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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:26:06 PM | precious, The last thing that you or anyone else will hear or read from me is my 'talking trash' for a woman that I met via Pof forums last October, and can't complain about ...other than our still-at-a-distance living arrangements. It might be an age thing, on top of an ego thing that has some boys feeling compelled to 'diss their desires' when they're not around them, but all of my dear old friends and current coworkers here keep on encouraging me to continue helping to transplant the most beautiful of female souls to join 'us' here.
Yes, I talk about her when she's not around, but the unanimous consensus is that she can't move here soon enough. Go figure. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:29:32 PM | If it is something serious yes sit down and discuss the matter. Which still is a problem even today. Otherwise men and I'm sure women just want to vent the little things. Would you rather have a huge fight over something completely stupid or have him/her vent with friends?
Kind of like that movie The Break Up. You know a stupid fight over dishes snowballing into something way bigger. Clearly in the movie they had issues they should have discussed, but dishes? I mean who wants to argue over dishes? | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:37:27 AM | As with almost everything in life, both genders share certain attributes & this is one of them...why, because immaturity is evident in both genders. I expect my SO to talk about me as I am a SIGNIFICANT part of his life, now whether it is derogatory or not, inho, would mostly depend on me & my behavior - do I treat him badly? If so, then I should expect to get trashed. Am I a good woman to him? then I expect his reports on me to be good.
As for looking at or talking about other women...well, if he's a normal, healthy guy, that should be expected & hope he does so with respect & consideration to you...I can not say that my guy has ever been anything other than these toward me as well as others.
Too often, we forget that our own actions bring about the majority of reactions in those with whom we have a relationship - not to be confused with reactions from AH on the streets, who knows what reaction a stranger might have but in those you know (or love), you can pretty much guess their reactions to you.
If you are so concerned that another in a relationship with you might "trash" you, then don't trash first nor act like trash & I can't see it happening. Ever heard the axiom, "you get what you give"? To my knowledge, I've never been trashed by any one other than other women (those who do not know me)...go figure...lol
I do believe this is the lamest reason for avoidance that I've thus far seen on POF & there are many...lol
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:12:14 PM | | hehe, amongst the several forums I've been a long time member of - I sectioned off with about 8 people - coed - of forum friends (many of us have now met after 8 years of "talking" to each other on the forums - we know each other's families, etc) to an e-mail with a group distribution and we're all on it daily - we've become very good friends. There's 4 girls, 4 guys on it and the guys were rather taken aback in the beginning and thought we girls were rather bold and funny and outright bold in what we talked about and so - our group distribution has come to be called "The LockerRoom" - cause the guys were amazed at us - and we talk about everything. Fun group. We share births, problems, birthdays, meals, you name it. And yes, we've discussed this subject as a few of us are single in the group so dating is a subject as well. Interesting to talk about something and have the guys present as well - but it's interesting to get their input too. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:43:57 PM | If you are talking about venting, such as complaining that your girlfriend is so messy that you have to clear up after her, that's something that women complain about too.
If you mean that he refers to his woman in less than glowing terms, like a sl*g, sl*t, or such words, or anything that is of that nature, then the answer is obvious. A relationship is about equals. If he thinks that you aren't his equal, as though you are something on the floor, then he'll treat you that way. Maybe not today, not tomorrow, because you'll leave him today. But once you feel so dependent on him and so in love with him that you won't leave him, that's when you'll see his true colours. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:18:18 PM | | Maybe you can help me . I was emailing a guy from this site and i we did alot or emailing back and forth . I would email him alot to let him know i was thinking of him even funny little pictures i thought had sense of humor . Well he said he was sick and then went on vacation . He said he would never say anything to hurt me . I thought well this guy and i could start out being good friends and this went on for a month . The last email i got which i road was to let him know i was starting a business but would always find time for him . He gave me his he mail address in which i wanted to ask why he close his count without email me to say , I am not available or off the market . We had plans to meet and i was going to a gathering in Auburn but i could not make it due to car trouble and i wanted to go ...Anyway he email me back and said take a video!!! maybe i am missing something but . Did he just say good bye to me or what ?tiraol | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:33:24 PM | | Take note!! The people that come to women and claim what her BF said about her, whoever said they were telling the truth and just what is the motive from the ones who tell her what her man supposedly has said??????? That's what i would be more concerned with knowing. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:31:58 AM | Guys will sometimes complain about their women just cause it is the topic at hand. I work in a female-dominated workplace and the women do it too. But I find the women get into far more details than the men ever do.
It's just venting. Other guys don't really listen or take it too seriously. We all know if the guy didn't really love her, he would leave. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:13:51 PM |
I have never done that & dont know of other men who do such a thing -- you must be hanging around some "nasty trailer trashboys" from the Jerry Springer Show.
Or you must be hanging around with choir boys. Everyone's SO doe something to annoy them at some point and often we turn to our friends to vent or seek advice. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:14:10 PM | | At work on my crew and other guys I know from the Fire hall, I have never heard them bad mouth their wives or girlfriends, not once. There is the odd joke tossed around but never anything in bad taste. It will also cause you to lose respect very quickly with in our big happy family. | |
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| why do men talk about women or their women behind her back?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:33:49 PM | | Not once have I talked behind my s/o's back or even spoken ill of any of my exes. Ever. Anybody who does thatproves severe lack of respect and appreciation and should be dumped immediately. There's really no excuse whatsoever for talking behind a partner's back. | |
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