| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:32:32 PM | An age-old dilemma but one that appears to be a frequent and embarassing problem. Not for
me, I always make sure I smell pretty!
I thought for sure there would be a BC thread about this issue that I could resurrect, but I
could not find one, although I did find the following that was started in 2005
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1987741.aspx
This topic came up while at a gathering of POF friends recently ... so I thought I would solicit
for effective solutions to this problem. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:44:48 PM | Got to be blunt and take them aside and tell them that they smell bad.
I have done it....and HE didn't listen!....we all told HIM and HE didn't listen!
Oy Vey!......
he swam every morning....showered...and then rode his bike from Coquitlam to downtown Vancouver every weekday....so...anyhow...he did not figure out that he would be smelly and sweaty after the long ride in!.
turns out he did shower....and well it was more his clothes...the stench was so bad that even a regular wash did not get out the smell.
We replaced his jacket once....he was a close friend and co-worker...he thanked us...at some point it never got washed...and it stank...and he stank.
Well... for a normal person I think telling them the straight facts works. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:15:25 PM | Now we're all going to be running for the deodorant counter......
wonder if they are talking about me? lol.
this was a very interesting and humorous conversation during our martini tasting gathering, wasn't it fiery fury....especially after the 3rd delicious martini.
I agree with the others and say, just tell the person. Most ppl might not realize that they do smell and I know if it were me, I would want someone to tell me, so I can do something about it instead of wondering why everyone is on the other side of the room, far, far away from me....  If it's someone you are close to, a good friend, then it should be appreciated, but if someone doesn't care about their own hygiene, then at least they will be made aware of why ppl don't want to be near them. On the other hand, if maybe someone cant afford to buy deodorant or soap or whatever, then why not help them out and buy some for them. They may appreciate that too.
And that's my 2 cents....I think I need another martini.. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:29:55 PM | Just tell the dude/dudette that their smell is offensive.
Don't pass a note like in high school.
At the job I just lost there was 'Dave'....
His excuse for not using deodorant was because of the chemicals they use in them.
Dude had some seriously busted nasty teeth too.
If you work in retail a Nice CLEAN smile and pleasant smelling staff IS important...isn't it? | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 6/4/2008 12:39:27 AM | I myself am alergic to something in standard deodarant sticks, so I scrub my arm pits to the ENTH degree in the shower and then apply this "Crystal deoderant" made with natural mineral salts, which forms a barrier to oder causing bacteria..
The only drawback is you MUST wash thorroughly because it won't take smell away only prevent it.
Then if its a hot summer day i shower twice or more on top to keep myself smelling fresh...
Sometimes i'll also spray a bit of febreese air effects in the direction of the shirt i plan to wear so it smells like fruit or such. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 5:43:24 PM | | I did not know how to get my own topic, but here goes, I met this guy on POF that I thought was very attractive but he has under arn "smells" the makes me want o throw up, however, I find him very attractive, I have already kicked him to the curb, however, what do I do if it happens again, and should I tell him | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:06:33 PM | If it happens again I think it is best for all concerned to be honest about your feelings on the matter. Eventually it would be a problem and the longer the relationship continues the more people tend to get hurt.
To start your own topic look for the button top left "New Thread".
Of course it is prudent to search your local forums for that topic first, because it is frustrating to have your thread voted off for being redundant. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:02:21 PM | Good topic, OP, especially, during these hot summer months, when we sweat the most.
So how do ya tell them, in privacy for one, and tell them straight up, hey bro, not to sound like an "a s s-h o l e" , but more as a friend who cares about ya, ya should take a shower and, get that body Oder off of ya.
By doing so, you and your body will feel a lot better for it, and ya won't smell, and while your at it, do some laundry, so that you will have some clean clothes to wear as well. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:09:55 PM | | Ya, ya, ya, tellem to wash and stuff yah , ya, then tellem to cut da grass cuz he'll smell maybe like grass, ya, better than body odor ya, and hang his clothes outside ya, cuz maybe the clothes might smell ya like fresh cut grass too ya, then you'll know ya he aint gotz no issues ya, just be honest ya.......cuz you only wash once ya or, ya i mean live once..... | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:44:20 PM | As for deodorants.... well... try washing with some heavy duty chemicals first.
It's bacteria you are smelling.... so something like Hibitane. Skin Cleanser...check the spelling..but that is what the doc recommended to my sibling way back in the 70s....and hey I got it on hand for the kids now.
any antibacterial soap will do.
Deodorant would be a secondary method.... but a good washing of the pits and other vital areas would be the first thing to do to prevent the bacteria and the smell.
and for gosh sakes....wash the clothes really well!...wash them twice if need be before you dry them. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:09:20 PM | I did not know how to get my own topic, but here goes, I met this guy on POF that I thought was very attractive but he has under arn "smells" the makes me want o throw up, however, I find him very attractive, I have already kicked him to the curb, however, what do I do if it happens again, and should I tell him - rkhbeau
If you can find a tactful & kind way to tell him, it would probably be a favour. Many people can't detect their own scent. So they may not
be aware of it, especially since it is something people are reluctant to talk about.
However, sometimes it is totally beyond the person's control. My first husband would shower thoroughly, put on fresh clean clothes & in 15
minutes he would smell like he hadn't bathed in months! Sad thing, he was very afraid of going to the doctor, I couldn't convince him that he
should get it checked out. He said "Men sweat! Stop being ridiculous!" I asked a doctor I know (years later, after we were divorced), he
said that it was probably had infected sweat glands.
And I agree with WesternWildRose, wash the clothes thoroughly. Cleanliness & smell is the one reason I NEVER wash in cold water. Things don't
come out as clean & I was reading a study in the Province last summer, it said washing in cold (unless you use bleach), will not eliminate germs &
bacteria!
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I myself am alergic to something in standard deodarant sticks - halbailman
I am also allergic to deoderants & antiperspirants, pefumes, fabric softener sheets, Febreeze, all kinds of damn stuff!
I clean the armpits & crotch area VERY thoroughly, at laast twice in the shower. The after drying off, baby powder under the armpits, under the
breasts & in my underwear. Helps a lot. Shaving also helps (armpits). | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:12:10 PM |
Ya, ya, ya, tellem to wash and stuff yah , ya, then tellem to cut da grass cuz he'll smell maybe like grass, ya, better than body odor ya, and hang his clothes outside ya, cuz maybe the clothes might smell ya like fresh cut grass too ya, then you'll know ya he aint gotz no issues ya, just be honest ya.......cuz you only wash once ya or, ya i mean live once.....
Got ya -- kind of
Now, take me, people can accuse me of a lot of things but no one can ever accuse me of stinking. I wash a lot.
However, I have met a few smelly people and never had the nerve to say something like, "You smell. Take a bath or a shower. Wash your clothes. You could try deodorant." It might be good advice but I am not about to offer it up. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/11/2009 5:05:14 AM | If I actually know them, I work in an office with far more people than I will ever know, I would probably be up front and honest, but I've never had the issue.
No, at my work the issue is people wearing perfumes or aftershaves or deodorants that set off my allergies. We have a no scent policy in my office so I just like to give them a little reminder in between sneezes. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/11/2009 7:38:44 AM | My friend's roomate refused to bathe or shower. He reeked something fierce.
Then one day he got a job doing construction where he would come home even dirtier and sweatier than usual. When my friend mentioned to him that having a dirty job must mean having to shower more, the guy replied that he didn't have to at all, after a while the grime just cakes on and flakes off on its own.
I confronted a co-worker about his stench once. He said he had some kind of medical condition that made him stink.  | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:37:30 PM | ^^^ Eventually the caked dirt just falls off. Let the matter take care of itself.
Thanks for all the wonderful comments/laughs and emails letting me know this had been dredged up again.
One year later [and a lot of checking of armpits  ] I don't think anyone felt close enough to the person
in question to tell him/her. Sad.
However it does remind me that I should have another martini party. A few threads were started
after that. | |
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| Offensive body odor from a friend or coworker: How do you tell them?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:43:50 PM | I got a better alterninative to the sticky, gooey, underarm deoderant spray, or wipe on crap.
I use aftershave lotion, yes, I said aftershave lotion, and not that other stickey, gooey crap.
Aftershave lotion may sting a wee bit after putting it on, BUT, it sure leaves a nice, pleasant smell under those arm-pits, and even if you do swet, the aftershave lotion, sure covers over the body odor, annnnnnnnnnnd, it, does not stick to your body, like some stickey, gooey deoderant spray, or wipe on crap does.
So, THAT, IS what I use, and THAT does NOT CHANGE, either. | |
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