| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:16:02 PM | OK, I am not complaining, I'm happy to say I actually do get mail.
But I'd like to know what other women may think in viewing my profile. I'm curious.
Lay it on me, I can take the critisim...good or bad. But be kind with the bad stuff will ya? ...If not, I shouldn't ask right?
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:38:21 PM | I would update your text to remove the "updates" and the several references to being in the back of the garage for two years. Anyone reading this is in present day.
And the "kinky" stuff...you might be best served to delete that, and save it for FTF or subsequent messages. (As far as I know, there are many kinds of "kinky," and yours might not match your potential nibblers. She might like to swing by her tail from a chandelier, while you prefer rollin' in alligator-laden swamps.) It's like saying "music" or "movies" or "concerts."
Your pics are nice.
No worries, I am not moving to Florida!
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:03:01 PM | Thank you Veloise. I sincerely appreciate your taking time to read it and for making your suggestions.
However, I put those words there on purpose. I know many woman have no interest in anything not considered the "norm" It's called being vanilla by many.
I do not wish to embarrases a lady or otherwise have her waste her time in writing me. I am painfully honest and want to attract a woman that might share in things outside the so called "norm" I am not looking for the masses of women to write only to have to tell them that we are not a match because.......
So thank you for your suggestions, but I think I will leave my truths in there.
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:52:28 PM | If not accepting your "kinky" side is a deal breaker, you need to give some hint as to what "kink" you prefer. It's a pretty wide range of activities. Since this is important, tastefully make reference to what exactly you mean. Branding? Coprophagia? CBT?
Some of the things you said could be best left out:
So let me be painfully open and honest... as novel as that might sound... Many ladies complain. They say that men can not... or will not be open and honest... Well this man knows no other way to be.
You've already stressed your honesty. This whole thing goes too far.
I am very aware that I am not good alone. No man is an island. He is not meant to live alone without someone to love.
I also know I am not, and can not be happy unless in a loving relationship with a partner that has the same need for love as I do.
Dude, this sounds lonely, sad, and needy. I'd be concerned you're an emotional limpet who can't manage on his own after reading this. It's one thing to WANT a loving relationship; it's quite another to be unable to find happiness at ALL without one.
In less then 4 years of being divorced, I discovered the hard way that the single life is very lonely empty and definitely not for me.
Again, this is depressed, and sounds as though you have not yet recovered from your past relationship(s). It makes it seems as though you just want a woman, any woman, to fill in the void for you.
You have quite a lot of unneccessary filler in your profile, which makes it go on about 1/3 too long. A lot of it is repetitive and some of it does nothing to advance your cause. Remove some of the "filler" and define this important "kink" of yours, and we can take a second look at the revision. | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:25:04 PM | Thanks Sue...really. I did not realize I came off as needy! yikes! Here I thought I was just tellin' it like it is. Nothing wrong with hating the single life.
Settle for just any woman? Hell no let me repeat that...HELL NO!
Couple of other points you made show me how we can say one thing and have others see it to mean something else.. I work on it.
As for naming the kinks...Hell, there is not enough room to list them all! LMAO (kidding) But I do not agree with being to specific. I did give some pretty open hints in the profile. If the lady I seek does not pick up on them , then she is not right for me. But again thanks.
NOTE: Already removed a couple of things
BTW, I loved reading you profile. You are a riot! Love it! | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:46:25 PM | As for naming the kinks.... But I do not agree with being to specific. I did give some pretty open hints in the profile. If the lady I seek does not pick up on them , then she is not right for me.
OK, let's all guess!
Has to do with cars?
Candles?
Chains and being tied up are mentioned (but not as often as cars)
Karaoke?
(this has been bugging me for the last several hours!) | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:29:54 AM | Losermagnet, (won't ask why that name)
How perceptive of you!
And what's with it with you Michigan women...?
The last love of my life is from Michigan and enjoys her life alone too! Loved me and all that, but could not make the commitment because her Independence was stifled with a man in the house. Moved down here after an on-line thing. Lasted with her here for 10 months. But packed it up and is not back in Michigan.
Don't think I'll be fishin' in anymore Michigan ponds! LMAO
And Sue....How in the world did you miss with all those hints?
Anyway, I had a lady message me off this board and made some suggestions too. I agreed with her and just got done removing the word "kinky" She said that can be perceived as perverted... Very bad connotation there! I do not like hiding who and what I am, but to much information before a woman might take the time to know me could stop woman from even writing!
I get enough mail from woman that simply did not read the profile and then I have to ask what they saw and liked. Usually, they over-looked the hints about my lifestyle choice. So now she feels embarrassed and I feel a little let down or bad that she even wrote. To many people do write and never really read the profiles I think. Probably more men then woman since us guys are so visual.
BTW, you are both attractive ladies. My compliments! | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:36:36 AM | To funny veloise!
OK, let's all guess!
Has to do with cars?
Candles?
Chains and being tied up are mentioned (but not as often as cars)
Karaoke?
Is cars a kink?...candles? karaoke? Hmmm? On second thought, I guess they could be... someone that likes to be tied up with chains in the back seat of a car and someone uses a candle to...oh never mind! LMAO
(this has been bugging me for the last several hours!)
See, this is part of the plan. Get women bugged so much that they have to write and ask!  | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:01:55 AM |
And what's with it with you Michigan women...?
The last love of my life is from Michigan ...
BTW, you are both attractive ladies. My compliments!
Pure Michigan (the state's tourist ad campaign) really should play up this angle, IMHO. Check out our governor, too.
Good luck, OP! | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:33:22 AM | To funny veloise. But me thinks I'm done with Michigan woman. Ya know, my ex used to joke about how fast us Florida men can go from one relationship to another and all of us want to rush things along. This was based on her hearing about a couple of friends of mine doing exactly that. Gee, I think I have to agree with her now. lol
Must be the heat down here and the cold up there. Does Michigan winters make all the woman cold? Uh oh! Better run now!
Anyway, I have made lots of changes to my profile if you care to look at it again for me. I toned it down some and removed some words. I think it's better now.
Thanks for your help!
Jim..the ex Michigan fan. | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/5/2008 6:15:20 AM | I have tweaked and edited my profile from the suggestions of those that were kind enough to review my profile earlier. I would appreciate it if all of you would look one more time and see if it appears better to you.
Also would like more opinions from others.
Thanks, Jim | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:44:22 AM | Jim, this is how my day at the computer gets lost. I obviously read something you recently posted in the forums...who knows which one, now. It prompted me to peruse your profile and, look at your other postings.
Now I'm here, with the opportunity to tell you HOW MUCH I LIKED YOUR PROFILE. Don't know what the latest additions are, but, seriously, I was just looking to find someplace in which to post advice to others to GO LOOK AT YOUR PROFILE....It can easily serve to motivate others who wish to be thoughtful, clever and show their humor.
And, this is coming from a Writer.....It's a job well done.
Just my thoughts.
Knittin Kitten | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:10:00 AM | Thank you very much Knitten Kitten.
Just yesterday I was in a conversation with a friend that took writing courses in college. She told me that her professor always said write as you speak. Pretend you can't talk. and speak in words from your heart or something like that. Wel, l I think I have always done that. Far from being a profesional writer, think that is where good writing comes from. So it's easy for me to write. To me, it's no different then talking. Well other then you can hit the delete key before sending. Wish I had that ability those times I saidsomething to someone and regret it moments after it came out! lol
Again, Thank you! | |
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| Ladies preferred, please... I'd like your honest opinions
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:50:49 PM | Jim:
I think the university professor was right....I've always done that, too. However, as an Editor, one of the most frustrating things is editing my own writing.
As far as regretting something you said moments after it came out...I can only suggest that you say, "I'm sorry" immediately and promise next time, to think before you speak? I'm always truthful, but there's no need to be rude. There's usually a gentle way of saying things and, sometimes I give them permission to say them.
Sincerely,
KK | |
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