| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:58:33 AM | | Who has been on a date? How many emails, phone calls, im's, or whatever before you went on the date? What was your experience? Also a question to the ladies, how do you like to be approached on a first email from a user? Is showing too much interest scare you i.e. sending a bunch of gifts or saying you'd like to meet in an email. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:32:12 PM | | Ive been on a few.Some good,some pretty horrific,Some very funny.Ive made some great friends on here,men and women.I prefer to email or IM chat to get to know someone,at least for alittle while.Then coffee is a great icebreaker.At my age you have to be careful out there,there are alot of NUT cases. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:34:59 PM | I had a strange experience on here yesterday..I talked to a gentleman Friday nite, we then talked on the phone for 3 hours and made plans to meet on Saturday, and then e-mailed me stating that "he changed his mind and wasn't ready to date and was removing his profile from POF...." Very Weird and disappointing to say the least.. ARE PEOPLE REALLY SERIOUS ON THIS WEB SITE BECAUSE I AM HAVING ONE WIERD EXPERIEINCE AFTER ANOTHER ON HERE..Maybe I just just rely on a chance meeting..less stress    | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:36:51 PM | Well, having been a member of this site for 3 years, I've been on too many dates to put a number to. *LOL*....I've had a couple of 6 month relationships from here and made many friends. When it comes to messages, of course you need a few just to break the ice.....and a few to exchange pertinent information, especially if one or both have very limited info on their profile. Of course it all depends on preferrences.....some people don't like to email or type that much....myself, I can type much better than I talk. *LOL* But, if the other person isn't comfortable with messaging, I don't have a problem with talking on the phone to get to know each other. I really hate that IM thing on this site. It's intrusiveand very territorial....it pops up and interrupts anything else I'm trying to do at the same time and really pi$$es me off sometimes. *LOL*
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:41:04 PM | I've actually talked to quite a few gentlemen on this site and have gone out with several. I tell everyone upfront that I'm not looking for any long distance relationship and what my family situation is. I have no objections to making new friends from here, it's what I enjoy in life off of the computer as well. E-mails are always a great start, IM's are usually the next step before a phone call, and I never meet anyone before getting to know them a bit over the phone. I'm not shallow at all but I did learn the hard way not to even consider meeting anyone without a current picture or preferably seeing them on webcam. Because if they'll lie about age and appearance, just what else would they lie about in their life ? | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:46:21 PM | Been on several.
Never had a bad experience.
All the women have been nice, the conversation smooth.
It depends on your purpose : if you are seeking out the 'one'- then it is going to be difficult initially.
If you just want to meet people, then the expectations are less grand in detail.
I live in CAnada in a small city ( 50G ) so I am thinking that the people generally are friendlier. very few nutcases although the percentage of them may be the same as everywhere else.... who knows.
I hesitate to sing the praises of Canadian women as I see an influx of AMerican men running up here to take them all away ... - we gave away our water to them and now they want CAnadian Women .
I don't do the IM or MSN chat to any great extent.. again, probably because of the small town thing. I use that to set up a first meeting.
We just meet down the street at the coffee shop, chat, walk around.
I am going really slow so it may be confusing to any woman who wants an immediate relationship. Or a deeper one. But I can't worry about that. It's not a huge concern anyway as being short and ugly hardly is conducive to being designated the 'one' on the first date.....
Be honest about who you are & what you are looking for and let the chips fall. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:58:25 PM | every situation is different. but it is good that you are asking and getting opinions. i have been on a few dates and im still dating one and i am friends with a few others. email back and forth until you actually meet and then still continue to email if you are interested. there is no limit on emails or phone calls or ims. i find if they dont respond to your email, im or your phone call its their cowardly way of letting you know they are not interested. but that's okay also. gives you the opportunity to move on and look for someone else. my experience have all been different. there were some i would want to see again and there were a few that i knew had no chance. we are all different and not everyone is the right person for you. but ive made some nice friends and for that i am thankful. in your first email just say hi , tell a little bit about yourslef and state that you are interested. showing too much interest is a compliment. if someone is interested in meeting you they will appreciate your interest, your gifts and your invitation for a meet and greet. just be yourself. the rest will follow course. dont feel bad if it turns out to be someone you have nothing in common with, just remember there are other fish in the sea. good luck !!!!  | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:02:15 PM | | I really can't stand the instant messenger on this site either. It is very annoying. I have a had a few dates. All of which have been positive some better than others. Nothing past friendship though. Still waiting...lol. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:07:22 PM |
ALOT OF NUT CASES ON HERE AND THEY SEEM TO ALL CONTACT ME
Do you actually contact anyone, or just rely on people to contact you? Maybe if you tried to contact a different kind of person than they type you are talking to now, your luck would change. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:13:03 PM | | Hi - I had the best Valentine's day ever - but that was after 2-1/2 years of nothingness. You're a lot better looking than I am, but it was the guy that hit the most home runs that stated, "you have to keep batting to hit a home run." Best wishes for a great future, and this is a great place to keep fishing.!! | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:14:01 PM | | I have dated 12 women from this site, since I moved here in late 06. And have dated each of them several times. That's when I was dating. I don't chat ,IM or send endless messages. So the only alternative if they are so inclined is to meet me. If not ,thanks for the message. Sometimes however you have to stay in touch because of conflicting schedules, but that's what phones are for. As written repeat dates mean they went well. | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:23:45 PM | One. Three emails and a phone conversation before "first meet." An enjoyable meeting over coffee and sandwiches, but we mutually decided there was no "chemistry." We still talk IM and on the phone, she's a sweet person.
ALOT OF NUT CASES ON HERE AND THEY SEEM TO ALL CONTACT ME
Not all, you're too far away!! | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:58:24 PM | Most guys do not pick up on signs very well. So many guys miss it. If you're trying too hard to find out what you're supposed to do, you're tuned into your own thoughts instead of the signals women are sending you. Also keep in mind most women are generally attracted to fun, confident, positive, upbeat humorous men.
Don't appear to be needy, clingy, jealous, or insecure.
OK kid , I will start with your last question first and so on.
Is showing too much interest scare you i.e. sending a bunch of gifts or saying you'd like to meet in an email.
No it does not scare them, it just drives them away. NEVER ask a lady to meet thru an email, it's tacky and tasteless and it's way to easy for them to reject you. Always ask over the phone, but only when the time is right (never the first call). After all, women get this from almost every guy who is interested, therefore it's not very original and simply places you into the ( just another guy) category.
how do you like to be approached on a first email from a user?
They like something humorous, fresh and new, not some boring over-used pick up line.
What was your experience?
I have had great dates and overall positive experiences with the women that made it thru my filtering system and respected my dating rules. However I did not start off this way in the dating world, it took a lot of practice and trial and error but I have became very succsessful. Afterall I did meet my match on here, I let her move in with me a few months ago and am very happy with her.
How many emails, phone calls, im's, or whatever before you went on the date?
Each woman is different and have different outlooks on life as well as their own dating rules. Sometimes I have only emailed a couple of times, others I have emailed for months before I decided to date them. There is no magic number for emails.
Try this.........
1. Email (something to make her laugh) preferably a funny question which prompts her to reply.
2. A few IM conversations over several days while making yourself more interesting each time you chat . (chemistry check)
3. Phone call (listen for voice tones and attitude)
There isn't really a rule of thumb about calling women, personally
you should call a girl within the week that you acquire her phone number, and certainly not the same or next day, as she could perceive you as being desperate
needy, or a pest.
I hope this helps
Best of Luck
BadBoy~ | |
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| How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:22:58 PM | "I hesitate to sing the praises of Canadian women as I see an influx of AMerican men running up here to take them all away ... - we gave away our water to them and now they want CAnadian Women ."
There's lots of Canadian women moving south with men they have met through dating websites, time for Canadian men to wake up before we all head south and don't return. | |
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