| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:05:52 PM | I feel like i'm the only person in the world that has never been on a date and can't get one to save her life! Off-line- in the real world guys don't approach me now I found out that online guys won't approach me either. This is so weird. I'm not desperate by far I would just like to be interested in a guy and have one interested in me too.
I plan on just putting this whole desire for a mate out of my mind and deleting my account here but i'm just wondering if any has experienced this as well | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:07:19 PM | i could have written that post!
How do you start your relationships then? Do they all follow on from friendships? if so whats wrong with that?
(message is too short bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla bla) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 3:13:20 PM | How do i start my relationships? I don't.
Guys flirt and all but no one asks me out and some of them i find out were players...had g/f...was married...or was a *little* interested in me but not enough to do anything about it | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 3:16:46 PM | so you've ALWAYS been single?
never had a man in your life?
if a guys flirting with you why not take the initiative and ask him out? if he's flirting he's interested hun. 
(message too short again blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah) | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:51:14 PM | Wow first guy to answer.
Well lets see,
Education check
Job check
Car check
No children check
no drugs check
So far so good.
Anything that would make me want to message you? nope.
Your admittedly a BBW so personality is vary important to your quest and I don't see any of that in your profile except in your "first date" part and thats the best part of your profile.
But how many will read that far since the rest is so bland?
Also "Just ask" does not provide any ammunition for a good first message either.
Also ask the guys out, people have odd rule with internet etiquette and I know I cannot really form any connection over the net and quite a few other people can't either witch means he could be a "real man" but not care that much.
Sadly if you wait to long the chances of ever meeting go down the gutter.
Lastly your in "Hang out" that to me does not imply dating at all, perhaps you should be in the dating section? | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:58:27 PM | | You've nothing to gain at all by deleting your online POF profile. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:05:02 PM | May not exactly be you, it could just be that the guys in your search area are all the same, it could happen.
I would just hold out, you're liable to find someone for you eventually, now excuse me, back to my Rubik's cube, gotta beat 1:35 seconds completed. | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:11:34 PM | You have zero information in your profile, no photo, and have been a member for a total of 4 days.
What exactly did you expect? That a prince on white horse will sweep you off your feet two hours after you signed up?
Welcome to real life.
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:12:11 PM | | Babes, the first thing I would do is a complete overhaul on your profile. Go to the Profile Review forum ~ you'll get some great ideas. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:23:22 PM | ^^^ She'd have to write it first.
In any case... methinks troll profile and troll thread...
*shrugs*
Makes no sense.
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:28:50 PM | I had cool profiles and just got tired of no responses so i just put "Just Ask"
The reason my profile looks like it does is because I'm trying to erase it but could only get my picture and some answers off. If any one knows how to delete a profile pls. let me know.
Thank you all for at least attempting to answer my question. I think its an answer that only God has.
Happy fishing everyone! | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:21:30 PM | | If you are online you will not get one without a photo. end of story. | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:57:20 PM | | I can't give you any advice, but I can tell you that you are not alone. The only difference is I do all kinds of approaching and getting phone numbers that lead to me just leaving a message. Other than that, I have been sitting in this boat right next to you. I bet I was in this boat before you. I have found the boat ride isn't so bad if I just try to enjoy the moment. I really don't have any other choice except to not enjoy the moment. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 10:32:45 PM | I see you added photos and have a profile now... I would suggest posting it in the Profile Review board to get some feedback.
As for "is it just you"? You have been here total of four days... It might take a bit longer to meet the right person... So, patience... that's all I can advise. Don't give up and delete yourself.. what will you accomplish with that?
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Posted: 5/31/2008 10:37:28 PM | If you truly wish to delete your profile follow these steps:
Go to Edit on your profile
above the information you will see a headline that says
Edit More Registration Details like passwords HERE, To hide your profile from others click here
Click on the hyperlink that says HERE
Select the hyperlink on the page that says Delete Profile
and there your done - profile is gone
but seriously 4 days - by that logic I should have been gone ages ago .. if you want a love to last a lifetime why do you think it is reasonable to only wait less then a week to get it? | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 11:00:10 PM | I agree with ClassifyedAlly that you should check out the profile review forums. I'm sure you will get a lot of suggestions on changes you can make to your profile. Personally I think it's great, you're obviously a very bright, articulate woman... but I did notice a few things in there that could potentially scare off men. Just one example, you wrote that you need a GOOD, HONEST, LOYAL man. Capitalizing every letter is a bad idea, it seems like you are yelling. Frankly, if I were a guy I'd be afraid to message you just on account of that.
One more thing you might want to change is the comment that you are looking for a man to love you. Do NOT bring up the L word on a profile, just don't! A better thing you could say is something more along the lines of.. I'm looking for a man who can appreciate all that I have to offer. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 11:09:51 PM | Well, I looked at your profile and all of your pictures look pretty forbidding. If you go through your daily life with that expression -- a cross between angry and suspicious-- no one will know you have a silly side and are funny, as you say in your "about me."
Maybe think of the image you present to the world and the vibe you're giving off. If they're at odds with the person you are, it could be time to let your guard down a little and let yourself be seen as more approachable -- more friendly. | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:25:42 PM |
Is it just me?
You might have way too many restrictions on your Mail Settings, as well...
If you wanna quit, quit...but you have to realize, you have to be realistic, not just a dreamer... | |
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| Is it just me?
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:08:53 AM | Thank you "lostgirl"!!!!
I know 4 days isn't long, I guess I was discouraged to see how many viewed me and how many responded....how many had me on "favorites"
"Creep It Real"- I thank you for your input. I just wrote how I felt. If that scared them off I can't imagine how it would be if we actually met. I've read some men's profiles that had the craziest things alluding to sex and other stuff and they were on like 50 peoples favorites lists. No telling how many emails they got.
"SuePirnova"- MY PICTURES LOOK PRETTY FORBIDDING...CROSS BETWEEN ANGRY AND SUSPICIOUS????!!!!!!!!- cool!
Everyone else, thanks I may try this again later but I think I should just wait and see what happens in real life. I think it is true that all the men in my area are the same but I'll be darned if I sell my house and move just to get a man.
Anyway good luck every one! Be safe! | |
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