| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:52:10 AM | | Ok, Me and my ex have been broken up since november of 2007. We had our first child together, we lived together, and had a relationship for 4 years. 3 weeks after we broke up she got with another guy. They have been dating ever since. So it has been about 6 months. She has claims she is still in love with me. I really dont believe what she said is fully true. She said she doesnt love this guy but she cares for him. What I am wondering is how long does rebound relationships last?! | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 10:31:59 AM | Why do you want to know how long their relationship will last? From this thread and your previous thread, I think you should be happy it's not YOU in the relationship with her.
You need to get out of the picture, except where the child is involved. If she can't make up her mind, make it up for her. Don't wait around around for her to create more chaos is your life.
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:00:18 PM | | I was married for almost 25 yrs . The breakup was not my idea so for a while I was devestated and hoping for a reconciliation. I eventually woke up and asked myself why am I waiting for him to decide where MY LIFE IS GOING? If she were still in love with you as she says she would be with you , not someone else. So having said that why do you care how long Rebound Relationships last? Just a thought . | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:02:54 PM | I am just curious as to why you are so interested in her new relationship? But to answer your question, maybe it will work out for them and they will live happily ever after or maybe they will break up tomorrow. It has been my experience that rebounds do not work but I guess they might work for some depending on the reason for the break and to the extent of their feelings.
~Carrie | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 1:10:22 PM | And you want to know this because??????? Are you waiting for her rebound relationship to END?
She was with you and had a child, and within 3 weeks of your break-up she is with another man. Nice, real nice. And she's with him because she "cares" for him, BUT still "in love" with you.
In the interim, your child is being exposed to this type of life/living. I don't even know what to say....................... I'm going to plead the 5th because if I have nothing "good" to say, I would rather not say anything at all.
Good luck,
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:56:36 PM | | The rebound relationship will last until you get sick of waiting for her to come back. At that point she'll magically tell you how much of douchebag the new guy is and profess her undying love for you only to go back to said douchebag in another couple months. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:02:59 PM | Guys guys.... the dude's still bleeding for christ sakes.
You never know how long it will last. He could dump her tomorrow, her him for someone else another day, but she will probably not come back to you. Ever.
In my experience (I've never had a rebound I don't think), and from what I've seen around me, for clearly rebounds? As short as one month and one is going on 5 yrs. lol. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:13:12 PM | I agree with everyone else, you should not be concerned with it.
As for the rebound, the main reason why they never work out because they are a "transference" relationship. Basically as soon as she gets over you the relationship will soon end. Therefore if your waiting for it to end she will be over you as well.
As you will come to realize, everything does happen for a reason and you must not forget the past but you can not live in it. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 12:50:27 PM | Sounds like your X is the type of woman who can't be alone. Did she know the guy before your relationship ended? I have seen people who can't be alone and they are the most dysfunctional. Unfortunately since you have a child you will have to see her.
Do your best to stay away from her and don't speculate why she is with someone else so fast. Perhaps she is not very picky and is just taking the first warm body to come along. Odds are her future relationship will not work out for similar reasons that your relationship with her didn't work out. Work on yourself and try to improve yourself, get counseling if you can afford it. You have a long and happy life ahead if you correct your problems now. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:32:53 PM | | It depends on how rubbery the people are. I guess you are asking because the break-up was her idea and not yours. Have you decided to move on with your life and be the best you can be for the sake of your child? I think you need to let her go in order to work on your self-esteem because you need to be there for yourself first. I wish you all the very best. Peace. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:37:23 PM | ~OP~ Why don't you venture into a relationship of some sort and then this won't be much of a thought. Time to move on. Stop listening to her babbling on ~ clearly she's not being fair to anyone. Do you really want that in your life? I certainly wouldn't. JMO  | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:39:46 PM |
Why do you want to know how long their relationship will last? From this thread and your previous thread, I think you should be happy it's not YOU in the relationship with her.
You need to get out of the picture, except where the child is involved. If she can't make up her mind, make it up for her. Don't wait around around for her to create more chaos is your life.
Krys
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:54:29 PM | Rebounds last as long as they last.. No matter who left who and and which one of you is "waiting" around for the rebound to end.. The fact remains the same one of you has moved on and the other hasn't regardless of what one is saying to the other. You have a child that needs your attention . Besides if she cared for you like she is telling you, she would still be with you .. It is over !!! move on and forget her ( some memories will be retained and hard on you both for years to come) take care of your responsibility to your child.
Why would you want her back after being with another man anyway ?
She has basically said to you by moving on with him... That you are NOT the one she wanted .. it doesn't get any more clear than that.
And trust me I know what it is like to bleed from the heart so this is NOT meant as a cold opinion. I still bleed at times and it has been many years..... but we all have to be true to OUR lives.
Let it go, get out now of that turmoil.  | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:56:57 PM | | Im sorry honey, but it sounds like someone is playing you for a fool. This aint no rebound, this is a long lasting relationship that has been going on for almost a year and will probably go on even longer. Its time for you to find a rebound or someone new so u can get your mind off of this chick. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:26:27 PM | You don't need a rebound... that isn't fair to you let alone anyone else....
You need to heal and give it some time on your own. Take a bit to discover the real you again and what you like to do in life.
Live life for you for a while | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:40:27 PM | Sometimes people marry thier rebounds and stay
married to them even though they are miserable.
Do not rely on what she says or does. Get on with your life.
Do you really want someone who can be done with you in
a blink of an eye and be with someone else with the excuse
"I cant be alone" .
Thats crap- she is telling you she still has feelings because she
knows what kind of guy you are and how you feel about her-
she knows you will hang on forever until she makes
up her mind- people who love you only want to be with you.
I want you to take however much time you need and heal and then I
want you to find someone who loves you back even more than you
love them. Let her go- she is and never will be happy .
Go find YOUR happiness.
Dont forget to step up to the plate and continue to take
care of your kid. Be there for them.
Believe me once you find someone who adores you, your love
for her will be a distant memory- you will probably wonder
why you even ever considered giving her chances. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:41:31 PM | WHY is everyone asking the OP, WHY he cares how long rebound relationships last????
It's common for the ex -partner to feel curious or subconsciously wish for them to be unhappy in their former relationship, only to have the ex-partner regret ever having left him.....
and then fantasize in their mind how the day will be, when she breaks up with this so called "rebound" and beg to be together again!!!
I think its normal to at least WONDER whatever became of a 4 year long girlfriend!
Of course, Im not ruling out the DEGREES of how far this "WONDER" could take a person.
Whatever... all I know is... she's probably just looking for a back-up plan. Sounds like her rebound isnt all she expected him to be. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 6:10:11 PM | | Actions speak louder than words. When you "don't believe what she said is fully true," just keep holding that thought. Because it's most likely correct. She's probably found out that the grass isn't any greener, and while she doesn't "love" you, you are better than him in some way. She just wants to fall back on you. She's "feeling you out" to see if you could be her possible backup plan. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 6:17:54 PM | They last between a week and fifty years.
She can claim whatever she wants, but her actions speak louder than words. (cliche)
Seems to me she's just stringing you along, messing with your feelings. Not a very nice person. | |
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| Rebound Relationships. How long do they usually last?
Posted: 8/8/2008 7:16:33 PM |
CURLYGRL Do you really want someone who can be done with you in
a blink of an eye and be with someone else with the excuse
"I cant be alone" .
What an excellent piece of advice .. I absolutely love this ... Where were you when my ex dumped me and started dating a guy with in the next couple of days... especially after the time and all the I love yous I heard from her the day before she dumped me...
But that was then.. I will never forget what you said
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