| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:46:22 AM | "but not as crazy as lame sex with someone I don't really know"
How can anything possibly get lamer than your hand? | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:51:01 AM | Well when I was single I decided I wasn't going to disappoint myself any further in life! When I saw a nice man that interested me - I let my self indulge! Did it make me a bad person - um NOPE! It made me very happy and satisfied! Topped with a friend with benefits - I was able to maintain a very pleasurable sex life!  | |
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laxi3
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Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 28 | |
| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:14:06 AM | | leeanne that is a good one u have to take control am natural and go right into the sex | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:28:33 AM | | OP, you're a beautiful woman, and by no means should think of yourself as a 'swamp thing'. I'm similar to you...I have a hard time moving my inner sexuality to reality.. unless I feel a connection that I can work with. All I can say is...let go a little..and don't be afraid of the rejection that you perceive... damaging relationships can only further damage us if we let them.. Go out..smile, and respond to people. You'll find what you're looking for in no time at all... I guess what I'm trying to say is...have confidence in yourself, and the rest will follow.... | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:43:37 AM | Hello everyone,
Hope everyone is having a great weekend. Your responses really helped me to start realising that I'm being hard on myself. In my marriage (blessedly over) I never measured up, so I guess I'm still carrying that with me.
I need to get out and about and see what I can see. You ladies and gents are gems! Thanks! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:17:41 PM | You need to move to my area.
I would take care of things for you for as long as you needed as long as you at least LIKE me and are clean!
You need to find a CLEAN guy. . .simple! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:18:59 PM | Coping is NOT the term I'd use to describe how I get by without sex.
Ladies.. YOU ARE SITTING ON A GOLD MINE!!!!
Seriously? Can I pawn it? | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:34:44 PM | Masterbation girl.. Go buy some battery operated Boyfriends and have fun!!!! lol.. Most the time they will do a better job anyway!  | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:47:04 PM |
Dry spells, how to get by?
There were no dry spells.
There were just times between potential love.
Date, taste, find she wasn't what I needed, move on.
If you are going with out sex it is because you are not looking.
Start hunting for what you want and need, if you think you found one fvck him and see if he saticefies you. If not move on.
I hated dating, I had a great time dating. It must just be attitude. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:58:28 PM | Pers......you are a beautiful woman..........love youself....touch yourself, caress yourself, watch some porn..........and MASTERBATE..........hee haw | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:09:10 PM | Maybe not pleasing your self will cause you to be more serious about looking for a partner. sexual depervation can be a great motivator.
Fore guys resisting the urge to spank the monkey a bit before they go out can give them a lot more edge in their hunt. | |
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Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 38 | |
| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:12:18 PM | Ok are you serious?! MEN would looooove to take care of your"dry spell" lol....no FWB????? I havent had sex in 2+ years! I get by on my "friend" and porn! IF you really want sex....go get it! Men are willing and able my dear! Just be careful and safe! I have had MANY (ugh) offers to have sex BUT I am waiting.... otherwize I do it myself! Get to it!
This is not an issue sweetie..... | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:50:12 PM | | I avoid having dry spells. I just find male friends that are eager to help a girl out. All of us end up happy. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:05:19 AM | OP:
i find the crazy ones are always better in bed....
they are just messed up about everything else!
so...find some nice crazy guy and let loose...
and don't limit yourself to some outdated notion that only girls in relationships are allowed to have sex.
avoid the compartmentalization of good girl versus slut..and then ENJOY yourself!! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:30:02 AM | | When I'm not serious with a boy I bring out the toy... or two. Sweating it off at the gym helps as well. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:44:13 AM | | I have a boy toy for it lol. Or I go buy a new toy at the adult store!!!!!!!!1 | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 2:22:36 AM | OK, Im obviously not female but wanted to point-out something Ive noticed. As Ive gotten into my mid-30s, I dont find the dry spells to be so difficult to manuver. 5 years ago, Id have responded to this as most men would...by watching porn daily. But its been a few months for me now and Im not going crazy with urges. Of course I miss sex & desire it still, but Ive found myself easier occupied with other projects & things.
So, I dont know if its just me, but Im inclined to say that coping simply gets easier with time. Throw yourself into a hobby or two. And, of course, keep your battery-operated friend nearby for those times you just want a thrill. =) | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 11:30:05 AM | | hopefully, it's a sad fact of life that it gets harder for women to cope as we age while it gets easier for men. It's kind of a cruel twist of fate. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:33:15 PM | Ive been single 2+ yrs now, and since then ive had 2 one night stands! First one i was too p*ssed to remember, but knew the next morning that id done the deed (you women will understand) and second time was with a guy who couldn't get it up, so we did a bit of oral instead.
Thats been nearly a year ago now, and i havent been near a guy since then.
How do i cope? I have a bedside locker full of wonderful toys, and a share in Duracell batteries  lol, its all i can do. I dont sleep around, and i cant imagine having a fwb.
My friends call me charlotte, as in charlottes web. They reckon cos its been that long since ive had sex, i'd need spiderman to crawl through the web i have between my legs!
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:59:06 PM | | Pers, it is time to upgrade your showerhead to the detachable one and have a date with yourself while you let your conditioner soak! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:05:13 PM | You gals are so making me laugh here! You are giving away all of our secrets of "survival of the fittest"!!! Mind you I have been taking notes just in case there were one or two things I didn't know about! Women rock! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:44:09 PM | Self pleasure is great at bringing on some truly mind blowing orgasms... wouldn't you agree? That's how I cope with dry spells. In my younger years, a friend-with-benefits was in the picture -- but then he got emotionally involved and I wasn't looking for a relationship. I learned to steer clear of that, now that I'm older and wiser. I'm looking for more than a boy-toy, play thing, one night stand. Is it too much say that I won't settle until I have my "happily ever after?" -- hey, I can still dream right? :)
I also like to write erotic stories that border on what I fantasize about. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:01:48 PM | Just as sex is designed to be the mechanic for creation of new life, fulfilling sexual needs requires one thing above all others: creativity!
writing stories, making friends to have nothing but roleplay with (so you never meet each other's real self and become involved with a real person), or otherwise find ways to satisfy your craving to create something fantastic and beautiful instead of just having another orgasm.
Guys should honestly learn to do this too. Jacking off on its own - even with porn - gets old fast, and it's necessary for guys to try something new. Maybe it's best to try cybersex, which is very fun. Also, while prostitution isn't a safe idea, there are escorts and things that are legal in certain states and cities. Probably the best idea is to take a risk and try to meet women in the same situation and come up with a fun and hopefully funny way to satisfy each others' needs.
I dunno, maybe find two bi women to dress up as a dominatrix and a french maid while you wear a skin-tight fur costume with a hole down south and a removable face. They should have ways to do that.
Anyway, that's just my perverse opinion.
~ David | |
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