| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:51:21 PM |
I agree that it can become an addiction, but in most cases I don't think it is. Don't see anything wrong with it.
Exactly!
I love watching it, and if you watch it with your partner, it can make for a pretty hot night (or day, morning)! | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:36:22 PM | I like porn..if it's well done..and there is some good porn out there...it just isn't cheap. Used properly it can be an enhancement for some people.
but if my guy is spending more time with porn than with me, or if he gets off on the degrading stuff..that's a different story.
and what's with the spitting? ick. Another thing..lesbian sex is NOT portrayed accurately AT ALL. Maybe some of these producers or directors should see some real stuff first before trying to make lesbian porn. One more thing..most of the men are troglodytes..why can't they have attractive guys?
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:46:01 PM |
I do agree men who's basic source of sexual pleasure is beating off to porn really do have a distorted view of what ''real'' sex is about.
The problem I have with most of the comments I have heard here from the females is they don't understand where a guy is coming from. We are very visual beings. That is what gets us turning. It may be a distorted view of what real sex is about, however, we are men. We cannot control how we were made. We were made this way for a reason. To keep life continuing. There was a great special on Opera I think about Porn and such and they had some huge male celebrities on. I remember Jay Leno as being one of them and they talked a lot about this.
Us guys realize you can't and will never be able to relate to us about "sex" and how sex is to us. As we will never really understand about you. Just respect us and we will respect you as well. You can't change something that all us guys were born with. We will always look. It's how we were made. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:56:54 PM |
Another thing..lesbian sex is NOT portrayed accurately AT ALL. Well actually, sometimes it is... *cough*
Yeeeah, it's all about knowing where to look.
*looks around sheepishly* | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 9:14:24 PM | I have researched this topic some and had my belief confirmed ~ there is a fine line between watching pornography for entertainment and having it evolve into a sexual addiction. For me, it has nothing to do with feeling inadequate. When I love a man, I have no desire to see other men naked and I want the same in return from my partner. And don't give me the "men are visual" crap ~ so are women!
However, after having an ex husband who had a sexual addiction and a former S.O. who used to watch internet porn and lie about it, it's simply something I won't have in my life. Period. A man can watch whatever he chooses, but that man won't be in my life.
Not to mention the well documented fact that the vast majority of female porn stars were sexually abused as children. Hmmmmm What a surprise.
Pornography objectifies women and it is profoundly degrading.
I also agree with the other posters who articulated so well how pornography creates unrealistic expectations about sex and about women. Men become immersed in a fantasy world that real, genuine sex will never live up to. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:11:43 PM | ClassyfiedAlly
You can deny it all you want. You might be somewhat visual but that is the majority of what gets a guy going. This can be confirmed by woman that orgasm because they feel close to the man. Not because of what he is doing nor what he looks like. It might be a combination of things but usually they need to feel "close" emotionally for it to happen. You're not a guy so I don't expect you to understand. Guys get turned on by visual images. Whether we are looking at pictures, video, in person, if we don't have that stuff we use visual images in our head.
The only downfall to these forums is that you get to large of an age group into certain forums and that really screws up the genuine responses. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:14:00 PM | because it turns me on. DUH.
ooohhh you mean in a bad way???
well my friend... (not that i know you hah!) its called our good ole friend INSECURITY.
nuff said.
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:52:31 PM | But as a woman I refuse to compete with some stupid fantasy a man saw on a video of really bad actors/actresses. I am me, I have my own sexuality. I don't need to try and live up to a man's unrealistic expectations.
This is a baseline of women's attitudes on porn. They see it as competition. Do they also see Indiana Jones as competition?
Women do not understand that porn is ENTERTAINMENT, not a relationship. When a guy watches James Bond beat up some wacko villain with acid and mechanical parts, he doesn't expect something like that to happen. Men enjoy watching such exotic adventures, but do not expect to LIVE them. Likewise with porn, they do not EXPECT to participate in the exotic acts and sexual stunt-work shown in porno. They may ASK, but they do not EXPECT.
If you think porn is silly, sit down and point out WHY the woman in the porn flick would not be enjoying what's going on. Then, sit back, eat some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle.
A horror movie lets you feel fear.
An action movie lets you feel excitement.
A romance lets you feel empathy.
A drama lets you feel sadness.
A porno lets you feel horny.
It's ENTERTAINMENT. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:56:20 PM | | ^^^^^ Baseline. Yeah, that means in general, duh...! In general does not mean "excluding all other possibilities". Thank you for clarifying the obvious. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:56:33 PM | competition? haha yeah right I am in no competition with any porn star.... I have no problem with porn , or much of anything else really , in moderation.
I don't care for certain *types* of porn (overly violent etc) but thats just *my* personal preference.
A lot of the women I do know who get offended by porn or get upset if their partner watches porn have been very self concious , they expressed the same distaste of their guys appreciating the way a *non porn* actress looks..... insecurity maybe? worry?
dunno, can't say for sure....
have to admit if a guy is watching porn all the time, it's a bit of a turn off... gotta find that balance right? | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 11:25:00 PM | it is ironic as women are so prone to allowing themselves to be in porn for money.
females ought to work together and make a change, but they won't. they won't even work together to keep the younger women from chasing down their older husbands. women are just ruthless and they won't do anything about helping their own sex.
strange stuff happens on this planet. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:41:31 PM | | Hey, if my fella wants to look at magazines, watch videos, etc. then so be it. Where I get my dander up is if he'd want me to watch it with him; if he would spend too much time (obsessed); if he'd spend too much money on it; or compare my body to theirs. Then, I'd get worked up enough to clobber him over the head and put his butt on the couch for a long while. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 7:51:09 PM |
This brings up another interesting point... your use of the word "compete." I don't mean it as in looks CSI. I mean it as in the actual acts performed.
I didn't say anything about looks. I don't get where you derived from my post that I was talking about looks.
I'm saying I don't see how there's necessarily any competition going on. Most guys who look at porn have a very healthy attitude toward it, meaning they understand it's a fantasy and don't expect that their real-life girlfriend is going to do anything remotely like what is on the screen. Maybe some men do, but that is the minority. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:29:47 PM | I am involved with a man who openly and proudly speaks of his porno collection (more like a DVD library) with his mates, and after the first two weeks myself. I have watched a couple of different scenes (which I gather is a popular way to package some porn) and from this experience have decided that it is more fun being behind the camera (if you can get willing participants). I guess women look to visual stimulation for different reasons than men. What I'm looking for in a porn is a bit of a story line, painless expressions on the girls faces, and some degree of obvious lubrication. Generally I prefer pictures in magazines (of naked women), or the 'real-life' stories about sexual encounters (can be both).
Basically, from a female perspective, the men in most porn scenes are fat or bald or ugly or generally enjoying what they are doing despite the people (classically: gorgeous, young, athletic girls) they are doing it to.
I am not opposed to my man watching porn, but it really is a 'man-thing'. Just as there is no Viagra for women.
FOREPLAY is physical for men, but psychological for women....... | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:32:07 PM | Yay!! I agree.
There is minimal porn suitable for women. I would prefer to make my own movies and watch them. Perhaps there is a niche for female directors/producers in Australia.
Are we even allowed to make porn in Qld??? | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:50:17 PM | For me, I like good porn. But I only watch them and/or look at pics when single. When I am dating someone I don't even think of other women but the one I am with. Now I do flirt, I cannot say I don't and I will always look at the hot girl and the freebie glances. I'd be threatened to be gay if I didn't. But like they always say "its ok to look around just don't take anything home" This goes for men and women. I would expect my g/f to look and flirt with other guys it is human nature.
But back to the porn. I think that "normal" porn is ok. No weird stuff, illegal, and immoral. But this is also a huge double standard to me I think soap operas are "tv rated" porn that has the imagination of what is happening but it just never "shows" it. You know what is going on "behind closed doors" And what about romance novels? Women have told me that they think that the Penthouse Forums compare to those. I also agree with another poster outlaw porn and I think we should outlaw the vibrator. Not fair for one gender to have pleasure and not the other. Now that would be a true double standard.
One of my friends dated a girl that was about addicted to porn and tried to get him to do the things the guys did. And he refused because it was some heavy s&m and he wasn't into hurting women. Oh crap there goes another generalization down the tubes that only men get addicted to porn.
Best of luck to everyone  | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:51:04 PM | | When I was younger, I thought it was "competition"....then I actually watched some that had a story line and I thought "not bad"...actually kinda........fun. Tho my ex didnt get anything that was over the top.....or over the table..lol...I think it can be great as long as there isnt any comparison or addiction. It can lead to some great sex after. Ive watched a few of the so called blue movies on the sex channel and they are just lame....lol. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 9:38:06 PM |
Some women have had to deal with SO's becoming addicted to porn to the point where no woman was good enough for them.
Some women see porn as threatening because they don't want to get naked in front of their men only to be looked at with disgust.
Some women have beliefs that state that porn is bad.
Some women are uncomfortable with sex in general.
Some women think porn will give their men ideas on what to do (things they don't want to do).
There's more, but I'm already zoning out.
This is pretty much dead on. However I think this applies to a large portion (if not a majority) of women though some are obviously more vocal about it than others. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:02:37 PM | Megahertz08 - yes most definitely! A man should be focusing on his wife or gf and not degrading her by looking at whores.
I think 99% of guys have watched porn, and I'd say most of these have also gotten addicted to it, at some point or another.
Whether guys consciously think it or not, watching porn changes your view on women, particularly the raising of standards. It also motivates and satisfies lust.
I'm certainly no saint, but I can't imagine why any self-respecting girl would tolerate any kind of pornography in a relationship. It is just doomed for failure. Why? Guys like that will rarely be satisfied with their wife; always be checking out other girls in public places; and will cheat because they have developed no self-control.
A man whose heart is filled with lust cannot resist temptation. Impossible. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:05:33 PM |
We are very visual beings. That is what gets us turning.
Maybe you should try visualizing the woman you love then. After all, wouldn't you be with her in the first place because she "gets you turning"? The rationalizations some people come up with for their behavior is amazing. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:20:42 PM |
Maybe you should try visualizing the woman you love then. After all, wouldn't you be with her in the first place because she "gets you turning"? The rationalizations some people come up with for their behavior is amazing.
i'd like to think this is natural for men to do to increase the lust for his gal and have little ability to lust in the beginning. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:28:00 PM | | ok.....im reading more posts and feel the need to comment again....there is a difference between watching something together and having some fun and the so called addicts...everyone fantasizes sometimes. Whether its a porno movie....or an imaginary encounter with Brad Pitt or the neighbors pool boy. Technically, its all porn. It doesnt necessarily mean you love your SO any less. I myself have never cheated, but it doesnt mean i cant appreciate the beauty in another....or feel sexually attracted to another. I think my actions of not pursuing anything means more than if I had a fantasy about them. | |
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