| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 6:51:35 PM | | BamaBob, that sounds like a good time. And the structured changing of dance partners made it easier to mingle. I'd like to go to a dance like that. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:00:28 PM | Thanks for all of the comments so far.
I do agree that if a woman categorically rejects shorter men, dancing will not help.
However, there are some women who may not prefer shorter men, but might become interested in a particular man if he's a good dancer. (Or even a decent dancer.) If it boosted his attractiveness level by even say, 10%, wouldn't that be a plus?
I'm thinking of men who merely feel awkward, not who hate it. Of course, if he hates dancing, then it's not worth doing at all. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:49:57 PM |
For heart core dancers (Salsa, etc....), they look to have a mind blowing dance with someone that you connect with on the floor (for the dance/high of it). There is nothing like it!!!
Latin dancing, which by the way is very sensual and although the partners may appear like they "know the women fairly well" as you put it(LOL!!!) it may not be the case. This is another subject on its own.
How absolutely true! Personally, I don't even think about height on the dance floor. With my heels on I'm generally around 5'10 - 5'11". I have danced with men shorter than that and I could care less. If they can dance, let's have at it  | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:48:37 PM | | I wish i was shorter actually. the "tall dark and handsome" thing only works if you are also dark and handsome. Just being tall is pretty dang awkward a lot of times (much like being too short). Dancing? well.....I've actually had women I was on a date with tell me to just stop because i was embarassing them :P | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:10:11 PM |
Statiscally speaking most women would pick the taller guy assuming they were there to meet a man.
you don't care because you're not there to pick any guys up anyway. actually most women don't go to clubs to pick up men so another reason why being a good dancer won't help. Clubs are usually the worst places to meet women especially if you're a short guy.
True enough, I am 6'3 so I am not shortbut, my mother made me take tap and jazz and modern dance as a child. Thank God because I can dance my ass off today!!
Trust me guys (both short and tall) Learn to dance! It is fun, it is exciting and women love to dance. They just love to dance. There are few better ways to get next to a woman (to have women line up to meet you) than to be a great dancer!
It's like chick crack! I have yet to meet a woman that did not realy love being twirled around on the dance floor! | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:19:51 PM | As for men that are baised against dancing - - - -
you have not really tried in - - - - we are not talking the bar room crowd - - - all mashed together
the place that I go are no smoking, no drinking - - with large dance floors
The women come to dance and to be asked to dance - - -
As for no order - - - - - we are doing swing dancing - - - as for orderly, not really - each adds their own flare and variation to the dance - - - -
Some even like the old rock and roll type - - that you commented about --
here we are talking about hustle, jutter bug, Tango, mumba, Rumba, east coast and west coast swing dancing - - - to the music from the 50's to present - - - -
You get to meet a lot of good women - - - interact with them - - - see which are interested in you and you in them - - - - Price for the night is reasonable $12 area. With no drinks to buy.
and is really great fun and good exercise - - - - many of the dances have 1 hour lessons before the dance - - just for beginners and others as it is also a mixer and you get a chance to interact with all of the women present for the lesson - - -
So don't knock it until you try it - - - - -
Jim P. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:19:02 AM | | $12 is good enough to pay for a week's worth of food. there'd have to be some pretty heavy grinding to justify $12 on something so frivolous. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:37:48 AM | i've said it before and i'll say it again. i've had no problem dancing with ex boyfriends who were shorter than me. if you know how to move, you know how to move. if you know how to lead, you know how to lead. not to be crude, but when you are lying down, height gets adjusted! if anything, i find the "short" threads to be annoying and they don't make anyone the more marketable. we all have something to whine about. life is not fair. if you find women who do not like short men, move on and don't waste your time with them. pull the weeds and smell the flowers. some seasons are not fruitful, but your season will come in due time. it's harder to develop personality and stamina in an often cruel world and a lot easier to whine. i view all my adversities as lessons in life. often what people don't like about me, are things i view as my most valuable assets. so, i weed them (my enemies) out. and then, i go  dancing with whomever of whatever height! | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:22:19 AM | At 5'4" I'm definitely in the category of men that are being discussed here. I prefer to be with a lady about my height. I like seeing eye to eye. Saturday I went out dancing with a lady 5'6" and had a great time. I even thought about her height during dancing and had no problem with it.
When I look at ladies' profiles, I always check their height. If they are taller than 5'7" I don't read any further. I wouldn't feel comfortable with a lady taller than that. But there is no shortage of ladies 5'4" and shorter.
However, I recently found a lady's profile that really piqued my interest and she is 5'7". I mentioned the height issue in my very first email to her. We have spent many hours talking on the phone and feel an incredible connection with each other. I can't wait to drive 600 miles and finally meet in person.
Kissing is something I really enjoy and that's when I especially like both of us being the same height. I sometimes wonder how couples with a big height difference kiss during sex. When I'm having sex with a lady the same height, our lips are in just the right place for each other.
Two weeks ago I was at a club and really wanted to dance. I sat next to a lady that must be about 4'8" tall and asked her to dance and she declined. That would have been my first time to be with a lady quite a bit shorter than me. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 5:55:51 AM |
I'm only 5'9" tall and I'd rather be even shorter than go dancing.
Here's a thread topic: Meeting women: worth learning to dance?
No. And I speak from experience.
Ah, I love it! The more of those guys around, the better it is for those of us who DO dance (and enjoy it.) Has nothing to do with height, I'm 6' even myself. Don't know where you got that "experience" you speak of, but pretty much any woman you talk to laments the fact that many men refuse to dance. I've taken social dance lessons for 3 years now. Its lots of fun, and I've met and ended up dating several women.
The guys who refuse just make the situation better for us, so its cool. After all, without already being in a relationship, what other legitimate excuse is there to spend extended periods of time in public, with your arms around a good looking woman?
Remember, "dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire."  | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:11:43 AM | ^^^^^^^^^
Can't argue the point - women usually love dancing, and in dance classes women outnumber men like 10 - 1.
However, dancing is something you either get or you don't. If you don't, it's awful. Just not worth it. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:29:34 AM |
$12 is good enough to pay for a week's worth of food. there'd have to be some pretty heavy grinding to justify $12 on something so frivolous.
Where do you live that you can buy a week's worth of food for $12.00?????????
Now, back on topic. It's your prerogative to choose to consider dancing too frivolous to spend a few dollars on, but for those men who love to dance and to those who are willing to learn, they keep women like myself very happy on the dance floor. In the meantime, the guys that don't dance just stand around watching the guys that do dance move to the beat, with their arms around a woman, oblivious to those around them because they are too busy moving to the music, while guys that don't dance stand around with their hands wrapped around a drink.  | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:49:48 AM | "It's your prerogative to choose to consider dancing too frivolous to spend a few dollars on, but for those men who love to dance and to those who are willing to learn, they keep women like myself very happy on the dance floor"
LOL right I forgot it's always about making HER happy and never about what HE wants
You can't force someone to like something they don't like. and you can't spew venom at a guy just because he doesn't enjoy something you do. Everyone is different. I'm not going to do something I don't particularly enjoy just so I can increase my chances (and not by much by the way) of attracting a woman. Yes having good dancing skills doesn't hurt. but like 4duty said it's either something you get or you don't. It's also something you like or something you don't. People have different tastes in music. I like rock and jazz I'd rather go to a rock concert or a jazz club then salsa or cha cha club. I still believe dance clubs are not very good places to meet someone. All they are is false advertising. you can't see who people really are at a dance club. They are also very competitive environments and if you're a short guy the odds are NOT in your favour even if you happen to be a good dancer.
"Has nothing to do with height, I'm 6' even myself. Don't know where you got that "experience" you speak of, but pretty much any woman you talk to laments the fact that many men refuse to dance. I've taken social dance lessons for 3 years now. Its lots of fun, and I've met and ended up dating several women."
You're not short that's why. subtract 6 or 7 inches from your height and let's see if you would have the same atattude or the same results with women.
"yes Patrick Swayzee, John Travolta and Disco Stu....all famous dancers"
Patrick Swayze and John Travolta are not short and who is Disco Stu? isn't he from the simpsons or something?
So far all the testimonials about how great it is to learn dancing and it helps short men have been from men themselves who are not even short how do you know what helps short guys? That's like a person whose never had a weight problem in their entire life and has no idea what it's like to be fat and can eat whatever they want without gaining weight Giving advise to a person who's fat on how to lose weight.
forgive me if I'm not convinced
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:14:46 PM |
Remember, "dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire."
I prefer to express my horizontal desire horizontally. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:17:49 PM |
When I go out ...for instance to a dance or a formal... where I would wear heels I find myself at 5' 10'' tall...and when dancing up close with a shorter man I feel uncomfortable...his arms down about my butt level...and his head in my cleavage.
That sounds like a perfect reason to be a short guy. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:39:20 PM |
LOL right I forgot it's always about making HER happy and never about what HE wants.
Oh please, all I meant was that women, such as myself, who love to dance are very happy that there are men who love to dance also. That's it. I wasn't bashing guys who don't dance, nor was I saying that all guys should dance. I could care less if they do or don't. It's a personal choice -- I just prefer the ones that do. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:45:56 PM | "Dancing would not make a man of any height any more appealing to me."
See what I mean? it doesn't help nearly as much as you'd like to believe OP
"However, there are some women who may not prefer shorter men, but might become interested in a particular man if he's a good dancer. (Or even a decent dancer.) If it boosted his attractiveness level by even say, 10%, wouldn't that be a plus?"
So instead of having a 100% chance of being rejected I'd have a 90% chance of being rejected lol Yay for me! | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:01:55 PM | Well I'm not exactly short but I have taken dance lessons... I would highly recommend it. For one there is always a shortage of men at the lessons... You have to rotate every 10 minutes so your dancing with yet another beautiful women.. I took Salsa lessons and the instructors hold socials about once a month... so you get to go out to a club enviorment... accompanied by about 20 women you have allready been introduced to with all thier girl friends as well.
Now at the end of the day I found Salsa dancing to restrictive for me... but still I would highly recommend taking lessons to any guy. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:11:07 PM | Thanks denimpeanut I loved your original post. Dancing well requires a real confidence and I think that might be part of the attraction.
I'm a short man and don't hold it against women that most prefer tall men. That would be hypocritical! None of us can help what gets our no-no parts tingly.
As for the guy who would rather be short and handsome, than tall and homely ... wanna trade?  | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:29:27 PM | I'm 5'8 1/2 (hey, every 1/2 counts dammit) and I dance my ass off. Women like men that dance because it tells them how good you are in bed without actually having to take the plunge then wake up hating themselves later. Or you, because you sucked.
Least thats what Cosmo says. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 7:49:16 PM | You're welcome, quetzal. I'm just glad there's an interest in this post. (I checked beforehand to make certain it hadn't been brought up before and it hadn't.)
I do believe that dancing can help. Nothing is a guarantee, but it can't hurt. I'll never forget that "nerdy" guy and the pretty women he was dancing with (not one, but several).
Oh, and I was dancing a lot, too. I just looked for men who were staring at the dance floor and nodding their heads to the music, and went up and asked them.
Here's one time where this icon is appropriate... | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:49:38 PM |
Dancing would not make a man of any height any more appealing to me.
I love when the true superficial colors of a woman comes out. | |
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| Shorter men: Thought about dancing??
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:10:09 PM | In what way was what i said superficial chuckyb51? Please explain.
I very clearly said that I could see myself with someone of the same height which is 5'4 , so how am i superficial? You seem very oversensitive and you fixate on only part of what is said. Try reading everything someone post on a thread before jumping to conclusions.
By the way we are all superficial chuckyb51, even you. I highly doubt you are messaging women or asking out women who you find to be unappealing. So you see you are as superficial as any human being out there. We all have likes and dislikes.
I stand by what I said. Dancing would not make any man of any height more appealing to me. I am not someone who even enjoys dancing. | |
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