| | What is your real goal for dating?Page 1 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | I wonder...do you have real goal for dating from dating site...and what is it?
Is it number of dates you have in month...every time...with different people...or nice companion for lunch...dinner...or...anything else? | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:10:24 PM | | My goal is to meet a lady that she and I both click on all levels and learn about each other and eventually become a "couple" for many years to come. Do I think that will happen? Who knows, last lady I was with for over 5 years I met on a pay site that starts with "m" so it's possible. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:19:27 PM | My goal for dating ... we are supposed to have a goal.. Well maybe that is what I have been doing wrong  All the time I thought it was my bait!
I have no expectations, since I have been on this site for it seems like years, but I do enjoy the forums.  ho hummmm | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:31:20 PM | | My goal is to not date, and so far, 100% success. It's hard what with all the insistent offers. The guilt of depriving so many adoring women weighs heavily upon me. It fills me, I am full of it. You see, I remember so clearly being single before, and thinking then how wonderful it would be to have a sweetheart of my own. I remember dating and falling in love and thinking we would stay happy together for the rest of time. So now when I think of dating, I remember last time, and how that ended up. Now it seems like a good way to delude myself into an episode of misery. Men and women were made to fit together for one purpose only, which is to make their own replacements, so the species can continue on. Pleasure is an inducement to that purpose. Dreams of romantic bliss lure unsuspecting paramours to their doom. Those who survive limp to the edges of dating and watch it below like a battle still raging. We share the camaraderie of survivors, humbled and chagrined. To go for another try is insanity, and not the kind that bodes well and has you singing barefoot in the fountain by the haberdashery. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:38:34 PM | Are you supposed to get dates from this site? Well, golly gee whiz, I've been on here for nearly three years and all I've been doing is living vicariously through other people and reading the forums. Go figger, eh?
Seriously, I couldn't care less if I ever had a date. I've discovered that I can't be bothered going through the motions of meeting, greeting and tossing all in the blink of an eye or in the time it takes to read an e-mail.
But, as Ageless Wonder says "I do enjoy the forums".
Tink | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 6:53:22 PM | My initial goal when joining this site was to meet a wonderful man who would sweep me off my feet , and we would live the rest of our lives in each others company with love and respect for each other. 
Now i think I have achieved the goal of being content and happy by myself , leaving the door open just a tiny crack in case some-one intruiging comes along , but not necessarily expecting it any more , or spending any significant time looking. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:02:04 PM | ^^^Agrees with *browser59* Boy, did we have high expectations or what? ~scratches head~ Still somewhat of a goal but I have no expectations. I don't search much anymore, I play on the forums and IF someone finds me then so be it, if not then ~shrugs~ What was it *WaterDoggin* said in another thread......."someone who comes along that trips my trigger* along with all the customary other things. hehehe
(sighs) I like the "pool" in Canada though.......... | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:04:02 PM |
To go for another try is insanity, and not the kind that bodes well and has you singing barefoot in the fountain by the haberdashery.
Reminds me, I should get a tie.....in case I have a date! What do women think of mongrammed handkerchiefs? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 7:33:52 PM | ...I don't know so much about goals but I did have a wish.......that my knight in shining armour would come along and sweep me off my feet....we would fall madly in love and live happily ever after....but alas, that has not happened.
Unfortunately I'm part of another fairytale....the one where the delusional princess keeps kissing those damn frogs.
...maeflowers | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:26:04 PM | The OP pulls a bait-and-switch tactic. The headline asks what our goal is for dating, but then the text asks "do you have real goal for dating from dating site....?" These are two different questions.
My goal for dating is to find a life partner, but I'll settle for something less. No, not a one-night-stand. A new friend, an evening's companion, or perhaps a LTR that is unlikely to end in marriage or other sort of ersatz permanency.
My goal for this dating site is to keep myself amused while waiting for the phone to ring! | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 8:33:53 PM | WOW, messages 6 and 9 said it all! That's what I would have said myself, including the frog kissing bit. Darn, way too many frogs hop thru the woods & swamps of POF.
MY initial goal was to attract a suitable and age appropriate gentleman to be happy with for a very long time.
Now, I'm content to be alone, I'm good company for myself, I am 'staff' to a glorious Himalayan cat who has no sense of humor but loves to play, I find joy in my independance if not in a shiny kitchen floor. Go on! It's clean, just not shiny!
It seems to me that most of the ladies on here had similar goals upon joining, many still have the door open to it. My great curiosity is about the goals of the men on here. Personally I think they're a lot of 'belt notchers' , just a bunch of over-aged teenagers who think POF is for shooting fish in a barrel.
Does that sound bitter? I don't mean it to. All I'm really saying is that my goal hasn't changed. I'm still waiting and looking for a suitable and age-appropriate gentleman who wishes to share some very happy times with me. I'm just not holding my breath while I wait. I've a full and busy life and I love every moment of it.   | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:38:54 PM | You do know that when you say about kissing frogs it's insulting to men and makes you sound stuck in a girlhood fantasy? Of course you do.  | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:14:02 PM | | My goal was to meet a nice man, become friends and spend time together. I met such a man 4 months ago and we are in an exclusive, loving relationship. So it's worked out even better than I'd hoped. Same for him. He, too, was just looking for a friend to spend time with. We both found that and so much more. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:41:14 PM |
You do know that when you say about kissing frogs it's insulting to men and makes you sound stuck in a girlhood fantasy? Of course you do.
Payback for all the porn fantasies men have about women :P
I always thought the goal of dating was to find out about someone, see if you were compatible for a long term relationship. While I do enjoy the forums, I would prefer to find someone and never have to read another profile, I think some are lowering my IQ! I dont think you have to have someone in your life to be happy, move forward without them by having a happy life of your own...but to me having someone is like butter on your bread, or frosting on your cake...just makes life better! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:21:37 PM | I was told on a profile review to change my seeking relationship type from dating to long term since I was not looking for a weekend fling. Is it true that by putting 'dating' means that you are just looking for sex?
Are women over 45 considered easy lays? do men think that all women on this site are just looking for sex too? I have never been propositioned so much in my life, EVER! it is a bit scary to me. I am not looking for a F-buddy guys..... but I am also not looking for marriage either (at least for now)
I am almost afraid to answer an email at this point. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:38:33 PM | No matter what your profile reads beachbex - somebody will read something into it that you don't intend. Relax, be yourself, have fun, and ignore the people who tell what you should, or should not do.
I came here to make friends, meet people and socialize, and perhaps meet someone who would become more than a friend - so far, 2 out of 3 ain't bad. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/21/2008 11:48:55 PM | Yes...I won't stop until I've mastered no less than THREE Starbuck's thirty minute barista interviews a day...... I want to be so wired in an hour and a half from drinking so many espressos, while pretending to smile at somebody that has turned out to be fifty pounds heavier and ten years older than her GLAMOUR SHOT that I grind my teeth all the way home and thank GOD I didn't have to at least PAY for the service unlike those saps over at Eharmony........ | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:20:22 AM | Originally my goal was like the others, but has mellowed with age, not my age, the age of my goal. Nowadays I get a jolt if I get any mail. Good thing for my favorites, I can always count on them for a line or two from time to time.
Sigh ......... | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:34:18 AM | | When I first see her, I want to be thinking "OK.... don't blow this!". And I sure hope she isn't thinking the same thing. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:34:23 AM | My profile is here mostly so I can enjoy the forums although one never knows.... I have found using internet dating sites to find potential dates sucks up huge amounts of time and rarely works for me. I need to get out of the house and meet women in the gym, at church, in stores, on the beach, wherever, but out and about and in person. That is what works for me.
My real goal for dating is to find a partner for the rest of my life. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:56:23 AM | ...My real goal?..eventually, I want to meet someone nice, settle down, maybe have a couple of kids...oops scratch that last one haha...
In all honesty OP, I haven't set any goals, actually going on a "real date" has been an obstacle I need to overcome first.
...maeflowers | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:37:40 AM | It appears to me that the real goal of dating is to find a relationship which obviates the need to ever date again. Strangely, people generally do not like to date. Its fraught with stress, uncertainty, expense, rejection and is very time consuming. Most people would rather have the question of who they will be with next week settled so they can get on with doing stuff they really would prefer to do, like weeding the garden, sitting by the pool, watching TV and painting the laundry room.
Unfortunate that the process of getting rid of dating in one's life involves intensive dating! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:02:47 AM | | VERY astute observation rearguard! I totally agree, my goal is to become comfortable enough with someone that it doesn't matter if they stop by while I'm all sweaty from mowing the grass, that I have green feet and hat hair underneath by baseball cap...they'll still find me gorgeous even without makeup and heels! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:22:30 AM | | My goal when I joined the site was to meet people from the area, and cultivate a circle of friends. I'm not just here for the dating aspect, but more for the social aspect. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:31:25 AM | a lot of women seem to be looking for a prince, a knight , or a rich landowner!!
I've seen the movies and read the novels too - seems to me the gardener or the butler would be a safer bet!! | |
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