| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:50:22 AM | | I broke up with my boyfriend because there was alot of things that we didnt see eye to eye with.But now his best friend is calling me and asking me to come over and hang out.I thought that was ok,so I did.Then the friend ask if we could go farther with the relationship!I like the guy but I dont really think my ex would be to happy and I dont want the ex to think we broke up because of the friend.I dont want anyone mad but I dont know anyway around it.What should I do? | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:57:37 AM | Those two guys are, likely, friends b/c they share values and beliefs. So, do you think you're just trading bodies for the same eventual scenario?
If you worry about what your ex thinks--or is gonna do when he finds out--then take the easy path out...and find someone else. you're attractive, so its not like its a problem :) take advantage, since you have it working for you, and avoid the potential problems by, well, simply avoiding the potential problems. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:58:34 AM | Stop going over his friends houses, all they want to do is pass you around now that your bf is done with you. Thats sure what it sounds like, and I don't think his friend means he wants to actually have anything but sex, no matter how he's wording it.
heres what to do, make new friends and find a new bf outside your circle. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:03:25 AM | guys pass chicks around... it happens. i'd stay clear of any "best friend" who wants to get with you, because obviously his morals are a little skewed to begin with, and you haven't even dated him yet. if he's the type of friend to go behind his "best friend's" back, what kind of boyfriend could he be. loyalty isn't his strong point. if you don't see any way around this situation, then you want to date the friend. and if that's the case, i don't see how its just a coincidence that you broke up with this one guy, and then started hanging out with his friend. obviously there's more to this story than you're letting on. either that, you're your dumb as nails and deserve what you get.
you're 21 years old, a single mom, and live in alabama... obviously you should probably quit it with the guys for a bit, go to college, and try to find a way out of your hick town. that's just my advice though. if you want to just sit around and worry about who you're going to breed with next, then do that... but you should really consider looking for more out of life than these scumbags. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:15:22 AM | The friend and I have always hung out,more than me and my ex.I think he is a good person I just never thought of him in this way till last night.People break up everyday because they dont get along.Just because we didnt doesnt meant that me and the friend wouldnt.It was just something I was thinking about this morning and ask for advise.Wowsad,how do you know I didnt go to college?Hick town as you call it is my home so you can kiss it where the sun dont shine!Breed with,do I look like a dog to you.If you wanted to say anything like this,why say anything at all.Its guys like you that give guys a bad rap!! | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:25:17 AM | | well don't think of him that way. you need to get a new circle of friends..none he knows. Don't make trouble where trouble isnt needed. playing wiht fire is never a good idea. that guy is really just gonna sex ya and nothing else. have a little more dignity for yourself. Why kind of firend would do that to his so called best friend? Does that man have the morals and dignity of the kind of man u would even want? | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:25:58 AM | your profile says that you didn't go to college. and if you don't want me to say breed, would you rather say conceive another child in a drunken sweat mistaken for love? and you have no idea how much of a bad rap i've given guys, but even if you did.. my advice is not only sensible, it's also truthful. you're sitting here at the ass crack of dawn, contemplating going out with your ex's best friend. this is an obviously bad decision, and you just don't see it. you wanted advice, and i gave you my 2 cents, which is all that any of us can do. i'm sorry if my advice wasn't what you wanted to hear, however, i do believe that there are more important things for you to worry about right now besides which friend of your ex's you're going to screw next. i mean maybe i'm wrong... maybe the type of guy who would do his best friend's most recent ex is a good, wholesome, moral person who has nothing but the best interests of everybody around him at heart, but i highly doubt that.
so i'll revise my advice, because you have already decided to do this... you just want random, unknown people to "okay" it.. so it's okay. it's a great decision. it's probably the best decision you've ever made in your life. screwing your ex's best friend is THE most sensible, sensitive, and morally just thing you could possibly do at this point in your life. is that what you wanted to hear?
.....i give guys a bad rap... i'm not the chick going around screwing ex's friends. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:29:42 AM | | OP, how would you feel if your ex wanted to have a romantic relationship with your best friend? If in fact, they'd been hanging out together and digging each other while he was still with you...how would you feel? How would you feel if they went behind your back and saw each other on the sly, with no regard for how you'd feel about it? | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:42:13 AM | | My profile doesnt say I went to college or I didnt.I dont think I should tell my whole life story on here.We all hung out together.Im not looking for someoe to say its ok.Plus I never even slept with the guy,so why even think of that?I have had no problems with my exs dating my friends,hell if they are happy together then fine.I have always thought the guy was cool but never looked at him in this way.I dont want trouble but if two people like eachother then I guess we should talk it out with the ex and see if there will be drama and if so then i would be wise to stay friends.I just needed advise on how to hadle this not about my college or breeding! | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:47:47 AM |
if he's the type of friend to go behind his "best friend's" back, what kind of boyfriend could he be
I believe you are missing something here...she said ex-boyfriend, not boyfriend. So, why is this "going behind his best friend's back?" He may have already asked the best friend if he had a problem with him dated his ex. It is none of the ex-boyfriend's business who she dates now.
One other thing, wowsad...your low class comment about the OP living in a hicktown in Alabama is totally uncalled for. You have probably never been to Alabama, and you are obviously a very narrow minded individual. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:50:58 AM | Hey...
You are a pretty girl...you will have no problems finding another guy to go out with...
From someone who is older and been through more, trust me on this one....quit it and move on...you don't need that added drama in your life.
M. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:52:16 AM | if he's the type of friend to go behind his "best friend's" back, what kind of boyfriend could he be
I belive that statement was for the friend not the ex boyfirend. anyway i agree with the statement. if he is the type of firend to want to sleep with her then he is no friend at all and what kind of boyfriend would he make. not a very good one. my suggestion is dont bother with him. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:02:26 AM | Well yes all of these statements are true so i guess it would be a bad idea.I really dont know what I was thinking.I can always be friends with him still and chill with him so thats good.Thanks snuggle and everyone else other than wowsad.Oh and wowsad come on down to alabama Ill show yall how backwoods hicks do it to rude people | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:14:45 AM | Yeah I think you made the right choice there hun... best mates are off limits... like majorly...
On another note I actually liked wowsad's post... i thought he was giving a very honest opinion... which he is entitled to :P | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:20:56 AM | Although I disagree with all of the rude remarks Wowsad said, I do agree with this:
i'd stay clear of any "best friend" who wants to get with you, because obviously his morals are a little skewed to begin with, and you haven't even dated him yet. if he's the type of friend to go behind his "best friend's" back, what kind of boyfriend could he be. loyalty isn't his strong point.
I honestly didn't know that guys had this rule, but for most of us women we have a rule that you don't date your best friend's ex. It's just a boundary that you do not cross. And as Wowsad said, if he can't be loyal to his best friend, how can he be loyal to you? | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:23:50 AM | yes people do have there own opinions but when it comes to says something about my schooling and breeding and calling alabama a hick town that is another thin.I think if you are going to coment on something,stick to the question and dnt be rude about it. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:52:18 AM | lots of ppl on here gonna say.. "dont do it" etc..
cuz you're getting some (you know what i mean)
i say.. if you like him.. and hes a good guy.. do it.
cuz he would of done the same to you. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:05:42 AM | | excuse me hudson you are crazy. I am not lesbian and I highly doubt the others are either. but dream on will ya. and jsut because he might do it does not mean she needs to lower herself to his level. your level too obviously. Do me a favor and speak for you and you only. OP don't listen to hudson..he speaks like a natural born 100 percent true loser. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:04:24 AM | | OP- When I was younger friends were switching girl friends and boy friends all the time back and forth. Wouldn’t it be easier to call your ex and see if he is going to be a drama queen over the whole thing. He may have no problem with it at all, and in fact encourage it. Your ex and his best friend may have already talked about this already if their really best friends. When I was 22 I dated my best friends ex. I simply ask him if he was cool with it. His answer was go for it. You might be very surprised. Why pass up a possible good thing because your reading into the situation. Don't assume anything, find out where you stand. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:45:50 AM | | Ms. kitten.. lol.. you obviously feeling guilty about giving her negative feelings for you to reply on the lesbo connotation.. cuz i didnt say you were.. theres a well saying that goes.. if the shoe.. um.. oj did it. something like that. | |
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| Wanting to date ex boyfriends best friend?
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:54:58 AM | | I don't think it's an issue between you and the guy. This should be between him and your ex. Worry about what makes you happy, not what makes your ex happy... and maybe introduce the new guy to a new circle of friends because I think he'll be needing some new ones in the near future. | |
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