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Posted: 6/2/2008 6:02:22 PM | | I have a hairy back, shoulders, and chest. . One of my girlfriends (that's FRIEND) is urging me to get the back and shoulder hair removed, since she says that women don't like back hair. Is she right? No one has ever mentioned it as a problem before, but my friend tells me that someone may just end a relationship if its such a turnoff, without telling me why. Your thoughts ladies? | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 6:34:02 PM | Hmmm, hard question.
There is a point soon after the first sexual experience when you could be dumped for any one of a number of reasons related to sexual turn-offs. Often you probably won't be told why.
It could be your back hair. But there are a million little turn-offs, and it could be any one of those too -- how you talk during sex, how your breath smells (really close up and for several hours), how your sweat smells, how you perform sexually.
It is a rough fact, but you are auditioning the first time you get naked with someone. And you really wouldn't want them to continue dating you if you turn them off.
You're 52, surely you've had experience with women who ARE NOT turned off by back hair.
In my experience if you find someone who likes the way you smell (mmmm, pheromones), they will most likely overlook many other small flaws.
Hair removal is a pain in the ass (literally and figuratively) and I prefer finding someone who will overlook that particular flaw (I don't have hair on my back, but I am a lackadaisical shaver, otherwise) | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 7:08:52 PM | | I love hairy men. Chest hair, back hair, shoulder hair, arm and leg hair, even hairy butts are great. There is something incredibly masculine about a hairy man, in my opinion. I love to snuggle up to a hairy chest! I much prefer a man with lots of hair to a man with very little hair. I vote for NOT getting rid of the hair. A woman should care about you the way you are. It will get very old if you start having hair removed and have to keep it up for someone else's benefit. I would never end a relationship with a man due to whether or not he had a hairy body. Talk about superficial!! That's ludicrous. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 7:47:32 PM | | My ex had light/sparse back hair. Bothered him more then it did me. I adored his furry chest and belly, didn't care about the back. If he'd been heavily furred on his back, I might have had more problems with it. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 7:53:05 PM | | Probably depends on how hairy you are. Robin Williams, let's just say it is a good thing that he is funny, oy. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 8:08:15 PM | Someone asking you to get your hair removed...that just pisses me off.
Most of the people I've dated have had some amount of back hair, and it never bothered me because I adored them, or at least liked them.
I can't be the only woman that doesn't mind back hair? I don't even care about receding hair.
I care about faces and distinct guts! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 8:12:21 PM | Back hair is not an issue for me....
Though I'd first dated men with little body hair and THOUGHT that's what I liked, I found out after dating an East Indian that there are sooo many other things more important in a relationship - back hair, or head hair even (!) just don't even figure in to the equation. I can find things to like about both varieties of men.  | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 8:13:25 PM | I love a hairy man! I agree.. its the masculine side showing  | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 8:26:42 PM | | If it looks like you're wearing a sweater when you're not, it's too much hair. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 8:34:46 PM | Men are supposed to be hairy.
And you're a good looking man. Body hair should not be a problem for you. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 9:23:05 PM | from one dude to another...
personally, i've developed a bit of a complex on this issue after overhearing girls repeatedly say how gross back hair is. several profiles on POF list back hair as a turn off explicitly, and i've talked with friends that, like yours, suggested having it removed. i'm kind of shy to begin with, so personally, i find it difficult to go shirtless at the beach with a hairy back.
unfortunately, many (if not most) ladies are not as gracious as the ones that have posted here, and are likely to be turned off by excessive back hair (note that I said "excessive"). i tend to think that people in general are getting more superficial by the minute, but it just takes a good experience with someone that's outside of their comfort zone to get them to lighten up. that could be you.
Ironically, when the issue has come up with the girls i've dated, they had less of a problem with it than I did, at least the few girls that i actually brought it up with that is.
so, here's a quick capsule of what i've learned:
- if you are confident, it doesn't matter
- if you're self-conscious about it like i am and you find yourself thinking about it, just go ahead and have it waxed. it's better to wax than to shave since it doesn't come back in bristly, and over a few years it will lessen overall. it's not cheap or permanent, but it is an instant confidence boost... once the redness goes away at least. Shop around, it should cost less than $100.
- waxing the upper back and shoulders hurts like a SOB
- a better procedure is called body sugaring, which is slightly less painful.
- hairy chest is a-ok by most girls, and is actually usually a turn on.
- if i had the money, i'd get laser hair removal done since it's supposed to be permanent (results vary)
- girls put a lot of time, money, and effort into looking good for the boys and the double standard is wearing thin on a lot of them, hence the "metro-sexual" movement we see today.
in the end it's always different strokes for different folks. if you're ok with it, then don't worry. as the ladies above have noted, there is still a place for the manly man look. you just have to find the right girl.
hope that helps. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:16:20 PM | | Dude, when someone is having sex they don't want to be massaging a carpet on your back. Get rid of it. :) | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:26:31 PM | Hahaha...my old man is hairy like a primate...so friken gross, back hair bad.
Ask yourself, would you want a woman with a wicked hairy bum and hair all up and down her legs and thighs???
If you would like that sort of thing, you should probably goto a fetish site instead of a general dating site like this place. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:30:35 PM | I'm with forumfilly and thickgrl
keep it!!!!!
There are plenty of women out there that appreciate hair on a man
If a woman does not like it, someone will come along that does....... and by the way the pic you post on your profile, shows a good amount of chest hair........ and most of us that like it will pick right up on it!!!!!
Too sexy!!!
I prefer grass on my playgrounds to sand lot.......
and to the other guy who posted, dude think of other ways to spend $100.... someone will love you for all of you .
JMO
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:56:42 PM | Oh yea amativedreams I agree with you completly. Chest hair and back hair BOTH are sexy on a man.
Hun I also viewed your pics and you look good especially with the chest hair showing through.. I say to not worry about it and find someone who would find it to be a turn on with having hair on your chest and back!! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 11:27:00 PM | | I prefer hairy men. I think it's manly. Don't wax it, just find the right gal. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 11:46:45 PM | Ugggh! Back hair. Personally, back hair is just as much a turn off for me as armpit hair on a woman is to a man.  I love a hairy chest on a man, but it doesn't extend to his back. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 12:48:39 AM | Hi Ya!
I'm only a few years behind you and I some times wish I did have a hairy back!
I do however have plenty of chest hair (Pity thats now going grey too!)
I could then get it transplanted to my head thus solving two problems,
No more back hair and a luxurious growth might readorn my head, Oh how I long to be able to part my head hair instead of dismally watching em fall out!
To the O/P Keep your Back hair......... As someone else said....Spend the hundred bucks on your lady....would be much better appreciated I think!
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Posted: 6/3/2008 1:57:54 AM | The best comprimise which most people can agree with if you are hairy like I am is to just wax the back and shoulders and don't touch the front (maybe kind of clean it up a little bit though).
some women don't like back hair and you get a lot of strange looks when you are shirtless when you have it. some don't mind it. most don't mind chest hair though so you get to keep that kind of mainly hair appeal while not losing out on some women who don't like the back hair
fully shaved? thats for girly men who get their picture taken for a living and albinos | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 3:51:07 AM |
Personally, back hair is just as much a turn off for me as armpit hair on a woman is to a man
You must be hanging around the wrong men! In my world men LOVE women with hair under their arms!!
The hairier a man is, the better -- if he's like Sasquatch, he's not hairy enough for me.
This topic has been beaten to death many times. Some women like it, some don't. If someone loves you, they will accept you as you are.
As I say, it's just hair, get over it. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 5:51:04 AM | | One of my x's is middle eastern and he is the hairiest man I've ever known, hair everywhere & he wouldn't let me shave or wax him, good thing he was the best in bed. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 6:14:03 AM | Many people say they do not like it. Surprisingly enough, having entered the whole dating thing for the first time this year, it was a lot less of a drama than I expected. What it comes down to is that if you are awesome, a lot of people will accept it.
I certainly did not have anyone run away when the shirt came off- indeed most of the people I met had been forewarned and a lot had even seen a picture before meeting. I keep my head, face and pubic hair trimmed and shaved where appropiate, the rest of the body seems tolerable.
No- I do not ask that a woman keeps her legs, armpits and pubic region shaved every minute of every day. I trim where appropiate, I expect the same, that is all. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 7:41:51 AM | | I have chest hair and a little back hair. Only in the dating world do we care so much about these superficialities. Anyways, I used to be paranoid about it. I would hear a string of 10 women talk about how unbelievably horrible back or chest hair is (even though it's there for a reason..God, nature, whoever..put it there..). So I would attempt to wax it. Not as soon as the last hair was removed, would I hear ten women sing the praises of it. I just can't win in this cheerleading tryout called dating! My ex wife never cared about it one way or the other. Now I am divorced and over 30, I care less. Some people like it, some don't. If someone is going to reject me because of a few hairs, then I don't need her anyway! | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 7:44:32 AM | I'm personally not one for body hair. But I surely wouldn't end a relationship because a guy has excess body hair. Thats shallow.
Find a girl that will love it. They're out there.
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Posted: 6/3/2008 7:44:50 AM | | I would say it's definitely not a turn on, except for some women. If you're a great guy, we could probably overlook it, but keep it under wraps, please :) | |
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