| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:49:58 AM |
MSG#46,beehearnow Wrote:and I prefer men closer to or older than me for the same reasons...but I find where I live that many of the men I meet in "my" age bracket prefer a more compliant, fancy, lady-like woman to an upity, independent, let's get down and play in the mud type like me.... Maybe you need to do a serch for guys that live in small town kind of places.Most city guys might not be interested in your type but the guys in this county would be swarming around you. | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:16:33 PM | You're damned right we (older men) have "more competition", but so do the "older" women.. let's face it, physical attraction means something. I'd venture that none of you cougars are trying to squeeze into a size 18, and I'd further venture that most of the men your age have long ago despaired of ever getting their waist size back smaller than their chest size...and so, of course, they're intimidated, and it's a lot easier to "judge" than it is to bust for a $40-a-month gym contract.
Having said that, I'll not deny that there's a hell of a lot of fear and self-doubt and inseccurity involved when a man my age (pushing 64) starts getting serious about a girlfriend 15 or 20 years my junior. Bravado and witty banter and a good prescription just go so far..... | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:02:43 AM | thanks, Guy, for validiating what I've found to be true...i've been "stuck" in this city for a few years now, but prior to that lived in rural areas and my tomboy-ness was never an issue...
I really don't like living in the city. But oh well... | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:24:21 AM |
ALL of the men that approach me are anywhere from 23 to 30 .....Now that I don't believe.
Personally I think you are trying too hard to keep yourself 'up with the younger generation'. What do you want us to say? Gee you look young for 50?, cause I'm not going to say that.
If you act like a 23 year old then chances are you'll attract 23 year olds.
My ex fiance was 8 years my junior and I don't find it such a big deal.
Perhaps there is a shortage of 50 year olds where you live or perhaps YOU are not attracted to 50 year olds. | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:38:01 AM | One note to the 'men my age are couch potatoes' crowd - please don't confuse going out clubbing with an activity that requires energy. Sitting your ass on a bar stool for four hours is not an aerobic activity - it doesn't mean you're in shape. Nor does being thin equate with being youthful - there's a big difference in the look between someone who starves herself and someone who exercises.
Making the club scene itself has nothing to do age - I thought clubbing sucked when I was thirty. Vapid conversation, shallow idiots and nasty vibes. Granted I've never been a big drinker - and it's the drinks that make clubs so much 'fun.' Give me something decent from Netflix and my couch over that scene. | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 12:03:43 PM | Or, maybe the 50 year olds have behavior issues, and act like teen agers rather than a 50 year old should.
Personally, I do not not care for the people in my age bracket in the state where I am from. The ones I have met on line so far, and off line too,are disgusting in the way they act....let me give you an example....
3 years ago, I was at my sons 8th grade graduation. I have to wear oxygen most of the time because I have a severe lung problem. I went and set down with a woman in her 40's, and she leaned over to the woman next to her, and said to her..that fat guy doesn't need oxygen, he needs a diet. That seems to be the normal attitude for people around here. | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:41:44 PM |
I went and set down with a woman in her 40's, and she leaned over to the woman next to her, and said to her..that fat guy doesn't need oxygen, he needs a diet.
that's just plain rude ignorance...it's a shame someone in their 40's would still be acting like they are 10. Must be lack of diverse social interaction  | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:08:12 PM | No trouble at all. I prefer to interact with someone who's had similar life experiences, and similar pop culture and world events exposure, to mine.
As the great philosophers Donald Fagen and Walter Becker pointed out:
"Hey, nineteen - that's 'Retha Franklin.
She don't remember The Queen of Soul... "
Uh-uh. Not for me. Comes a time to put away childish things. The "half-your-age-plus-seven" rule sounds good in theory, but as a 49-year-old, I'd say I have a tough time relating to a woman under 40.
I always find "May-December romance" movies to be rather sad: a victimless psychosis ("daddy issues" vs. "mortality issues") wherein if either party "gets well", it has to end... I could not enter into a relationship that I know to be finite from the start or that I know is based on a pretense...
But maybe I'm looking at it all wrong... Maybe it's just all about the sex... in which case I don't get it anyway... | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:34:01 PM | I've been married twice, first one older, next one younger....I like men my own age. I would never date someone young enough to be my own kid, I have zero attraction to younger men. I do not find it flatterning either, I hate being hit on by younger men, especially when they act like I should be grateful.  The older I get, the more I want to spend time with men and women who have gone through the same era.
To each their own, just my preference. | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:50:25 PM | i have had problems relating to people my own age it is so hard they think that you saying something that I'm not saying all the time its shits me, they are wrong about it if they would only listen to what your saying that would be good or stop taking me the wrong way it shits me, sometime that adults cant except the way you are they want to change you or have there own opinion of you that is the problem with society these days they just dont want to no you as you or for you if life were so easy it would be a dream would in witch we live......shaz | |
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| Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:19:27 PM | I cannot relate to guys in my age bracket. I like older men. My first serious boyfriend was 16 years older than me and all my boyfriends have all been older than me. I have gone out with younger guys, but it just does not do anything for me.
Funny, because now as I get older, the younger guys are coming out all over! I went out with a guy ten years younger than me and he was so CUTE! It was like going out with a puppy. I ended up giving him advice and I wanted to tuck him in at the end of the night. I did not want to sleep with him though. | |
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