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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:57:57 PM | | No Biggie, shes not the girl for u dude | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:59:35 PM | | um "no 1 bby" - he did more than merely state his preference..............he admittedly "snapped on her" and asked her 'what the hell was wrong with her' (for HER preference). I guess you missed that part. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:00:11 PM |
Being misunderstood on the forums is my pet peeve today, forgive me?
The OP said that it is his preference to have a gf that shaves regularly and the OP's ex obviously had other preferences. This was a huge turn off for him and holy! for him expressing that to her. I thought we all wanted communication in our relationships?
Good to see that they aren't together anymore because that's a mis-matched pair.
Wow, just wow. You misread my original post, by stating: "if she is your ex, then why are you bothered by her body hair?" when that isn't what i said. Then you go and throw out another stupid statement, by saying: "Good to see that they aren't together anymore because that's a mis-matched pair", you've come to that conclusion, solely cause i didn't like her not shaving her legs on a timely manner? Wow Dr. Phil, that's impressive.
But to top it off, you actually wrote "Being misunderstood on the forums is my pet peeve today, forgive me?"
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:04:15 PM | I feel that is much more hygienic when a girl shaves....and with the guys i am a fan of trimmin a little or whatnot down there!...A man should be a man and have hair in the places where hair should be!
Chest Hair on a man is always Awesome as well :) Gets me everytime!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:06:50 PM | So i guess where i'm going with this is, what is normal to you ladies and what do you guys think is acceptable?
Personally... when i am in a relationship, i am ALWAYS shaved. When im not in one,,the longest i can stand it is maybe 2 weeks and even then it starts bothering me. (ahem,,and thats my legs lol) | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:08:22 PM | dude,
one thing you need to learn
about ladiezz here,
see, if this were an issue coming from a woman about her
bf growing a beard, majority of responses would be ;
-eewww
-yucky!
-leave his ass
-shave his beard while in sleep
etc etc etc
but since it's about a woman, and coming from a guy....
its her preference and you have no business asking her to shave.
take it or leave it...
so I says don't bother.... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:08:29 PM | | Um... how much of your body do YOU shave every day???? I say tit for tat (or any other body part that might need a good grooming.... ) | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:09:36 PM |
um "no 1 bby" - he did more than merely state his preference..............he admittedly "snapped on her" and asked her 'what the hell was wrong with her' (for HER preference). I guess you missed that part.
I guess you missed the part where i said i talked about my issue with her and it went on for MONTHS. You've obviously blown that line way out of proportion. Like i went psycho on her or something.
Having someone who always kept trim, clean and hygienic completely ignore your requests to shave for months just because she didn't feel she had to anymore is pretty ridiculous, i don't care what any of you think.
It got to a understandable boiling point where when she wouldn't do it i ask "what the hell was wrong with you". I am such a**** It's amazing that i could be so insensitive. I'm the scum of the earth. I can't believe i tried to have a relationship that involved compromise.
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:10:28 PM |
One of my exes and i got in a heated debate the other day.
Is this not what you said Witty? It's the first sentence in your OP.
I never suggested you aren't together because of the hair issue. Never. I said, good thing you aren't together, since I feel you were mismatched.
PS I hate Dr Phil, I think he's a wack job.
PSS I feel bad for defending your right to have a preference and for pointing out that you made an effort to discuss it with her. I mean, if it turns you off, it's a problem in my book. Instead of jumping all over your ass like most every other chic here. LOL.
Whatever.
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:18:12 PM |
I guess you missed the part where i said i talked about my issue with her and it went on for MONTHS. You've obviously blown that line way out of proportion. Like i went psycho on her or something.
Uh, slugger - you're the one who admitted to having "snapped" on her. It doesn't sound all that mentally stable to me, to come unglued on your partner and basically tell them they're pretty f'd up because they don't "do" as you think they should.
Having someone who always kept trim, clean and hygienic completely ignore your requests to shave for months just because she didn't feel she had to anymore is pretty ridiculous, i don't care what any of you think.
Well apparently you DO care what I (and many other strangers here) think because look, here you are; seeking advice from strangers on an issue that's pretty moot now considering you're not longer with Ms Sasquatch - ya think?
It got to a understandable boiling point where when she wouldn't do it i ask "what the hell was wrong with you". I am such a**** It's amazing that i could be so insensitive. I'm the scum of the earth. I can't believe i tried to have a relationship that involved compromise.
Look, I'm all for shaving (as I personally shared further up) but this could be about anything; she didn't dress the way you thought was attractive/fitting, she didn't wear her hair the way you liked, you didn't like the way she kissed, etc. You're coming across as a controlling Neanderthal because she was upfront with you, by your own admittance, from the start -- that being hairy was her gig. So toots, that was your cue to make a decision; accept her for the way she was or hit the road. You chose to remain with the hopes that you could change her by humiliating her, comparing her your experiences (in the hair department) with past women you've been with and pretty much telling her she was a freak. I hope this is a lesson for you; in the future, if there's something that's a huge turn-off, cut your losses and find someone who's more compatible. To think that you can change someone's views to mirror your own is arrogant. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 1:23:53 PM | This is totally amusing to me (no offense meant OP)... I get that it's something that you value and the fact that she changed her routine over time that clearly went in the opposite direction could be frustrating. Yes it IS her body and she is the one to decide what to do with it ~ but if this was something she used to do then stopped doing ~ I think the issue cuts far deeper than a razor (pun intended? perhaps!). Obviously something more was going on for her and it's possible she used that avenue to try and get a point across... evidently, she wasn't too successful there.
The part that's amusing to me is that I've actually encountered a couple of guys that were quite adamant about the fact that they DISliked the nether regions being shaved. Each to their own I guess. We all have our preferences and while it's nice to consider those of our partners once inawhile, it's really about each person making their own decisions about their personal hygiene. Should it conflict with the preferences of a partner and become something that isn't a subject of compromise, then I guess that's the end of that! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:06:57 PM | Sorry, but I'm with the OP on this.
Sex and sexual attraction are an important part of a relationship. If anything that the other is doing or not doing is compromising the sexual appeal you feel for them, it needs to be discussed and a compromise needs to be reached.
I keep on saying, if this was a woman saying that her OS being sweaty and not showering was bothering her, she would get all the sympathy in the world. But a man asking why his woman couldn't do her part is grose.
I think this is feminists taking the so called woman's rights far off the line... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:21:41 PM | When you get a girlfriend with a bald coochie, tell her you'll spring for laser hair removal - problem solved! (yeeeouch!)
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:38:22 PM |
I reckon it's a case of free will....
People are individuals and shouldn't conform to society's influences......
I still reckon she did it....to piss him off....JMO
I totally agree with both of these points....also, "snapping" and asking a person "what the hell is wrong with her" just because she did not agree with you is not usually a great way to get the other person to see the error of her ways and bend to your will.
My ex and I used to sometimes get in these types of arguements. I used to call them the "you're not the boss of me" debates.....the downside of arguing about this particular topic is that extra-hot makeup sex seems to be out of the question, being as you are so turned off by her scary, hairy coochie. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:02:30 PM | am i the only one in here who read the post correctly?!!...
beachybunnie
I started to mention it to her and she kinda just brushed it off. For a few months she continued at the same pace. I started getting angry that she was brushing off my requests for her to shave more frequent and it was such a turn off that it started affecting our sex lives. After many polite failed attempts, i finally snapped and asked what the hell was wrong with her. She said it's totally normal and no woman shaves her legs that much. I said she's wrong and every woman (every woman i've ever been with anyway) keeps there body hair in check.
he said he discussed the situation with her the other day, yes, but the focus of him getting angry over itwas while they were still together...and so what if he got upset? you mean to tell me you've never reached a breaking point with a S.O.? don't bother answering that in the negative because you'd be lying! i understand how he feels. who really wants to floss while pleasing their significant other? or feel like they're having sex with a brillow pad? seriously, she did it before, so why go a month or more as the relationship progressed? also, it isn't as though she was a brunette and he demanded she dye her hair blonde. it's not that big of a deal if it means your sex life is going downhill because of it...geez people, it isn't as though he was asking her to have sex with another person while he watched!
i posted a while back about religion in a relationship. i broke up with a guy because i wouldn't attend church once in a while with his parents and nearly everyone in that forum told me that i should have compromised for his sake because relationships are all about compromise if it means making the other person happy...while this is different, why should people alter their beliefs and feelings for the sake of another but not continue to look after themselves the way they did in the beginning of a relationship? her keeping the tree trimmed isn't all that time consumming nor is it THAT big of a deal for her to allow it to affect their sex life and relationship. she did it earlier on in the relationship, she knew how he felt as the relationship went on and still refused. she was simply antagonizing him and being inconsiderate.
if he had put the situation into the contex of they had sex in the beginning and then she stopped putting out despite his best efforts or talking about different things to spice it up, people would say she was a tease or had some psychiatric problems with sex and that he should take her to counselling or break up. no one would say he was "controlling". good grief! everytime a man posts in the relationship forums people assume that he just MUST be controlling and abusive but never the women!! get a grip people! it's absolutely ludicrous that people think he's controlling because he discussed the issue of why their relationship went south after the fact...ex-couples do that all the time.
*sigh*i guess i'm an abusive, controlling partner too in a relationship as well if my guy tended to the garden and then 6 months down the road decided to let the weeds overtake it and it pissed me off despite the fact he knew how i felt and asked nicely for him to correct the problem.  | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:03:50 PM | I guess not many believe in compromise..
The op wasn't asking her to shave her kitty outright, nor was he asking her to shave her legs every single day... He had a preference that she practiced and then all of a sudden she stopped doing what she had always been doing?
Compromise is not being controlling... not wanting to compromise.. I believe is.
I know that when the guys come back from their remote fishing trips.. they all have a full beard. The first thing their wives say is... "get rid of that".. they don't like the facial hair cause that's not the way they like their SO's to look. Most of them keep if for another day... just to tease the wife.. then shave it off for the sake of harmony.
And... I agree that most of us wouldn't go on a first meet/date with full growth sprouting from our legs.. nor, whould any of the guys find it much of a turn on if we did. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:14:07 PM | | Sounds like you are looking for a little girl and not a grown woman. Little girls have no pubic hair. Grown women were meant to have hair in that region so why should we remove it? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:17:29 PM | | um excuse me, but all he was asking for was he to keep in check, not complete baldness. i get mine waxed and leave a little...i definitely do not look like a child honey! besides, there is nothing more disgusting then going to the beach or something and seeing pubes exploding from a swimsuit *shivers* that's just nasty! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:28:28 PM | OP....
Go back and read your last post....
Your attitude is really sarcastic and aggressive....you just want to fight.
Do you REALLY not understand that this has nothing to do with hygiene or preference....
To me, she was very clearly telling you to FO.
And like I said in my previous post, if you had respected her, and treated her properly, she would never have stopped shaving in the first place. She would have wanted to look her best for you, and done it gladly. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:33:21 PM | A trim is all well and good and necessary around bathing suit season , but no way on God's green earth am I going to rip out any amount of hair anywhere on my body, especially such a sensitive area.
Thanks but i prefer to look like a woman and not a girl. I fully confess to having lazy days and sometimes longer during the winter when no one can see my legs when i don't shave. I don't see what the big deal is. It's just hair. Unless a guy removes all his body hair on a regular basis all year round then i am not going to do it either. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:02:05 PM | | Are we talking here about legs or pubic area??????? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:08:44 PM | | Well, I just do it because it makes me feel sexier.. I like that. I can't stand chicken-hair on my legs or, anywhere else for that matter. [I'm thinking that] If op's girlfriend could stand herself being 'sasquachy' for that long, then she indeed preferred to maintain the look. Op... she just wasn't on the same hairy page as you are... Not much you can do about someone who refuses to compromise. Ya either accept it.. or you forsake it. Or; you figure out a way to seduce her into the merits of smooth-silky legs and a nicely quaffed uhm.. well... you get the picture. Question: Were her palms hairy too? :0) | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:11:34 PM | LOL so we're talking Don King in a leglock here??
Nasty.
Maybe you should have offered to keep it trimmed.
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:20:46 PM | OP, if it was that big a deal to you then you should have been honest with the woman and not told her that you do not like body hair but that it sickens you and you cannot tolerate it in a relationship. At that point she has the ability to shave or leave.
Some people as another poster mentioned, do not need to shave every day and most men I have encountered indicate that while the smooth legs are sexy, they have the most problem with the few days just after a shave when it is truly stubble. After it isn't skewering them, they could give a sh*t.
Some women have sensitive skin and cannot tolerate shaving that often. I don't know what her reasons were but if she felt you were trying to box her into a corner, you may have created a problem where none existed because of the way you approached it.
If you don't have the sense to tell people upfront that you are really only turned on by hairless creatures, then at least figure out that the best way to keep a gal that way is to pony up for waxing and to tell her when you are in the middle of bringing her to orgasm how much it turns you on that she is clean-shaven, duh. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:39:36 PM | OP, if it was that big a deal to you then you should have been honest with the woman and not told her that you do not like body hair but that it sickens you and you cannot tolerate it in a relationship. At that point she has the ability to shave or leave
OMFG!! has no one read the original post!?!?! he made it clear he didn't like it while they were together and she still wouldn't compromise!! she did it before and just stopped...that's being selfish. why is this guy getting trashed?!!
Thanks but i prefer to look like a woman and not a girl.
lol...if you think that trimming or removing hair in some spots while still leaving some in others, is looking like a "girl" and not a woman, you may have growth problems in other areas aside from down there and may want to seek the aid of a doctor for developmental assistance!
I don't see what the big deal is. It's just hair.
since you feel he shouldn't think it's that big of a deal because "it's just hair" then it shouldn't have been that big of a deal for her to keep in check either...especially since it wasn't an issue for her in the beginning! he didn't ask her to "remove it on a regular basis all year round" or "to rip out any amount of hair anywhere" she could have shaved from time to time. letting it go for over a month?!! he just asked that she keep it to a point where he wasn't flossing or screwing sandpaper; that's not an unreasonable request.
if his ex had posted that she found his pubes offensive and gross, all the women here would think he was a jerk for not being "sensitive to her needs", inconsiderate and disrespectful of her preference since he looked after it in the beginning and then stopped for no apparent reason, and would have suggested she demand he atleast trim!
geez these forums have such double standards! the general concensus from 95% of posts here is that he should have done all the compromising and she didn't have to do any. that's just retarded! | |
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