| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 8:43:00 AM | I would love to hear some feedback on my profile. Besides the lack of photos (I do have private ones), what needs improvement? I haven't gotten as much response as I would have hoped. I understand that men are highly visual, so the lack of photo might play a part. But what else? Thanks | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 8:48:12 AM | Those *Dislikes* you have are not doing you any favors. They are making and pardon me for saying it, coming across as a ****. Profiles especially where we advertise ourselves should accentuate the *Positive*. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 8:50:05 AM | | I only meant them in a humorous way, not to sound contrary. But point well taken. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:07:01 AM | | by not having a pic you are probably doing your self a service not otherwise. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:09:36 AM | Seeing as you put all your effort into your interests I’m going to do the same. No pictures, no first date effort, no description about you, no pictures, and a generic description of assumed traits for the man of your dreams. Next.
We are visual people, both men and women! You live in a city of over 10 million people and yet you are afraid to post a picture? Are you ugly and ashamed? Are you smokin’ hot and fear the repercussions and the 100+ emails per day? Well either way this isn’t working for you so you need to make a decision about what it is you want from this site. Until then you will continue to get the poor responses you’ve gotten now.
I think this is the first profile where there are more words in the interest section than either the About Me or the First Date. Nice. For having a lengthy list you actually don’t go off on the tangent that most people with sizable lists do. You actually name realistic interests and not stupid quirks that you think people might find humourous, like “stepping on ketchup packets next to my window”. Good job! But this is the only real shining point of the profile. The rest pretty much sucks as outlined. Go to the Tips threads and scour them for information and then do a rewrite and come back! Good luck! | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:13:50 AM | Dear fellow socialist! Maybe you have so many interests that a guy won't know which ones are the most important to you. Since there are some that won't be of interest to him, he may feel that you won't see him as a good match. Or having any time for him. But now that you have a picture up, I doubt you will have any problems! | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:19:20 AM | | lol.. Yes, I do have man interests. And this is a shortlist... There were many more I wanted to add as well. Sigh.. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:19:21 AM | | Alright! Now you’ve gone and virtually multiplied your responses by about 20 just by adding a picture! I noticed a couple things from before though. You say prefer not to say for Do You Want Children. People will automatically assume the worst or whatever they want to hear. Also, you say you’re up for anything as long as it doesn’t include wings, spinach or corn on the cob but you like these foods. Why not exclude chili, Italian food, or anything with garlic for obvious reasons also. If you go out for dinner you can choose whatever you like… it doesn’t have to be any of these things! | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:22:00 AM | I was just trying to be funny (apparently not successfully). To be honest, I probably would eat those things.  | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:37:25 AM | by not having a pic you are probably doing your self a service not otherwise.
by the way that had nothing to do about what you look like. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:39:30 AM | Passionandsong: I'm confused. If that's not about what I look like, what is it about? I can change wording in my profile, but unfortunately can't do much about the way I look. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 9:55:59 AM | A little late here, so I missed the previous versions. Great job on the pics because you are obviously a good looking woman. Those alone should increase your inbox contents by multiples. Don't be askeerd to post a few more, though. Now that you've shown that you have a face, the headline could use an update.
Although your "about Me" is rather weak, it does portray you as quite approachable. The strength of your pictures more than makes up for it. I don't suggest any changes there.
On the "First Date" section, you're about halfway there. I actually like the first part about the foods that are a bad idea. Just end it on a positive note with something that you'd like to do with the guy that successfully passes the coffee shop meetup. All in all, I think you have some good things going and should already be seeing some responses. Very good job.
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| Mine please Posted: 5/26/2008 12:30:11 PM | | by not having a pic,men will be forced to actually read your profile before contacting you.they will have wanted to talk to you for your interests first.if you find that idea appealing then you have gone some ways to getting the right responses,if not more responses. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 6/15/2008 7:39:56 AM | | I have revamped my profile... Just looking for some feedback. Thanks in advance. | |
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| Mine please Posted: 6/22/2008 11:50:06 AM | Hi everyone - I guess ignore my previous post, as I am supposed to bump my old thread.
I have spent a lot of time trying to craft my profile, but apparently something is still lacking. I haven't gotten many messages (minus those of a sexual nature, which are never lacking). Deciding to be more proactive, I have messaged a couple of fellas that I thought I might be interested in - but no responses. I try and make my messages personal in a way that reflects the content of their profile. Anything I am missing? Am I giving off a certain vibe that I might not be aware of?
Thanks in advance! | |
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| Mine please Posted: 6/22/2008 12:06:27 PM |
Hi everyone! I decided to give POF a try and see what kind of people I might meet along the way. I am ultimately interested in a long term relationship, but cool new friends to hang out with are also a bonus.
I'd get rid of the above. Also, your sepia toned photos have got to go, along with the titles to your pictures-dump titles.
You are probably an awesome, fabulous woman but you come across as a party/sponge girl. Sponge as in you would do anything, go anywhere, no limits. That you just want to have 'fun'.
That's my 2 cents! | |
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| Mine please Posted: 6/22/2008 12:28:00 PM | Hi hgl, overall your profile is better than most, but I do have a few things for you to ponder.
I decided to give POF a try and see what kind of people I might meet along the way.
This line does nothing for you, and is obvious, because you are here. DELETE Every word should have a purpose, either to help him know you, or to help him know if you might like him. The above line does nothing toward the "goal".
My friends would describe me as laid back, easygoing, friendly, intelligent, funny, nice and outgoing. I have a very silly side to me, and I love to laugh - especially at myself.
This is about you, we don't care what your friends think, they are biased. It will be received better if you simply say "I am". The word intelligent is similar to the word funny, it is much better to SHOW than it is to TELL. I would suggest DELETING both of those words out of your self description.
I am looking to meet people who are honest, straightforward and earnest; someone with a good sense of humour who likes to have a good time; someone who is kind and socially conscious; someone who can have fun and who knows how to laugh at themselves.
The purpose of this section, is to point out what would make the man you seek UNIQUE. Some of the words you have used are what some of us call "assumed givens" and are totally meaningless for the intended purpose. The two worst examples are honest and kind. Do you know ANYONE looking for an unkind, dishonest, person? If everyone wants it, it can't be useful to help him know if you might like him. Your other descriptors are very good, and these "assumed givens" detract from the good ones. I would just loose them.
If there is anything more, just ask.
We know what to do. DELETE
I'm a pretty open person.
Move this to WHO you are.
First DateI would be up for any activity that will give us an opportunity to talk. I tend to talk a lot, but don't like to dominate the conversation.
This is rather obvious, therefore should go without saying. DELETE
Best wishes
OFCB | |
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| Mine please Posted: 6/22/2008 1:21:40 PM | | Thanks for all the suggestions... I have made changes accordingly. | |
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