| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:04:17 AM | Kirk1965
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:27:30 AM | i love porn and enjoying my self but every one has there own opinions if u dont like it just don watch it but wen ur with a partner why buy stick books and look at porn on net or phone u have a girlfriend u dont kneed all that crap just watch porno with ur partener while having sex its very satisfying it gives u new ideas im single so i enjoy it but u got u repect ur partner as well. but i would rather some one beat over porn than go out and hert a women for sex .people complain about a lot of stuff but just cos its there dosent mean u have to do it if u not like dont be involved its not like there pictures every on poles and signs and wall with porno pictures on them so wats ur problem get a life.  | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:24:24 AM | | I have a friend who got hooked on porn (a guy) and he admits he can't really make it with a woman easily... now if she dressed up in a nun habit maybe... he has asked that I clean out his room of all the porn if he should die... and he keeps vibrators for the women in his life due to his issues with being with them... I think it rather sad but what do you do... he's brought out his famous "but" and plopped it on the table for us girls to look at when we came over and fixed dinner at his house... it was the unused version as he always had backups... by the time you get to be my age men & women start having enough issues to overcome without adding porn addiction to the pot... | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:32:52 AM | OP,
One thing to keep in mind, when you spend money on porn, you are making a donation to the sex slave industry, human trafficing and organized crime.
Same with if you buy drugs from your buddy, who gets it from his dealer who gets it from a gang who get it from organized crime. You are financing the guns bought for the drive by shooting in your neighborhood.
Cause and effect. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:13:06 AM |
^^^^ So ... when you have a boyfriend YOU stop watching romantic movies? I mean, your boyfriend should provide all the romance you need, there's no reason at all to watch Brad or George flirt with Catherine and Julia, right?
Thank you WackMC! Very good point!
And to address the level of crime committed by porn addicts, yet again...
I am not dismissing it at all. I am sure it happens, but like i've said, that person is an unstable person to begin with. The porn or "slasher movie" might give them ideas on how to act it out, but they're a ticking time bomb anyway, and something as small as seeing an attractive person smile at them could set them off. Perhaps we should all stop smiling, just incase.
With this logic you should boycott all forms of media, because if someone sees a movie with a bomb in it...they might be inspired to build a bomb! If someone reads in a paper that a bank was robbed, they might be inspired to rob a bank! These people have issues already and any number of things could set them off. Besides, they are such a small percentage of those who view porn. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:27:41 AM | WackMC ~
^^^^ So ... when you have a boyfriend YOU stop watching romantic movies? I mean, your boyfriend should provide all the romance you need, there's no reason at all to watch Brad or George flirt with Catherine and Julia, right?
Very good point wackMC. Should women stop watching these. The man should give them enough romance you need.
lucretia21
I am not dismissing it at all. I am sure it happens, but like i've said, that person is an unstable person to begin with. The porn or "slasher movie" might give them ideas on how to act it out, but they're a ticking time bomb anyway, and something as small as seeing an attractive person smile at them could set them off. Perhaps we should all stop smiling, just incase.
With this logic you should boycott all forms of media, because if someone sees a movie with a bomb in it...they might be inspired to build a bomb! If someone reads in a paper that a bank was robbed, they might be inspired to rob a bank! These people have issues already and any number of things could set them off. Besides, they are such a small percentage of those who view porn.
Awesome point!!!! I mean what bout movies like Saw are people going to try those also. And see what it feels like to cut off a body part to survive? Very small minded people also. These people are already that way. Most people have common sense not to do these things. Like most men have common sense that porn is not reality.
All in all I don't think most men would not get addicted to porn. We do not expect women to do things. We have fantasies about women. Women have fantasies about men. Its normal. There is absolutely no difference in the two.
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:15:16 AM |
From:val0214
OP,
One thing to keep in mind, when you spend money on porn, you are making a donation to the sex slave industry, human trafficing and organized crime.
Same with if you buy drugs from your buddy, who gets it from his dealer who gets it from a gang who get it from organized crime. You are financing the guns bought for the drive by shooting in your neighborhood.
Cause and effect
It seems you've been indoctrinated by feminazi misandric propaganda of the likes of Katherine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin. Dworkin in particular was a crazy b-word.
pornography, is " exploitation by men" say these nutjobs. It is funny, because they wanted " female liberation", resulted back in the 1960's, but at the same time, they want to " restrict that liberation" of women wanted to get themselves involve in it. These women (and men too, let's not forget that) choose to get in this industry themselves, so how is this " sex slavery"?? If the Dworkinists don't like the freedom of women to have sexual choices and freedoms, then they're welcome to move to Saudi Arabia. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:35:49 AM |
One thing to keep in mind, when you spend money on porn, you are making a donation to the sex slave industry, human trafficing and organized crime.
I actually once had a friend who ran her own porn business. She ran the company and was the principal model for it. She and a handful of employees ran the web site out of her place in the southeastern US.
Now, explain to me how a guy who paid to access her web site was contributing to the "sex slave industry" when her site was completely autonomous? | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 5:29:28 PM | Both of you are correct. There is porn out there that is made by a woman who kows what she is doing, but for every one of those there are 2 being made where the girl has been coerced, drugged, bought, filmed without her knowledge etc etc
With the advent on the internet, people are looking for *different* porn, not just the sterile playboy, jenna jameson, fluffed up blonde cheerleader style stuff. They are looking for harder action and this is normally performed by very submissive girls who may not have all their mental faculties in place (ie drugged)
Dont keep thinking that porn is so *innocent* | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 6:37:03 PM | I don't think anyone i suggesting all porn is innocent..but at the same time you cannot claim all porn is exploitative. The vast majority of porn is the same old stuff. ..ridiculously large penis, ridiculously large breast and bad make-up and horrible acting.
But to paint all porn with one brush because a small portion of it is nasty is akin to closing all the streets on earth cause too many people drink and drive.
LEGAL porn is by and large, quite harmless. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 6:46:27 PM | There always going to be the women that dont like porn for several reasons..
It can be extremely degrading to women.
There is some really nasty subject matter.
They may feel inadequate in their own performance and feel like that cant live up to it.
They were taught it was bad and it’s a moral issue
On the flip side..
Good porn can be fun.
I know it’s taught me a thing or two on how to please a man. It’s almost like an instructional video haha
It can be used as a foreplay technique.
I would suggest if you did run across a female who feels that way maybe find the most unthreatening, tasteful, female friendly porn you can find and ask her to watch it with you. The best way to tackle this is to find out why that female has a problem with it’s going to be different for everyone. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 9:55:01 PM | | I dont see why some girls freak out over it. It never bothered me with my guy I'd often joke about it with him. I dont care- hes gonna watch it regardless so why should I care? Granted sometimes I would feel inadequite since he wasn't coming to me for it however guys are guys. They like to look at things and most guys dont want the girls they see for relationshps. They are just looking at it for the fun of it; where as he loves me so I'm happy. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:35:37 PM | What I would have a problem with is if he only wants to watch it without me and he watches it, but neglects me. I am a very sexual person and would rather to make my own with my significant other than to watch it. I would also rather be just fooling around in general than to watch it. If my significant other kept watching it, but neglected to tend to me sexually, that would be a problem.
The other problem would be lying about watching it or becoming addicted to it. I personally think that whatever consenting adults agree to in a relationship is fine, but for me, I think that my significant other (if I had one) would never have a reason to need to watch it because I would be available to fulfill those sexual needs whenever he wanted.
I can understand why some say it isnt a problem and why some say it is. Why would someone need to look at other naked women if they have one in their bed? Where does the line start and stop? Could looking end up tempting some to do more than that? A few friends of mine think watching porn is a form of cheating. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:28:07 AM | | for me porn is simply boring rather than anything else...plastic and fake, just like the silicone breasts of your average porn starlet. it's even worse when they try to act, porn dialogue and storyline scripting makes me cringe. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:15:57 PM | "why do some girls get so worked up over porn?"
Cause despite the bad acting, lighting and other negative associations as previously mentioned here, some of it can be very exciting and sometimes even serve as a tutorial!
Observation: SOME women are simply afraid to openly admit that they are turned on by or enjoy porn, because they fear it might somehow tarnish an otherwise pristine reputation; I personally find the two mutually exclusive. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 4:29:07 PM |
why do some girls get so worked up over porn? I can see that some girls could feel inadequate or alone because there boyfriends or husbands are watching porn and then some girls think its degrading. But it's seems like a futile battle, porn has been around for a long time and will continue to be around for a long time.
I used to be one of those type of girls who got worked up over my man watching porn and it was because (and I'll admit it) I felt very insecure about my sexual abilities. I thought he watched it because I just didn't do it for him. I learned though, that by watching porn together, we learned together, experienced together, and enjoyed it together, he wanted me to watch it with him all along. Porn helped my relationship, well sexually. I can't speak for any other woman out there, but that is my two cents. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 9:34:54 PM | | Some women don't. They want to join in. You just haven't met one OF THOSE YET, obviously. However, if a man is more interested in that than her, well, you have a problem then. I walked on that one. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/5/2008 2:09:15 AM | not a girl, but a woman and a fost /adopt mom, thus my point of view:
because most of the actors in porn movies are abused kids, grown up (unless you include pedophilia). many come from foster care or are runaways. because much of porn, as opposed to erotica as an art form, is degrading and objectifies the person and because the actors then have to go home and face "real life". because in real life, you have a real person in front of you and you make love and are made love to. it is not about degrading or objectifying another human being. because dirty old men and dirty old women pay to watch and objectify young kids. in turn, the kids who are abused, try to gain back their power by getting into porn and "getting paid". they cannot get out of the box, in their thinking. eg. stop being objectified and stop objectifying. to me, the whole scenario SU-CKS!
ps the standard first recommendation for ED in older guys, is to stop porn and see what happens then. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:03:43 AM | | Well, the only thing about porn is that the industry... well the adult porn industry, is that it doesn't perpetuate the cycle of abuse to children. It may not be the ideal workplace for the most of us to be in or have kids in, but some people do choose to go into it without having a history of abuse. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:12:36 AM | I guess the hard part for some of us is that we just don't see porn as just a type of entertainment ... we think a whole lot deeper about it ... about the whole picture.
Sure, there are girls who do it who do not have a history of abuse ... but there are many who do.
As for those of you with daughters, will you be happy and proud of your little girl when she tells you she is gonna be a "star" ... cause the man down the street said she could be if she just takes her clothes off and sucks his weenie for the camera? Okay... extreme example, but the point is alot of these "women" are lost little girls, some do not start by choice, and there's usually a reason some are so drugged-up.
I've never understood how fathers think it's okay to try to protect their little girls, yet don't have a problem getting off on watching someone else's "child" get ------ed.
hmmm... and we wonder why little girls are dressing and acting like whores ... and doing "things " for the little boys at a whole lot younger age than ever....
But, if it all helps "get you off", it's all okay, right? | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/9/2008 11:00:50 PM | Porn does desensitize people to spirituality and higher meaning of intimacy. It is a fact that excessive levels of sexuality lead to an addictive mind-state, not unlike the addiction to drugs and booze. Porn in general has produced a society of whores in one sense. Not women who like sexuality more, but who seem to like being used and abused in order to gain some level of sexual intimacy. That part alone is kind of sad. We have lost our ability to be human, and now view other human beings as a consumer product.
Yet on a side note -- I have noticed a lot of lesbian and bi women that are as obsessed with porn as some men. Not sure what that says, but it would be a worthy psychology study.
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Posted: 6/9/2008 11:09:53 PM | Women were used and abused long before porn became mainstream. I really don't think porn was the death of spirituality neither, more like the death of spirituality was to the benefit of porn becoming more mainstream, though not the cause of it.
I don't think sex needs to be involved in higher intimacy, nor do I think watching porn detracts from the ability to be intimately linked to your partner, unless you literally think the only real difference between your spouse and other friends is purely that you have sex with them, but I've always kinda taken it to be a bit more serious than that... but that's obviously part of it too haha. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:20:36 AM |
ps the standard first recommendation for ED in older guys, is to stop porn and see what happens then.
Wife: I cut off his porn, WHY isn't he in bed with me?
Husband: Honey, look at all the new power tools I got at Home Depot! I never knew they had such things! I'm gonna build a barn in the back yard, and install power and plumbing, and it will be my workshop, then I'm gonna fix up my rusty old '66 Dodge, then I'll knock out the wall of the bedroom and expand it to include a hot tub and panoramic bay windows, then ... oh, can I borrow your credit card? Mine's maxed out.
Wife: Go back to your computer.
Equilibrium is a difficult thing to achieve. Is B.O.B. really so bad? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 12:32:31 AM |
As for those of you with daughters, will you be happy and proud of your little girl when she tells you she is gonna be a "star" ... cause the man down the street said she could be if she just takes her clothes off and sucks his weenie for the camera? Okay... extreme example, but the point is alot of these "women" are lost little girls, some do not start by choice, and there's usually a reason some are so drugged-up.
I've never understood how fathers think it's okay to try to protect their little girls, yet don't have a problem getting off on watching someone else's "child" get ------ed.
Okay, I guess you're saying you don't like porn because it reminds you that some unfortunate people will do anything for money? I guess that's what you're saying.
Many people have jobs that you might consider "unfortunate" but they have those jobs because they were desperate at one time or another. The woman that leaves home and becomes a waitress is OK in your book although men and women fail to treat her in her workplace with dignity and don't even give her a decent tip? Indeed the entire service industry pays a wage below the minimum with the excuse that somehow all the workers are making a mint from tips. Sure. But this is A-OK and you will patronize every restaurant and laugh giddily when a waitress brings you a dessert tray, indifferent to the pain in her feet or the fact that her boss will likely fire her over $10 in tips or a missing a day from a cold. Ah, yes, no problem there, but the porn industry, THAT's different, because YOU don't give them money.
...or is that not what you meant about parents being proud of children working desperate jobs? | |
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