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Posted: 5/22/2008 8:09:04 PM | | Everyone on here I'm sure at some point has experienced lonliness, hurt, dissapointment, deception and or miss trust. In order to know that you would have to have know at some point love, happiness, trust and faith. With all our past experiences, or at least I'll speak for myself and say for all of mine..........the one thing I haven't had........which is why I guess I'm still here.........have you ever had someone who just sees you??? I mean really sees you.........I'd go through all that all over again if I knew eventually I'd get to that............ | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 8:25:28 PM | | Yes, there was one person in my life who "saw" me...I always said he "gets" me..very rare in my opinion, but possible... | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 8:28:22 PM | | Anyone can see anyone, but people look away as soon as they get scared. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 8:33:18 PM | | i truly had someone i thought i clicked with in every possible way. i usally think " damn i would be lucky to find that in someone agian". | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 8:38:44 PM | When they "see" you, they want to buy your chairs...(Phenomenon, the movie)
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:08:23 PM | There were two people who actually saw me for exactly who I am. One died; and I'm still friends with the other. I find most people either can't be bothered trying to "get" someone, or they just don't know how to. I honestly don't analyze it and have come to the conclusion I was lucky to have two people in my life who did get me, and my chances of meeting another are slim to none.  | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:19:32 PM | Freshbait,...
No, I have never had any man yet....just "see" me....
You are wise, you know that....you understand what a true relationship is about. I pray your man comes into your life soon. :) | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:30:28 PM | | I have had the illusion. But never the reality. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:39:13 PM | | Yes, two of my husbands 'saw' me. One passed away and the other was lost to drug addiction. I'm getting this same feeling from my b/f. He maybe 'gets' me more than anyone ever has. It's pretty amazing. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:41:02 PM | Yes. Though they haven't all been intimate people (as in - romantic). And there's probably some logic to that - because with friends, you probably let your guard down sooner and just be exactly who you are and they take you or leave you "as is." You'll get closer to what you are seeking if you just be totally yourself straight out of the gate. You'll have less suitors, because most people are scared away at the "real deal" when it's right in their face from the get-go. But the few people who you do catch and keep by just being yourself - they'll see you.
Though - I agree with the other poster that some people are just blind and only see what they want to see. And those people will misinterpret who you are, what you say, and why you act the way you do - - because they are so used to trying to figure people out that they don't know what to do when someone just "is" - without any smoke and mirrors. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:51:15 PM | I'm with him now! He sees me as I am, accepts me as I am, and loves me as I am. Since I feel the same way back, it's amazing and wonderful.
Trust me, I know how lucky I am, I've certainly not always had this. One time previously I had "sees" and "loves" but never really had "accepts" so I really appreciate him. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 9:54:19 PM | i've never had that
I've seen others but they were too busy contemplating themselves that never realized it. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:10:45 PM | | yes i would do it all again to have that love that i felt, that i believed in, that i experienced even if he did not....thanks for making me believe in myself that i am capable of giving that to someone.....just hurts when its gone. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:16:11 PM | | me too, thanks for the words.....just dont know who to believe and trust and give my heart too? | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:35:22 PM | Just sees you???
Is this a fairly recent term/phrase to pop culture ... cause I'm not familiar with it?
Get me?
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:37:47 PM | I understand what you are saying, I wish for that again.
My ex husband is the only one who's ever "saw" knew the real me,
even after fifteen years apart ,he still knows and understand me like no other.
Never my family, not my children, no one else,
seems like he's the only one who's ever saw me for who I am.
I only realized that a few years ago.
Other's have said they understand and know the real me...but ?
It takes real love for someone to see us , to really look at us
and care enough to understand who we are .
Relationships can feel very empty if we don't have that.
Anyone can see anyone, but people look away as soon as they get scared
Not anyone, but some people can, and as mr internet says, they get scared and look away. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:59:17 AM | This is one of the best questions that's been on here in a bit.....
I think, in some regards, just 'seeing' a person is what most would classify as that ever elusive 'soulmate' that most are trying to acquire......
I don't know that of all four relationships I ever had in my life, that one of them ever REALLY 'saw' me. I think one had a fairly close glimpse....I think the others saw what they wanted to see, but were not seeing ME. There were some pretty good reasons for this, which I really don't want to waste anymore time covering. It's been rather amazing to find out some of the 'illusions' or perceptions that people have conjured up in the past about who they thought I was. It's always been a real treat to blow their perceptions out of the water sometime later.
I'm still looking for the 'one' to see me though. And there are times I can visualize how such a scenario would go....how we might talk with each other.....or interact.....or live..... Maybe I'm living in a fantasy world. I didn't think it was that hard for somebody to 'see' me.....
Which is why I always remember what my pastor told me one time regarding that very subject..... He broke it down to one word, and what we're ALL looking for....
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Posted: 5/23/2008 2:51:24 AM | I am me all the time regardless.............take it or leave it.
Even my office assistant tells me that I am the exact same on the puter talking with someone as I am in real life.
I am okay with me and someone that is not okay with me is not what I want; it took me a long time to get where I am i.e. self confidence, strength, esteem, etc. etc.
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Posted: 5/23/2008 5:04:46 AM | Alas, most people are too busy looking for what they want, to stop and actually see what is in front of them.
so, if you want someone to truly see you, seek out the latter type of person. the one who is relaxed, not the one who is busy trying to find what they want that will excite them. find the one who can be excited by the search, who entertains themself so they don't desperately need to find something or someone to entertain them. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 6:06:01 AM | | yes i have had a wonderful who saw me for me but he didnt come from pof lol. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 6:28:47 AM | I am very lucky to have people in my life who “see” me for who I am. My family are great for that. I know a lot of people don’t get along with their family, sadly, but I am truly grateful that I do.
My brother, I would say, out of them all gets me and “sees” me best…funnily enough, he is blind like me.
Yes, I like to joke about the word “see” when I find no problem using it even though I can’t not do it literally. Others sometimes seem unsure of using it around me but it isn’t a problem.
My brother and I are 3 years apart but sometimes I would swear that we were born twins…that’s how well he seems to “see” me. He knows what I am thinking/feeling sometimes before I know myself. We are a lot different in many ways, but he gets me, sees me, understands, whatever word, it doesn’t change the outcome.
Now, I have found a few really great “blind” friends that seem to “see” me better than anyone sighted. I am lucky to have them, plus a few good sighted friends who have always seen me as I am.
Now, speaking of dating and relationships, I have found it difficult in my experience to find someone who is really able to “see” me for me when they first have to “see” past my blindness. It is a barrier which I understand is hard to pass but obviously, if I had given up on ever finding that one person who could “see” past that and really “see” me, I wouldn’t be here. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 6:38:08 AM | My current b/f 'sees' me; although it defies reason, seemingly he saw me right from the start.
It is one of the most compelling experiences in being with someone - very powerful.
I think, in most cases, we aren't willing to 'see' people. Perhaps it is because our minds overwrite what is in front of us - either adding what we would prefer or find easier, or ignoring or distorting what we'd find difficult. It is our fear and convenience and hope that gets in the way of allowing people to "show up" exactly how they are, and seeing them for who they are, really.
The reason it is so powerful goes back to our core need as a human being in being Understood and Accepted.
At least, that's what it looks like to me. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 6:59:45 AM | have you ever had someone who just sees you??? I mean really sees you.........I'd go through all that all over again if I knew eventually I'd get to that...
There are guys who can treat a woman as if she were the only woman on Earth. The problem is that they can do this repeatedly, with limitless numbers of vulnerable women.
Be careful out there. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 7:01:40 AM | There was a point in my long gone marriage where my ex saw me and we connected. Unfortunately that person became something else and what you saw then were the assumptions, mirrors and distortions of the person you think you were with. It took years to see that the illusion was a distortion.
My girlfriend now, a person who split with me 3 times already, a person with whom I've had glorious times and difficult times, but more than anything true times is someone that can see me and I can see her. We see the fabric of our emotions in our eyes, our lips, our expressions. When I look into her eyes I can clearly see that she loves me with all her heart. It is an incredible emotion to see and to feel someone love you with such depth, with such clarity, with such emotion. I think it is even more powerful than you loving that person, even when you do love them. The power of that reciprocity is so ferocious that you can not help but give it back, inundate her consciousness, every pore of her being and see into each other. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 7:23:23 AM | Actually..like one other person on here mentioned...one person in my life that I really believe "sees me" or gets me...is not a boyfriend, but a male very close/best friend. He's seen me through good and bad, through my vulnerabilities etc. (btw...any NE PA girls..looking for a great guy...he's actually on here...hehehe)
I think other times in the past..."seeing" someone...in some ways...sadly enough...can be used against us...if it is by people that are more callous than we originally realized..or more narcissistic. If we happen to be the type that are very forgiving, or have a big heart...etc...I think this can be used against us..if they "see" and know this...and...we let them. (that being the key as well). | |
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