| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:59:54 PM | Guys do you have a hypothesis for this behavior?
I had been dating a guy from POF.. handsome.. had everything going for him but he admitted to me that most of the ladies who contact him were at least 100 miles away and because of his schedule and children he couldn't possibly consider a dating relationship with any of them. We never got in to hypothesizing anything.
Fast foward a few months.. I was chatting online to a guy who was about 200 miles from me and we were considering meeting.. and he tells me in conversation that he has women who are like 100+ miles away from him contacting him all the time and he wonders if they are actually nervous about meeting men in their own town. He thinks that they might be fearful of meeting a local man either because they aren't ready for a relationship or that they feel safer with a guy who is farther away.
Now a few weeks ago met a guy in here online who lives only about 20 miles from me.. and he and I were talking about the same thing how women 100+ miles away were contacting him but no one local.. (cept me..hehehe). His hypothesis was that they were actually married and wanting a romance with a man out of town and would actually want to meet maybe half way for a rendevous..
So guys any of you ever run into this? I am just curious.. | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:14:15 PM | WTF! Give me a break lady!!! If I find someone within 200 miles from me it's amazing. Yes, I get mail from everywhere. IF!! And I do mean IF. You find someone that trips your trigger, you best not question the nonscense behind it. Silly reasoning.
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:36:04 PM | Hey Dog????
Listen.. I am repeating what these men have said.. ok??? I just wanted to ask some people what they thought.. ok??? So you think it is bunk.. that is great.. so do I.. I wonder if these men who said this aren't revealing their true motives for being on the site.. I dunno just wanted some thoughts on the matter..
But I would appreciate at least something that resembles a polite reply.. even if you have to fake it.. | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:59:56 PM | So guys any of you ever run into this? I am just curious..
ive run into this a lot. matter of fact it has been more the rule than the exception. since my divorce in 96, and when i got back into the singles world and internet 'dating'...i have always wondered why ive attracted more women out of town/state than locally.
at some point when fear hit local women that a healthy relationship with someone who isnt an alcoholic or drug user, could be real..for real, they balked...and this was either before meeting or soon after meeting. on the other side of the coin, out of state women hopped on an airplane and flew out to visit.
since i realized that none of my body parts can reach very far, i canned the long distance relationship potential and have since discouraged anyone from making a visit here...nor will i pursue emailing them forever either and giving them false hopes.
however, unlike your bud op...not one woman from afar was married. my profile has always told women that i am not interested in them being married, divorcing, or separated...so i cannot personally validate his hypothesis with respect to that point...but i sure can believe it. there are a lotta lonely women out there...both single and married.... | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:16:08 PM | OP, there must be many reasons this happens. Do the women who contact these guys live in small towns? Doesn't take long before you realize you have to widen the search in that case.
I've had men write me from just about everywhere. I suppose it's possible that some of them were married and looking for something on the side a safe distance away, but I think it's more likely that many people just don't consider distance to be an insurmountable barrier.
--Ms. Flis | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:16:33 PM | I'd go to Idaho but boise told me to stay where I am..................and feed the deer till hunting season.............
I myself have contacted, and been contacted by men 100 miles away. I'm in the boonies...............If you want to meet you do it half way. No biggie.............. | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:48:57 PM | I went out with someone 140 miles away. My dating pool is limited, very limited. I would like to see someone closer but if it happens there is someone 100+ miles it's not a big issue for me. Distance is an issue if you make it an issue as one of the above posters wrote.
However, I must say that I have guys contacting me from farther way than 100 or 200+ miles. Now, if I can only find........how was it *WaterDoggin* put it? Hmmm, oh yeah, "Someone who trips your(my) trigger"..........~big grin~ | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:51:10 PM | LOL Last week you liked bad.............
OP Everyone has a choice when contacted to read or delete. Sometimes people just want to comment on something in a profile. Or maybe its a forim poster and they want to discuss a post. Or maybe they've exhausted the 7 men in their area. | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:53:47 PM |
Distance is an issue only when you make it an "issue".
That is so true, people whine about wanting to find the *right one but they have to be within a certain area...certain height...certain weight...certain personality...certain look...certain type of job...gosh people we limit ourselves right out of relationships | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:56:30 PM | Even though i could easily fly that far to meet someone, i just do not have the money to do it all that often. Nor the time lately. Which is why i stick with the locals. I have a hard enough time with them as it is.  | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/22/2008 2:01:07 PM | Because women know if you live too far away there is no chance of a date......
I get this all the time, the locals dont want to know but people who live hundreds of miles away are happy to chat. | |
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| Only women from 100+ miles away contacting a man
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:01:36 PM | Thanks all for your comments.. As I said I was just curious if anyone had any thoughts on this and I am certainly not accusing anyone of anything.. I was just commenting on what men had told me and I thought it was interesting that this topic has repeatedly come up in conversation and I wanted to get a broad spectrum of comments.
I myself have been interested in men who were 100+ miles away.. I even went and met them half way.. or what ever.. Nothing ever happened.. but I enjoyed getting to know them. As of late I have been sticking closer to home.. 50 miles has been my limit.
I currently am having phone conversations with a man who is about 200 miles away.. and because of the nature of his profession he can relocate easily if we decide to get serious.
I personaly have no qualms about LDR except it sure is a lot easier to have a beau in town.. he calls up wants to go to a movie.. and is over at my place within the hour.. it surely is nice!! | |
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