| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:44:30 AM | | To make a long story short my soon to be ex moved clear across the country I live in Washington and she moved back to Georgia and is living with her ex husbands parents. He was in prison for drugs and using a false identity and just recently got out and that wasnt his first time being in trouble with the law. She had restraining order after restraining order on him because he beat her all the time and even kicked her in the stomach when she was pregnant with the child they had together. And one of the restraining orders is still active for another month and a half and they are living together but all the restraining orders where filed in Washington. My question is Im going to try to get sole custody of our soon to be newborn child because of all the things he has done in the past she left him twice for these reasons the beatings the verbal abuse and most of it in front of there child and she is going back for more. What do you think my chances are of getting sole custody. And is there anyway to get emergency custody like right after the baby is born because I dont think he should be anywhere near children. Im concerned for all parties involved that includes my step daughter my soon to be new born and my ex because if you knew some of the things he did to her you would feel the same way. | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:00:15 AM | | bump I could really use some advice on my chances of custody and when to start the proceedings with the court the baby isnt do till the end of september but I really need to get the ball rolling any responses would be greatly appreciated | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:18:01 AM | | How pregnant is she ? You can file right now depending on the circumstances. However the state of Georgia has some odd laws . Where does she stand on the issue ? How many children do they have together?This may be a tough fight for you. The person that gets temporary custody is the one that files first. However you will have to get a DNA test done. Would she say the child is yours ? Where does she stand on this issue? Are you on speaking terms or not ? | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:23:53 AM | | She is a little over 5 months pregnant they have one child together and yes she would say the child is mine I talk to her almost daily and I have been since she left which was a little over 2 months ago. | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:32:49 AM | DNA testing will still come in handy, You said that yes she will say you are the father, But what if when the baby is born, and she dont want you to see the baby???
She will say you are not the father,
It happens ALL THE TIME.
I think you should get a lawyer, and start talking with CPS....ASAP
Good luck, i wish you the best | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:24:03 AM | | I said we talk everyday that doesnt mean we are on good terms and there is no way she would sign over sole custody to me and if she lets me sign the birth certificate I will but she is so wishy washy back and forth sometimes she says she wants me to be there when the baby is born and other days she doesnt could be the pregnacy hormones talking but I doubt it. But I will be as close as I can be when the baby is born whether she wants me there are not . | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:37:28 AM | I would get an attorney...he would be able to pull all the records containing the restraining orders, the domestic abuse etc. This would help your case in showing the judge the unhealthy environment your baby will be born into, and the poor choices the mother is making
Good luck OP | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:44:21 AM | | The thing is she just upped and left and I have copies of all the restraining orders but would they do me any good in a georgia court since they where filed in washington and it states in the orders something to the effect of that they are only enforcable in washington | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:49:44 AM | I had a friend who got custody of his child from the mother she was a meth user , it took getting a lawyer to file the proper paperwork for when she went in > DO NOT TELL her you are doing this , you will need to know what hospital she is going to give birth to the baby at . They will do a dna test when the baby is born, and then file proper paperwork for you to have custody of the baby once proven the child is yours .
You really need to get a good lawyer and one who is well versed on the state she is living in . | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:30:07 AM | May I ask - if she's 5 months pregnant with YOUR child, why did she up and leave you and go back to her allegedly abusive ex and his family? There must have been a good reason she left you?
And also - if you're newly separated like this, do you really think it's a good and fair idea to be on a dating site, listing your marital status as "single" (when you're actually married/separated) and "seeking a long term relationship"? Do you really think it's fair to be bringing a new woman into this dysfunctional and difficult drama? Do you seriously think that you're even ready to think about beginning a new relationship? I don't think so. | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:21:59 PM | To the OP, yes that paperwork will help, especially if you can prove (lawyer will help you with this) she is with the ex.
And also - if you're newly separated like this, do you really think it's a good and fair idea to be on a dating site, listing your marital status as "single" (when you're actually married/separated) and "seeking a long term relationship"?
He never said he was married to the woman...all perception I guess. I assumed it was an ex gf. *shrug*
And no, it isn't fair to bring someone into this unstable situation, but that is his choice and the woman he ends up dating. | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:58:26 PM | | She up and left because Ggeorgia is really where she wanted to be and she was writing letters back and forth to him for awhile and he told her what she wanted to hear that he had changed and found god and blah blah blah and I know this cause I thought something was going on and read a couple of the letters. He had done this in the past I was told this by several of her family members and this is her third time going back to him. I guess some woman dont get it and just want to believe things have actually changed and will take the chance even if it didnt work out the first couple of times even though there is a high likley hood that the same thing will happen again. And I don't want to take the chance of it happening again and my step daughter and baby seeing it and them being emotionally and psychially(sp) hurt. | |
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| Soon to be ex moved out and is Pregnant with our baby
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:44:34 PM | I would think that your best bet would be to move to Georgia, get a great lawyer there and contact CPS there.
You probably can't file for custody until after the baby is born, because you need a baby for that to happen (I know, sounds stupid, but it's true.... can't file for child support until then either), and the courts will probably need to you do a DNA test especially if she gets pissy about the whole thing and says that you aren't the father.
Could be a much longer process than you are hoping for, so be prepared for that.
Good luck! | |
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