| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 1:58:34 PM | I got to know this one guy a few years back and well we hit it off on the phone and on msn, we met for coffee and we had a great time talking and getting to know one another. the first contact was stricly friendly, a lil flirty here and there but on the whole friendly.
We arranged for a second and a third and a fourth date, all went the same as before. Friendly! now dont get me wrong, i did enjoy his company and i do want his friendship but he didnt do anything beyond that. I sent out signals and flirted alot (sorry im not the type to jump in a guys lap and stick my tongue down his throat - i was raised with class). My flirting is sweet, not raunchy. he never once tried to make a move on me, not that i wanted a move made on the first date but after 4 dates, i really liked this guy, and woulndt have minded takeing it further.
Now i have seen his profile on another site and its basicly a sex wanted profile.
So what i am asking is :
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women? | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:06:30 PM | He probably wasn't attracted to you but went on dates because he liked your company or had nothing better to do (sound familiar girls?).
Also, what are your signals? Smiling, touching, laughing at dumb jokes, are probably good starts. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:10:21 PM |
Now i have seen his profile on another site and its basicly a sex wanted profile.
I think THIS explains it fully dont you, sweety | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:17:12 PM | [quote="My Angel Eyes"]* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?Yes, they do. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:17:45 PM | Don't expect everyone to notice signals & light flirting. Many (some women would say all of us) guys are morons.
With his other profile it's obvious he knows what he wants - he might just not have thought you wanted it too. Next time, instead of being all coy about it, say "I really like you, and I wouldn't mind if we went farther." or whatever's going on in your head. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:22:56 PM | | I know in my experiance. iv been on a date with a few girls and i didnt actually pick up any flirts... then found out later they APPARENTLY they where trying to flirt a bunch with me... i dont know if its just me, but i have a feeling alot of the time the way a women flirts, us guys dont pick up on it. Due to it being so suddle. We guys think differently, a woman could say something in a flirty way.. but if the tone of voice isnt there.. we might not see it.. or we might see it but be unsure of it, because of the context you put it in... Make sence? | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:26:48 PM | Maybe he's looking for both. It could be that a long term thing is what he's ultimately looking for and he could be trying to get that with you but before he found you he might have been looking for a casual thing just to fill his needs I guess.
I don't like using analogies but it could be he was looking for different fish in the two ponds, this site to find a long term and the other site to find his not so long term and you were never meant to see both.
Edit: Sorry misunderstood a little, didn't realize the first meet was a few years ago and now he's looking for the fling, my bad. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:29:33 PM |
do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
I can't pee when someone's staring at me. Does that count? 
Could be he sees you as a something more serious and doesn't want to ruin it by being too pushy.
If you want to step it up, maybe you need to be more overt with your flirting. What's your idea of flirting? Some guys don't pick up on subtle flirts very well. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:31:33 PM | did that all and then some.
And as to being subtle well , i guess i was. - i am not about to whip my top off and give him a face full. So yea.... i was subtle. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:40:44 PM | | Excellent suggestion. You should try that the next time one comes along & doesn't notice anything you're doing after several dates. Only if you'd have went that far if he did the moves of course. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:43:08 PM | These posts are totally fun to read! Is the guy on the sex site really what you'd want anyway for a relationship...since you were raised to be a classy lady  | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:43:44 PM | | I don't get it. Are you complaining or wondering why he didn't go further? Would you have liked for him to make a move? Are you feeling left out because he didn't? | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:50:30 PM |
So what i am asking is :
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
Never, us guys, we always do what we say! We ALWAYS live up to the hype!
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
Never, ever ever! Why would I ever get shy...I'd have to be a robot or something because it's definitely not human!
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
Nope, all my supermodel girlfriends, have to be super smart.
Seriously though, long and the short of it. Some people I have as friends...some people I'd have as friends with benefits, but nothing more...some people I want to have a relationship with. I'm just one guy though, opinions may vary. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:53:43 PM | Maybe the guy was sexually insecure, and My Angel Eyes was one of the people whom he dated in order to reach the level of confidence necessary to look for sex on the internet.  | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:27:17 PM |
And as to being subtle well , i guess i was. - i am not about to whip my top off and give him a face full. So yea.... i was subtle.
Hmm, maybe you should try that next time. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:38:29 PM | I'm assuming no kissing yet....
And as to being subtle well , i guess i was. - i am not about to whip my top off and give him a face full. So yea.... i was subtle.
No, you don't have to go that far.....slightly less subtle would be touching. For instance, lightly touching his hands or arms while you're engaged in conversation with him.
When you're out to dinner, sit next to him instead of across. That's a very intimate gesture.
When you're talking together, speak softly so he has to lean in to hear you. That will set it up for you to initiate a kiss.
When you're walking, grab his hand and walk very close. Again, another intimate gesture.
If none of those work, then I guess you will have to whip that top off. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:41:47 PM |
When you're out to dinner, sit next to him instead of across. That's a very intimate gesture.
Don't do that one. It's creepy/strange | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:41:29 PM | * do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
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Posted: 5/30/2008 4:35:24 PM | I'm only going to speak for this one....
Yes....we DO get stage fright....or shy.....or whatever.....
The reason is pretty much the same as it would be for you women. Is the person that we're looking at flirting because they like something about ME??? Or are they flirting because they're simply a FLIRT.....
Both men and women have certain types among them.... Each sex has their own 'playas', and those that aren't. The trick is to figure out which amongst either sex is WHAT....
But because there are now so MANY people who want to be playas, the person being flirted with now pretty much just doesn't take ANYBODY seriously anymore when a flirt is sent their way.... The FLIRT is going to get bored with the specific PREY pretty soon and just move on.....
It's even worse if the FLIRT spends juuuuuuuuust enough time to bring the defenses down of the receiver, who then might start actually responding back and then becoming vulnerable.....
But the FLIRTS mission is to just see how long it takes.... It's TRULY a GAME..... Once the person lays down their defenses....the flirt has won....that is ALL they're looking for...to win. It might take one evening at a party.... It might take a week of emails.....it might take a few dates..... but all the flirt wants to do is WIN......
So ones with the good intent ARE shy about it all..... They don't take anybody serious anymore.....
The only reason I could THINK as to why the guy put ads on another site for 'just sex' might be because he's not STUPID.... Guys, (AND GIRLS) will gladly take some sex until a relationship comes along....(some guys anyway....) I think the funniest part though is, I've learned that everybody is pretty much on ALL the sites. I see the same people, same faces, same bullchit, but thinking they'll get something different.....
just my opinion.... | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:38:40 PM |
So what i am asking is :
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
-Yes
-Definitely
-Not really. I don't expect the same things from every woman I meet because everyone is different, but my moral standards aren't too flexible. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:54:26 PM | | For starters, it sounds as though he wanted one thing from you and you didn't provide it, so he kept it friendly. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:04:20 PM | OP, it could have gone down like this:
He liked you, but couldn't tell if you were flirting with him or were just a flirt. In heartbroken despair, he sets up an account looking for just sex because he thinks that will help him get over you.
Ok, probably not. But it can happen and has been known to happen. Same guy -- different emotional places in life. | |
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