| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:46:52 PM | I moved to a new state late last summer after getting out of a 3.5 year relationship. I wasn't expecting much... just starting a new job and owning my very first house. During the moving process, I met a guy at Walmart. The chemistry was instant. We talked and got to know each other. Then he kissed me and I really felt something I haven't felt... ever! But being the good girl I didn't let it go far. He told me he will call once he was home. However, that call never came. Believing the 3-day rule, I decided to let him go and move on.
I did dated a couple of guys since then but for some reason, I couldn't forget him. I did focus on myself and my new job since that time. However, as the months went on, I did realize that deep down, I wasn't truly ready for a new relationship. Being in a relationship that was mentally and physically draining, I truly needed time to rediscover myself.
Yesterday, I was checking my email that I rarely used to empty out any old ones I had. Then I noticed his email address. I was ready to delete but for some reason I didn't. I sent a quick message saying hello and nothing more. After sending that message, I deleted it, having a feeling that he might not reply.
When I was online this morning, I noticed a reply from him. He did ask who was I. So I told him and refreshed his memory. Then we talked on the phone and caught up. He told me the real reason why he lost contact. He lost his job a week after we met and felt I might not be worthy of him. Plus he moved from where he lived at and moved closer to my area.
My question is should I give him a chance? We saw each other before heading to work and the chemistry is still there. He said he wants to start again but this time work to something more. I know I am ready for a real relationship. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:52:12 PM | He said he'd call when he got home...you waited the 3 day rule...he lost his job a week after...
The numbers don't line up...he's lying to you and working you for all your worth. Move on. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:56:03 PM | | Yep, he had the cajones to kiss you in the Walmart lot, yet couldn't call you when he got home? Baa-a-a-a-ad vibes on this. And the rest of the story just doesn't add up, either. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:57:15 PM | I agree with CB, if he was into you, he'd have called. Don't worry about it, just wait til you find that one guy that won't have an excuse and will call you... he's out there!
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:38:32 PM | he opens up an email from someone he "didn't know"? most of us, by now, don't take the virus risks that may have...my opinion is that he knew very well who you are/were but wanted you to beckon him.
also- what are the odds that when he "lost his job" he kept his internet connection up to date with the same carrier after, "moving"...hmmmm
plenty of REAL smelly fish here me thinks.
dave | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:14:17 PM | Sounds like this dude had someone else in mind and put you on the back-burner for a while. Then, when things didn't work out with his first choice he got in touch with you again.
Sketchy. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:35:15 AM | | i agree, if he put out the initial effort to get to know you better and hang out, theres no solid reason as to why he wouldn't call back. losing your job isnt that big of deal when it comes to relationships, especially considering recent employment instability and his occupation at Wal-Mart (not like theres anything wrong with that, just saying). even if he was old fashion or something, youd at least get a call explaining why he couldn't see you until he found a solid job. his statement is pretty much the equivalent of saying "i was too much of a gentlemen to call you". in all likelihood he had another girl in the works that didnt pan out. sorry to hear about the situation, hopefully things go well. take care | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/5/2008 1:08:46 PM | | Jumpin' in with a girl's thought - sounds like you met only once, no date right? he NEVER called, he didn't remember your e-mail...move on. He wasn't' into you the first time; so he isn't worth it and the only reason he's talking NOW is cuz you are giving him an ego boost. It was your hormones buzzing and that's all, nothing else to stand on. Best wishes. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/5/2008 1:28:20 PM | You had to remind him who you were. I would say the chemistry you are feeling is more lust than anything else. His story doesn't ring true.
Let him go and move on gal. Don't waste anymore time on him. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:13:58 PM | | Im gonna go out on a limb that no-one else has..........holy negativity seriously. Here is my piece, A man who's very interested in a woman, will avoid her while in a bad place in life, he wants to get his sh!t together 9 times outta ten, so he can impress her. Don't assume anything and don't be the "3 day rule no contact" police, chat him up, get to know him, and see how things go, his inconsistencies my lie around embarrassment. | |
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| Crossing paths after several months
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:19:26 PM | UPDATE!
Hey your a cute one, lol. And my mothers boyfriend is from your city. You should not go to that walmart any more, maybe come check out why wisconsinites are worth moving for! LOL. Either way, good luck! | |
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