| What makes a " I Must have him " for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:37:20 AM | | Specifically what makes a guy irresistable to you: Profile wise, in real life, ect. Details are a must. You have asked for it girls now you have it "our full undevided attention and interest in what you have to say" | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:44:25 AM | You are going to get 10 different responses from 10 different women...all based on our life experiences.
With that said, the most important "Must Have" is this:
Be yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin. Do not look to me for validation that you are a good person. Be a good person and know it. Have confidence in who you are.
This doesn't mean that if a rough patch hits, I won't be there for you. What it does mean is that I will not stroke your ego on a daily, or even hourly basis, to make sure you feel "loved".
If I care for you, there will be no doubt, because my actions will speak volumes.
Other than that, I am pretty flexible. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:29:46 AM | The ability to communicate openly, not just about the good but about the bad as well. Ask questions, seek answers. But talk now, don't walk away and forget the issue talk now.
Being confident but not conceited
Having compassion for others and not being self centered
The ability to be there to help, but the restraint to allow others to make their own mistakes and wait for it to be asked for
Accepting me flaws and all and not placing anyone on a pedestal - it is too far of a fall when things hit rough patches
and most of all - understand the difference between wanting to be in a persons life and needing to be. Miss me when I am not there, but don't smother by not allowing each person to be independent.
Oh yeah and a nice ass and beautiful eyes helps too! | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:38:49 AM | Shoot, the only time I get the "I must have him" feeling is when I'm feeling lusty!
A sense of humor is the most attractive and "relate-able" thing for me. If he can make me laugh a lot, he's in! Humor/laughter, like music, is a universal language that makes us feel closer to each other.
But the real substance is about his own passion. I want him to have a passion for something--be it politics, sports, the garden, his family, cooking---whatever, and I want him to relish it.
These are the things that bond and carry us from one day to the next. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:03:39 AM | I can't remember the last time I met or looked at anyone and thought to myself "I must have him".
Or maybe I just don't want to remember.
Selective memory is a wonderful thing. 
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Posted: 5/28/2008 6:30:16 AM | The last time I ever looked at a man and said "I must have him" (besides the lust thing, of course) was my ex. And he's got just about everything I look for, so I'll describe him.
Before I talked to him from across the room? Hot...sexy...cute...depending on the day...and here's the main thing. He had no idea how hot he was - no clue at all...which only made him way hotter. He was a longhair. Older than me but looked younger. Quiet, shy, tall (well for me)...really deep voice, beautiful forest green eyes, dimples.
Once I got to know him...he was a hard worker. Great father (not my kids), great friend, protective and polite. Confident about who he is and what he does but incredibly humble and modest. A great listener. An avid reader. Jack of all trades. A huge student of life. Loved to laugh, joke, enjoyed long talks over many pots of coffee. Awesome lover - totally selfless, attentive, slow, focused...very affectionate (yeah freaky at first but I got used to that part).
He cooks, cleans, takes his kids to extra curricular stuff, takes them shopping, to the doctor, dentist, PTA meetings, basically a mom and dad all at the same time.
Best of all, he was into me as much as I was into him - which closes the deal for me with a new guy. Always complimented me on how I looked, my personality, my independence, my intelligence - but only at genuine times when he felt he wanted to express it..it was never overkill. He allowed me to have my space and be me when I needed to. We were best friends (still are really), called each other anytime something happened good or bad in our lives.
Finally, we had a lot in common. I am a DJ, he was a soundguy, we both were workaholics and had at least two jobs...so we both got the club thing and know that type of environment, and we both worked day jobs and side jobs as well as part time nights/weekends. We both appreciated good music no matter what category it was, which we both had to do in order to enjoy our work.
Of course, this is all just what I like in a guy, and if I find all that again in one guy I may say "I must have him" - but I am one of a million women who like something different...I doubt you'll learn much from just me.
Oh...and his a$$ was phenominal! Haha | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:59:17 AM |
I have to agree with simplelady66 and laughinglibra. Both you ladies covered it all!
I have to agree too.
Especially seeing as it describes me nicely. 
*Shows off his cute butt*
*Ahem*
Anyway OP, as said, everyone has their preferences.
There's always general traits that a woman's going to look for in a man, like confidence, a sense of humor, respect, compassion, assertiveness, etc...
But that's basically the same thing a man's going to look for in a woman.
It's the basics that help make someone a good person.
Beyond that... it's all down to personal preference. Blondes or brunettes? Which work better for you? Same difference. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:08:07 AM | Hmmmm......Their overall aura, sense of humor, values, how you feel in their presence, passion about life, and someone that when you think of them puts a smile on your face!
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:52:22 AM | Do people really think in terms of "having" when it come to other people?
Perhaps the OP is asking what would make someone irresistibly attractive?
Trouble is, I think strong attraction is NOT just a reaction, it's an interaction that must be fed by both sides. A crush is different: just the illusion of attraction based on a response to seeing something in the other person and I think that those who are not psycho-stalkers do know the difference.
Strong attraction, irresistibility is the crescendo that builds up between two who are in an increasing harmony of mutual attraction. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:56:22 AM | this is how i feel about my ups guy at work. its not the uniform!!! its the fact that when he comes in.. we grin at each other... stumble on our words... he's always askin for me...
its the suttle way his awkward lil dance around me makes me feel totally wanted.
if only the man would grow some and ask me out. geez. becuase... i'm a total pansy!!!
but yeah... an I must have him moment would be a guy who can quote more movies than me.
Thats just damned hot.
i love me some nerdy man!
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:22:16 AM | If he is holding a pair of those new "flower heel" Prada shoes. A Must Have!!!
I am gonna go on a limb and predict that ~Myth~ will disagree with me... BOB in one hand and a pack of batteries in the other will be her pick, methinks.
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:30:37 AM | I'm with Rune on this one.
There is no "must have" that is a size one fits all. And that really awesome lust feeling I only find with someone I"m already dating. And it's always a mix of the outside and inside of him.
Be yourself and you will then find someone who wants you and loves you for who you really are.
K | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:50:19 AM | I've seen plenty of 'must not have' threads - this is a nice alternative. I agree with 'confident but not conceited'.
I think one of the most attractive qualities in a man is one who can handle adversity with grace. As for detail - how about examples? When I first met my SO there were two situations where I literally thought 'I must have him'! First was our first date - he left his sunroof open and it rained - hard. We came outside and his car interior was soaked! I thought 'uh oh, here we go' (that would have turned my ex into an instant a$$-hole). He said something like 'I can't believe I did that' went back inside (we were at his friend's house) and borrowed some towels. We dried off the seats and all was well. Our very next date, we were at a very nice restaurant, and he knocked a full glass of red wine over on his pants! (No, he's not a clutz, he may have been nervous, or just trying to get me back to his place ;-) Rather than launch into a tiraid, he laughed it off. We got some club soda - and headed back to his place so he could change. (Come to think of it, while it may not have turned out the way he planned... it was a pretty smooth move - take note fellas ;-) | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:08:56 AM | Must I have him forever? Cuz then my criteria change.
Basically, I like manly though pretty boys who are funny and intelligent. Or at least they think *I* am funny. And they have to think I am sexy, and let me know it.
I think the bottom line is how the woman feels in the company of that man--appreciated, desired, secure. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:38:31 AM | beautiful eyes is definatly a must...lol
a good sense of humour, confidence and independance. there's just gotta be a spark though sometimes.. | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:34:15 AM | | ^ That's just it! You can't "start doing" something. It has to be natural. That's what's attractive, not trying to impress anyone, but just being yourself and obviously enjoying your life. The hottest thing is a great looking guy who has no clue he's attractive (or at least doesn't act it) and treats everyone equally, old, young, cute, not so cute, men, women... a guy who is just confident, respectful, and FUN, without having to "try"! That's a "gotta have". | |
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| What makes a I Must have him for you?
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:35:21 PM | I haven't found a profile on here that has been like that for me.
What catches my eye?? What makes him desireable to me?? Tall, attractive, quiet confidence, intelligence, killer smile and beautiful eyes, nice build, hands, shoulders, arms... knows how to carry on a conversation, can flirt easily, understands and is able to be subtle, can tell a good joke, knows how to be naughty when it's the right time, get's my sarcastic sense of humour... is comfortable in his own skin... so many things.. | |
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