| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:47:55 AM | | I hope you find your genuine non cheating man.That is all I want in life.I had similar experience to you.My EX partner had been doing the same looking on dating sites on my pc in my home when I was at work. We had only been together for a year and he had no reason to look for other women. But I think he had it all planned looking for his next victim.In that year I had leant him £5000 which I will obviously never get back. So he is out there now probably with another vulnerable woman as I was. I only wish I could warn other women about this MAN. Question is if I meet someone else will I ever trust again. Wishing you luck for your future happiness. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:59:17 AM |
Just wondering if is possible to find a man on here who says he wont cheat that really MEANS he wont cheat (or is definitely a ONE woman man)....
Of course. I've been in three long term relationships in the past 20 years (one of them being a 12 year marriage), and although two of the three cheated on ME, I've never even considered it. So yeah, we're out here. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:24:34 AM |
That questions makes me laugh - we are out here, but I think no one wants a decent man who won't cheat, maybe because he's not so good-looking. Both my marriages failed because both women cheated on me while I was 100% faithful every time. I honestly don't like other men because they continually pursue women who they know are taken (my case, for example) or when they have a woman at home. I don't have male friends and I will never bring a man around my house if I ever do find another gal...
Number 1
Do you think the type of women you have gone for were well ...players to begin with???.....
Number 2
True that some men may look for married women but if you have a good woman they won't look for another man.
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the type of women you have listed in your profile ...are ...well how should I say it??? I think you know what I mean.  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:44:26 AM | This site says NEVER to lend or give money to someone on this site!! To the lady who did PLEASE don't ever do that again!
Sometime during dating, if a POF member asks another "I want to see how far we can go, let's take down/hide our profiles, and the other agrees, then to search afterwards is cheating because you have an understanding......that should be the true barometer.
Not sex in the first week, not a gift, but a straight forward talk.
Ladies, if you want someone to be true, look for someone who has a steady, boring employment, does not drink and is not "too" good looking. Someone with personality, who is kind and playful and maybe gets a little nervous around you in the beginning because he CAN'T BELIEVE HE IS DATING YOU!
Your chances are better that way.
If you dump him because he works too hard or is too boring or he doesn't take you to Vegas every weekend, you are going to look for players, hoping they will change.
And most don't.
Guys do the same thing in reverse. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:47:50 AM | Goddess of dreams, you are CUTE! I thought you were ten years younger!
Okay, flirting portion of thread is done! | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:02:35 AM | | Mr Internet...Great words of wisdom!..Places like these sites are great hang outs for players, they know ppl are looking for that special someone & they play on it, they dont care who they hurt as long as there getting some, they say & do what ever it takes to win your trust & heart... I know a girl that met a man long distantes they got along great!! so she thought,.. she was trying to figer out how to shorten the distantes coz she thought she found her "soul mate" then came the line I think u should just be friends...Players sooner or later get found out though coz woman also met & yes we talk. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:14:23 AM | Yes, there are plenty of guys, and gals too, out there who don't cheat. Unfortunately there are others who think the grass is greener of other side of the mountain, until they get there and realize it's not. Maybe they're just lookin' for love in all the wrong places and never find what they're lookin' for. Who knows? My advice is not to rush into anything too quickly. 
Pink | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:23:19 AM | My experience is, there are always red flags. Sometimes we choose not to heed the warning signs. I think it boils down to individual’s core values. Honesty can cause conflicts and most people want to avoid confrontations. Low self-esteem causes people to lie also. I was with a man for three years. He cheated from the start. I have learned to pay attention to my gut feeling and not my heart. Internet dating is an easy way to meet people. However, it’s easy to put your best foot forward. I’m very cautious on here. No male bashing intended. My ex is also on this site. LOL, this man lies so much to women, he told a lady he met on another site, I had breast cancer and he couldn’t leave me. I’ve been very lucky with having GOOD men in my life. I didn’t appreciate it in my youth. When I do meet a good man, I will give it my all and appreciate him. So chin up OP, the guy did you a favor. Your heart will mend and you will be a more appreciative of your next and hopefully, your last love. Good Luck | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:28:41 AM | To The men, and or ladies, the grass is always greener on the other side. Met a guy in Home Harware, who started up a real conversation. he didn't want to leave. My daughter asked me if Iknew him, which I didn't, but dammit, if I had known the guy I was seeing on POF, would have been such a jerk. i would have given the Home Hardware guy my #. And no he didn't look like Brad pitt , was a hell of a nice guy!
My Loss. see?
Bren1954 | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:41:10 AM | Dear OP,
Sorry you have had such rotten luck, if it's any consolation, I never cheated on many of my exes, am a nice guy, but can't seem to get a date
I know you are hurting, but don't give up hope, everyone deserves happiness.
Good Luck | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:59:59 PM | So, I myself have never cheated and I know I never will. Its just not in my makeup.
That being said I can only think of one of my guy friend that has not cheated at some point, And I have a lot of guy friends. So I do not know what the percentages are between men and women cheating, But I know a lot of guys cheat. At least almost all of the ones I know.
Cheers! | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/24/2008 1:19:59 PM | I have never cheated, never will. I was too insanely happy with who I was with to consider it anyway.
Just because you had a few bad experiences doesn't mean all men are like that. That's the definition of stereotyping, isn't it? Do you believe every racial stereotype you've ever heard?
I liked JayX's answer. He's right, players are smooth, confident, funny, and always leave you feeling warm and fuzzy. One of my best friends was a player - I say "was" because he got married a couple years ago. He confessed to me though, he misses "the game", as he calls it. He just loved flirting with women and getting inside their heads. It was a big adventure for him, something to try and "win" every time we went out. I must have watched him do it dozens, maybe hundreds of times, and the guy was GREAT at it. His "target" would be laughing and touching his arm within moments of his first probing comments. Hell, he always leaves ME feeling warm and fuzzy, because he makes you feel like the most important person in the room. If you meet a person like this, you have to know a person that magnetic is trying to charm you, and are going full-out to make it happen.
For all that time I witnessed my friend's "career", he took none of those girls seriously, did whatever he liked, and would walk away with no regrets. So back to JayX, I agree - take a moment and consider the shy guy beside the player (that was me, the requisite wingman for my friend's amorous tactical plans, the guy he'd bounce jokes and comments off of to further the construction of his image as the Ideal Man in the eyes of "the target") for a second and think about what might be inside.
You want people to see you for who you are, don't you? | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/24/2008 2:21:42 PM | | I can only speak for myself... but I know I'll never cheat. I know first hand how much it hurts. How you blame yourself for something you didn't do; how you experience unbelievable grief, anger and sorrow... Why would I ever want to do that to someone? | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/24/2008 2:24:22 PM | Hi there, I have been divorced for 9 years now and have had several relationships....THERE IS HOPE! Not all men are alike! YES, there are men who can be faithful. Keep looking.  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:28:50 PM | [Quote]Mr. Internet hit the nail right on the head on this one. Players are smooth. They know all the right things to say. The more they play the game and "win" (get laid) the better they get at it and the more confident they become that they can get any girl they want (cuz they do!) and there's the catch 22 in my opinion. Most profiles I read on here are looking for a guy with confidence, and well success breeds confidence right? The more confident a guy is in himself, the better the odds that he's a player. The guys who don't play don't get that many girls and are a little shy and a little unsure of themselves at first; which unfortunately turns a lot of girls off. But there's that catch 22 again: the guys who don't have that much confidence (and therefore turn a lot of girls off) are the ones that are loyal to the bone and will never cheat on you. Next time give the shy guy a chance, you may have a much better chance of finding what you're looking for that way.
Those who are able to talk smooth and act good but then cheat make women think that all men who are good will cheat, Sometimes its the men causing the problem in the first place for the good ones of us or sometimes, A man will have his heart shattered by the woman he loves and resolve to be a player and break as many hearts as he can in revenge, which begins a cycle of bad people turning good people bad, and good people being bad because of bad people.
Neither sex is blameless here, but I will tell you all one thing and one thing alone. I will never change from what i am just to get women, if "Alone unto the lone I go devine to the divinity" (Lionel Johnson, The dark angel) Then so be it. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:50:43 PM | What do you mean by "non cheating"
If a man is already dating three different women and dates you ONCE it doesn't meant you magicly own him. He's not a cheat if he keeps dating the other three. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:01:43 PM | I'm sorry, thought someone was calling me here. As for do I exist?
Yes. I do.
As for guys just looking for intimate relations, that has nothing to do with me.
If there is no commitment and some form of love then there is no sex plain and simple. *sheesh* Doesn't anyone find it in good taste to remain sexless (not genderwise but intimately) until in a relationship with one who deserves that part of you? Regardless of what anyone says this is entirely possible and has benefits of it's own. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:19:40 PM | | I am a true NON cheating man....and when I do fancy a womans profile who has a lot in common with mine,I get read/delet without most of them ever reading my profile.Its so sad because they don't have a clue as to what they just lost,a gift so precious,but yet they let it go.I'm begining to wonder if I have cooties.Where do I go to get a coootie shot? | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/30/2008 3:20:37 PM | | I am a true NON cheating man as well. It is too hard to find a good woman. I can not hurt anyone like that. That is the lowest of the low. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:31:23 PM | i think it is bullsht that women genuine non-cheating man.
here is the paradox: They want attractive, non cheating men; 99% attractive men cheat. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:51:54 PM | I dont cheat and I never will cheat. I was taught that a man takes care of a woman. If you can't stay faithful, then don't stay.
What gets me is that can YOU choose a man that wont cheat. Many women think they have this magical connection with guys online and they are fools.
ONLINE DATING SHOULD BE A LAST RESORT! You should be meeting others around you. Texting and emailing is not proper communication. And you live with a guy from online?
The guys aren't the problem. Your skills at choosing them is. You are going to get hurt again; stop blaming the men; you allow this; its your fault if you keep it going. You need to grow up and mature; you cant' find a real man if your picking shallow boys and living with them. People that live together almost ALWAYS break up. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:40:07 PM | | There are a lot of men who don't cheat and there are a lot of women who do. I have never been in a relationship with anyone I have met online, but none of my exes cheated as far as I know. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:45:49 PM | somebody call Dr. Phil or Oprah we have another idiot who is too stupid to realize she's the source of her own problem.
You're 46 years old and i doubt that you're mentally retarded and probably have a brain in that head of yours....SO WHY DON'T YOU START USING IT!!!!!
There is nothing worse than a woman complaining about men and the only type of guy they go after are losers.  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:44:11 PM | Jie_Pie:
here is the paradox: They want attractive, non cheating men; 99% attractive men cheat.
99% attractive men cheat?
You're ill advised on this matter and plainly and simply incorrect. You have no clue on what percentage of any class do anything. Spouting a false number doesn't reflect well on you, but no matter, I'll not point it out publically.
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:55:07 PM | After reading socoj34's latest post.
Thanks for the worthless dribble of wisdom socoj34. No doubt you probably charge for such pearls so how are we graced with your knowledge this day? Dang, why verbally attack someone who is perhaps just venting? Is it just to do so?
However I do agree that if Dr. Phill and Opera somehow appeared themselves at the bottom of an oceanic trench wearing concrete footwear that the world might start thinking for themselves instead of drinking in how, why, when, and where they should do what they do from the screen of a television. | |
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