| IS HE "MR. RIGHT"... OR "MR. WRONG"?
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:23:14 AM | IS HE (SHE)"MR. (MS.)RIGHT"... OR "MR(MS) WRONG"?
* What am I getting out of this relationship?
* How is this bringing joy to my life?
* How am I growing and becoming a better person
as a result of this relationship?
* Do I feel safe? Respected? Loved?
* Do we share attraction and chemistry?
* Are my needs being met (emotional, physical,
mental, spiritual)?
* Is he faithful?
* Do I feel happy and fulfilled more than I feel
unhappy or frustrated?
* Does this relationship allow me to be true to
myself... my values, beliefs, spirit, etc?
* Do we have similar life goals and dreams?
* If my best friend were in this relationship, what
would I tell HER to do?
* If this relationship were to end, would I truly be sad
about losing him, or sad that he's not the person I
wanted him to be? | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:30:35 AM | I think it's good to evaluate your relationship time to time, and make sure that the 2 of you are happy.  | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:22:49 AM | To not ask yourself such questions in a serious relationship would be indicative of a problem to me, rune...
And I can happily say that having found my "Mr Right for me", those answers are all of a positive nature with my guy... he is ALL that to me & then some... yummy, yummy man...
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:47:22 AM | | Lol, you have to sit and go through a list of questions in order to determine if you are really happy? I guess I never thought of that possibility. I still think that you'd only turn to such a list if there were doubts in your mind. | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:00:51 AM | | If questions 5, 7 & 12 can't be answered positively then you're in the wrong relationship and it's time to move on. | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:24:20 AM | Hi there I had to go through my list of questions to determine if I was really happy with the man I was with, In the begining he did every thing right, but that only last so long, come to fine out he was a sheep in wolf clothing. So what is a person to do? I'm not giving up I know there is some one out there for me. My grandmother always said where there a bot there lid to fit it.  | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:55:31 AM | It's about whether the man works for their ideal relationship, and not about relating with the man. Men are cast as players in female dramas about LOVE. To a woman, the RELATIONSHIP is their own personal Chick Flick. As the man you are reduced to whether you were the RIGHT CHOICE and how you MAKE THEM FEEL. If you ever want to understand this stuff, rent a couple of chick flicks and actually watch them.
Plot characters and elements:
The Love Starved Woman
The Man who wants her This Way
The Man who wants her That Way
The Emotional Crisis
The Wonderful Kiss that lets her know he is Mr Right
The Choice
The Swollen Music Climax (Emotional Fulfillment)
The End | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:05:03 AM | | Thank you Mr Internet. I can't wait to see the sequel of Iron Man where Christie Brinkley gets naked during the attack. | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:57:45 AM | | I also noticed the word "we" was only used twice, seriously outnumbered by the use of "I" and "my".....more than a tad selfish methinks. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 8:39:22 PM | You may re -arrange the questions if you want... no problem. I didn't make up these questions.. I just read them from a Relationship Author and thought they were interesting. Maybe, if I were to write it, I'd add a little more to the title... such as:
"IS HE MR.RIGHT'. OR 'MR.RIGHT NOW', OR MR.WRONG'???? Then of course I'd add some more questions... | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:56:44 AM | And no one said a "checklist" was a requirement in determining happiness - I am a very happy person with or without another. But when considering if you want to spend the remainder of your life with another, one should give it serious consideration in many aspects...
I understood that to be the gist of this thread not "he/she loves me, he/she loves me not"... whatever...
cata | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:03:07 PM | SuperLizard it might interest you to know, the primary motivation for both woman AND men falling in love with another person, is how (good) that person makes them feel about themselves...
In other words, you may think it sucks, but you are no different from the women in this regard.
Think about all your best, true love relationships you had in the past, and the one you are in now, if applicable. I'll bet that one of the common denominators was how your romantic partner made you feel (about yourself). | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:19:02 PM | | If your primary motivation is how good someone else makes you feel about yourself, the relationship is doomed. | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:26:16 PM | Holy crap!
Does all that go through your mind to "evaluate" every single relationship? That would drive me nuts! Talk about a waste of emotional and mental energy that you could be applying to more fruitful activities like maybe just maybe doing things YOURSELF to make YOURSELF happy first instead of relying on a relationships to do so?
If you got these from a book, burn the book only after finding the author and beating them over the head with it! 
It assumes a woman has absolutely no personal boundary nor do they have very much self awareness and self esteem. It also assumes they are powerless to their own lives and assumes giving power of personal choice is a norm. Do any of these things sound like good things to bring into any relationship? | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:34:23 PM | | i didnt write it, nor does this stuff go through my mind... Actually, I think it is self-centered. When I am in a relationship.. I focus on the other person and like to serve them and bring happiness to our relationship. It is give and take.. | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG? part two
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:31:37 PM | The book has valid points...Ok..Big deal...So do, Dr.Seuss books...What is your point?...What do you think your search will reveal?...
People are so busy analyzing and dissecting the opposite sex, "No wonder things are so messed up"...A person can hardly breathe around the nit picking opposite sex at times..
Be human and real...All this, "What if he looks at me this way", What if hes says this, What if he is late"?..Enough already...Quick lookin so hard...Does a person have to follow a checklist?...Self help books are a dime a dozen...
Nothing wrong with reading and learning but cmon... | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG? part two
Posted: 5/22/2008 12:14:36 AM | it was just a list. i didn't write it. I just wanted to open the board up and find out what people think. Actually, I think gregs book is too negative and you can't stereotype everyone into one person. So, thanks for replying.  | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:20:52 AM | | so if i answer all those questions positivly... does that mean he is Mr right?! probably not... if thats the case, all my exes were Mr right at some point! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:21:42 PM | hey racer.. you said:
Be human and real...
do you think people on this site are being human and real?? | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:35:09 PM | racer is human and real.......... but only in his own mind
AND MINE.....................................
But alas......he's neither MR. RIGHT OR MR. WRONG............He's not even Mr right now.............................
and hes shy lol | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:58:18 PM | I guess I should take a flacking for saying "human and real"...I didnt think it would take a brain surgeon to figure out the expression, "thats all"
galonthemt..."Your still on the top of the mountain"...
I dont know about Mr. Wrong or Mr Right..I can be both easily...
Human vs. Horses Arses | |
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| IS HE MR. RIGHT... OR MR. WRONG?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:09:25 PM | I think there is nothing wrong with evaluating your relationship periodically because it is easy to get caught up and not pay enough attention to it but the list provided by whatever book the OP was looking at seems way melodramatic for a general evaluation regarding whether there are some areas that you might need to pay a bit more attention to.
The list also sounds like someone incredibly needy wrote it. I have many relationships and while I am closest to an SO, so many other people in my life fill various roles, needs or wants. I tend to agree with Rune to some extent, if you feel the need to ask these questions, things are probably not going so well. | |
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