| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:31:49 AM | Hey, my question is - If u started speaking to an ex, wud u considered trying again with them?
Ok well the story goes like this lol, I went out with a guy when i was like 15 but it never got serious n I dont even know why we split, i finished with him back then and we have started talking again thru pof. He is a nice guy n speaking to him has brought alot of good memories back n like i say i dont know why we split but i do know we stayed friends n there was never any bad feelings between us, we just lost contact.
Wot do u think, if given the chance can second time round work? | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:44:40 AM |
if given the chance can second time round work
As long as you parted on good terms (obviously since you're both willing to talk to the other). You also should consider that neither of you are talking to/seeing the same person you were 10 years ago. Be sure to go into it with your eyes and minds open to the who you are now, not who you were as teenagers.
Give it a shot.. never know till ya try.
Good luck,
Krys | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:30:25 AM | Thanks i guess I just wanted to see what other people thought, as I have never ended up back at square one with a guy. Through talking on here and through text, I have realised that we arent the same people we were back then, for one we dont want to play games. Right now we are goin to see what happens if anything but i guess the blast from the past made me remember we had fun together lol.
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:06:30 PM | although i agree that as long as you left on good terms that trying again wouldnt hurt. but even if it wasnt "exactly" good terms,you've both obviously had time to reflect,forgive,and move on. just dont get caught up in something just because it SEEMS comfortable. my ex and i tried that and it lasted all of three weeks before the same old sh!t started between us.
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 12:19:43 PM | I have a saying on this... It didn't work 1st time, it ain't gonna work again... And you should never go back.. although a few times I have , I wish I'd listened to my own advice  | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:08:11 PM |
It didn't work 1st time, it ain't gonna work again...
I think in any case, they aren't the same as they were when they were 15...they've had some life experience, and hopefully their perspective is different to when they were younger. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:24:04 PM | | Let him take the reins and put your mind other things. A real man knows when to take the reins, just like they know to call you, to tell you how pretty you are, and to bring your favorite flowers after they've royally screwed up. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:41:37 PM | | Do not dwell on the past but use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment forward you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:44:15 PM | First of all you should learn how to spell
Its SHOULD NOT SHUD toodles | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:54:27 PM | What does spelling matter, you obviously knew what she meant.
I find that comment to be just plain catty....
As for should you go back, I have a personal policy that the past is the past...
But you said you were young at the time and you parted as friends.
If you find yourself attracted to the ppl you have become now then go for it.
Hope it works out for you both, and if not at least you tried and you will never have to wonder what if??? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 2:09:22 PM | Shug, I'd say good luck and have fun... The two of you were 15 for pete sake, as though either of you had a major clue on this whole dating thing, and how to make things last a life time... Hell at that age dating lasted 15 minutes, and there could be weeks of saddness for just those 15 minutes of dating bliss...
You two are adults, and have grown past the high school games, so this isn't like some traumatic adult drama that ended poorly because on person actually cheated on the other, or there was abuse, drugs and addictions of a serious nature...
Take a slow ride, and who knows maybe he is the man of your dreams... If not at least it was a sweet try, and experience was gained...
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:09:40 PM | I tried it, and it didnt work for me, infact it made me despise him even more!
My ex had a bad accident last october and it made him disabled. He was in hospital for like 3 months and my kids were devastated!
They begged me to let him stay with us when he got home from hospital, and because i live in a house with a downstairs bathroom, i agreed, purely because i felt sorry for him!
I agreed to let him stay in my sons room with them, and it wasnt long before before we started to talk about rekindling things between us.
I have been independent over 2 yrs now and the thought of us being an item again repulsed me! I told him i could never go back to what we had, because i left him for a reason, and i had moved on. His response to that was, every time i walked out the door, i was called the same names i was called during our relationship, he tried to demoralise me infront of our children, and even tried to put me down in front of my friends, things he did when we were together well over 2 yrs ago! I promptly put him out of my life and my house, much to the dismay of my children, but i did my time with him. I took him back into my house because i felt sorry for him! I left him for a reason, and for that reason i will never have a relationship with him again!
Exes are exes for a reason, you move on after an ex, go on to better things, if you go back to an ex, each one of you have to want to change the past, become different people, cos if you dont, your f*cked and it'll never work!! | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:09:47 PM | after they've royally screwed up.
Real men don't screw up in the first place!
Kezzie, why not, nothing to lose I think. You will both have grown up obviously so don't expect him to be the cheeky 15 year old lad catching tadpoles and such! lol | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:49:46 PM | Wot do u think, if given the chance can second time round work?
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Yes it can, if you can communicate clearly. Are you the same girl on the profile where it says "..not into guys who can't hold a convo"?
Stay in school, save money, live humbly, and the right guy will come along. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:58:28 PM | Thanks for the replies, we are very different ppl n the reason i finished the relationship was cos i thought i was too young to get serious about sum1. And, I will say thanks to those for the supportive comments n get a life to those being catty about my spelling, its called short hand get used to it! The reason i asked this question was for peace of mind after being single for 5 yrs cos i had a really bad and violent relationship with my sons father. so thanks again xx
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:39:42 PM |
I have a saying on this... It didn't work 1st time, it ain't gonna work again... And you should never go back.. although a few times I have , I wish I'd listened to my own advice
Exactly, an ex is an ex for a reason and there is no real reason it can or will work a second time around. Better to just stay friends if possible that ruin something that is already going rather well. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:31:36 AM |
Wot do u think, if given the chance can second time round work?
sure, it can work a second time around, but personally, for me, an ex is an ex for a reason. not very long ago i had a chance to get back with an ex, we were really happy, we only broke up because he went to uni, we were heartbroken, but we have been best friends ever since, we have both been in other relationships, and when we both found ourselves single, we did consider getting back together... he wanted to move to be near me and everything.. it didnt happen in the end, we met up, and although the chemistry was still there, i didnt feel anything "special" between us, there was no "wow" like there was before, and i wanted that.
basicly, we both wanted what we had before, and that was already gone.
you could see hoe things go, seeing as it never got serious, i dont see why it wouldnt work in your case. | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:08:54 AM | | Go for it. There's no reason not to try it again with an ex if enough time has passed and there aren't any bitter memories. Hell even if you dated at 25 and wanted to try again at 35 I'd say it's fine as long as there wasn't crazy drama prior to the breakup. At 15 and 25, I'd say it's just like dating someone new, only with the benefit that you already know he was a nice guy and enjoyed hanging out with him | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:16:51 PM | I dont care what you think, I am aloud to put what I want in my reply
and btw its WOULD not WUD | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:19:05 PM | (Quote)I dont care what you think, I am aloud to put what I want in my reply
and btw its WOULD not WUD
And your immaturity shines through.... | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:25:07 PM | Let us see......If one of my ex-girlfriend's had quit smoking, slimmed up a little, quit clinging to me with her last dieing breath, and was still as horny, well, then maybe.  But mostly, no.  | |
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| Shud u revisit the past?
Posted: 5/23/2008 10:01:40 AM | Ok Karrpilot tht is just wrong!
Well right now we r doin the friends thing n see wot happens, so just kinda going with the flow. Thanks for the replies tho.
Even the catty n rather immaturity made me smile if nothing else!!! | |
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