| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:00:57 AM | | Is this a site for married men looking for sex? Where are the single men posting? I am not one to gripe, usually, but I am discouraged by the number of married men who are on this site. I have recently re-located and would like to find a mature mate who is not married. I find it a bit discouraging to do a search and find predominantly married men meeting my criteria. Any advise guys and girls, and please, be kind. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:56:32 AM | Every site on the internet has a large proportion of married people looking. This is not just men, but a lot of women also. I always find it interesting that women who are adamantly opposed to men who are "cheating" often are sympathetic to women who "are in a sexless marriage" and "have needs too".
Just ignore those you aren't interested in. At least if you know they're married it's easier to avoid them than the ones who are lying about their status. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:08:25 AM | Yep.....I hid my profile because I was tired of married women writing who were looking for 'friendship' & 'conversation'. Unfailingly, the conversation was quickly turned toward 'romance & passion' (how they weren't getting any) & the friendship offered was the type to include 'benefits'.
No, thank you very much.  | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:06:25 AM | find predominantly married men meeting my criteria.
Change your criteria then, and block married men.
I have married men blocked, so they can't message me. Those that lie about being married, give themselves away soon enough with "no weekends"," no holidays", "can't call me at home".... etc etc
I haven't found married men on the site a problem to me, and I applaud the honesty of those who are upfront about it, even if I don't like their seeking benefits outside their marriages. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:39:33 AM | newoldgirl, you haven't been here long, so don't get discouraged. As the previous poster said, blocked the married men. But, I have to say, I have corresponded with a couple of married men on this site, and have made a couple of friends. I was not looking to date them, but more curious as to why they would be here in the first place. (It really isn't always just for sex, although that is the predominant reason.) While I'm not a counselor of any sort, I am quite interested in what makes people tick. Sometimes they are looking for someone to talk to, and they don't want to "get too close". I met one man for dinner about once a month for about a year, as his wife was lost to him because of her dimentia and physical needs. He was as devoted to her as they come, caring for her day in and day out, but just enjoyed having a woman to talk to once in awhile. Keep in mind that you are new and you will attract a lot of attention at first, and a lot of it is from the shallow end of the pond.  | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:42:38 PM | OP said she found the married men doing a search, not by them contacting her. She does have the block on.
Search for the 19-year-olds....surely THEY are not married! | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:09:54 AM | | i too applaud honesty, but wonder if these guys are as upfront with their spouses, rather an oxymoron, don't you think? | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:35:15 AM | ^^Well then Sammy? Let the married men get it from their wives!!! If I recall, that is the way it was meant to be? Then again, what do I know? | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:52:13 AM | | Married women often do not have sex with their husbands. They never feel like it because the man fails to do laundry without having to be asked. These married men are looking for women who have sex anyway, whose laundry is strewn all over the basement floor and they just don't care. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:04:24 AM |
Married women often do not have sex with their husbands. They never feel like it because the man fails to do laundry without having to be asked. These married men are looking for women who have sex anyway, whose laundry is strewn all over the basement floor and they just don't care.
After years of not having sex with the ex wife, she explained how I ever wanted sex again, I had to... and proceeded with a list of things for me to do. When she was finished she wanted to know why I was laughing. I said she still thought sex was never a motivator and I had already resigned that she didn't like sex anyway. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:17:18 AM |
Is this a site for married men looking for sex?
Does this mean i have to get married AGAIN before i find can find sex here ????????
I thought this was a "Free " site ! | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:21:04 AM | There is rarely much sex in marriages of any duration, and in fact it is a know result of research into the sexual behaviour of humans and many other social animals that the frequency of sexual intercourse declines with the perceived security of the relationship. If you want an active sex life, arrange to generate perceived threats to the stability of the relationship. Traditional approaches involve taking on an extra-marital partner, engaging in swinging, taking frequent trips away from the family nest, and simply making statements that lead the other to think that the relationship may end in the near future.
Its rather amazing, but quite well documented and a common experience to most of us in this age group, I would suspect.
Formal marriage has little to do with sex. It is an invention of government that was adopted only recently in human history (a few hundred years) for the purpose of social control and the management of physical assets, like property and inheritance, and for certain legal purposes like the funding of child rearing. Its just a social convention that sex in marriage is acceptable. A one time, sex outside of marriage was not acceptable, and in some places it still can result in death, but in recent times the stigma has fallen by the wayside in the West.
So, why are the married people looking for sex here? They just don't get enough at home, and that is a natural consequence of the fact that they love their partners and are loyal and responsible towards their families.
Crazy, eh? | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:26:03 AM | Well I am pretty much sure the "marriage" card will not re-appear in my future anytime soon.
However, Mr. R? Does what you just said apply to "livin in sin" too? Gawd..if that is true..... | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:30:19 AM |
There is rarely much sex in marriages of any duration, and in fact it is a know result of research into the sexual behaviour of humans and many other social animals that the frequency of sexual intercourse declines with the perceived security of the relationship.
Sounds like this 'research' was done by a bunch of married men looking for women around a bar in a pickup joint. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:51:27 AM |
Does what you just said apply to "livin in sin" too?
Indeed it does. One of the more interesting studies related to this phenomenon was done with chimpanzees. By means I shudder to even think of, the volume of male ejaculate expended in liaisons between mated pairs was measured and plotted against a number of factors such as the length of time elapsed since the male last saw the female. Turns out that the volume increases in proportion to the length of time the female was out of sight. Similarly for the number of contacts the female has with other males and other behavioural dimensions, like who she grooms with.
In human populations, common wisdom such as "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" are reflections of the same biological reaction. Paradoxically, couples trying to get pregnant will typically try to enhance the frequency of copulation to better their chances of conception, whereas, science tells us that a more effective approach would be for one of the pair to depart for a week on the beach and not call home or show any other sign of interest in the other partner. On return, an invigorated reunion is much more likely to be effective in achieving the goal of conception than would be the case of, say, a rigorous regime of hot lunches. | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 11:36:08 AM | Single men looking for sex exist toooooooo........thank god......  Just a matter of availability, timing, and being with the right one.....
OT........I have been with women claiming to be single but married as well, and those that are separated but not even close to being truly single.
All of this is just a part of the dating world when single, and sifting through all the garbage you must, in order to find a few of the right people to share with.....
Just my opinion........   | |
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| The 'L ' word
Posted: 5/22/2008 12:13:50 PM | | BLUENFREE, you need to read 'Even cowgirls get the Blues" | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:14:35 PM | Its the married men who spoil things for us single men.
Its bad enough competing with otehr single men never mind the good looking married ones ! | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:15:32 PM | ^^Well then Sammy? Let the married men get it from their wives!!!
Didn't you read Msg #2? The wives are in sexless marriages!! | |
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:31:18 PM | Mr. Wack? My thought would be that is not my problem darlin! I am single and most definately over the age of 21!!!!
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| married men looking for sex
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:48:54 PM |
So, why are the married people looking for sex here? They just don't get enough at home, and that is a natural consequence of the fact that they love their partners and are loyal and responsible towards their families.
I don't for a minute believe that to be true. There are people, no matter how much sex they get at home, are out for the adventure of it. They want something different, and instead of looking within the marriage and spice things up a bit, they would rather not admit it possibly could be something they are doing wrong. It is much easier to say they aren't getting enough sex, and look other places for it, than work on the relationship.
If they love their partners and are loyal and responsible toward their families, they would figure something else out, other than coming to a dating site, looking for sex. To me that is being rather selfish. JMO | |
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