| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 3:55:51 PM | So, you've messaged just about every girl within reasonable driving distance that you were interested in, some you might be interested, and a couple that you weren't interested in but thought that something you've not considered before might be worthwhile. You've gone out on a few dates with some of them, maybe even had a short-lived relationship. But in the end you didn't meet that particular someone, or even close to it. What options do you have left?
A) Delete your profile, you're done with this site. Maybe remake it in a few months.
B) Go back to the females who didn't talk to you/reject you and hope they don't remember you.
C) Other.
(Preferably answer only in retrospect to online dating. Yes, I know there is a real world out there to meet people, and it is in use as well). | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:05:23 PM | You could also redo your profile. If your photos and profile do not seem to be working then you can add new phots and rewrite your profile before you do something drastic like email the same people who were not interested before or delete you account or you could email ladies that are a bit farther than you. Sometimes one cannot find love 10 minutes away but maybe 2 hours a way etc.
~Carrie | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:16:16 PM | Reasonable driving distance? Dude, your on the Internet, love is only a mouse click away. Don't limit yourself to 50 miles of your area. Be prepared to jump on a plane and spend a few nights in a hotel. See a new city. If the date sucks, at least you experience something new and interesting. If you both click, even better.
Chances are, even local women won't want to meet up with you, so if you have to travel half way across the country or continent, it's well worth your time, effort and money.
Plane rides are fun. I love airports, the smell of coffee and jet fuel...Mmmmm...I lvoe that smell, not sure why, cause I don't drink either coffee or kerosene. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:19:27 PM | This is going to make me sound like such a kid....
I'm 19. Only have one year of college under my belt. I've only got $6 bucks to my name. Would travel if I could. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:26:10 PM | What you do is start hanging out on the forums, and stop giving a sh!t about using this site for it intended purpose LOL
Don't worry about having a girl on your arm. You are only a 19 yr old college student (I won't refer to you as a kid, I still get referred to as boy, so I don't have much say haha). But there's a whole world outside of the internet to meet people in. Given you are in college, I'm sure there are plenty of chances to meet women. Have you walked up to everyone of them also and introduced yourself? If you can't find a current match, take a break from searching, and find something else to do to occupy your time :D
Cheers and good luck whatever your choice. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:30:28 PM | At 19 and being in school I can understand not being able to travel via plane but what about an hour drive in a car? That is not that far and you guys could take turns driving to meet each other so the cost of gas would not be that much, really.
Or maybe if you are in school, you can meet a girl that way...
All the best,
~Carrie | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:30:50 PM |
So, you've messaged just about every girl within reasonable driving distance that you were interested in
Start looking farther. I did, and I got a response from someone pretty quickly who seems interesting. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:33:10 PM | The answer is simple:
Just do the same as you would anywhere else!
In a bar, if you use pick up lines that aren't getting you anywhere, I am sure that you would bound to leave there or change your way of getting a girl's attention.
Similarly, if there are no matches for you here, I am sure that you can change the controllable variable to see what kind of results will take place. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:38:31 PM | | how about a total different one and just keep the profile you have...change it how you want to then continue the hunt...and if your broke well then stay within your area and if a woman wants to meet you long distance i guess she'll have to do the traveling till you can afford to do so | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:39:29 PM | Your 19, have 6 bucks to your name, and you are in college, OR just have one year of it behind you, and are wondering around your mum and dads house bored?
If the 2nd for schooling is the case, get back into school, find yourself a part time job so you can add just a little more excitement to your life, and then suppliment your dating world by ohhh I don't know, going to the places where other peeps your own age kick it.
I can see the plight of not dating to far, as I too at my OLD age am in college, and even though I have maybe more than 6 dollars, ok 7$, LOL, I too have one of a few choices, put my nose in the books, and don't worry to much about the moment of finding the love of my life... After all I don't exactly have time.
I take classes on line, so that does inhibit some of the activities one might have if they go to an actual college that has an actual cafeteria, and student study hall.
You are 19, and believe me the clock has a LONG way to go before you are tossed into the undatable file... Give yourself a fighting chance by getting an education, and just get out and enjoy yourself with friends...
Good luck... | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:46:19 PM |
I'm 19. Only have one year of college under my belt. I've only got $6 bucks to my name. Would travel if I could
6 bucks won't get you very far unfortunately.
Your in school, whats the problem again? That is probaly the best place on the planet to meet women. It's a frequent environment, your not drunk, common interests and complaints, etc, etc, etc...
I wish I could go back to school, if not to learn, just to socialize. 
College is even better than high school, you don't have the same teen drama. Avoid girls in your class maybe, just find that cute girl in the library and say hi. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:53:26 PM | Redo your profile if attention over you is not enough, upload differents pics, make your list of interest more atractive to regular females activities, expand your age, distance, location range selection, get involve in social activities that drawn people, get into clubs for social interaction, increase your friend's network... among others.
If nothing works, jack off until you can't walk.
(I have a son of your age, no pun intended) | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:54:28 PM | OHhhh do I remember being 19. I had a job at the mall selling shoes for Endicott Johnson)(like a Kinneys or Thom McCann). I knew EVERY girl that worked in the mall, except those in the anchors. On my breaks I would walk the halls and stop and say hi to one or two. I only dated 2 of them, and I never had more than $50 to my name.
Don't let yourself be restricted to the net. Don't let your age or income stop you.
Don't be afraid to talk to a real live girl face to face. It won't hurt. Who knows? She might even want to talk to YOU. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:57:45 PM |
If nothing works, jack off until you can't walk.
Great advice. 
I don't think excessive masterbation would affect your ability to walk though...apparently it does make you go blind temporarily though. Isn't that what the bible teaches you? No wonder preists are such pedophiles.  | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:00:07 PM | My possibilities suck! I moved from a great area to a dirt road....forums, forums, forums. I do have a guy that really excites me when I see new mail from him but damn those miles!
Have you tried masturbating while looking at the profile yet? | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:11:42 PM |
This is going to make me sound like such a kid....
I'm 19. Only have one year of college under my belt. I've only got $6 bucks to my name. Would travel if I could.
First of all, if you're not still in school, go back! It'll be the best thing you've ever done for yourself. If you are still in school, then finding a nice girl shouldn't be that hard at all! CB is right when he says that school is the BEST place to find chicks! (Not that I ever picked up chicks at my school. But I was a chick at school, once.) It's easy to find someone who is interested in the same things as you, as you'll probably take similar classes. Form a study group, or even just invite some classmates out on a Friday night to hang out or something.
For the record, $6 is enough to get a couple ice cream cones, and the weather is lovely, these days! | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:23:55 PM | There's lots dating who have your similar concern, OP. And it appears that you have been trying. In that, you have messaged and gone out with girls that while at first you thought might not be quite intersted in. You gave it a chance.
I'd go with "C" - other. Just hang out, bide your time, new people come on here every day, just relax.....come and hang out with us here on the forums while you are awaiting more to be added to the "pond", like I said more join dating sites every minute of every day. Someone pops up when you least expect it.
Just being 19, in college, only having 6 bucks, there'll be no long excursions out of your area. Best thing for your online dating.......bide your time, keep checking your area is all I can say.
Chances are, even local women won't want to meet up with you, so if you have to travel half way across the country or continent, it's well worth your time, effort and money. ~wonders if older Canadian men think the way CB does~ Hmmm.
Plane rides are fun. I love airports, the smell of coffee and jet fuel...Mmmmm...I lvoe that smell, not sure why, cause I don't drink either coffee or kerosene. You went out last night, didn't ya CB?
OP - CB sometimes takes tumbles down staircases and then goes on posting frenzies. Most time, he comes up with some good stuff..........except when doing the above | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 5:55:48 PM |
What you do is start hanging out on the forums, and stop giving a sh!t about using this site for it intended purpose
nocatchy said it right there......if you're not able to find anyone via email then let someone be interested in your words. believe it or not, profiles being clicked on by others aren't just those sitting in the pof matches in your inbox, they're also words of interests mentioned in the forums.
oh and btw, you're only 19....wait until you're 39 before you start complaining about travel distance. you're young and eventually gonna be able to find someone your age and in your area but until then......post away!
@cb.....when are you going to jump ship and swim stateside? some parts of the usa is only a few hours drive. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:19:19 PM | First, congrats on keeping yourself to driving distance. When you're broke,you're broke. No sense going into debt just to deny reality.
The definition of insanity, is to do the same thing over and over, yet expect a different result. You've tried the women you wanted, it didn't work. Invest in more fertile ground, BUT come back here a few months from now (like, when the college kids return, etc) and see how things have changed...if they do.
If the women you tried, don't remember you...its b/c you didn't make much of an impression  Women here seem to remember very well, according to their posts. Stop banging your head against the wall, and seek more fertile ground to invest in. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:31:51 PM | | Your in college? Isn't that like full of single women your age...??? Honestly start looking at the school. Find someone in a class to exchange emails in case your absent...or to get notes, or to study or do a group project...college is the perfect place to meet people your age. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:44:33 PM | your on the Internet, love is only a mouse click away. Don't limit yourself to 50 miles of your area. Be prepared to jump on a plane and spend a few nights in a hotel. See a new city
The problem with this is that in order to build a relationship you need to date. In order to date you actually need to spend time with each other in real life. How are you supposed to date someone if they live so far away that you have to get on a plane to get there?
Not all of us have the funds to get a plane ticket every weekend and pay for hotels 2 nights out of every week. Seeing someone you are just recently dating any less then once a week is pointless. That is no way to build a relationship with someone.
Even if you actually do make enough money to buy a plane ticket every weekend and pay for hotels ,then eventually one of you is going to have to move. A long distance relationship can't go on forever. So who moves when both of you has ties to your community?
I have a good job but no way can I afford over 500 dollars in plane tickets and hotels every weekend. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:12:54 PM |
You went out last night, didn't ya CB
I did indeed. I got juiced, but I didn't drink coffee or kerosene.
The problem with this is that in order to build a relationship you need to date. In order to date you actually need to spend time with each other in real life. How are you supposed to date someone if they live so far away that you have to get on a plane to get there?
My old man works for an major airline so I fly pretty cheap, albeit standby.
Secondly, I'm legally self employed, at least according to the taxes I file. If I travel, I can write some of it off, so it makes travel a little more cost effective.
Not all of us have the funds to get a plane ticket every weekend and pay for hotels 2 nights out of every week. Seeing someone you are just recently dating any less then once a week is pointless. That is no way to build a relationship with someone.
Every week would get expensive, I agree. I have nothing holding me back, except friends and family and they've all shafted me for love at one point or another. **stards. LOL
Even if you actually do make enough money to buy a plane ticket every weekend and pay for hotels ,then eventually one of you is going to have to move. A long distance relationship can't go on forever. So who moves when both of you has ties to your community?
I work from home, I have a virtual/satellite office and no financial commitments other than credit card bills, etc. I could personally be relocated within a few days as I don't have much stuff other than my cat, computers and a bed.
I have a good job but no way can I afford over 500 dollars in plane tickets and hotels every weekend
I just did a quick search on priceline, orbitz, expedia. WOW. I guess fuel prices have really driven up the cost of regular air travel. I flew to Dallas only a few years ago and the entire 6 day adventure only cost me about $1,000 with the rental of a car to boot and hotel -- cheap hotel but it was nice enough for me.
Thankfully, standby passes are mucho cheaper. 
You could still keep an eye on seat sales on various airline websites, but they are usually only sold on a one-way basis so that would make logistics more complicated.
I guess I have it easy.  | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:15:26 PM | | Keep at it sweetie, and remember that sometimes what you "think" is your type, may not infact be..... keep your options open, chemistry is the key to success...... | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:45:33 PM | You're only 19, go for "A) Delete your profile, you're done with this site. Maybe remake it in a few months".
There's a lot more in life to think about than having a girlfriend at your age. Focus on what you want to be doing with your life for a while, grow up a bit (at 19 we all needed to) and your chances of meeting someone who is more than just a distraction increase significantly. At 19 I had my nose in a book, busy with my studies and I would think that this is true for many -- your pond will grow naturally as you get older. | |
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| When you've exhausted all possibilities...
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:58:55 PM | | I'm still in school too, I'm 21 and I know what you mean it can be tough meeting a girl in the real world, I get shy myself and just have trouble meeting girls, dunno what it is. I have the same problem as you bro I feel like I've emailed every girl of interest, and so many have seemed really compatible, and I don't even get replies, at least you get dates lol. And besides the cost of long distance dating, some of us kinda want someone around that they can physically meet up with (besides friends) if they're having a bad day or something, am I right? | |
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