| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:36:17 PM |
Sweet is not what a man wants, he wants a woman who will get down and get dirty !
I would rather have a "sweet girl" than a lying 2 timing man hating angry high maintenance drama queen bit*ch bad girl from hell anytime of the day
It's not an either/or option. A girl can be both sweet and dirty!
There's no such thing as a 'good girl' or a 'bad girl'. A good girl is just a bad girl who hasn't been caught ;)
The 'bad girl' still wants love & a strong connection. The 'sweet girl' still wants a good seeing to. If a girl is sweet, she is not in any way 'less sexual'.
Madonna-whore complex anyone? | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:27:23 AM | I think it's more of a thing where they wanna soften the blow of "I'm not interested."
I can guarantee to you though that some guys like sweet girls or whatever that type is.
Being nice is a game killer for sure though, women I treat well can't get out fast enough, girls I lay some kind of rap on or blatantly check out, or just in general act like a total douche that thinks with his dink around, *those* are the ones that wanna hang out. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:13:20 AM | | "Nice guy" is code for "I'm not interested". "Sweet girl" is often code for "I'm here to get some and you're not putting out." Then there are those nice guys who are looking for a sweet girl. Sounds like a case of looking at the wrong guys. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:40:48 AM | | Men often do like girls who are sweet, but they also like women with a certain strong edge and who are willing to show a little wildness. At least, that's my opinion. I am no expert. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:41:49 AM | you look like a sweetgirl i think thats a good thing.but i nkow alot of sweet girls are something else in bed.those guys didnt want a sweet girl there fools because your face looks full of passion.you do nkow what your doing you have game.the first thing is stop dating little boys problaby with moose inthere hair and fake tans and start dating a real man and this stuuf will stop.you are a cuttie you shouldnt be having this problem bye. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:29:50 AM | | well OP now that you have gotten email from men that LOVe sweet girls, and you dont answer them., you have proof that sweet girls are NOT the same as "nice guys". The huge differenfe is sweet girls actually get email, and actually get responses | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:16:45 PM | OP... I used to believe that being known as a 'sweet girl' was a curse.
What changed my mind about that way of thinking was having 3 of my ex's make contact with me later down the road saying how horrible they feel for taking my sweet nature for granted. All 3 of them got themselves involved with chickies after me that had quite the opposite personality/characteristics of me... and that made them miss me.
Most said they loved the witty, sarcastic side to me and at the same time the nurturing loving side.
I think it all comes down to the individual. I think some of us actually have a little bit of both in us. The kind of girls who can be fun and wild but at the same time have that sweet, loving nature towards our men and those we care about. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:43:12 PM |
Sweetness and niceness are both good qualities, but not at the expense of sexuality
I'm with raphael adroit esquire on this one. How many nice guys have heard that the woman doesn't feel the chemistry or just wants to be friends? What puts you there? Probably the same thing that's put the OP in the sweet girl catagory. I think too many of the men she's dated didn't feel the chemistry or they felt like they were kissing their sister.
Of course its also probably a combination of her separation status and the fact that she's already looking for LTR . If she's just beginning to date, she's not likely to be settled any time soon because who wants to be in a rebound relationship? JMHO
HR | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:13:00 PM | I'm so sick of people acting like 18 year old frat boys with the way they look at women.
I love the term. It means someone is kind and likable. I think sweet girls are awesome and if someone uses it to blow people off, then its their loss. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:17:57 PM | | I agree Mark. Thse guys who dont want " Sweet girls" are then going to whine when they get chated on. just like the wopmen who arent smart enough to reject the "bad boys" types. Key word: BOY! | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:57:15 PM | | I want a girl who is sweet as a peach, in more ways than one. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:06:57 PM | There is nothing wrong with being sweet or nice in my opinion. Problem is if there is nothing else there but being nice/sweet.
I want someone who, in addition to being nice/sweet, is also interesting and intriguing... And, by interesting and intriguing I don't mean jerk... Being jerk is a turn off, for me at least... the whole "ignore or treat her like dirt" thing does not really work on me...am too old for that.
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:05:49 PM | Some great answers here..too bad guys don't like sweet gurls We rock. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:40:52 PM | I think being referred to as a sweet girl is just a nice way of saying you're not interested. For instance if a girl compliments me in person and I'm not into her (or I'm with someone else) I'll say something like aww that's really sweet or you're too sweet... and then stop talking to her.
Kinda like saying to a guy aww that's so nice - meaning "you're not gettin' any" | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:04:32 PM |
If I'm looking for a play partner I avoid sweet girls, because I know that's not what they are looking for. Even if they are interested in me I discourage them or keep it at just friends because I don't want them to get hurt.
They're sweet! Why start something I know I can't maintain at this time and risk her or me getting hurt?
When I tell them my intentions... nothing serious, just want to have fun, great sex, good friends.... because I'm apparently very bad at relationships and tired of being hurt/hurting others... if they're down with that, cool. But most of the time they say "You just haven't met the right girl... *batting eyelashes*" Then I know they are a truly sweet girl and avoid them like the plague.... a hurt waiting to happen.
So... Your sweetness implies commitment, love, respect, romance, happily ever after...
And they are looking for a nasty girl...
Hold your ground and wait for a guy that's ready to give you what you're looking for.
Wanna get married? | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:41:38 PM | It's not an either/or option. A girl can be both sweet and dirty!
There's no such thing as a 'good girl' or a 'bad girl'. A good girl is just a bad girl who hasn't been caught ;)
The 'bad girl' still wants love & a strong connection. The 'sweet girl' still wants a good seeing to. If a girl is sweet, she is not in any way 'less sexual'.
Madonna-whore complex anyone?
I'm starting a commune where this dichotomy is finally put to a rest, and conservative black and white is no longer a reality. (I actually laughed today when someone said "If Obama wins the presidency, Islam is going to take over the country." I'm sorry for those believe that, like I was sorry for my senile grandfather who thought commies lived in the backyard. What is it with that generation and doomsday? In my lifetime, we've always had threats of nukes, terrorism and the end of the world or whatever. Nothing special there. Yawn worthy actually.)
Men who perpetuate unwarranted slut stigma shall be drawn and quartered, and the women who do it, exiled. That is the law of my new nation.
I was thinking today, about BDSM. I'm not into it, never have been. I really don't "get it", but for those who do, enjoy. I realized that I often went after girls who like it. Why? They are the only ones expressing their sexuality.
I'd think, she's into kink? Finally, someone who's not afraid! But I had a theory about 2 things. One, they often wanted the benefits of that lifestyle, but without the sex, that's a secondary factor. ZZZZzzzzz
Or, they're USING it as an outlet to express their sexuality, without seeming like a "slut" (aka, a woman who enjoys herself during sex. You dirty things, you know who you are.) The theory that I'm pulling out of my ass is, it's better to be kinky than slutty. Because if you're slutty, you're a "bad girl", and there's never ever ever any hope for you.
Some get it. Some aren't shy about it. But it's rare.
Who ever introduced that into society and continues to perpetuate it, **** you.
In order of what I'd like to see:
Sweet and naughty
Sweet and "pure" (whatever that is.)
Bichy....well, they're only good for one thing, and I guess that's where the BDSM ball-gag comes into play. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:49:42 PM | The thing that actually sucks with sweet girls is there are hard as hell to disengage from. There comes a point where you almost have to get out of the relationship while the gettin is good, or the shear force of sweetness will trap you after the relationship breaks down.
I love sweet girls. But, it is tough to get too deeply involved with them, because they will put you on the spot for breaking their hearts. And it won't be fun like when you have a flakey **** who flips out -- cause then you feel totally vindicated. You just come away feeling six inches high by the time you're done breaking it off with a sweet girl.
I'd also add, are you sweet, or are you like borderline retarded sweet? Some girls are so damned sweet you just want to slap the teddy bear out of their hands and tell them that life isn't always nice. That and some variant of "Take off those PJs -- you're an adult now!"
The super sweet girl can get to be painful to deal with, because some of them are outright unrealistic or even immature. | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:32:50 PM | O.P. I have the same problem and I guess I'm guilty of just fading away myself.
Usually I fade away for two reasons:
1: lack of overall attraction - sometimes you just don't hit it off, it's not that you don't like the person it's just that there's no 'zing' there.
2:The woman doesn't seem interested/excited. A lot of women like to play games, and while games can be fun and exciting they eventually get old. I have a lot on my plate and I don't feel like chasing down a woman unless there is MAGIC there, you know the kind where just being around each other is intoxicating.
Anyway I wouldn't worry to much about it, just make sure you express genuine interest in the guy if you like him - don't come off as clingy but make sure the guy knows you're interested.
John | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:44:50 AM | | in other words, "you are sweet but just not for me though. but you ARE sweet for someone else." | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:54:05 PM | Man I must be broken or something 'cause I find the "sweet" girls very hot. The eyes/smile combo is the first thing I notice about a woman...well, unless she's a size DD in a bikini and bouncing on a trampoline or something...but come on -- that's hardwired in every male.
Okay I kind of went off on a tangent there, but my point is if I see an attractive woman with a wonderful smile and kind, caring eyes, and she's with her gorgeous-but-aloof supermodel girlfriend, I'm gonna pick the cute sweetie every time. Not because I think I don't have a chance with the model (hope springs eternal, right?), but because I find sweetness much sexier than snobby. So don't be too hard on yourself, OP. Some of us are totally into the sweet thing.
The "nice guy" label, on the other hand, is always the kiss of death.  | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:30:36 PM | Bullshit, Sweet girls are rare & a gem  . Sweet can be super sexy  . Paris Hilton train-recks are so unattractive in my book | |
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| Sweet girl?
Posted: 6/21/2008 11:58:45 AM | Wow, this whole thread was really interesting. I'm in the same boat NCgirl and have had the same thing happen with guys fading away. I know someone also said that sweet isn't a bad thing because their ex's came back years later saying they missed them. I would have to agree that it's not a bad thing either. Although I've had guys fade away, I've also had a couple that deliberately have come back and said they're still interested when all we did was talk. Personally I like to think of it in these terms.
Sweet girls attract all kinds of guys but guys in general know there's a good chance they can end up with us in the long run and a lot of them aren't ready for that kind of commitment. (That's also why a lot of times we end up as back burner girls). I just keep telling myself that when the timing is right I'll run into a guy that really is ready for a long term relationship and isn't scared of it actually happening.
I wouldn't worry about it or change anything. When the time is right you'll find someone who appreciates it! | |
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