| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:22:22 PM | | A girl and a guy see each other almost on a daily basis ~ he's interested and would like to get to know her ~ what would be the reasoning for him to ask her for her number rather than giving him his number? I'm curious to see opinions from both sexes. Thx. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:38:59 PM | | Well, personally - if I saw someone on an almost daily basis and was interested them, I'd utilise the time we saw each other to strike up a conversation and actually get to know them... I wouldn't be asking for/giving my number, I'd bite the bullet and ask them for a drink outside of our 'normal meeting time' | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:48:38 PM | | Ok, maybe I should not ahve been so rhetorical with my question. I found out recently this guy at work was interested in me, but he thought I was married. So in the interim of the conversation, he told me he had wanted to ask me for my number. My question is, as dumb as it may sound to someone else, why not give me his number instead of asking me for mine? Guess I'm just trying to understand the reasoning would be behind that , as if I was intersted in a guy I would give him my number, not ask him for his. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 1:50:04 PM | thx, lizard ~ nice and to the point ~ wish there were all like that  | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:58:43 PM | OP, if you're ever in a situation where a man is asking for your phone number and you don't want to give it to him, then give him the phone number to the Rejection Hotline. Here's the url to find the number for your area code:
http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp
Rejection Hotline
If someone asks for your phone number and you don't want to give it to them, get rid of them discreetly by giving them the number for the rejection hotline. They'll think it's your number until they dial it up and hear this prerecorded message: "The person who gave you this number obviously did not want you to have their real number. Maybe you're just not this person's type.... This could mean short, fat, ugly, dumb, annoying, arrogant or just a general loser. Maybe you suffer from bad breath, body odor or even both. Maybe you just give off that creepy, overbearing, psycho-stalker vibe. Maybe the idea of going out with you just seems as appealing as playing leapfrog with unicorns."
And I agree with you ~ I'd rather have him offer his number to me than ask for mine. When I'm ready to share mine, I will. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:03:55 PM |
OP, if you're ever in a situation where a man is asking for your phone number and you don't want to give it to him, then give him the phone number to the Rejection Hotline. Here's the url to find the number for your area code:
http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp
Do people really give out their land line numbers to people nowadays..?
Usually when someone asks for my number, or I'm asking for theirs, we exchange mobile numbers and text, not actually call... | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 2:08:45 PM | Do people really give out their land line numbers to people nowadays..?
I don't give out my landline to men online, not until I know them well enough. Sometimes that happens; most of the time it doesn't. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:33:50 PM | | Wow. Really? Why not just say 'Give me your number' or 'No'. I know I'd be plenty heated if this company turned around and sold my number to a bunch of other telemarketers, and I don't see any other way for these dudes to make loot... | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:09:33 PM | ask her for her number = Pro-Active Approach
giving him his number = Passive Approach | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 6:28:39 PM | People are fkn sad ~ u tried to have my question deleted cause I'm "attention seeking"?
Please go out and get urself a life ~ Stop Hating!!! | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 6:55:13 PM | Ok Here it is..
Todays woman appreciates a man who allows his soft side to show, but all woman still want a man to be the man.
So, a man ASK's for a womans Number. Does not wine like a puppy, Offer his number and wait for a woman to Maybe call.
He simply expresses an interested that can either be accepted or rejected.
And as another buffer safety zone for you, as a woman you can always find an excuse not to go out with him once he asks - and he Will! | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:09:12 PM | thanks much, ally ~ it's appreciated ~ can't believe u can't ask a simple question without people getting stupid  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 7:16:23 PM | so in ur opinion, shawn, if he asks for her number, he's in control of the situation, instead of waiting for her to call by giving her his number?
ok ~ that's understandable ~ i think that's what the passive/pro-active answer by ticketoride previously posted implied.
thanks. those two answers really were what i was looking for. i get it . i originally felt a totally different way ~ which was why i posed the question ~ to see what other people thought
 for those who responded | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 7:20:18 PM | | I don’t quite get what the hang up is over the phone number, and yes the pun was intended. Here is the answer to your question OP. If men rely on giving you their number and waiting for you to call them. When you do call, we strike up a conversation and then have to think up something at the last minute as what to do for the date. Besides, most men like the pursuit. It is that basic instinct that dates back to the caveman. We hunt. We provide. We go out and get what we want. And when it is you that we want, we will call you and ask you out. After some time, if things work out while we are dating each other. We make you ours, we have you, we take you. Ugg ugg! Was the caveman in me showing up in that last sentence there. The best thing a woman can do for their man is to let him be the caveman once in a while. It makes us feel like men. So if you like the guy and want to date him, give up your number. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:41:49 PM |
OP, if you're ever in a situation where a man is asking for your phone number and you don't want to give it to him, then give him the phone number to the Rejection Hotline.
Or, if you didn't want to be cruel and mean by giving out a fake phone number, you could alternatively just say you aren't interested. Giving out a fake phone number instead of being honest is nothing short of cruel. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:34:51 PM | I really don't understand the big deal about a phone number. What I usually encounter is that they give me their number first, without being asked for it and that usually makes me feel comfortable enough to extend my number as well..I have never had someone abuse my number after we no longer were conversing, for whatever reason.
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Posted: 6/2/2008 4:21:03 AM | | well personally I don't like being given a lady's mobile number as I find it a bit strange to begin with especially over the internet and especially after having spoken to each other only for a few months and yes I am a man. | |
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| Getthe number
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:18:37 AM |
OP, if you're ever in a situation where a man is asking for your phone number and you don't want to give it to him, then give him the phone number to the Rejection Hotline. Here's the url to find the number for your area code:
http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp
IM 35 years old, if someone women my age used this "rejection line" I would get a good laugh at it, but I would also know the chick who gave it to me has the mentality of a 21 year old , cause thats probably the last time I used it..... | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 7:50:17 PM | When it comes to threads getting deleted, it's amazing. The threads you'd assume would get deleted, stick around, while the ones you'd think would be safe disappear for whatever reason. It seems to be a random crap shoot.
Anyway, the couple answers that indicated the pro-active way of getting your number is the reason. If I want to make sure I am able to talk to someone outside of work/PoF, I ask for their number so I can call them. If I gave them my number, it's up to them to call me, and they might decide to not call and I'm left wondering why didn't they call.
Had they instead let me know ahead of time that they didn't want to give their number or take mine, well, I can move on. | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/3/2008 8:12:19 AM | OP, if you're ever in a situation where a man is asking for your phone number and you don't want to give it to him, then give him the phone number to the Rejection Hotline. Here's the url to find the number for your area code:
http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp
Rejection Hotline
If someone asks for your phone number and you don't want to give it to them, get rid of them discreetly by giving them the number for the rejection hotline. They'll think it's your number until they dial it up and hear this prerecorded message: "The person who gave you this number obviously did not want you to have their real number. Maybe you're just not this person's type.... This could mean short, fat, ugly, dumb, annoying, arrogant or just a general loser. Maybe you suffer from bad breath, body odor or even both. Maybe you just give off that creepy, overbearing, psycho-stalker vibe. Maybe the idea of going out with you just seems as appealing as playing leapfrog with unicorns."
Or why not, you know, just say, "I don't want to give you my number"?
I guess it's funnier playing with people's emotions, and then topping it off with a nice helping of anonymous insult, hunh?
Arlo  | |
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| Getting the number
Posted: 6/3/2008 12:11:20 PM | | well think its always been this way and guys traditionally have to ask for the number . although i remember reading something a couple of years ago where some dating advice guy suggested having a business card ( with your info ) made up for handing out to women . but haven't seen guys do that in real life but might be a good idea . | |
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