tonue:
cindy is back | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:54:27 AM | I have to agree with cyn48 to a degree as patience is a true fact of online sites, I have been on them for 4 years now and I have found that it is a more social network than a true dating site. As for pre-screening for a sure thing.. well we know that works at times and not at others. I've tried both also with the old fashion you still have no idea what is really behind that smile , I have been shut down many times by a various people who say they truely want and are looking for one thing and in essence are not.
Yes, it is as easy for someone to lie here as it is to do the same in a bar, I have read all the comments and yes its true and yet false to some of what they are saying. I'm not going to say the all women are gold diggers and that all men want just sex, simply because of the fact that it just is not true . I find that in a true person that you can read between the lines to find those who are not, Is it frustrating yep you better know it.
If you paint the wrong portrait others are going to read it for what it is, what ever you decide to do just remember to be yourself, care enough about yourself to be open and honest about what you really want and stand by it. Be positive to the fact that some day some where that person will find you and or you will find them. Also you and others can agree to disagree to what has been written. Be and stay positive and hold your head up for not one can take from you that you are not willing to let them have, take care of yourself and may the best go with you in what ever direction you decide to go.
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:59:40 AM |
anyone else had their ass handed to them one to many times by emotional/sexual abusers from this site?
I don't think there's an issue with online dating. I think unfortunately you are just making poor choices about who you choose to go out with. | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:10:01 AM | Good luck to ya...Youve have some bad experiences with internet dating?..Well welcome and goodbye...Im sure most of us have...I dont limit myself to any internet site for the only means of dating woman...Ya get what ya pay for !
POF is a really great place to communicate and hear some great ideas about the lunatic world of internet dating..There are some really cool people that gravitate to the forums ... | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:28:48 AM | Finding the right people to meet on-line does have a learning curve. I think I spent the first year learning and then the second year using what I learned to find my special someone. I did eventually find that special someone on-line and we have been together for 13 months now. He is truly the most wonderful man I have ever known--let alone dated! No, he is not perfect, but he has the biggest heart, the most wonderful intellect and humor, and is caring almost to a fault. I can no longer imagine my life without him.
There are some men on here who are in relationships, but they are not as many as you might think. There are some men on here who are true players, but they are not as many as you might think. (Same goes for women.) In the case of men, I have found that most of them are truly looking for a good relationship BUT if they meet someone and believe that person will not fit the bill, many of them will attempt for the sex anyhow. Please remember that. Often it is not that they are looking just for sex, but they have decided that sex is the only thing they want from you--if you are willing. If you don't want to provide--don't! Most of the men I met eventually did find someone--yes I did remain acquaintances with many of them. And most of them did meet someone on-line. Remember that. It is just harder because you don't meet in the physical sense and that makes it harder. We tend to pass up way too many men (and women) because they don't look good 'on paper'.
I eventually learned to meet every single man who asked and a few I asked--unless they had something I could not abide by. Smoking a biggie for me--sorry, just can't stand it--none of my friends smoke either! Also size because I am quite small. I wanted to feel comfortable with a man, not feel like he was a looming presence. And distance. I did not want to meet anyone who was far away--the long distance thing just is not for me. My life is complicated enough! I did manage to be persuaded a couple of times and met some very nice men but it is hard enough to find someone close with the greater numbers--the chances one of those few long distance men will be right is even less likely. So I did learn to meet almost everyone and NOT be picky in regards to meeting. And was VERY pleasantly surprised many, many times.
It worked. We are now one of the many success stories. | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:34:24 AM | Hi Euphoric,
I really think it is about what you put into it and what your expectations are. My experience with POF, about 1 year, has been 98% good. The men that have written to me have been wonderful, interesting, respectful men with only a couple of exceptions. Those exceptions were quickly eliminated. Myself, I don't forsee being on POF too much longer. My profile is already hidden. When I started, I did not have expectations of finding romance or sexual intimacy, my goal was to find friendship and see where it goes from there. The reason I would leave POF now is not from any kind of dissatisfaction but because the process has naturally run its course. I am a different person than I was a year ago and am moving away from POF as a means to meet people. My criteria is different than when I first began. Would I do it again, most definitely yes. Wishing you well on your dating venture.
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:38:56 AM |  First i want to say sorry you have had bad times on date sites ect
people can be just as fake in person as on a date site .People looking for sex or a quick relationship can get that through sites or in person if they want i am sure! but there alot extra drama is it worth it for me no! and there alot on this site might really be this way and not really be interested in longterm real relationship,a can be dishonest and be fake not what they really are like in person.
But not all are so please do judge everyone as if there looking for a quick fling or are dishonest and not serious on looking for a longterm relationship.
I think it all comes down to each person and there choices
sorry for being so simple
Blessed be
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:43:47 AM | | I think its that way on every site..i did meet a guy..but not from this site....just hang in there u will meet a guy soon....i have been rejected a lot of times..where i just wanted to give up , but im glad i didnt..cause i ffinally found him.... :smile | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 7:58:17 AM | My 2 cents...
I have been an on line dater for some time now.
Yes I have met many terrrific guys, have dated, been in relationships and for one reason or another it didnt work... like anything else in life....
Yes I have come across my share of wacos... and learned quickly how to weed them out.....
Recently I have stepped up and become an events coordinator for the site and have found this to be a MUCH better way to meet people. You go out, dance, laugh, have fun and all in a safe non threatening environment.
So... my theory about on line dating is no longer to meet mr right, but to put myself in situations where the chances are greater for that to happen and in the mean time... meeting a great group of people to hang out with and kill the lonely times we all have because there is no one to do anything with.......
Get in on the events.. trust me you will have FUN.
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Posted: 5/21/2008 8:12:50 AM | OP, I know you probably feel bad about being taken advantage of or whatever the case may be, but I feel inclined to believe that the only reason you say that "the old fashion way works" is because you WANT to believe that more than you ACTUALLY do.
There's no such thing as one way of meeting being better than another. Yes, the old fashioned way does work, but you wouldn't have moved to online dating if you felt like it actually works for you, would you? You're basically saying that everyone online is just out for sex and that's not the case. Some of the people on this site who complain about 'getting burned' need to learn to read between the lines better, ask better questions, have better conversations (generallybetter interpersonal communication skills) etc., because when you learn to do those things you see the signs of incompatibility pretty quickly and easily. Furthermore, you can use those skills in your face-to-face relationships and you'll have the option of meeting people through a plethora of channels- online, offline, through friends etc.
Basically what I'm saying here is that you can't knock others for using dating sites (especially when you tried it yourself), because some people actually do find great matches online. Also, you can't mad just because you met a few creeps online and diss the whole operation, because the fact of the matter is that there are creeps on and offline and you never really know that you've met a sneaky creep until weeks into knowing them.
Anyway, I noticed you didn't post any responses and I figure you're probably not going to, but if you do read this be safe and good luck on your quest for the right one. | |
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| saying goodbye to online dating
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:22:29 AM | | Dating sites are just a tool to be used by single people. If a guy sticks his hand in a wood chipper is it the wood chipper's fault? | |
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