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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:00:34 PM | Msg 178
Someone has been watching a little too much sex and the city men don't love bitches atleast not any men I know. Why men love bitches? LOL sounds like more femnazi propoganda. This "playing hard to get" nonsense is just a power play a lot of women use to get a nice ego boost. Any guy with half a brain and a low tolerance for bullshit ia not going to waste his time with these head games.
why men love bitches..lol more like "how to f*ck men over and irritate them. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:02:00 PM | Why can't you hang a picture? How hard is it to hammer a nail?
I've never asked anyone I've dated to help with home maintenance of any kind. I always felt that if he could do it, then so could I! | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:09:09 PM | | Holy crap, lady....how about learning to fix this stuff yourself and stop depending on "dates" TO FIX IT FOR YOU????? It's like expecting your plumber to take payment out in trade!!!!! Get a clue, sweety....in this day and age, a woman needs to know how to take care of business....in every way possible! | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:00:29 PM | I have no idea what I am doing when it comes to fixing things, but when there is something that needs to be fixed I fix it! I've really become quite knowledgable about handyman stuff, despite never learning it. When something breaks I figure out how to fix it and I do fix it :-)
Its lame when things don't fix it. To me it just seems lazy when a guy won't fix it or at least call someone who can fix it. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:08:54 PM | schmart, self sufficient, capable women....
particularly ones that can speak the guy languages...
gotta love those women !
(especially if she's holding the nail gun ...)
but to most guys, doing these kinda things is so second nature....i really enjoy pitching in. Will offer...have done little things unnoticed (you know, broken spigot handle, loose screw, sticky door lock, burned light switch), and have also been told to not.
Thats all fine...but when they do notice you care enough... to do these small favors without quid pro quo expectation or fanfare... the appreciation is, well, lets just say good for the relationship! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 8:41:19 PM | The whole thing with this thread and one's like it, if people would just not sweat the small things in this world. We all put wayyyyyyyyyy tom much emphasis on things that don't really matter in the big picture.
I guess I may be toooooo easy going. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:06:46 PM | Even if you were married, you can't really claim that a guy just naturally has to be the "fix it" type of person. Not all can do that. Some that try to help actually make it worse than when the problem started. Some good Do It Yourself books and a few tools and you can take care of most things yourself. I think expecting your dates to fix things for you will cause many to run.
What I do with my other female friends is we trade favors. I'm their computer repair person, mover, and haul stuff with my truck. Another one of our group covers fashion, makeup, and massage. The other one can do nearly anything with a house....lay tile, put in cabinets, rebuild a wall, etc. Another in the group of friends is a veterinarian. We trade favors back and forth and between us, a lot of our stuff is covered without having to bug anyone else. :-)
I have one male friend who I bribe with homemade beer and pizza to change lightbulbs that I can't reach, even with my small ladder.
My boyfriend has done a few things for me, and I try to pay him back by cleaning and I'll be hauling some stuff out of his yard with my truck. (A truck is a great thing for trading favors with.)
I think OP if you had a skill you could trade with the guys that maybe you'd find more guys willing to fix things? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 11:01:19 PM | Personally speaking, dont expect a guy to be over at your house, retiling your bathroom, until you've committed to a serious relationship and been together for a long time. There are other ways of saving money on repairs. Get some friends.
And with the progression of "white-collar" work, you're less likely to find guys to do that.
I was foreign born and raised, so the situation that I came from is different. Many times, the appropriate expert (electrician, plumber, woodworker) were just impossible to find. The ones that did know the craft, were taught by their fathers. You either got it or you didn't. Not until recently did they finally start sending people to vocational/technical schools.
So naturally speaking, my father did things like that, and passed on the same traits to me. I learned electrical work, I learned handywork, I learned to "program" the vcr, haha. and In return, when I got older, I taught him to work on cars, and computers, through my own experiences. Having lived in America though, I have learned that these traits are very rare. I have learned that the general frame of mind here is that it is too "expensive" to repair something, and much cheaper to buy a replacement. Yeah, thats as ass-backwards as things get.
I remember the look I got at my graduation when I returned to the parking lot to find my mother's car tire flat, and I immediately took my tie/cap/gown off to pull the tire iron and spare out and got to work. People looked at me like I was crazy and "insisted" that I call triple A, some even offered to do it for me (haha), only to find out that the nearest tow truck would take 1.5 hours to get there. Hilarious. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 5:12:21 AM |
Having lived in America though, I have learned that these traits are very rare. I have learned that the general frame of mind here is that it is too "expensive" to repair something, and much cheaper to buy a replacement. Yeah, thats as ass-backwards as things get.
I used to grab dead 14" monitors off our "junk" pile at the old job, fix them up and give them to people, as well as older computers ("old" P133's, when we were getting 350's at work). Usually took me maybe an hour to fix a monitor (I ordered parts for the common ones we bought, $5 transistor maybe). I gave them away free to friends after fixing them up - was more just I hated seeing easily fixable things go to some landfill or recycling facility when I knew people who would love to have a basic computer setup to "get online".
... then again, I grew up with a grandfather who was a TV repairman, and a dad who would try first to fix something rather than replace it. Every TV we had when I was a kid (old tube sets back then) was one that someone brought to my grandfather to repair, and then balked at paying to fix it (more for the labor than the parts). The first TV I got when I left home was a used 19" a guy at work (he was moving) sold me for $100 - I gave that to a friend eventually - it died in a lightning storm, she took it to a repair shop where the guy deemed it "unfixable" and sold her another used one for $150 - I told her to get it back, it was *obvious* he'd never even opened it (undisturbed dust), I cleaned it out, and fixed it in under 30 minutes (blown 12v zener diode I ran to Radio Shack for, and a popped capacitor that I had one of already) - maybe $5 in parts at best.
The ignition coil on my oil furnace died (just a big transformer, 2 wires), I had the service guy come in to fix it - $150... the next time (8 years later) it happened I drove into town and bought one at my local heating/plumbing place ($70), fixed it myself (two wires on screw terminals - 5 minutes) - and ordered one (cheaper, $40) online thats sitting on the shelf, in case it ever happens again. Pressure switch (on/off for the pump) for my well system went, replaced it myself and have a spare on the shelf, it was $40 and 10 minutes with a wrench to replace (and a bucket  ).
The flat tire story I found humorous, especially the reactions of people.
I agree though, its probably a lot about what you 'grew up with'. I grew up around electronics, reading schematics, theory, etc - so I can just look at a circuit and have a good idea of how it works w/o even having a schematic. Then again, put me in front of a car, unless it changing tires, spark plugs, brakes, oil, air filter, etc - it goes to the shop - I've done wheel bearings and the like, but its easier to take it in when I can afford it. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:49:02 AM | "Ex. answering machines, most men would toss it rather than tinker with it,"
DVD Players, computers lots of stuff with the way things are built these days it costs more to repair something then to just a buy a new one you're better off just tossing it.
A lot of that stuff takes a specialized skill set to fix. Fixing an answering machine or DVD player can be easy as hitting the right buttons in the right order or as intricate as soldering things. Most of the time it actually ends up less expensive to fix things yourself, but we live in an economy that values shiny-new things.
I got real dependent on my ex husband because he was such a great fixer around the house,
So how did you deal with things before and after you were married and not seeing anyone else?
Call it "old school" if you want, but I *love* a man who wants to fix all the broken things around my place to help make me more comfortable.
I think that's something you might be able to expect from someone who you're in a LTR with or is living with you, but not someone you've dated for a short period of time.
I like the do-it-yourself-ethic. I find it fun and even relaxing. I just make sure I have a well-stocked first-aid kit and a fire extinguisher nearby. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:44:04 AM | | So much for equality. It's 2008, I would think a woman would be able to hang a picture or hammer a nail sometimes. Sounds like pure laziness to me...or are women saying that they are too dumb to read up on how to do simple repairs? Not me saying it but that's the only conclusion that can be drawn from some of these posts. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 10:00:40 AM |
.or are women saying that they are too dumb to read up on how to do simple repairs? There's ONE woman (singular) saying she needs repairs done and then you feel the need to suggest that women (plural) are dumb? I don't see anyone here outside of the OP saying guys should be fixing stuff for us. Almost all are saying that women can do this themselves. Thanks for turning it into a gender bash! | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:59:46 PM | You hit the nail on the head luv, they want sex not to fix your house !
Sex is just so much fun and fixing the house isnt.
Maybe you need to get them to fix the house and make a payment in kind ?
Giving out sex free is a big attraction to men.
If they have to pay for it they think twice then still have the sex ! | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 1:56:22 PM | Vaxplant, sometimes you can do all of those things like I did. I was in a relationship with a guy for 3yrs and periodically I asked him to fix things. Specifically anything electrical. (he had his own air and heating company)I am quite handy and have managed to do all other repairs. I cooked for him when he came over, kept an extremely clean house and was content whether we had intimate relations or not. Let him know I needed and wanted him in my life(in a healthy way)I finally gave up asking and eventually we broke up, but he did finally tell me the reason he did not fix anything in my house(I owned it prior to the relationship)was because he was not going to put any time or energy in a house that was not his and some other man would eventually being sitting there and enjoying it.
Some people man or woman are just lazy in relationships . In each relationship there is a giver and a taker. I know which one I had regardless of his sorry a** reasons. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:16:07 PM |
I know which one I had regardless of his sorry a** reasons.
That's actually not a horrible reason, also no one wants to work all week then go somewhere on his/her downtime and do it all over again. You'd think that he would have at least helped you out once in awhile though. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 3:37:37 PM |
I used to grab dead 14" monitors off our "junk" pile at the old job, fix them up and give them to people, as well as older computers ("old" P133's, when we were getting 350's at work). Usually took me maybe an hour to fix a monitor (I ordered parts for the common ones we bought, $5 transistor maybe). I gave them away free to friends after fixing them up - was more just I hated seeing easily fixable things go to some landfill or recycling facility when I knew people who would love to have a basic computer setup to "get online".
... then again, I grew up with a grandfather who was a TV repairman, and a dad who would try first to fix something rather than replace it. Every TV we had when I was a kid (old tube sets back then) was one that someone brought to my grandfather to repair, and then balked at paying to fix it (more for the labor than the parts). The first TV I got when I left home was a used 19" a guy at work (he was moving) sold me for $100 - I gave that to a friend eventually - it died in a lightning storm, she took it to a repair shop where the guy deemed it "unfixable" and sold her another used one for $150 - I told her to get it back, it was *obvious* he'd never even opened it (undisturbed dust), I cleaned it out, and fixed it in under 30 minutes (blown 12v zener diode I ran to Radio Shack for, and a popped capacitor that I had one of already) - maybe $5 in parts at best.
The ignition coil on my oil furnace died (just a big transformer, 2 wires), I had the service guy come in to fix it - $150... the next time (8 years later) it happened I drove into town and bought one at my local heating/plumbing place ($70), fixed it myself (two wires on screw terminals - 5 minutes) - and ordered one (cheaper, $40) online thats sitting on the shelf, in case it ever happens again. Pressure switch (on/off for the pump) for my well system went, replaced it myself and have a spare on the shelf, it was $40 and 10 minutes with a wrench to replace (and a bucket ).
The flat tire story I found humorous, especially the reactions of people.
I agree though, its probably a lot about what you 'grew up with'. I grew up around electronics, reading schematics, theory, etc - so I can just look at a circuit and have a good idea of how it works w/o even having a schematic. Then again, put me in front of a car, unless it changing tires, spark plugs, brakes, oil, air filter, etc - it goes to the shop - I've done wheel bearings and the like, but its easier to take it in when I can afford it.
Yeah man. Shit aint the way it used to be. Some things are easier to fix now, some are harder. I relate with the computer repair story, I volunteer with a small business in which we take donations, I fix them up, and then we redonate them to small schools, organizations, etc, places that need computers and cant afford them.
It does have a lot to do with how you grew up though. That affects every aspect of your life. As far as car work goes though, from what I figure, if its simple enough, then I might as well do it. If we're talking rebuilding the engine or whatever, then I could do it, but I just compare the amount of TIME it would cost me, versus the amount it would cost to take it to the shop. I can personally do any of the work I've needed to do on my car, its just the amount of time it takes away from me that I could be applying to something more important thats the real cost :-D. | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:00:14 PM | OP,
Don't feel bad(first of all, your thread lasted herds longer than most) everybody has their own unique talents. What I want to know, is if I hang a few pictures, fix the closet doors,stop the toilet from running, and replace the bad tiles in the kitchen floor, will you still respect me in the morning? | |
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| Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:48:16 PM |
This really is offensive. It's like finding the perfect women, but dumping her because she refuses to stay home and cook or clean all day. Seriously pathetic topic.
if she cannot cook or clean, than how could she possibly be the perfect woman? | |
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