| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:27:55 AM | | I'm in my mid twenties and lost my virginity a few weeks ago (I know, late starter). I was wondering how long it takes most people after their first time to get good at sex. I've done it three times since then and each time I always finish really quickly. Just wanted to know if that's something normal for the first few times of having sex. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:02:40 PM | I've known lots of women who have been with virgins right out of the gate. Some have told me the virgins are dynamite their first time. These women are not usually nice about critiquing men.
Meanwhile others have said they don't like men with little experience, because its like training a puppy. Their words, not mine. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:09:00 PM | | I applaud you for waiting so long to lose your virginity. There really is no time frame for getting good at having sex. Of course your quick and that's okay for your first few times. Just a couple tips. 1) Always take your time and please your woman cause if you're pleasing her she will definately please you. 2) Relax and enjoy yourself. 3) Practice, practice, practice. Have you had a BJ yet? If so, how did you like it? | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:04:44 PM | There are no dumb questions...just a few quirky answers in this topic. There is no statistic when a man or a woman reaches a expert level of sexual experience. All you have to do is what kareebaree wrote before. Just have fun, sex is more than just propagation of the species...it is a deeply personal experience for any person. Just relax, enjoy the sensations...it's the human experience. Enjoy your partner...communicate. After awhile you will develop your own technique and will last longer as well. We must first learn how to crawl before we run.  | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:21:55 PM | | Much like anything else in your life - it all comes together in the way you want it to - after you have attained experience! Take each perfect moment - with your partner - as a lesson into what you want to do for the next time you indulge! Just relax and enjoy - allow your body to take over! Quick or slow - there's always another time to try again! | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:40:08 PM | | chris, It took me awhile longer than most to lose my virginity too, but it wasn't for lack of effort on my behalf to "fill 'er up ...and out" for a few girls who thought they were good for the getting bad w/ me. It takes as long as you let it be ...and work to improve it at every opportunity and age. You'll know if she comes back for seconds, thirds, fourths... and happily losing score for the time and times w/ you. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:44:19 PM | | I am not aware of what the average early performance is, but mine was relatively good. Try treating masturbation as practice for sex, and rather than just trying to get off when doing it, learn to extend it and go to the edge of cumming without actually doing it, and so on. That might extend performance. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:49:27 PM | Don't equate 'time' with 'good.' I am sure there are plenty of bad lover who last much longer than their partners like. But that said... As you get used to having sex, especially on a regular basis, your stamina will increase. Try to think about anything but your partner if you have a problem lasting. Try counting to a hundred in Chinese or something. Anything to get your mind off of the sensations.
Jerk on off prior to meeting your partner as well. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:53:05 PM | | be patient grasshopper, it takes time and sometimes alot of effort to get it right, to get good at it depends on you, some people never do get good at it and some it comes natural., just look through the forums, lots of unsatisfied ladies around, and it is very important to satisfy them as well, it shouldnt be optional, | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:25:15 PM | | They say that practice makes perfect but if you really want to get good at it talk to women, pay attention to what they say and find out what their needs and likes are. You may never ever completely figure out a woman but you could try to understand what makes them tick a little better. You'll get there. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:48:07 PM | When you Share the experience...
Pleasing your partner is at Least as exciting as being pleased BY your partner..!!
When it gets to the point that you have to Debate about having _Another_ session...
..you're getting Close..!!
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:22:21 PM | I don't know how long is "fast" to you...be sure you don't have unrealistic expectations and check with your girl to be sure SHE wants you to go longer.
If you really are going off too fast, consider having a private session with yourself before the two of you get together. Or....you can have a "first course" with each other (having the kind of sex of your choice) followed by the main course and dessert if you have the energy! | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:11:10 PM | time doesn't make someone good, the person does. I have a guy that has a big...... and women complain all the time he has no passion.
I think for me if I'm in love with someone its pretty awesome. This argument that a girl has to have a ton of partners or guys has to have a ton of partners to be good is a joke. If your a dog and its just a physical act then maybe, but its meant to be a heck of a lot more. When and if people become mature enough to get that, then they will be good.
I personally dont want to sleep with a woman that has had a lot of hands on her. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:41:32 PM |
Try thinking about baseball......
LOL...haven't heard that one in a while.
Well done. Good advice.
OT: There is always room for improvement, I'm hoping it's a life long learning thing. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:01:55 PM | Op, I was a late bloomer just like you, it's scary at first, but when you meet that one person that just makes it worth the wait- it is phenomenal. I still remember it, he took the time to make sure it was something I did indeed want and I was sure, I was comfortable, that we were safe and that it was fun.
First of all, quality not quantity is prefered.
2nd... every woman is different. Women respond differently to different types of touches. Obviously the girl you are with, whether it be temporary or long term means something to you at this moment. Don't be satified on just pleasing yourself and seeing if you can go the distance.. being good at sex is about making sure both you and her are enjoying every aspect from that first kiss and touch to the last- OH my God -that was awesome.
3rd FOREPLAY!!! The best part is getting all heated up before the main event. drag it out because the more you tease and prolong the pleasure the better it will be in the end.
4th It takes a while to learn new techniques and positions, find out what is comfortable for you and her. Talk it out, whats is and is not working, uncomfortable, and try something else instead. Don't get discouraged.
There is alot of great advice in this thread. I'm even writing some of it down.
Good luck. :) | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:06:12 PM | Find yourself an older woman. When I was 20ish I dated a 40 yr old woman. I was a willing student.
But by and large, just listen and hope like hell you have a girl that will tell you want she wants. Each woman likes different things, so its mainly about experience.
As far as finishing too fast..that happens at your age. You may try masturbating before a date..should help and should knock down the testosterone for a few hours so you can carry on a conversation without staring at her breasts all night too :) | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:30:43 PM | What you've posted sounds absolutely normal.
All I would suggest is communication, communication, communication - what do you like? did that feel good? Those sort of corny questions that can get honest answers. Most people are just as good as their partners.. you know... you can make someone feel really good or not. Getting to know someone on an emotional level really counts towards a really good intimate relationship imo.
And ...... at your age, if you're finishing quick you are probably starting again pretty quick - always good in my book..... happy sexing.....!! | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:36:17 PM | Oh how I wish I was still in my twenties. Stamina during sex comes with practice, experience, and more importantly being selfless towards the woman during the act. I’m assuming that your dating a woman in her twenties also. Woman at that age take longer to reach climax, and if sex is very new to them may not orgasm until they learn how. Mastering Foreplay at a young age will make up for lack of stamina. If you are worried about climaxing too early before she gets even close, the mere thought of that adds even more anxiety to you and makes the situation even worse. Here is what you can do to build your confidence up. Have a clock near by and spend at least 30 minutes on oral. Your girlfriend is going to love me for this. This does not include the other foreplay of the touching and kissing and ect. Continue the foreplay until you feel her frustration with wanting you. When you actually start doing it, stop yourself well in advance prior to ejaculation and go back to the foreplay again. If you want to know how to do oral real good, do your ABCs with your tongue, then try the ABC’s starting with Z and going backwards to A. Do this, and you will begin to learn to control your sexual feelings, instead of them controlling you. Please don’t try any of the stamina enhancers at your age, there are sometimes health risks. Just practice, practice, practice!  | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:05:24 PM | Sex, Making Love, Booty Call, F*$%ing.... whatever you consider it....
It is all relative to you and the partner that you are with and your attitude about the moment and towards the person you are with.
The more you care, the better it gets. Listening or paying attention to your partners queue's no matter how suttle they are, and then responding to them with openess, will make it all the better for you both.
Slow and easy, fast and hard, doesn't matter... as long as you are not just there to get off, being there with that person, in that moment, will be better than the time before. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:08:14 AM |
I'm in my mid twenties and lost my virginity a few weeks ago (I know, late starter). I was wondering how long it takes most people after their first time to get good at sex. I've done it three times since then and each time I always finish really quickly. Just wanted to know if that's something normal for the first few times of having sex.
Don't worry about it too much. I'm not sure what is ``normal,'' but certainly the first few times are not going to be marathons. It's probably normal to finish quickly the first few times with each new partner until you're over the hill far enough to wish for such a ``problem'' again. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:41:33 AM |
Some are good right away, some suck all their lives.
Soooo true... so very true.
Everyone is dffierent and the learning curve can be quite steep. I was with one *newbie* who finished quickly the entire 3.5 yrs we were together, and was unwilling to listen or take instruction on how to best please me... 3.5 yrs, 3 orgasms for me (and only because *I* did them.. what can I say, I wasn't as comfortable/confident as I am now..). My ex was virgin pure before I got my hands on him and OMFG that man had it all worked out from the very beginning... in fact his control was to the extreme in that 45 min was a quickie for him!!!
As tron mentioned (hi friend!! ) use your solo sessions for practise. Bring yourself close several times before allowing yourself to climax. Most men program their bodies to be as fast as possible... fear of being caught I suppose. You have to deprogram your body now. Also, I'm not adverse to my partner saying.. "wow.. this is so good.. I want it to last a while longer so lets slow down/change things for a few minutes..".... then focus on HER for a bit before resuming all the good stuff.
Congratulations and good luck!! | |
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