| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:40:32 PM | | I've only met one person from POF, and about 4 from another site. None of my experiences have been bad, all have been interesting, and I've made a couple of friends. But the magic spark wasn't there. I prefer to exchange a few emails first, then talk on the phone. A voice tells you a lot. I never give out my home address or get into someone's car without getting to know them first. If I don't like the voice, I don't agree to meeting them. My last - most recent - first date was with a man I liked very much, and enjoyed his company. We spent a whole day together and he was getting enthusiastic. talking about the future, but I was not physically attracted to him. So, as kindly as I could, I told him that, thinking it was better to be honest. But he reacted badly. He ranted on for a while, said I should try women (if I didn't fancy him I must have been gay), told me I'd end up on my own ... and then said, well you might as well know I'm an alcoholic, pulled a bottle of vodka out of his pocket and started swigging it. The moral for me is - if I'm not willing to have a relationship with an alcoholic I don't find attractive, I'm going to end up an old maid. Which is fine with me. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/12/2008 11:11:15 PM |
Where you nervous?
Yes
Was it a case of, she or he looks nothing like they described?
No.
Whatever the case may be, if its interesting, tell everyone about it?
30min before the date she sends me a txt message that says "Is it ok if my friend comes along?"...and for some reason I said yes.... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/13/2008 12:31:25 AM | First meet ever from POF or first meet with each person? Regardless, it was the same for most of them...
Where [sic] you nervous?
Sure. Butterflies are always normal
Was it a case of, she or he looks nothing like they described?
No. Everyone I've met looked just like their pictures. In some cases, even better! I did notice that all but two of them seemed to fudge their height a little bit, though. Either that or I've magically grown a couple of inches (and I've never worn heels on a first meet, so it's not that). Not that it was a big deal, but it happened often enough for me to find it odd. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/13/2008 9:27:02 AM | Hmmm...
First meet from POF..
He picked me up at my house (I know...that is apparently a major no-no!) and we went to the pub for a couple drinks, and to watch the game. The waitress asked us how long we had been married, and I think I choked on my drink! This resulted in arguing the rest of the night, that this was the first time we'd met! She brought all of the staff and the few other patrons into the argument, as she just didn't believe it. Talk about awkward.
We went to a very boring movie, in which I almost fell asleep (I don't recommend having drinks before a movie, by the way.) He dropped me off at my place, and if I remember correctly, he wanted to come in. Not gonna happen.
I wasn't nervous. I'm not really someone that gets nervous. I'm confident in myself, and the people I choose to associate with.
He looked just like his pictures, and was just as chatty as he had come across on the phone.
The end. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/13/2008 9:56:03 AM |  i met sum1 of ere for 1st time on tuesday n it went really really well we met up again 2day. tbh when he 1st msg'd me i was'nt really looking for anything but now i've met up with him twice yeh im glad i gave it a shot! so fingers crossed for me  | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 2:46:51 PM | I haven't had a bad meeting with anyone from POF. The last one, however, was love at first sight. We met at a quaint restaurant and sat on the patio. It was a daytime meeting. We talked about a little of everything and did a lot of gazing into each other's eyes. It went so well that we're already talking about moving in together.  | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:48:32 PM | The very first time?
Hmm....it was nice. It was a guy with whom I'd been emailing/messaging for a couple weeks. We kept missing each other's phone calls and text messages (I work days, he works nights -- I didn't know that then), and I was ready to write him off due to lack of interest, follow-up, etc.
I was returning yet another call from him, expecting to reach voice mail, when he answered. He asked me if I was free that evening and he invited me to have dinner with him. I still wasn't that impressed, but I decided to meet him anyway. I didn't go out of my way at all for this date...I wore exactly what I had worn to work that day, didn't freshen up my hair and makeup, and chose a local sports bar at which to meet because Brett Favre (Green Bay Packers quarterback) had retired that day and I wanted to see the press conference....I even told him that was why I chose the place! Additionly, the bar is very close to my home which would make it convenient to get home quickly afterwards.
I got to the restaurant first and ended up talking to him on the phone while I waited for him to get there. I wasn't taking him or the date seriously at all, and I was a complete smart a$$ while we talked. He quickly identified me as such, commenting that he LIKED that. I was instantly amused and relaxed after that and spent the next couple hours on one of the best first dates I've ever had. It ended with a good-night kiss that knocked my socks off! (In fact, that was the best first kiss I'd ever had until and since then.) Not only was I glad I had agreed to meet him, I was glad he had not bailed on me given my less than pleasant attitude that he had to deal with initially.
Lucky for me he must have enjoyed it as well, because we had several subsequent dates after that first one that were even better than the first.
I've been on a handful of first dates with POF guys and unfortunately, I don't have any other reports as good as the first. None of the meetings were terrible....I guess they just didn't meet my expectations.....or maybe the bar was just set high by that first experience.
Good luck to the OP and all the other newbies out there. Just remember that life's a risk and sometimes you meet a person who is certainly worth taking a chance on.
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:07:31 PM | Oh my - i remember it well...!!!!
We had spoken for a while and then he asked me out - we discussed restaurants and after telling him what types of food i enjoyed, especially Italian he said to leave it with him and he would book one as i liked them so much ( going good so far lol )
We meet : He is wearing white jeans, white shirt ( open to his navel ), white denim jacket and silver necklace and what looked like black school shoes.
The Place : After explaining that he had booked Italian, we make the short walk to the restaurant, when he opens the door to Pizza Hut i ask what he is doing, he says " you wanted Italian " i try to explain that because Pizza Hut sells pizza and pasta it is NOT an Italian and i flatly refuse to go in. I grab his arm and propel him to an Indian i spy down the street.
The Meal : The Indian seems nice, we sit down and he orders Malibu and Pineapple ( wtf ??!! ) and the waiter brings the drink to me not him, he does'nt know what any of the items on the menu are, so i order for both of us, the bill arrives and he pushes it over to me for me to pay which i do as i just want out at this point.
The End : He pays for my£1 car parking and asks me if i would drop him off at the train station as he has arranged to meet " the lads " in London for a boys night out....
Which is where we will leave it as i am still having nightmares 2yrs later..!!!!!!!!!  | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:36:29 PM | Most of my experiences have been very positive. There are a few in the past I have met and they were not who they said they were or had too many stories behind them that did not add up and I found out why. One I had nightmares from!
The last one I met, he was wonderful online and on the phone and when I met him I wondered, who is this man I had spent so much time talking to, he was an absolute impostor and a stranger to me. He was and is a very toxic/false person and I am glad that I found out who he really was early on rather than waited and met him at a later time. (If you are reading this DD, yes it is about you). My heart goes out to those women that fall for him next, I hope that they are strong. Girl Power!javascript:smilie(' ') It took awhile to get over him and with the help of good friends I said enough is enough, got strong and moved on with a smile.
The best experience I had was with a man I am still friends with now, we have known each other over 3 years and we accept each other for the things we have gone through and who we are today. I am proud to have met such a wonderful man and friend. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:05:06 PM | I don't date from here, I'm only here for the forums.
All the same, I did meet one guy who had been very charming in his emails. I wasn't expecting a lot, in fact, I was expecting I might be stood up, and preparing to deal with that. He was very polite and personable. I think he may have been nervous, he sort of acted that way at times, but the amount of eye contact was not bad. I had a good time. I would see him again if he asks to. But I don't feel so compelled that I need to stalk him if he doesn't call!
A word on attractiveness and "my type" and all that. I don't have a physical type. If we interact well and I am treated nicely, I entertain the possibility of a repeat engagement. I do have personality traits that matter to me, but I try to keep an open mind to see what develops.
A man I met on another site, when we had our first meet, parked illegally in the handicapped spot, using his mother's tag which he keeps in his car. This SHOULD have been a big red flag but I gave him a chance. Mistake, and I won't do that again. Shame on him. It did occur to me to report him, but since the infraction was in the past I doubted he would receive any followup, and I didn't want the unpleasantness. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:22:11 PM |
I've yet to meet anyone from the internet, but just in case i ever do, i would like to hear the good,and bad, of other peoples experiences. Where you nervous? Was it a case of, she or he looks nothing like they described? Whatever the case may be, if its interesting, tell everyone about it?
First date was two years ago.
She still has me locked up in her attic.. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:11:27 PM | OK girls just a warning for all of you out there....We have a liar and deceiver in the mist.......Rookie_tn is a scum bag......We e-amiled for about a week on POF and then we began IM on yahoo. Then we exchanged numbers and he would text me quite frequently. Always "Hey Beautiful..." So we made plans....a date to be exact..... I really liked him and we never ran out of things to talk about and had a lot in common......To me we "hit" it off......He lives in the same town I do and I was hopeful......We made plans for last night to meet at 8pm at a local pub. He said he would call me.....He texted me Friday morning and said "Hey beautiful....how is your day?" I texted him back " Great, Looking forward to meeting you." He responded "Me too." I started getting ready with the usual excitement and butterflies too. Putting yourself out there is hard enough....Is'nt it girls????? I had not heard from him. I texted him " You have not called are we still on?" I received no response and never did.......He had no intention of meeting me and I assume he thought it was a funny game. I find no humor in this at all. It hurt my feelings and once again has proven to me "Why are we doing this?" Putting ourselves out there, bearing our souls only to have a game played on us....and raise doubt about what we are doing......I would love to make POF aware of this jerk and have no idea how to contact them....Does anyone have any idea how to do this ? Please advise and help........Stay away form Rookie_tn. His name is Scott he should not be allowed to be on this site.......He has not intentions of meeting any of us just hurting us......
Angela in TN - Blondie39 on POF.........    | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:25:50 AM | So far I've met two guys from POF and both dates didn't go as well as I wanted it to go.
Is it so hard to talk with someone after the date? Not interested? Then be classy enough to let that person know. Don't just drop off the face of the earth, without a word. That's what cowards do. Should I be reluctant to date another guy from POF?
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:44:30 AM | | I went on a date from here a week or so ago was nice to the lady we were holding hands kissing spent from 11:00 to 22:00 at night she said it was the best date ever...next day I get a message don't want to see you anymore....I chat online and she said I not confident enough to what she was used to...then because of the way I messaged she changed her mind and wanted another chance....now I should have said no but I gave a chance we went over her way...spent from 11:00 to 20:00 but the last hour was rubbish why??? She decided to tell me she didnt want to date me again...she had been holding my hand and kissing and putting leg over me...she was talking about what we would tell people how we met, that I did nice things with my eyes like she did....What the hell?? She wanted me to get angry with her to see something wrong with her...but I never get angry with people unless I know them well enough thats not being nice...thats having manners....In the end every date I had with her she was crying about her ex anyway so I guess she on the rebound.... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:15:44 AM | I've been on POF for about 4 months, have so far chatted (multiple messages or msn) with a couple of dozen guys, been out with about 8-10 at least once.
In my experience, people usually look a little different from their pictures, and the way I deal with nerves is to assume that the person I'm meeting is WAY more nervous than I am. And pick an activity that will stimulate its own conversation...probably NOT sitting and staring at each other across a dinner table, unless you know you'll have lots to talk about.
Most of the men I've met have been good guys, just not right for me. My worst disappointment was a guy that I chatted with for a few weeks, then went on two really great--at least i.m.o.--dates with, he lent me three books and asked me what I wanted to do the following weekend because he had few days off, and then never called/emailed again, or answered my email asking what he wanted me to do with the books. Bizarre, right?
I also think that the way you comport yourself after the date is just as important as how you act during it. If you think that you didn't click, don't say "we should do this again sometime." Tell the truth. I think women take honest and respectful disinterest a lot better than they take false hope.
And whoever said have a few discussion topics thought up in advance, that's definitely a good idea! Read over your correspondance and their profile to get some quick conversation-starters...get them talking about their interests! Even a plain-looking person will shine when they can talk about something they have a passion for! | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 4:10:31 AM | | the first meeting was great...we had dinner and chitchat for about 3 hours, asking about each other... we phoned, emailed and texted everyday since, then, he asked me out again for a second date, it went well , all seems great...2 days after the second date, he called me, telling me he wants to stop our communication, contact and doesn't want to see me anymore...ewwww, i asked why, he just told me, he lives a complicated life..i didn't ask for anymore explaination...i just said, ok...thanks for telling me..then i never heard from him again.... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 4:14:08 AM | | Met a few people from here. Everything has been fine and dandy, no problems with peole lying or using fake pictures, dates have been fine. Mind you, I cut my teeth elsewhere and learnt some of the tricks and traps for young players the hard painful way. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 4:42:50 AM | It's very interesting reading other's experiences. For me I was always a little nervous and excited! The one guy I met from here was not what he portrayed. And I was dumb not to see the red flag during our "text messessing". Yeah, we only talked on the phone 1x. About 4 emails and we texted for about 3 weeks. I never could get a real answer as to why he didn't want to "talk" on the phone.
Anyway, we met once. Movie at his place. Guy was so cheap.......he had no food in the house and when we went to the fast food place, he had no money and wanted to drive my car.
Get back to his place and finish the movie, watch another one and had some drinks. We ended up having sex. We kept "texting" for about 2 more weeks and I finally asked him "if/when we meet again, would you like to go bowling or out to a movie".
His answer was "No. We're good just like we were". Yeah. So want he wanted was not what he put on his profile and I definitely felt used. Partly my fault and partly his!
Have met 2 other guys that are just nice to talk to. No love connection and not met in person, but actually have nice conversation on the telephone..........real voices, no texting!
I never give up hope. I don't meet everyone I talk to on here.
Good luck to all! | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 5:10:51 AM | I've never had a bad first meet.
Met one certifiable nut-bar who persued me with a vengeance. Our first meet was great, but I sooned learned he was a nut-job. I think he would have locked me in a room below his stairs (with bars on the windows) and fed me with a baby bottle through the bars if I'd been stupid enough to ever step foot in his house. ::::shudder:::: Freakin' looney tune.
Met another very nice and honest guy. Couldn't figure out why someone whose almost 50 never got married, had kids, or had been in a long-term adult relationship. Seemed all his 'serious' relationships had been when he was younger. I figured it was just a matter of time before his 'crazy' came out - and it finally did. Mystery solved. Since he sometimes reads my posts, I won't say anything more than that.
Had another first meet with a real cutie - a Rick Springfield look-alike. He wasn't crazy, wasn't full of himself, and was a down-to-earth guy raising his 2 kids because his wife left one day and never came back. I give him a lot of credit. Suffice it to say, I'm the one who blew that one to smithereens.
Had a few more first meets, they were all wonderful guys and I'm still friends with a couple of them. I'm really glad I've been fortunate enough to meet some wonderful people. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 5:43:45 AM | | My first PoF date was in Madison, WI about a year ago I think. She was a tough one to pin down on anything online, would not share a picture (always a bad sign) and wouldn't even give her real first name for a few emails, just a nickname she has. So on a Thursday some plans she had fell through and we IMed online and she suggested meeting. Picked a good mexican restaurant from a small chain up there, Pedros, and I got there first, she was a little late. Could see why she did not share pictures, she had no chin. Everything else was fine. So we ate, had a margarita pitcher and were feeling pretty good. She invited me back to her place for a movie, had more drinks there and watched something, I was in no shape to drive home so went to bed with her, clothes stayed on. Just kissed some and I didn't even think I had fallen asleep but she woke me up, said I was snoring too loud and booted me out of her room. Ended up on the couch in the basement (I have been married so this was old hat to me) where I figured out her home theater system and threw a movie in. Got up in the morning, kissed her goodbye and never saw her again. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 8/23/2008 6:13:27 AM | My very first POF date was "Great".
We both drove about 50 miles and met halfway. I could see she was a bit nervous but since I am easy to talk with that soon melted away. This lady was better than I ever expected , bright, intelligent, well grounded, attractive and elegant and we laughed a lot.
We met at 2:30 pm and our time together ended at 8:00pm. She told me her POF dates usually last 15 minutes max and she looks for an escape route.
We after that and spoke and laughed many times on the phone or E-Mail. We lived in different cities which was a bit of a negative but retain a good friendship. We maybe did not have that extra spark to carry it to the next level ,or we laughed so much at each other's humor that we lost the romantic push to move forward.
Had we lived closer to each other it may have developed into more....but then who knows??
My advice is to meet people, never "Block" someone unless it becomes a case of strange behaviour or stalking. Answer your E-Mails if the person is sensible as a courtesy. It is not necessary to be rude or hurtful if you are not interested. There are ways to express your wishes.  | |
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