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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:10:23 PM |
Ok.... Romance is not gifts.......romance is the art of seduction, attention, passion, and feeling......
And it is certainly NOT an investment, remember the saying "if mammas happy, everbodies happy" , there ya go.. A women who is happy, will go to the ends of the earth for her man......
If a man knows how to seduce me with his words and his charm , show me how into me he is, kiss me passionately and seductively....the sex would be unstoppable....
Excellent response **smartassblond**, well verbalized.
To me, sex without intimacy, romance and passion, is meaningless and unwanted; for then, it is merely a physical need and nothing more. How selfish is that notion? No thanks...I'll go without.
**OP** I think you've used a bad choice of words in your questioning, for investment has a very negative meaning when applied in context with Love. An investment is something you do, with the motive of reciprocation and/or gain. To "invest" into your relationship with your mate, is taboo, and inevitably, the beginning of the end with each new investment.
Desire. True desire to please your mate. True desire to make others feel happy and cared about. Only you know if this desire even exists; and through your wording, it seems grim to many here.
In answer to your question/notion; passion, romance, intimacy and communication and reciprocation on unyielding levels will, and DO make Love better.
Kissing her chin while humming a soft quiet tune, and running my middle finger down her neck, let's my mate know of my true desire, and "sex" is NOT IT!
Having a bubblebath with candles and incense, and her favorite drink, and soft music waiting for her when she comes home, let's her know how much I care, and how much I "truly" want her to know, that theere are no bounds to what I will do, to keep her in the light of love.
Paying attention to her eating habits, I will have a something waiting for her in the fridge, or on the stove; and it not only fulfills her tummy, but her spirit even more.
For all of this, and much more, is done without even thinking, or wanting anything in return; for the way she makes me feel with her words and actions, coupled with the bubble we share, is incomprehensible to most. None of this is done with motive, or expectation. Everything just flows perfectly.
Hope this helps to shed some light.
God Bless,
Scott. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:26:45 PM |
Let's give the OP a break, shall we? He's a stock trader, so "return on investment" is a phrase he hears and uses often, so is probably just the first thing that came to mind when trying to get his point across. But aside from that, "investment" does not always mean $$$. Here's another definition:
6. a devoting, using, or giving of time, talent, emotional energy, etc., as for a purpose or to achieve something
Who hasn't done that?
huh, nope - he's still not off the hook. Really. His "Return on Investment" partners with "Friends with Benefits". And if he was ... sincere - ish (adding the ISH), then the choice of words was rather misleading. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:32:05 PM | ***MS Tude*** ??
Rochester huh??
Ever heard of New Lebanon?? 
Folks around here call me "yankee", but I tell them that I am an "Appalachian American" !!     | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:53:30 PM | What a romantic post. I think I'll stay home with a sex toy, it all sounds so MECHANICAL and DRY. What a bore. Return on the investment? Get a prostitute, keep it strictly business. Oh man, this dating world is really a drag these days. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:56:18 PM | The sex would have been better with more respect. There was no shortage of romance with my ex. Unfortunately, there was also no shortage of belittling, controlling, abusive behaviour. Not sexy.
The guy I'm seeing now is not the least bit romantic; no flowers, no cards, no "I'm thinking of you" phone calls, very little cuddly crap, no little "just because" gifts, none of that stuff that women are supposed to love.
I don't love it because, in my experience and observation, it usually comes with very short strings.
What makes sex great with this guy is that he listens when I talk, he respects my time and that I have a life aside from him, we accept each other as we are & also support each other in our efforts to be better. All very sexy.
Romance is seriously overrated, IMO. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:19:01 AM |
What is this "foreplay" of which you speak?
Haha, my definition of foreplay is 3 hours of begging!
I think the OP couldn't stand the heat and has exited the stage by the way. I loved the references to his wealth in his profile too ('my profession has made me more than comfortable', 'I'm taking a year off just to travel the world' pfft).
Money can't buy you love! (but it can put a hell of a down-payment on it!) | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:51:01 AM | Dude,
That's sad to see your dating knowledge is so limited. Women enjoy the little, inexpensive things just as much as the expensive ones. Write some poetry or buy some if not the artistic type, read it to her, and they're yours for life, if you want them to be. I pick flowers from neighbors yards, send cute little handwritten notes, yes, write poetry, all costing me little but time. The ROI is the same for these little things as it is the bigger stuff. In fact, my dad and mom both used to say don't buy flowers or spend big bucks on women, they want the little things. Those are more important to her and mean so much more. That is what romance is all about. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:44:39 PM | Sex with romance is not sex, is called making love.
Return of investment, here in Vegas, is called brothel.
For a trader... you should know better. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:59:20 PM |
***Str8ahd***
This is settling.
W t h? How would you know? Since I never use the term "settling" as I feel it's over- used & under-defined, please correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't it mean to accept less than you really need and feel you deserve, in order to not be alone? Doesn't it?
How would you know what I need and deserve? IMO, I was settling ( it sets my teeth on edge just to use the word, it's so stupid) for the "romantic" guy when that kind of thing meant far less to me than the respect, caring, attention, & commonality of interest I need, deserve, and get now.
Not to mention truly astounding sex. If I'm settling, I'll settle for that. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:24:27 PM |
W t h? How would you know? Since I never use the term "settling" as I feel it's over- used & under-defined, please correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't it mean to accept less than you really need and feel you deserve, in order to not be alone? Doesn't it?
Yes, and so much more. I too think settling is an overused term, but it is just that, a term, a generalization in text to merely blanket a populous of doers.
I meant no offense.
How would you know what I need and deserve? I don't, nor am I portraying this. Once again, I have been mis-read.
I apologize for my tone.
Best Wishes. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:10:14 PM |
candles all around couldn't hurt either
Unless you kick one over by accident and start a house fire...me thinks getting burned to death while doing it would still suck, no matter how erotic. 
Seriously though, to confess my sins and avoid going to hell (which I hear has much warmer weather, but anyways). I think romance, which I have never *really* experienced would make the time spent more enjoyable...
I've had sex, and I've just f*cked for the hell of it...both are fun but I prefer the former for the increased intimacy, joking around and just having fun. The latter is a much more "wham bam, thank you mame(sp?) and get out of there ASAP"
So...if sex is to romance (aka: Love making) what f*cking is to sex...then if any of that makes sense...I would obviously take romance over just sex...  | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:01:03 PM |
Do you mean you, or her, begging? Haha.. think you know the answer to that one Pink. How are things in the nation's capital by the way?
Do tell!! ? but i hope you have know/heard of the word "Mercy"
ah! not many know of the Capital! | |
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