| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/4/2005 12:41:49 AM | I had recently read a discussion in another forum ..about .." what do men consider .."Average" in body size? ... Which really got me thinking about "Average size" and what it meant to me .. and what it meant to people in general...
I've always considered myself to be of the "Average sized woman"...under 200 lbs ... which seemed to be the concensus of the majority of men who responded to this particular thread...
Although I may be of "Average size" .. I do possess the " after child bearing tummy" ... I take pride in my self and my appearance, try to keep a healthy and active lifestyle .. and when I look in the mirror at this "tummy" .. I feel a sense of pride .. I would never consider having a "tummy tuck" ..it's my reminder of the two beautiful girls I gave birth to... I don't go to the gym ...and I don't train for marathons ..
The type of work I do ..requires very physical and constant activity on a daily basis ... which in many ways replaces ( and probably saves me a financial obligation to a local gym)... I go for long walks or hikes .. when I get a day to myself ... I park my car when at home .. and walk to the local mall or supermarket ..or just to get out and enjoy my neighbourhood...I have although acquired well toned arms and legs!
I've seen quite a few profiles of men on here who have many common interests as myself and who seem to have the same outlook/personality that Iam intrigued by...the problem being is that I feel intimidated by the mere thought of making contact ... can a pretty face , charming personality and " Average size " body be attractive to these such men too?
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/4/2005 2:17:36 AM | You know, it always surprises me to see a woman's picture and then read how they describe their body type... many are WAY off, IMHO, but it tells you a LOT about what they think of themselves.
Don't be shy on this site... what's the worst that can happen? Send a message, say HI, see what happens. You haven't lost anything if nothing comes out of it. People are on this site for a reason (generally, I'm finding out): to meet people! So send a message and meet a person!
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/4/2005 9:14:23 AM | Just because someone is "athletic" or "muscular" does NOT mean they are only looking for people who have the same body type!!! Send an email to the guys who catch your eye...you might be pleasantly surprised :)
PS....the "average" guys are just as likely to be d**kheads, seems to be just a guy thing! | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/5/2005 11:10:18 PM | | While I think there are a lot of guys who have bought into the "ideal" woman's body that society is selling...not all of us are that shallow. Now, I'm not trying to say I'm a model or anything, but I do work hard at taking care of my body and consider myself in the muscular/athletic range of body types. When it comes to women's bodies...I do not have a "type" that I prefer. Its more like a "range". I like women who have curves and there are many variations in that range. Imperfections can be lovely and make each person unique. On top of that...personality, confidence and emotions are far more important in the end anyway. But what the hell...its just my opinion. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 6:27:19 AM | Guitar - your crack about being "beyond obese" at 200 lbs. is actually incorrect. Yes, the woman would be listed as "being overweight" but certainly not termed medically "obese" (unless she was like 5' nothing - then maybe I would agree). Check your facts first. Maybe the fact that you are 5'8" (as you addressed in another post) is not the issue, it is that you judge before you know. I was weighed during the winter at 198lbs. I was rather suprized at this weight because I am a size 13/14, I need to lose a few pounds, yes, but I certainly don't look the weight that my Dr was telling me. It all depends on frame, where the weight is, your height, heredity, many factors. That is one reason I never say my weight (except for now, I feel I need to prove a point) because numbers mean very little. I walk everywhere, I can play sports better than some men and no, I do not revolve my diet around McDonald's. I have battled my weight for years because, yes, bad habits in the past, but mostly it has resulted from a blood-sugar disorder. So, Guitar, sorry for the rambling, I just found your words very offensive.
Now on to the topic at hand. I must admit I do not have a tendency to approach athletic type guys because my body is not the athletic type (wish it was, but, alas, things don't seem to be going that way these days). I have tried the "gym-thing" and it did nothing for me and I would assume that an athletic type of guy would spend a lot of time in a gym. I think for me I hesitate because I would imagine that they are looking for someone with the same lifestyle and body type and that's just not me. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 6:34:41 AM | | BTW my height is 5'9". Not that it's much different than 5'8". Anyway the medical definition of obsesity from what I read a few years back is 30% over what's consired the normal weight range. Medically speaking, obesity isn't something that is conveniently subjective as it is to some of these profile/thread posters. I cannot read a profile with a straight face when it says average, yet doesn't fall within the recommended weight range on various health charts. Actually, it is dishonest, to say the least, for any person who is 30Lbs overweight to list themselves as "average sized." | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:08:37 AM | As an experiment I looked at your profile so that I could enter your height, former 198 pound weight and age. The calculator on this link processed all that information as: obese. For any woman at 5'5" (the average female height), 180 pounds is the exact borderline weight within this calculor to being consired obese. Now I don't know if you lost weight or not, but you're almost trying to make me look stupid by telling me that I'm inaccurate in my language. Not that I care much, the scientific facts speak for themselves.
http://www.weight.com/definition.asp
We all have digressed from the main point of this thread. By the way, if a male or female isn't working their ass off (no pun intended), then why should I feel sorry for a lady or male who doesn't even take care of their own physiquee whining about not getting attention from atheletic men? I consider myself to be an averagelooking guy and am quite happy with the cute to barely marginal women that I date. They're at the same level. I don't drool at what other guys refer to as "hotties" because I'm not turned on by "hotties." You know why? Just knowing that they don't see me as a sexual being makes them unattractive to me in turn. I didn't intend to program my brain to work this way, but somehow I subconsciously did. As a result, only plain janes to the "6s" or "7s" (on a scale of 10) turn me on. Any woman beyond that level of looks is as invisible to me as I am to them. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:34:07 AM | Actually by using the BMI index - which is what is used today - I would be listed as "overweight", not "obese". But, I too, digress. Oh, and if you "didn't care" you wouldn't have posted a rebuttle, right?
But, hey, let's agree to disagree on the definition of "obese", ok. All I am saying is that these "plain janes" you speak of may weigh more than you think so don't let your choice bottle down to how much the scale tips at.
I think what it comes down to is personal preference and what kinds of people that we feel we can attract.
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:21:41 AM | I think it depends on the person you are contacting. If they are working out for mental health and discipline, well go for it. But if they are working out to catch Barbie, well I would say that you might be barking up the wrong tree.
It's tough to tell, but 9 times out of 10, if a guy is showing off his awesome abs and big guns it's not to show women what a caring and thoughful individual he is. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:31:16 PM | My 2 cents here...............I work in the fitness industry.. and average for a body type is only 5 to 15 pounds overweight....
Obese is where your heading if beyond that..........
I deal with men who work in construction, 14 hour days who still hit the gym...
I also deal with women who work full time proffessional careers, have kids, take care of the home etc and they work out also......
You get reduced stress levels when you hit the gym and your energy level goes up alot...
To fix the tummy is simple, eat more often small amounts, no carbs after 6 pm or 3 hours before you go to bed, graze alot during the day 6 smalll meals, drink alot of water, ingest more isolate protien and take a good multi to help your body function proper...
Anyways enough said I wish you all the best and hope you find what yooour seeking on POF... | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/7/2005 6:31:50 AM | IMO the muscled guys have ZERO interest in the ultra fit women. I have a buddy who competes at the national level and he says "Why would I want to be with a woman who is heavy into fitness or who bodybuilds? I want her to be admiring MY body and the work that went into it, not spend time admiring hers"
At the gym (where I spend a lot of my life) the muscled guys are always chatting up the girls on the cardio equipment and the ones who tend to be more curvy. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/7/2005 9:32:09 PM | Devine, I don't think you should hesitate to contact anyone. The face shot I see is very nice. You have a fire in your eyes and are attractive so even if you're overweight, go for it. For each person, there is someone who'd want to be with them, who'll love them and who'd be that one person meant just for them. If nothing else, you may end up with email buddies so go for it.
Mick | |
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