| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:43:02 AM | | I met him for bowling, we had a good time I thought. We bowled, walked to Tim Hortons, he walked me home. We talked a lot, conversation flowed. He mentioned however some other girl has been showing interest, but he wanted to go out with me. After that he all wanted to be into a relationship, and to me he was still a stranger. I like to "get to know someone" so I said no, so he ended up getting into a relationship with the other girl who he refered to as being "crazy". He just wanted SOMEONE, and was impatient and pushy and I am not into that. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:33:06 AM | Have met 2 to date. First didn't have a photo on his profile but he contacted me and he seemed like a nice guy. Said he was 42, 6'2", 290 lbs. of muscle. I'm waiting in Dunkin Donuts and in walks this 30-something oh-my-god-he's-gorgeous hunk and it's him. He said he had "blonde" hair and I thought on the phone he said "long" hair so I didn't know it was him. Very nice guy and 4 hours of sitting in Dunkin Donuts felt like 10 minutes -- the time just flew by. Asked if he could kiss me when he left and I said yes (first time I'd ever done that). Emailed me that night, seemed very glad to have met me, then during the next week lied through his teeth ("I was out of town so could not get to a computer" yet he was on POF checking mail each day) and begged me to see him again. I knew he was lying and a player, so wasn't anxious to see him again, and he removed his profile after adding 2 new people as favorites.
Next one was coming up to this area for a funeral so met me for coffee at the same Dunkin Donuts. Very nice guy but I didn't feel any sparks, though he did. He offered to fly up from Florida to take me to dinner whenever I wanted, but I always figure if they are going to spend that much to see you for dinner, they want one hell of a happy ending. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:45:09 AM | Did not go well, she was huge and misrepresented herself in her pictures. Then she got all nasty because I said so.
I wasn't nervous at all, after that I decided to stick to the pay sites and only meet people with realistic looking pictures ( not fuzzy, not overexposed) and avoid all women with only face pictures or pictures of only body parts. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:01:46 AM | I found my last wife on the net. I knew all about her before we meet, The 1st hug was great,and a long time coming (about two years). Stupid thing is. If I had run into this person on the street,she would not have gotten a 2nd look from me. I would have missed a lot.
I always expect someone has used the best picture of them self that they can lay their hands on,(they may not look as good in person) However, once in a while,they show up,and you wonder where in the world they got that terrible picture . And at that point I always wonder why they are still running around lose, and are not wearing a ring yet.
To bad I usually find out. (you win a few you lose a few) | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:30:37 AM | Wow, it was very interesting to read some of these stories..
I never had a bad date, I always try to make a best of the situation.
Just a usual experience, she posted an old picture, or said to be a "Few extra pounds", and , well, she was heavy set. Or she couldn't hold a conversation, gave me a one line answers to my questions. Or her kids were running around, she spent a whole evening yelling at her kids...
But seriously, just relax, don't push it. And if the meeting goes bad, don't sweat it. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:43:53 AM | You might say i am a cautious dater..i hate to waste my time. Here are a few things that i do and have had to learn the hard way to figure this out;
1. ask for lots of pictures...recent pictures. People will tell that a picture is from the summer yet they neglect to say it was the summer of '72.
2. talk on the phone first - if there is nothing to say on the phone there will be less to say in person
Those two simple things make 99% of my first dates enjoyable... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:46:26 AM | | well...i never got to go on the date....talked to a lady[for about 3 days] and she said call at 5pm on a saturday so we could go out...she never answered my call at 5pm...i e-mailed her back and it was deleted....so thanks''L'' from t-ville....N.C.. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:21:03 AM | I have been on and off here since October. There were plans to meet a few, most canceled stood me up etc. or I saw right through them and the fact that they were looking to get laid.
I usually like to meet rather quickly, a few e-mails, ims, than the phone. I don't like having to build up a rapport for weeks on end, getting to know the person and wham, crushed when I meet them, as I have on other sites, because we built it up so much.
But, I met one from here back in February, we had a great time, awesome time, unfortunately, I do not believe he is looking for the same as I, as in maybe a relationship, maybe to date a bunch.
Anyway, we sort have remained friends and I contacted him this week, he's still on here, saying, would you like to do it again? I mean I hit it off with him rather well, so why not? So we are going to meet again.
But, on other sites, not as hapopy as an ending, they lied about their weight, marital status and age.
But, there were 2 along the years I met, the only 2 I met and actually went out with again, I ended up in a 3 year relationship with each of them. ended for various reasons.
I am a busy person, don't have the time to hang at bars to meet men, what not. Sometimes the online dating does work for some, I am very careful and very blunt about what I am and am not looking for.
There may be that one out there, looking for the same as me, I have not given up as of yet. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:23:07 AM | ~let's see....I met one guy yesterday. Real nice, sweet, opened doors. But just wasn't feeling the love, so to speak. I had met a guy several months before, and all he did was make sexual innuendos... what a turn off!
Dating is hard enuff, let alone internet dating. People misrepresent themselves when it comes to looks....I guess they all wish they look like their thinking. But nice enuff people tho...Get to know them a little/or a lot by communicating with them before the meet. eg: find out if their married!
I just take it slow, watch for any red flags, and try and have fun. Make the best of it if it doesn't spark.....
Just keep looking, cause there's someone for everyone... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:58:05 AM | Actually, the first meetings usually go quite well over lunch, or a walk in the park. It's after the second or third date that I find out more about these guys - and there is always something that I just can't handle. Either they are just going thru a messy divorce, or they have dogs, or they just don't look anything like the pic they posted. One very nice guy lived right across the street from me but he was so religious it freaked me out. Another one was quite charming, intelligent and attractive, but he was too short and had a spare tire. It'd be like dancing with the Pilsbury dough boy!
I've talked to several others who seem to think that after the first date, we'd be in a relationship. Bang, no time to get to know each other, no, I'd be so swept off my feet the minute we met! Well, no thanks, the front door started looking real good right then and I'd rather be smart than sorry. Give me a break for crying out loud. 
Pink | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:06:50 AM | The first date didn't look like the picture......we went bowling. No chemistry whatsoever, so no need in kicking a dead weasel.
Second date was great, but mysteriously had no contact afterwards.....can only guess she met someone with a better offer.
Third was over before it started.....got to the joint, met, exchanged all the "ya look nice" ga ga....then i was told the rest of the party was uncomfortable with me being there, so I offered to leave.
Since I'm certainly not lookin' for a wife right now, and since I'm not some kinda fornicating swinger, I can't complain. I've had some dates. All I was looking for. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:09:24 AM | | ok. i have the ultimate POF dating story from hell. so anyways, i swapped emails on here a few times with a young lady and we agreed to meet for coffee. over coffee we talked and things went well. we decided to do dinner that next weekend. i thought she was pretty cool and down to earth. so that next weekend at dinner, i noticed she was acting very strange. i thought to myself this is the last date! so anyways, as i walk her out to the car she asked me if i could get her some morphine from the hospital (since im a nurse). ENUFF SAID. havent talked to her since. you guys ever hear of a date like that? | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:28:03 AM | I'm an old hippie and pretty free of preconceived notions so I give folks allot of latitude. We all try and put our best foot forward but he was at least ten years older than he said. In fact I found his my space page and it said exactly that. The early part of the evening went okay. He seemed a little selfish and set in his ways(didn't even want to hear what I might like to eat etc) but I'm a forgiving person. We get back to my house(where I have about 7 other people hanging out) and start watching television. The guy without so much as a kiss beforehand reaches over and mashes my tits. It was so ridiculous I couldn't do anything but laugh. Needless to say, that was that for Mr HipHappy.
That was the first time here.
I have had fabulous times and met great people on other sites but mostly because everyone I date tends to be at least ten years younger than me.(Cause I'm so hip)*wink*
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:05:33 PM | This date was from another site, but this guy seemed SO perfect for me in his profile. His pics didn't show much- one he had sunglasses on and one was dark with half his face showing.
I had to be persistent to get him to meet me. Finally when we had coffee he almost never looked at me and didn't start any conversation. He was heavier than his photos and apparently had taken a dirty rumpled t-shirt and jeans out of the hamper to wear.
The only time he was animated was when he was complaining about something. He told me he had anxiety disorder and had lost his job. Then he went on and on about how everyone that lived in our state were stupid hillbillies and they were out to get him. I labored for 45 minutes and made my escape. Neither one of us contacted the other again.
Hoping for a better one next time. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:22:00 PM | Meet? Are we actually supposed to meet? Like in Real Life?
Truthfully, it's been great. With the exception of one, anyone I've met from here has been exactly as portrayed on his profile. I think most of us try to be honest. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:32:00 PM | They start out as short meet for coffee and next thing you know it's 2 changes of clothes and 12hrs later. I like the dates that carry a shower curtain in the overnight bag which is cleverly disguised as a purse???....I know you are wondering about the two changes of clothes, just keep wondering
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:36:34 PM | | Met an amazing girl on here, we had coffee, was so comfortable talking to her, and she was absolutely beautiful, picture didn't do her justice. Made a personal descision to discontinue it, might be a horrible choice in the long run, but I am only a year out of my marriage and I still need to sort some stuff out, and she doesn't need to deal with my personal problems. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:07:25 PM | | I've dated a few from the I-net and I've found they look better in person than they do in their online picture. I've also never had a bad date just people I didn't click with. I've never been nervous either I can talk to anyone, so meeting a date first time is not a big deal to me. Just look them in the eyes, and just talk very easy thing to do. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:33:14 PM | I actually just met someone off POF this past Friday that i have been talking to for several weeks... it was kind of a spur of the moment, unplanned thing but i went ahead & gave it a shot.
Met her at a gay bar (she was with two of her gay friends, who are both cool people), so i had a beer as we chatted a little, then we took a nice long walk around the area & talked a bit more before heading for her friend's apt.
They didn't have cable TV or many DVD's to choose from, so i settled on blind date but only after asking her if she wanted the remote. She changed from her dress to a t-shirt & sweats & was lookin' good!! Meanwhile, i downed about 2 glasses of wine in about a 30 min span, lol.
I would've stayed longer but she was getting tired & i had to get my car out of a parking lot that closed at 2am (parking is very very difficult in the area that i was in), so we called it a night but not before i got a big hug from her. We had originally planned to meet at Millenium Park in downtown Chicago, so i asked her if that was still on & she said yes.
So i am lookin' forward to next weekend where we will get to spend some 1-on-1 time together, which will let me know if we have a connection or not. We seem to both enjoy eachother's company whether it's been talkin' on the phone or online & she did tell me that she had fun on Friday...so i'll see her again for Memorial Day weekend & take it from there! :) | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:59:27 PM | | I met one guy from the net. He didn't have a picture on his profile, but sent me it through messenger. Apparently this picture was like 5 years old but he said that he looked pretty much the same. We talked online and on the phone for 2 months before meeting (he was willing to wait until I was comfortable). We met for lunch and I just have to say, that was the shortest lunch I have ever had. He didn't really look like his picture and while we got along well on the phone, we did not hit it off in person, at least on my side. We'll just chalk it up to a very nice but very socially awkward guy :) | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:10:33 PM | I've met two guys from online.
Both were flops...
The first, we had tons to talk about online and on the phone, but the guy clammed up bigtime when we actually met...
The second was an extremely sweet, well spoken guy... But misrepresented himself. He claimed in his profile to be taller than I was... I feel akward being with guys who are significantly shorter or thinner than I am- it just makes me feel enormous or like I might snap them in half... LOL... This guy barely came up to my shoulder. | |
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