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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:25:24 AM | or maybe he likes being dominated by her... and teased and denied??
that's what makes horse racing... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:27:24 AM | Your sister definetly has issues. Sounds like a control thing to me. Who does she think she is not "letting" him masturbate? If she's not willing to satisfy him, let him do it himself, otherwise she will be whining and complaining that he's cheated on her with someone else. Which would she prefer?
Yes, get her professional help. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:54:53 AM | Ummm, I was in that place for a time. My wife became very religious, leading to concern about "our sin" because we had sexual relations while she was still married to someone else, ten years before. She felt it was wrong for us to continue to be intimate, but was very upset to find I was masturbating instead. She indicated I was "having adultery in my mind" which in her view is the same as the real thing. I told her I was mostly thinking about her, which was true, but it did not make any difference. When religion leads a person to intense guilt and conflict about their past "sins" such things do happen.
When either partner in a marriage loses interest in sex, it does not mean that they want their partner to take up masturbation, pornography or affairs. It is a sign of serious problems that should be addressed promptly.
I do believe masturbation is cheating in the sense that it is depriving my partner of some of my sexual energy and interest. If I have a partner, I do save it for them most or all of the time. I would like it if my partner did the same, but it is not the deal breaker that sharing her sexual energy with another man would be.
It also seems to me that both men and women get so hurt in their relationships that they cease to consider their partner's needs as importantly as their own. They begin to make negative judgments about what their partner wants and needs, rather than seeing those needs as a pleasure. What OP describes sounds like a case of that. The problem is not sex in and of itself; the problem is that the lady has ceased to see the man's need as her pleasure, and who of us is to judge what lead her to that point?
My partner's needs are a pleasure to me; if our relationship gets so unpleasant that they cease to be, I will soon be gone. If my needs stop being a pleasure to her, I do what I can to heal the wounds that caused it. If it does not change, I will detach from the relationship and leave it. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:15:55 AM | A good definition of cheating is doing or saying something with another person that you wouldn't do or say in front of your significant other.
Since when did masturbation become cheating? Wow, do we live in the 1600's? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:27:08 AM |  WOW! She won't LET her man masturbate!!! Too funny!! Is it cheating? Even funnier!! Some women have to get a life and allow thier men to have a life too! Tisk tisk!! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:30:35 AM | what is cheating
Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others.[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules. The term "cheating" is less applicable to the breaking of laws, as illegal activities are referred to by specific legal terminology such as fraud or corruption. Cheating is a primordial economic act: getting more for less, often used when referring to marital infidelity.
so are we talking about what society thinks is cheating.
or
what your partner thinks is cheating
some think looking at the opposite sex is cheating
some think looking at the opposite sex naked
some think TALKING
some think kissing
well some think masterbating is (STUPID)
so you tell me what YOU think is cheating then we have something to talk about.
I talk/email/trade photos (of any kind)/meet or whatever.
WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE SO NOT FUN.
sex should be fun. if you enjoy it and your partner dosnt. thats there problem. maybe its cheating if THEY dont have sex. why is it ok for our partner to NOT have sex but once we have sex its cheating. well WHY DO WE CHEAT. there ya go.
SOMEONE ANSWER ME THAT. i have yahoo messanger if you want to talk (archy919). | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:56:33 AM |
do you agree that masturbation is cheating?
lmfao and just when i am at an age when i think i have heard it all....POF comes through with flying colours to prove me wrong. i love this site.
oh ya hum NO!! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:06:09 AM | It's actually quite refreshing to hear that there is another poor soul out there that thinks this way and it's not only my ex!!! What a load of malarky!!
My ex actually threw out my toys (a$$hole) and claimed he could "tell" if I had masturbated or not and would throw this stupid hissy fit if he thought I did.... which I did of course...... hehehehe..... 
This from a guy who was on the road for up to 8 weeks at a time!! Why in the hell would someone NOT want their partner to masturbate? I know for my ex it was a control thing.... he really tried to control every aspect of my life. He also used to try to make me feel guilty by telling me that he never jerked off when he was away from home. I remember telling him that that was his choice and that I would not give up my toys and private play time for anyone. In the infamous words of Bugs Bunny... "What a maroon!!"
So, while I don't think masturbation is cheating in any way, shape or form, there are people that do.... and those people have serious issues.
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:09:20 AM |
Doesn't "Allow" him to masturbate? Gooooooood luck with that!!!
How does she enforce it? If he jerks off do the Masturbation Police show up?
Holy crow, some people are pretty Dim... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:10:13 AM | Curious OP.. is your sister younger then you? I find those in their late teens/early 20s sometime have very strict rules about what's considered cheating.
Do I consider it cheating? No.
To me, cheating is anything you can't tell your SO about. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:21:21 AM | My sister is older than me she is 29 her guy is 38, neither one of them is really involved with religion.
they actually plan when to have sex, and sometimes its only once a month. My sister called me up one day and told me what had happened on one of these night. Well she fell asleep, he woke her up and was like yeah "tonights the night for the sex". Well my sister turns around looks him in the face and is like "we already had the sex" rolls back over and goes to sleep. She was like bragging to me about it, yes I did think it was pretty funny, but if I was her man I think I would hate her, poor guy never gets any play. And to have to plan it out, where is the fun in that? Sometimes I wonder how it is we are sisters when we are soooooo very different. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:39:56 AM | | Does she specifically state she considers it cheating? It sounds like a control issue most of all. Her relationship is doomed and the ironic thing is that most times in cases like these, she'll likely be the one to leave over sexual frustration. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:42:02 AM | Re the Opost
1. Technically speaking, when in a rel, masturbation is. of course cheating, as is any physical or emotional (or both) pleasures or attractions that do not involve the SO. When in a "truly committed" rel, our libido is SUPPOSED to be exclusively attached to the SO and only her/him. Ebevn the pasing thought of another one is, technically, cheating. Because it means that our heart or libido or mind or soul is not REALLY monogamously/exclusively committed to our SO. So unless we think or use a pic of our SO when we 'bate, then it is "cheating".
2. Now that does not mean that what the OP's sis is doing is right. Since she does not have apetite for sex with her SO anymore, it means that the marriage is in effect void and they should be divorced and at best remain together as mere friends./housemates, because that is what they are. What the sis is doing is IMO nasty and "ugly", thus shameful. Poor hubby! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:57:23 AM | | your sister is obviously extremely insecure of his hand and his thoughts. I feel sorry for the short leash this guy must be on... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 9:31:42 AM | @fainting goats - It honestly sounds (especially after your last post) that your sister is a jerk.
I would recommend telling her to remove the tree branch from her butt-hole, before she dies of stick-up-the-ass-itus. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 9:38:06 AM | | She doesn't let him and she is never in the mood for sex...That is brutal. She is just looking for trouble , does she provide him with a big bag of ice to control his "blue balls"...tell her to step in to this century. She needs to be more like you... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:01:23 AM | | Your sister is seriously deranged & her bf is probably wanking himself into a stupor every time they're apart.. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:15:51 AM | seems the sister is weird, guess she never plays with herself either
not sure why they still together ? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:32:20 AM | God no my sister wont masterbate herself, she things its gross, I would always show her new sex toys and stuff I had and she would tell me how gross I was. Heck if I dont know how to get me off how is anyone else going to. I have told her that like a million times but she is just a prude.
She never gives him oral either, she tells him get this "its makes my teeth hurt" and he lets her use that. She does sometimes give him, the option for some and he stock piles them, the whole thing is freaking weird, they are both warped is what I am starting to realize. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:52:53 AM | | i would run away from her soo fast..it would only be cheating if he was having someone else other than hisgf/wife do the masturbating | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:55:59 AM | Wow, your sister is a complete and utter control freak nutso. (no offense to you)
I'm like, mad at her. And the guy too. Who does she think she is???
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:41:18 PM | | It's our Patriotic duty to masturbate. The White House has been jerking us off for 8 years now.... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:47:54 PM | lol skin thief.............thats too funny..................but some has a ring of truth to it   | |
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