| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:26:59 AM | as the subject i have a friend who is 36 years old i am 21 years old .. i take him as my good friend and business partner .. but he told me he is falling in love with me he wants me to be his wife .. but i dont want to .. andi have told him i dont want a husband at the moment and he is not my type ..
but he still keep asking me to be his wife .. .. what can i do to let him forget it and i wont loose this friend ? | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:34:08 AM | Sorry he does not see you as a friend--been there done that got the t-shirt...
He is not your friend--if he was he wouldn't harass you--so cut him out of your life-or be harassed--he won't stop--it will only get worse.....when someone doesn't take no for an answer---run as fast as you can in the other direction...they are fuked up people. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:38:19 AM | he told me he can wait for me when i want him ..
i think the best way is go away from him after this last business ..
actually i am a bit afraid ..if i run away from him he will loose control and do something bad to me or my family .. coz i know him what kinda person he is .. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:43:31 AM | KIck him in the bollocks and tell him to stop crowding you and to stop being a freaky f**ker. These guys, really. They prey on someone younger and think all sorts of weird shit. If he keeps harrassing you, get some other friends to tell him so that he get the idea.
I also agree with message 2This better not get deleted. This happens more times than anyone dare or bother thinking about. | |
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| He will lose control and do something bad but I don't want to lose this friend?
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:03:56 PM | Something is very wrong here OP. Read your OWN words and ask yourself exactly WHAT is preventing you from being more assertive with this guy. You call him a good friend and yet you are afraid of him. You don't want to be with him and and he is not hearing you judging by his offer to wait until you reconsider. Have you been upfront with him, or are you trying to spare his feelings because you work together? No means no, unless your inability to express your true feelings prevents you from spelling it out -
N O !
"i take him as my good friend and business partner .. but he told me he is falling in love with me he wants me to be his wife .. but i dont want to .. andi have told him i dont want a husband at the moment and he is not my type ..
but he still keep asking me to be his wife .. .. what can i do to let him forget it and i wont loose this friend ? actually i am a bit afraid ..if i run away from him he will loose control and do something bad to me or my family .. coz i know him what kinda person he is .." | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:11:04 PM |
actually i am a bit afraid ..if i run away from him he will loose control and do something bad to me or my family .. coz i know him what kinda person he is ..
Always be very afraid of anyone who won't take no for an answer. They are messed up mentally and will go to great lengths to be in your life.
I also agree with this
This happens more times than anyone dare or bother thinking about. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:23:45 PM | yup my headline is "i wanna say yes i do "
but not to him .. i told him i am not ready to get husband coz i want him to know that i dont need him i dont want him to think about relationship between us anymore .. | |
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| He will lose control and do something bad but I don't want to lose this friend?
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:30:40 PM | meg6
i have told him that he is too old to me and he is not my Mr right .
i just hope that he is my friend with business only that is it .nothing else
i am afraid of him that he might do something stupid if i just tell him straightly fu@k off......... i have tried to tell him nicely there is no chance i will be his wife .. but he feels that i will get touched one day by his caring to me | |
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| He will lose control and do something bad
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:46:52 PM | I agree this is disturbing!
If you know his family and circle of friends let them know the situation. He may have been telling them a different story. They may think he is having a relationship with you too.
The more people who know your point of view the better as he wont be able to manipulate the situation to his advantage. Many people who use these tactics, both men and women, are often control freaks who like to control every aspect of a relationship INCLUDING the relationships they make up in there own heads.
Be Safe | |
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| He will lose control and do something bad
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:47:28 PM | I agree this is disturbing!
If you know his family and circle of friends let them know the situation. He may have been telling them a different story. They may think he is having a relationship with you too.
The more people who know your point of view the better as he wont be able to manipulate the situation to his advantage. Many people who use these tactics, both men and women, are often control freaks who like to control every aspect of a relationship INCLUDING the relationships they make up in there own heads.
Be Safe | |
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| He will lose control and do something bad
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:03:33 PM | | Yes , he wants to scrumptious you , and do unmentionables to you and your huge back tattoo , he must be warned to save against you , , good luck !! | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:56:29 PM | My business partner fell in love with me and the business went down the drain. He could not hack being around me and not having me. He is not your friend.
You got to cut him loose or he will think you want him if you keep the friendship. I have been there and it can get ugly. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:42:58 PM | Thinking you've lost the friend unless he regains his sense and accepts that you don't want to pursue that kind of relationship.
Make sure your actions reflect your words in your denial. No "letting him down easy" to save his feelings and so on or he is likely to find a way to misinterpret this to mean that he will have a chance somehow. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:11:17 AM | He doesn't sound like he is a friend.
You've told him you aren't interested and not only does he not respect that but he's put you into the position where you are fearful that he will harm yourself and your family if you reject him more assertively.
Doesn't sound like any type of friend, sounds very scary... | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:43:11 AM | I'm sorry, that sounds awful.
To get him to lose interest, you may think of going on dates with numerous men and letting him find out. It'll reflect that you are interested in finding love, just not with him. If you're uninterested in cutting him loose completely, then all you can do is wait it out. If he's not insane, he will eventually give up hope. Especially if you find a great boyfriend while he's still waiting for you to "fall in love with him". If you've already told him his age is a problem and he's not your type, then he's chosen to ignore you because he thinks he knows better than you do.
In my opinion, he's not your friend. He's a guy who has chosen to be your "friend" in the hopes you'll eventually come around to his way of thinking. He'll likely bail once he finally comes to the realization that you'll never see him "that" way.
His age reflects he should know better and that it's understandable why someone 15 years his junior wouldn't be interested. I don't see 36 as old, but I certainly would if I were 21. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:50:56 AM | his age is one of the reasons i wont fall in love with him coz age is not just a number to me .. be honest i mind a man who is more than 10 years older than i am .
and i have told him that i cant accept a man who is much older than i am ..
i think i wont do any business with him after this last one.. then i will tell that i gotta travel all over the world so see him later years ..hopely he knows what i mean ..peace
btw there is nothing go with a big tattoo on my back .. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:13:31 PM | | Konichua (sp). Business and romance rarely mix well anyways, OP. You have to get as far away from him as fast as possible. Burn every bridge. Obliterate him from your life. Disappear. Do whatever it takes. | |
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| a man who is 36 years old is falling in love with me ..
Posted: 6/2/2008 5:04:30 PM | | TO TIGER SAN, GIRL YOU BETTER GET RID OF THAT GUY, TELL HIM, SAY I TOLD YOU IN A NICE WAY THAT IM NOT INTERESTED NOW, IF YOU KEEP ANNOYING ME I WILL CALL THE COPS, AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY, BUT IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOUR ENJOYING THIS FROM HIM,OTHERWISE YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO. DONT PLAY STUPIT. | |
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