| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:23:32 PM | Just a small question --- is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl? I dated this really intelligent girl ... felt a bit intimidated. I know it is kind of old school but I did not want to date her again ... frequency mismatch I suppose. Was it foolish of me? | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:34:59 PM | | Yes, being intelligent, I am turned on by meeting someone else intelligent. Sexiness starts in the brain. No, it is not normal for a guy to get imidated by the intelligence of a woman. The dude lacks self-esteem. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:43:13 PM | | I think intelligence is fine. With my last LTR, though, she acted like she knew everything, or had to always know at least a LITTLE BIT more than me. That gets tiring real fast. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:44:44 PM | If she's intelligent about how to make herself happy, yes!
If you're talking about a woman who is urbane, cultured, classically educated...whether that ends up being either a turn on or turn off depends on whether you mirror those qualities in yourself or not. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:45:11 PM | Intelligence is a must for anyone I date. I like to converse in complete sentences. I have a fairly decent vocabulary and I hate it when I use a word and get that 'deer in the headlights' stare as a response.
YES, intelligence is a turn on. And I agree--know it alls are NOT........
OT: I have always told my children that when someone has to use profanity every other word it is because they are lacking in imagination and vocabulary. lol | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:45:26 PM | it's not easy to be intelligent. you are turned off in mutual fashion by the "intellectuals" and you seek depth to relationships. so some just don't get you. you are what you are. i don't know if you should be fearful of it, but in the long run the question remains as to whether you are able to communicate in some fashion. if not, so be it. but sometimes, remember that mutual ability to be passionate about life is another form of energy that two might be able to share despite different iq's.
ps did this girl write your profile, OP? because it seems pretty intelligent to me...and you say under "first date" that you want her to be intelligent. huh? is this a bit of a game to draw them out, so you can go fishing? nice strategy! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:02:48 PM | Intelligence a major turn on! The smarter, the better. Most men I know who don't like smart women are usually not the "sharpest tools on the shed" and have issues with their intellectual capacity. Why would anyone date someone who's not smart? You spend MUCH more time conversing with a partner than any other activity.
Unfortunately, many well educated women do not seem to want children. This does not bode well for the future of our society. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:03:41 PM | Lol serenitycw ... what you said is pretty true. I was referring to the 'know it all' kind of intelligence. The mighty geek  If a person knows so much (including the finer details) about so many things ... that is kind of intimidating ... at least for me. It is more like ... I am left in awe rather than attraction. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 8:35:37 PM | | Intelligence is a turn-on to ME ... but ... just like wealth or beauty, there is such a thing as being out of one's league. The stablest and happiest relationships appear to be between people who are approximately alike in these dimensions. I can't imagine being with an exceedingly stupid man. And at the other end of the spectrum, if a partner had genius-plus intelligence, I would wonder what he saw in me. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:08:56 PM | I think some men are intimidated by intelligent women. I have gone out with guys who feel insecure and try to bolster themselves up by putting me down. It's childish and immature, but it happens.
If you didn't like the girl then its best that you do not go out with her again. If she's smart, she is probably use to it. I've gotten use to it. I just have to find a guy looking for an extremely intelligent woman. I have gone out with guys who like my brains, but not as many as I would like. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:13:12 PM | | I'd welcome some intelligence. Wouldn't have problems with someone smarter than me, but 'rubbing it in' in a way wouldn't be welcome. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:28:14 PM | | Intelligence is definitely a turn on. I don't mind being in awe when the person knows more than me. Most are willing to teach and share their interests if you let them. The only time I have issues is when the person thinks that being intelligent is a free pass to put people down. Fortunately, I haven't run into much of that. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:00:23 PM |
With my last LTR, though, she acted like she knew everything, or had to always know at least a LITTLE BIT more than me. That gets tiring real fast.
Sounds like you were dating my ex. You poor devil.
There's a difference between being smart and being a show off.
I like smart people because they are more fun to be around. They get jokes, or topical references more quickly. They make jokes, and funny come-backs more easily. They understand without a diagram and instruction manual, and they usually are interested in everything in the world.
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:06:02 PM | Been there done that. Most women I date seem smarter than I. Strange, I know, can't explain it. But they don't know sheet about exotic cars, I got em on that, so that's all I talk about now. But the dating game sucks nowadays for some reason, right guys? Too many intelligent women, not enough exotic cars for 'round $4000. Then I could get a woman with a little less intelligence I bet. One more my speedz.
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((( was referring to the 'know it all' kind of intelligence)))
Oh that kind! Yeah, well I know a few things too. Did you know that many anime characters are also available with videos games, some are partially nude. I'm a super nice guy my mom says so why can't I find good females who likes to drink beers and play video games in the nude like my cyber friends. Next time I meet one who thinks she's as smart as she is, I'm gonna tell her to prove it and take an IQ test, and I'll take an STD test to prove I've got something too. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 12:21:57 AM | Normal, if your intelligence is not at her level, I can see where you would be intimated. I think if you are not at the same level or at least close, you will feel inferior & that would not make for a good connection.
I find intelligence a turn on, because then we can converse on different subjects & not be asked constantly "what does that mean" or have them looking at me like I'm from outer space, because they have no clue what I'm talking about! Intelligence & a sense of humor is very attractive to me!! WHOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO !!!!
Good luck friend!
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 2:16:29 AM | | Intelligence in a woman is a massive turn on - love the mind and the body will follow in my eyes - Damn bring it on Ladies! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 2:23:13 AM | | Honestly... yes. This is one of the hardest things to quantify in a person... and yet, it is very important. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 2:42:42 AM | Intelligence in a woman is THE major turn on for me. Always had been.
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Where did all the big boob lovers go? Gees, I been on this site for almost 10 years, and today all of a sudden, its intelligent women men want. I give up. I could barely handle their boobs, just one moving part, and now OH OH....That poison gas from outer space has blanketed the earth, and any old divorced middle aged man who just wanted a quick NSA CE, with a college cheerleader (and her mome, sure) is dieing! Is there a farm or somewhere really far away from everything but not so far away its close to something else that I can go to, with the cheerleaders . I'll save them from being passed over by these brainiac fetishists and nuclear scientists that seem to have taken over POF in one day.
Frikin amazing, even to a divorced (who'd a thunked it) testosterone fueled low level borderline moronic smoker perv like me. I'm gonna go look for an "all women are confused lieing fat golddiggers" thread. There was a bunch yesterday, before all this men ar too respectful and like intelligence Hooeey..  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 2:42:59 AM | Intelligence is the most attractive trait. Having said that, there are so many different types of intelligence.
A high IQ needs to be tempered with a reasonable emotional intelligence (EQ) or you could be talking about a geek type of person who exists on their own planet because no one else is worth talking to. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:02:00 AM | I enjoy being with a smart man but he's got to have humility and a simple outlook . Without those, I could very well just be syphoning his brain and time.
Funnily enough, the love of my past life is a simple man and sometimes he'd be like that deer in headlights, and laugh about how mismatched we were.
Worldlywise, he was streets ahead of me and I learnt much from him. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:19:23 AM | No intelligence does not turn me on, just look around at all the self proclaimed intelligent people you are going to flush out in this forum. Intelligent people I find make some very bad decisions, not once in awhile but quite often. 
I didn't use a large vocabulary, so I hope some of you can understand what I wrote!! get my drift.
This thread has been done many times, I wonder why no one wanted to have it deleted, hmm!
I see many for sale signs popping up.
I dislike posts like this one,why just keep reading. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:24:43 AM | I find intelligence is incrediblly attractive in a woman.
It doesn't have to be 'book' smart. Just having a good head on her shoulders a tremendous asset. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:27:30 AM | Welder tells me all that time that I intimidate people b/c of my intelligence. He says that I don't act like a know it all or make people feel stupid, I am just well versed in many areas, so when I bring something up besides the weather most people can't follow the conversation.
I have to be with someone that is intelligent....they don't have to be book intelligent. Like, Welder...he's not really 'book smart' but he is genius with mechanical things. He can name me ANY car...year, exact model, V-6 or V-8, what type of fuel it uses and any modifications done just by glancing at it or hearing it. It's amazing. I've 'tested' him over and over and over again. Since we've been together he's only gotten ONE wrong. Trucks, lawn mowers, big rigs, you name it, he knows it.
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 4:31:54 AM | Hmmm...its not so much that intelligence turns me on (it does!), but that the lack thereof turns me OFF. I just cant date a dumb guy. If he happens to be a subject matter expert in his occupation or hobby--cars, cheeses, engineering, meat cutting, journalism, commercial shipping, agriculture, trap and skeet, whatever--its a bonus because then I can learn something from him I wouldnt ordinarily know.
OP, in answer to your question, its perfectly normal to not want to be in a place you are uncomfortable being, whether that discomfort is caused by a genius IQ or anything else. The opportunity to take it as a learning experience and expand your mind or move on is your call to make. Was it foolish of you? If she was a sweet girl who liked you and the only reason you dumped her was simply b/c she was smarter than you, then yes, Id say it was. If she was scary book-smart but had zero common sense and you couldnt picture being with her, then thats another story... | |
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