| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:38:38 PM | Because they are insecure- In themselves, or in their relationship.
(As long as the guy is not like a total freak about it watching it several times a day, or looking at weird porn)
I dont look like a porn star, but it doesnt matter- I know my significant other cares for me, enjoys me, and wants to be with me. Theres a billion dumb broads out there with fake tits and no brains- If they wanted that, they could have it. Its about being comfortable and confident in your own skin. I dont look like those girls, but I am happy with the way I look, and more importantly confident that our relationship is right. If there were problems with the relationship, trust issues etc I could see where issues with porn would come up- But those fights would really probably be rooted in the more serious relationship faults- trust, self esteem etc. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:56:59 PM | i get worked up over porn too, just in a different way... he he he... i watched co-ed confidential 3 times, w outstanding stress-release success, i must say
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:20:12 PM |
Talking to certain people is like trying to explain to someone that they aren't really color blind! You could just be honest with everyone here and say that porno chicks make you feel inadequate!
Feeling inadequate is very different from being in the position of actually having been compared to the women in porno movies, and coming up short. That isn't me feeling inadequate, that's someone actively making me feel so. Less than perfect porno dimensions, stretch marks, the imperfections that come with age are inevitable, and if you're healthy, you don't obssess over them.
Unless your partner does it for you.
It's admirable that you aren't that kind of guy but they are out there.
In the early part of my marriage I never had a problem with magazines or porno movies, especially the more interesting ones, but even the stupid ones could be giggled over, and we had a lot of fun watching and reading stuff together. But when it slid into being compared unfavorably to them, it was painful and a real cold shower on further intimacy and experimentation (which I'd never been shy about before). Few things make you less willing to even have sex, much less try new things, than criticism for failing to meet a mythical standard in comparison to something that is fake and mercenary.
Sketch, it sounds like you're assuming that women who don't like porn (a) feel inadequate about themselves and (b) are not open to the fun of sharing them or open to experimenting and playing.
Not true.
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/15/2008 12:13:26 AM | | Maybe it's because all the guys in porn are so ugly and all the 'scenarios' are really male fantasies. HMMMM....Maybe if porn movies starred clean, polite, romantic men who cleaned the house in some low-slung Levis and then cooked a good meal and asked if they could give you a massage... | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:08:36 PM | K, Sketchness you're getting kind of hostile to people you don't really even know in the real world. Kind of lame.
Anyway, it is a form of disrespect to a wife, girlfriend, or the mother or your own CHILDREN if you're sitting there watching porn in front of them. It's like a slap in the face telling your woman that she's not good enough for you, and we all know that you might visualize a naked dumbass porn bimbo in the bed with you other than us when you see something like that. "Oh, honey. You look good, but I wanted to see this other lady, too." Hence another slap in the face. To me, it's telling a woman she's not enough for you and you don't enjoy her so you have to look else where. Considering the fact that women have the children and primarily take care of the household responsibilities amongst other things, a good woman deserves more respect than that.
However if a guy must look at porn every once in a while, make sure the wife or girlfriend is not around and delete it once you've had your fill. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:59:18 PM | I don't care if you watch it or not...most of it makes me laugh. The idea that 5 guys with big c***ks are all of a sudden going to get together in one room to do a few girls who just happened to be lying around with no clothes on...even the sun, moon AND stars can't line up that straight!!! I'll sit and watch for a bit but then I get bored...unless you and I are getting something else accomplished!
What I do care about is if that's all that will get you off. I dated a guy who apparently had watched so much of it that when it was time for us to get down to biznazz...let's just say that he definitely didn't last as long as the guys in the movies! It was a definite buzzkill...he even, at one desperate juncture, put one of his favs in to "get him going"...nothing better than spending almost an HOUR, lying in a bed, watching the above scenario play out and still end up getting NOTHING for your time! When the movie ended, I said thanks...that was certainly educational, and left. He was a really nice guy but seemed addicted.
As a curvy girl, do I feel intimidated? Uh no...I don't. So what those chicks are thin...whoop de doo...doesn't mean he isn't into ME. Does it degrade women? I think that there is some where it does...case in point the above video became disgusting at the end (to me). I even said to him..."you LIKE this???" One of the girls/women in the film seemed high on something and clearly unable to communicate that she wanted to NOT do something (let's just say that something happened and you could see panic in her eyes...scared me s**tless cause it seemed way too real).
OP, as you can see, there's all sides to this. And no one is wrong or right, it's just your opinion.
And thanks, btw, for saying SOME and not all women... | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:18:49 PM | if you are a male and look at porn, it's normal.
if porn is your life however: your just sad
"if you and your girl like watching porn: match made in heaven
oh btw, penny flame is 100% real, and shes HOT | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:17:20 AM | I agree, that whatever to adult agree on is fine. Men take care of Ur women and Women vise verse. If Ur dude like porn change up on him and act like a porn star in the bedroom. It's usually the littlest things like the sounds of it or the different things that go on in porn that makes him wanna watch it. At the same time men it's a bloody movie, at nuttin better than having some flesh rite next to U, to do with as U will, take advantage man, take advantage.....lol | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:05:47 PM | | I have'nt a clue! Personally I love it- With or without my partner! I think some girls are very sexually inhibitated and feel embarassed or maybe inferior to some of the beautiful porn stars. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:50:47 PM | If you find it important to your sexual life, then find someone who doesn't get worked up about it.
Problem solved.
Next question that can be solved with a logical answer! :D | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:59:01 PM |
why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
I thought you were asking why they got worked up, like turned on. 
I was going to answer because we have healthy libidos too........
I am sure that there are women who have had men who were pigs and thought that real women were like that. My opinion - Lighten up! Now if the guy is watching it all the time. Im not down with that. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:13:48 PM |
If you find it important to your sexual life, then find someone who doesn't get worked up about it.
Problem solved.
Next question that can be solved with a logical answer! :D
^ Exactly. Perhaps it's too logical? Haha.
Personally, I find porn extremely boring (amongst many other things). So obviously I don't watch any porn.
Could I or would I ever consider watching some porn with a partner sometimes?
I don't know. Maybe. Perhaps. I'm not sure. It depends. Maybe not. Maybe sometimes.
Would I mind if my partner watch porn by himself? Sometimes? Often? All the time?
I don't know. Maybe. Perhaps. I'm not sure. It depends. Probably. Probably not.
Would it be best if someone who enjoyed watching porn didn't hook up with me or someone like me?
That would seem to be the logical thing to do...yes. In my opinion of course and to each their own.
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:33:13 PM | I'm pretty sure there's a disconnect here that is being overlooked. Generally speaking, men are more turned on by images and women by words. It's a deep seated psychological thing. Just like many men don't "get" romance novels and how you could enjoy them. Many women don't "get" that porn can just be a picture we enjoy looking at. Whether it's to get variety without being unfaithful, to get new ideas, or just to stop from getting in a rut.
But the problem of porn addiction is real though. The real danger isn't a man getting his standards too high, believe it or not. It's excitation transfer theory that is the danger. There is supposed to be a buildup of horniness or arousal. You are supposed to spend time around your SO. When both thoughts happen at the same time you blame the horniness on the other person, instead of just waiting too long. Excitation transfer theory at it's finest. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:58:38 PM | "why do some girls get so worked up over porn? I can see that some girls could feel inadequate or alone because there boyfriends or husbands are watching porn and then some girls think its degrading. But it's seems like a futile battle, porn has been around for a long time and will continue to be around for a long time. "
So has Murder. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 1:10:06 PM | | If you think porn is the same as killing a human being in cold blood, you've got some serious issues. That's like screaming that your parents are Nazis because they don't want you doing bonghits at Thanksgiving dinner. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:17:47 PM | | It was a simple example of how just because something occurs for years or becomes prevalent in our culture does not mean it is right. Murdering people is wrong, looking at porn is wrong, stealing is wrong. Simple, easy concept that was apparently lost. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:36:02 PM | | tortuga: It's a bad example, and it's a simple MINDED concept. Porn isn't wrong unless it's snuff, rape, child, animal, or corpse-boning porn. Just because your insecurity issues get all atwitter at the idea of men looking at attractive women having sex doesn't make it wrong. Most people grow out of a black and white world around puberty. What's your excuse? | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:58:29 PM | | I don't know why they get worked up over porn... I watch porn sometimes... I wouldn't care if my boyfriend was watching porn... I would probably join. Porn can be amusing... | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:31:21 PM | | You are right on, if you really check into who watches porn, its guys that are usually below the age of about 45 or so and grew up watching it. You are right, it is disgusting and gay to look at other guys. These ladies who put up with it as normal behavior inm a committed relationship are just being hoodwinked. I guarantee you they are fantasizing about the porn when their with them, its sad is what it is. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:11:50 PM | "tortuga: It's a bad example, and it's a simple MINDED concept. Porn isn't wrong unless it's snuff, rape, child, animal, or corpse-boning porn. Just because your insecurity issues get all atwitter at the idea of men looking at attractive women having sex doesn't make it wrong. Most people grow out of a black and white world around puberty. What's your excuse?"
Why am I the one who is simple minded? I believe it is wrong. Is it wrong for me to believe that, no. I believe that watching porn is wrong, it goes beyond attraction into lust. It is unrealistic, any man that needs to look at "attractive" women on a screen will probly never be with one, so stop kidding yourself. It is never gonna happen, unless you pay for it. Just because she has big boobs, does not mean she is attractive, she could be on absolute ****. Admiring fake, impersonal, images is simple minded. It is primitive behavior, no different than animals choosing mates based on plumage. Basing your beliefs on the way society thinks is childish, it is like the blind leading the blind, or playing follow the leader. I have seen both sides, looked at both points, heard the stories of prostitutes, porn stars ect. Then I made a choice based on what I wanted for my life, and it does not include porn. I will never have to look at others to feel good about myself. I think it's wrong. But I also know that stealing, rape, dishonesty, and murder are wrong. I firmly believe that all wrongs are created equal. So everytime I do something wrong it is no different than if I had stolen, murdered, ect. But don't worry I understand that murder is far worse than porn or stealing. My point is it's wrong, a blemish aganst you. I know WTF, think of it this way. Would you buy a couch with a small rip in it, no. Same as you wouldn't buy a couch with a big rip in it. When you work hard for your money you want to buy something that is clean and in good condition. The point is to try and do things that arn't hurtfull and improper. Another example: You wouldn't like your girl walking up to guys and taking off her clothes, letting them see her, tuch her, think about her. Why should she like you looking at other girls, thinking about them. I believe a woman is for her man's eyes only, and he should only be looking at her. There are (hopefully) two people in a relationship not ten not twenty and not hundreds. I deserve that respect. You might not think I do or that any girl you are with does, but they do. | |
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| why do some girls get so worked up over porn?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:31:32 PM | Are you saying that animals are wrong for picking a mate based on looks? Are they suppose to take them out for coffee and get to know them first?
Porn should not be considered so morally wrong... Porn is unrealistic... so what? So is half the shit you see on television and the internet, etc. If you feel threatened by a porn star who is just on the screen then you have some jealousy issues as well as some with your self confidence.
Guys are guys and will look at other females if they are attractive. Hell, being a woman I look at other guys if I find them attractive. It's human nature... sure, you love whom you are with but doesn't mean you are going to trade them up for something better... and those who do were not worth being with to begin with... | |
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