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Posted: 5/20/2008 5:53:49 PM | | Right now I'm angry because my neighbour is playing his crappy music insanely loudly again.... any one ever watch Foamy the Squirrell? Great site to listen to when you feel like venting. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 8:09:04 PM | You raise a good point, and I have noticed it so much lately myself. Ever notice how drivers are so impatient they will cut you off, and we are all so busy that we just don't take enough time to appreciate basic values. I try to slow down and take the time to say or do something nice for some-one every day. I work with the elderly , and taking a few minutes to chat and smile with some-one every day can be very rewarding for both them and myself.
I agree with gypsygirl29 re: the fugly post - we should just remember to treat others as we would like to be treated , and smile while we do it.
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Posted: 5/20/2008 8:45:44 PM | OK, at the risk of sounding like a fruitcake, I'll tell you about my pet theory/project.
Retail clerks get ignored by the public... as if they are machines behind the counter that say how much and hand back change. I figure being ignored by so many people day-in and day-out has got to be a little soul-destroying... gradually wearing them down. So a few years ago I set out to make sure they knew they were seen as a human being by at least one person (me).
So I say hi and thank you... occasionally chat... but most important of all, I look them in the eye when I say "hi" TO them, not AT them. I make sure they "get" a sense of connection out of our :30 second exchange.
Y'know what, I know it sounds silly, but people lighten up, they smile. And, what I never expected... I lighten up, I smile, I feel good. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 12:12:45 PM | I HATE angry people. I have no tolerance for them whatsoever. They make so mad, I just wanna walk up to them and ................  | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 3:58:05 PM | There is a reference on this post to angry store workers,stand behind a counter and take the rudeness dished out by customers. I'm a pleasant person for the majority of the time but as an ex area manager for a chain of stores i have at times had to defend cashiers from unprovoked verbal and physical assault.
The majority of sales staff tend to respond pleasantly when given the respect they deserve for taking the negative attitude of a small number of customers,and still generally smiling at the next customer because that one person could just make your day with a compliment.
If they are rude complain to the manager, me personally i tend to suggest that a refresher course on customer relations (and dont forget to take their name first )tends to work and achieves an apology for their lousy service. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 6:25:36 PM | | HERE I GO againnnnnn I Just came in from walking my dog and this truck went by and some younger guy yelled out the window at me F YOU and kept going nwo what in teh world was that all about???????????? anyone know????? IT scared me to death I didn't know what to do yell back or remain silent I didn't say a word I Just kept walking home how sad | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 5:30:42 AM | ok so the guy in the truck.....who knows?? but your previous post about walking your dog and the passing cyclists....why on earth wouldn`t you smile and say hi???
really i just cant figure that out....they didnt say hi...but neither did you....who is more wrong?? huh ?? i just honestly dont understand why you think they were rude or whatever but you weren`t.....and just a thought but if squealing tyres and a kid yelling scare you that much....why not walk in the daylight?
i really don`t mean to be critical...i just dont think you can have it both ways..... | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:14:54 AM | | why would a complete stranger yell out his window at me F YOU>??? I don't know him I did nothing t him. My point was that the cyclists there were 2 of them and ONE Of me so it would have made more sense that they would have said hello. Knowing im a single woman walking alone do you get that? | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:29:54 AM | OK, at the risk of sounding like a fruitcake, I'll tell you about my pet theory/project.
Retail clerks get ignored by the public... as if they are machines behind the counter that say how much and hand back change. I figure being ignored by so many people day-in and day-out has got to be a little soul-destroying... gradually wearing them down. So a few years ago I set out to make sure they knew they were seen as a human being by at least one person (me).
So I say hi and thank you... occasionally chat... but most important of all, I look them in the eye when I say "hi" TO them, not AT them. I make sure they "get" a sense of connection out of our :30 second exchange.
Y'know what, I know it sounds silly, but people lighten up, they smile. And, what I never expected... I lighten up, I smile, I feel good.
ItsMargo, you are no fruitcake. Just noticing there is more to someone's behaviour than what is seen at first glance.
Just recently I was at a Subway getting a sandwich and the people in the line were being a little loud and obnoxious. Not too bad, just a little. The person serving them seemed pretty irritated. I realized it was that time of the day when a lot of students come by and I thought perhaps he was getting mostly customers like the people who were presently there.
When he came to make my sandwich I just talked to him like I was glad to see him and appreciated his service, and he totally cheered right up super fast.
It might have been my imagination, but the other customers in the line took notice and quieted down right away. He is now almost always chatty with me when I go there. lol
Negativity can sometimes spread if we allow it. It can feel invigorating when we can break the cycle without barely lifting a finger. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:42:40 AM | | I wasn't being negative I was walking my dog how is that negative??? I now have to be afraid to go out and walk mu dog cause theres a weirdo in a truck tht yelled out the window F you to me. WEll If it happened to you I'm sure you would have been upset and notready to smile at him and say thank you for that sweet comment. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:06:04 AM | | Are you still ANGRY about the 2 guys in the truck? | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:22:42 AM | susansweet44, I thought this topic was also about rude or angry customer service people.
My mistake. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:23:25 AM | | yes and what if I am out walking tonight and it happens to me again??? A part of me is sad and a partof me is angry the same way you would feel. I'm a little concerned because obviously he lives in my area and For some reason he doesn't like me . I mean I dont think many people are yelled F you for no reason walking down the street. SO what should I do if it happens again should I yell back same to you or what> LOL | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:30:16 AM | Go to a Anger Management Class it Cures Everything  | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:54:21 AM | Just returned frm 2 years in Mexico where everyone treated me like a real human being. Even in the cities, strangers smile, volunteer help and treat everyone with respect. It has been a shock to return to the US and experience the total lack of acknowledgement of my existence. It perhaps only happens half the time, but it's still disconcerting to me.
On the flip-side, I always try to treat people with respect, even if I disagree with them. It often pays off in getting what I want - and sometimes even more. I once not only got my flight changed, but even got upgraded to first class on a cross-country flight by being nice to the ticket clerk when every other passenger was yelling and screaming about flight delays because of Winter storms. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 10:11:42 AM | The people behind the register... the store thing?
Yes, they have to deal with rude customers at times, I understand that.
BUT...
if they would just smile and make small talk with each customer as they are ringing things up...
oh how much more pleasant would be their line of people and how much more pleasant their own day would be, all in all.
Listen, I was a waitress many moons ago. I know how it is to have crabby mood customers. I would just smile and do my job when serving them.
But I also would be smiling and cheerful to all my customers.
In doing that, I remained happy... most of the customers in that section of the Restaurant would be happy... and my fellow workers would be happy too.
Getting angry about angry people? Anyone else see the silliness in that?
Anger can be infectious.
So can cheerfulness.  | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 11:04:13 AM | *sigh*
I wanna treat retail people nice and I do try to, but when I go into a store and the chick's too busy blabbing on the phone to process my bill or bag my $hit, I decide that it ain't freaking worth it. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 3:37:35 PM | | susan i think that sort of thing has happened to most people at some time and most of us dont take it so personally....his mate probably egged him on to yell something at you - young fellas do that sort of thing and often dont realise how bloody big and loud they are- in their minds they are just still boys being silly buggers - i often walk at night - in the country,city , alone and with others and i always find that by getting in 1st with a friendly " hi hows things?" i rarely have any trouble...yeah the occasional one like you refer to - but i do just put it down to boys being boys - if meet them they are usually quite nice | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 4:25:56 PM | | No I doubt that most people have been walking down the street and had someone yell that out to them. I have to disagree with you. You act so casual about it telling me not to take F you personally are you for real?????? I don't think im any different then most people and I have to say I believe most people would be in shock if such a thing happened for whatever reason he said it thats nto really the issue. THe language alone is bad enough what happened to our kids is what im wondering. I Just think its very sad and a sign of something. But Hey what do I know | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 5:21:29 AM | Susan, that's why I live in the country. The only thing I'm hearing this morning is the sound of a quail calling "Bob White" while looking for his mate.
Hmmm... maybe I should try that!  | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 1:25:59 PM | | I visit NYC at times. I really think that place has a bad rap. For the majority of the time I always run into really nice people. Don't let a few bad apples spoil your day. There are really nice people out there. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 4:41:34 PM | | hey susan maybe you live a different life to the one i do.....i have to be able to let things like that slide in my work so i guess i know pretty well about not taking things personally....but really - i have discussed this sort of thing with many young fellas (my job) and they often simply dont realise how this sort of thing affects some people!! truly. they talk like that amongst themselves and never think that others might find their behavior scary-its a lack of thought and consideration - not a threatening menace....this is why i usually get in 1st and say hi - once they are in a friendly exchange they usually dont do the other silly stuff and they get to practice being nice young fellas!!lol | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 8:16:21 AM | I found this thread through successfully searching, I usually get it wrong. Hope I'm posting on the right thread though.
The reason for my searching is because yesterday I was verbally and aggressively abused by a very angry lady. I like to think I handled the unsought 'confrontation' well, but afterwards I was a bit shaky and tearful. Which isn't like me, I'm not a big softy by any means. But I was completely taken aback.
She accused me of pushing in front of her whilst waiting for the cash machine. Not true. Honest Guv.
She was literally shaking with anger and I apologized. Just to be nice as I could see she was having a very very bad day, (why else would you start swearing etc. at a total stranger for no real reason? ), and I wasn't bothered so invited her to go before me.
Politely and in a friendly concilitary way (make love not war). There was only her and her mate behind me, and only one person actually using the machine in front of me. She refused whilst still effing and jeffing and being right in my face. Then when the people in front of me had finished their transaction, she demanded she go in front of me. Of course I let her.
Not because I felt scared, but because it wasn't important enough by any means to 'stand my ground'.
The scary thing was that, whilst she was using the machine, she was, by now not only shaking with anger, but you could tell that the only thing stopping her from turning around and punching my lights out was her mate talking her out of it.
Unless I read the situation wrongly completely, she was just a relatively normal everyday person. But with clear anger problems, one of those Angry People. I've been used to verbal and occasional physical aggression (professionally) over the years, but this incident left me feeling very sad about the way some people think it's alright to treat other people 'their' way. I had to buy some Handy Andies.
Although, to cheer myself up..and I'm not being flippant here. I decided it was Jeremy Kyle's fault. Or his owners.
Cheers if you managed to read this post all the way through. I'd be interested though in hearing other people's opinions on how they would deal with Angry People? | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 11:53:10 AM |
but when I go into a store and the chick's too busy blabbing on the phone to process my bill or bag my $hit,
I dunno, I might want to make myself be too busy to do that too!  LOL
OT: Yes, people are definitely a lot ruder. In my city and province, in the case of service people, retail, etc, there's no fear of being out of a job. They can go and get another one in an hour so they figure, who cares? | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 2:21:30 PM | | I noticed that living in the University area of Belfast there was a lot of tension and anger lying below the surface of the area. it s a very highly populated area, a lot of very different people from diferent social and cultural backgrounds all living in the same social space. The terrible tension in the area made me feel anxious and irritable and i found that when i went to the countryside or even into a park where there were a lot fewer people i experienced a great sense of relief; it was peaceful and the tension was gone. In crowded city areas people do tend to be angrier and anger is infectious. When you have a lot of people walking aggresvely about the place with their heads in the air all wrapped up in their own sense of self-importance and a strong determination not toallow anyone to get in their way what you have is urban psychological warfare. Make no mistake it is a battlefield out there and people will treat you like s*it if they think they can get away with it. If you look as though your the sort of person thta will take no nonsense most people will leave you alone. The world is just one big angry mass culture of bullying and intimidation. From the cradle to the grave you have to either side step the angry agressive people or tke them head on. If your going to take them head on make sure you have the physical and emotional strength to put them on their backs. Im fed up with rude, ignorant angry bloody hostile people too. It seems the world just keeps getting mre hostile as you get older too. Ill be 40 this year and at this stage in life you can really do without other peoples anger and hostility. Im not interested in where their anger comes from i simply dont want to experience it, so i take a strictly zero tolerance approach.; you dont show me anger, if you do ill just be a mirror and show you it all back and then some. Take no nonsense from anyone! | |
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