| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:49:39 PM | Still being new to the dating scene as a parent, this was something I hadn't expected, and I'm curious as to how other people feel about and deal with this.
I have 4 kids (2 sons, and 2 daughters). My daughters have fairly common names, and one of my sons has a name that can also be a girl's name (although I have yet to meet any adult women with that name). When I meet a woman with the same name as one of my daughters, it is an instant major turn-off for me. While I can still be friends with them, any attraction is instantly gone. It just seems creepy to me on some level.
Has anyone else encountered this (or issues with people having the same name as other family members, friends, pets, etc.)? | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:13:35 PM | I have a friend that always ends up dating guys with either of her two sons names. Doesn't bother her in the least, which I don't completely fathom.
I have a daughter, so hopefully won't run into problems with my own child...I don't think I would mind friends or extended family, but did date someone with the same name as my ex husband once. Was kind of weird.
If I ran into someone that had the same name as my current pets, I would be worried what his parents were thinking when they named him! | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:55:10 AM | I have run into it...or names of my exes. I tell him right up front that I don't mean any offense, but I need a nickname for him. If he doesn't have one that he prefers, I can work towards coming up with one without an issue. There is a major ick factor for me at the thought of being intimate with someone with my son's name, and the memories that come back at the thought of my exes names aren't always good things... | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:30:28 AM | Never really paid that much attention to it...
But I wouldn't be able to give anyone with the same name as one of my exes the time of day....so it does matter....
That's an interesting observation. Your moral compass must be set to Extremely High... | |
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~Kyn~
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:02:36 AM | Has anyone else encountered this (or issues with people having the same name as other family members, friends, pets, etc.)?
Yup yup yup...I have absolutely no idea why...but its why names are soooo important to me.
Cant help it...but names now put me "off" people...and Ive had repetitive names follow me throughout life that have been/caused nothing but trouble.
The troublemaker list - Females
Kelly <<< liar
Nicole <<< self centered
Tracy <<< immature
The troublemaker List - Males
Nick <<< immature
Ian <<< liar
Brendan <<< self centered
"Numbers" also are coincidentally part of my life. | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:30:04 AM | I'm immediately turned off by men named 'David' b/c my dad, step dad, brother, and uncle all have that name. Likewise with anyone who has a name that I've named a dog. But, I've only come across that once and it was his nickname but it still was a turn off b/c every time I said his name my dog would come running through the house. AHHH.
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:51:27 AM | I actually met a guy couple of years ago who has same last name
as me and he also has my sons first name who is 12 yrs old .
I just found that too creepy to go out with someone who has same name as my son.
Everytime I looked at him it made me think of my son.
Way too weird for me .
He thought it was okay, at least I wouldn't have to change my last name  | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 7:38:30 AM | | How old steve? Seriously I had run into this in the past, women with my daughters name very verboten, but only for a shirt while. As she developed her individuality the name held no power of creepiness as both would be notably different and I had time to get used to being a parent aswell. | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:21:20 AM | My daughters are ages 4 and 6 (and my son with the non-gender-specific name is almost 8), however, since becoming a parent, I've only been single for about 10 months now. (Wow! Has it really almost been a year?)
I generally don't like to make public too much info about my kids, but in this situation, the actual name is part of the discussion. The daughter whose name keeps coming up is named Elizabeth (but we call her Li'l Bit). I recently stumbled across a profile and the lady was pretty, seemed like she had her life together, and sounded like a nice person (so maybe she was out of my league anyway), but as soon as I saw that her name was Elizabeth, I lost all interest. It just felt creepy. However, this doesn't happen with names such as Beth, Liz, Betsy, etc. (Lizzy is a bit off because my ex's mom calls our daughter that.)
My ex's name is fairly common, but it doesn't have that same "ick" factor for me. I think it's mostly because of my fatherly instincts towards that name. It might also happen with a couple of my friends' daughters with whom I am very close, but they have uncommon names, so this has never come up.
I'm immediately turned off by men named 'David' b/c my dad, step dad, brother, and uncle all have that name. Likewise with anyone who has a name that I've named a dog. But, I've only come across that once and it was his nickname but it still was a turn off b/c every time I said his name my dog would come running through the house. AHHH.
~Welder's Girl~
Why would you name your dog Welder?  | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:26:13 AM | LOL...I wasn't talking about my current SO. I have a dog named Titan and I met a guy and everyone called him Titan (his real name was one of the more generic men's names). I'd talk to him on the phone and I'd say his name and my dog would come storming through the house thinking that I wanted to play with him or take him in the car for a ride. People called him Titan b/c he was such a big guy....about 6'8 and 275 lbs of pure muscle....alas...my little 55 lb dog was the only Titan I wanted in my life!
~Welder's girl~ | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:50:12 PM | Luckily, I don't see this being a huge problem, because my boys have very uncommon names.
But, their dads name is fairly common, which would be ok, except, my kids have never called their dad "dad" they have always called him by his first name. So, I think if I was dating somebody with the same name, that might be a little odd. Joe/dad or Joe/boyfriend? (nope, his names not joe, just using that as an example) | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:53:44 PM | Wow! I just....I guess I'm just...speechless!
I cannot believe this is actually an issue with people. No wonder it's so hard for people on here to find someone.
Now I think I've heard it all. This might explain why things went sideways for me sometimes. Note to self: Don't sign your name and ask their daughter's names before any further communication! | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:58:58 PM | | Sorry no help here. By the time my daughter hit 4-5 if a date had the same name it wasn't an issue for me since I wasn't so wrapped up in the "you're a dad now" thing. Hope this doesn't prevent you from dating a woman that shares your mothers name too. If the name has an ick-factor that would be the one that got me. | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:22:56 PM | loonytunz,
Now that you mention it, when I (briefly) dated a girl with a name very similar to my mother's (this was way back in high school), it gave me a slight uneasy feeling. I'm not sure how I would react now.
Thanks a lot for further limiting my dating options!
(Not that names have been the issue that has actually prevented me from getting dates thus far.)
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:00:31 PM | Kinda seeing a guy right now... same first name as my EX!....really kinda weird...and awkward...I mean..it's just YUCKY!
one of my daughter's , well her first name is the same as a popular song by the Police...and everytime I mention it to guy...well they turn into Pop Stars and start singing the song...drives me nuts....grrrrrrrr...the dads on the playground sing it too!..they think it is a kewl name. | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:15:21 PM | Just you. My last boyfriend shared a name with my older son. I thought it was actually funny because my youngest son also shared a name with his son and his son's girlfriend has the same name as I. Also run into a lot of men with my dad/oldest brother's name.
Anything can be a turnoff if you let it, the only thing that trips me out is the guys that are almost young enough for her to date (she is 16) who want to date me. I have chosen to employ her 10 year rule. If they are ten years her senior or younger, neither I nor her father are permitted to date them. | |
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| People with your kids' names
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:42:13 AM | | I don't see the name thing as an issue for me. My ex's mother and I have the same name (well shortened versions of our names) We are really good friends now and its kind of funny when we get introduced. | |
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