| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:41:55 PM | Always pondered on that one.....It would be interesting to find out what the men would do??????.....I for one would not mind if a man chose to take my last name...Historically women have always been the ones to change family names....Or better yet...men would you mind if a woman kept her family name? | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:57:15 PM | Bizarre question.....I think it would be kinda weird.
I am not comfortable with it...not sure why...call me formal or old fashion.... this coming from a woman who kept her name when she got married.
I did eventually hyphenate my name with his.
If I were to get remarried... I would seriously consider taking HIS name... I would not think of him taking mine.
in some cultures the children take the Mother's maiden name and their Father's can be added.
when a child is born in Canada, automatically the child takes the mother's name until the birth is properly registered and their is a choice whether to give the child the Father's surname.
in the Province of Quebec until sometime in the 90s.. women were not allowed to change their names to their husband's surname at the time of the marriage. This was part of the old French Civil law to protect a woman's rights and allow her to retain rights to her Family (her parents) property. Usually the property would only be passed on to the male in the family otherwise. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:29:27 PM | I went to school ( post graduate) with a gal from Quebec and she had a hyphenated name,... her maiden name was on the end and her husbands came first and she said that is they way it goes there. ( in the 80's anyhow)
I know a fellow who happily changed his last name when he married a friend of mine, his last name WAS Crook. LOL
In some countries maiden names are kept and then the name of the town the woman was born in is added in hyphenated form, helps to keep track of lineage.
I could care less one way or the other but I highly doubt should I marry again that I would change my name just way too much paperwork and it's even more hassles when travelling with children when the names don't match. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:29:42 PM | If I were living in a culture where it was the accepted/expected thing to do, I wouldn't have a problem with taking my wife's name.
But really, I don't think it's a necessary part of marriage either way. Does it mean yu love me more by taking my name? Not at all. All it does is make you a "Jones" when you are not a "Jones"
The only time it becomes an issue is when there are children involved. If I produced a child through marriage, I would expect that child to bear my name. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:44:40 PM | When I married the first time, I had to take his name, the law in Ontario (this was back in 1977)
required his permission to keep my maiden name. Couldn't wait to change it back,ASAP! Kept my
name with hubbie #2 & #3. (My 2 oldest sons have different last names, as a result). My last
husband OFFERED to take my name, when he discovered that I wasn't planning on taking his.
I suggested that we could have one kid with my name & one with his, but he wasn't comfortable
with that. So he took mine. All the kids except my 2nd son, all have my last name.
The marriage commissioner who married us, told me that she's known several other men in Squamish,
who have done this. I read a few years ago in the Province, according to statistics almost 50% of
Canadian women choose to keep their own names, nowadays.
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BTW, did you know that the dept.of Vital Statistics now has a system, for couples who can't decide
which surname to give their child? Some couple in the late 80's/ early 90's, couldn't agree, by the
time their son was 6, he'd had his name changed over 25 times & the parents were getting divorced!
ROFLMFAO!!
You'd think a couple would have enough sense to discuss these things BEFORE they ended up in bed
together, in the first place! Honestly!
Anyway, if they can't decide by the end of 30 days (you are supposed to register the birth within 30
days), they will register the child with a hypenated surname, in alphabetical order. Men used to have
the advantage, because they could register the child while the mother was still in the hospital. But
(with the exception of single mothers), both signatures are now required. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/30/2008 2:33:24 PM | | Personally at this stage of the game, being divorced and having to switch my name back and forth i'd prefer that both people kept their own surname. Unless his was a horrible one where he would WANT to take mine, he could. But my kids have a different surname than I do and i'm not having any more kids so it does't matter. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:35:55 PM | Not sure if this has been mentioned or not...recent conversation with a woman at the driver's license office....in Quebec woman are not allowed to change their last name, such as in marriage....
I am going thru a nightmare currently, attempting to prove who I am because I left the province for a year. Over the years they have changed their policy with respect to documentation/proof of identity...and although they know who I am because they gave me back my old driver license number they are now making me jump hoops JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN ! 
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/30/2008 9:55:05 PM | I still have my married name, didn't change it after the divorce for two reasons. To keep the family (kids) names unified with mine and second, the married name was much easier to spell. I doubt I would change it again.
I will never say never though, cuz I thought I would never marry!!!! | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/31/2008 9:22:21 PM | If I ever got married, I would probably keep my last name. I gave both kids my name instead of their dad's because I wanted them to have the same name as me.
Would seem hypocritical if I changed my name anyways, then the kids would not have the same last name as either parent.
If the future groom wanted to take my last name I think it would be totally cool. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:08:42 PM | | In both of my marriages my wife kept her name,and I kept mine as it should be.I also asked my wife if she wanted any of our children to have her last name too as that only seemed fair.The answer is NO ,I wouldn't change my name. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:51:30 PM | I wouldn't take her last name unless it was something ultra-cool like "Striker" or "Widowmaker" or "Dragonslayer". Maybe "Barbwire" is not so bad too.
Aside from that I think I'd have a tough time with my friends taking my wife's last name - they'd probably knock me out, put me in a dress, apply lipstick and nail polish, that kinda thing. Not to mention the not-so-masculine comments that would be thrown my way on a regular basis. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:15:39 PM | | I took my ex-wife's last name. I haven't changed back to my old last name, and don't think I will. If I change it again, it'll be to a new name that I'll never change again. My born last name as a child was just horrible. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/7/2008 6:33:36 PM | | My ex did a legal name change & took my last name after we got married. We had originally planned to keep our own surnames but several months into the marriage, he realized that everyone raved about my last name but didn't comment on his 'cause it was somewhat common. So a few months into the marriage, he asked how I felt about him taking my last name. It made life easier for us to have the same surname because others were able to to refer to us as Mr. & Mrs. After the divorce, my ex went back to his 'maiden' last name but the kids kept my surname because that's the name they've used all their lives. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/8/2008 10:49:09 AM | | Took the words right out of my mouth DTC. That said, I have 2 daughters and I would like for them to have the option of choosing there last name when they marry, and would wholeheartedly support any decision they make. Good topic | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/8/2008 12:02:52 PM | Since I live by the rule "I would never ask a woman to do anything I wouldn't do", I would have to say yes, I would change my name if it was important to her. This is especially true if she uttered the magic phrase: "You aint got the b***s".
My ex-wife changed her name to mine when we married and never changed it back afterwards until she re-married. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:23:26 PM | OP: Firstly, it needs to be pointed out that the "system" is not designed for men to be able to take their wives name. So this would need to change first - just to give it as an option.
Would I? No, I wouldn't.
Edit:
<div class='quote'>my ex went back to his 'maiden' last name
That's the funniest thing I've heard of today.
Thanks. | |
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| Men...Would you feel comfortable taking your wife's last NAME?
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:53:44 AM | I would If I had to, But since I don't I'd much like to continue being "William Turner" Yes I have the same as Orlando Bloom's Character in Pirates of the Caribbean.
Yet I would also like to bear Turner children some day. As for my wife and her becomming a Turner, it's her choice.
My uncle wanted to change his when he got married to my moms sister... She said no she thought it best he keep his.
and my friend's brother changed his last name legally to "Love" | |
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