| Fake ages.....
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:39:20 PM | Has anyone else noticed that lately there seems to be a rise in "fake ages" on profiles?
Occasionally, I encounter someone that says that they are actually one age even though their profile says another. They always say "oops, I typed the wrong thing" or "oops, the website must have had some kind of error when I was entering my info".
The problem with this kind of thing, for me at least, is that it's happening with women that contact me for dating or has happened if I contact a woman for dating.
In my experience with the site, it's always been women who say they are younger than they actually are.........
Usually something like a 50 year old whose profile says that she's 32 or something like that.
Almost every one of them says that their age shouldn't matter and that they actually look younger than their real age.
I've noticed this kind of thing has been increasing in frequency.
For me this is a problem. Actually three problems......
First, I'm at a point where I would like to have a family. I'd love to have a wife and a couple of children of my own. So one thing that I'm seeking is someone that is willing to have and is biologically able to have children. I'm very open about this, but some of these older women have been trying to "slip by my preferences" and later they say that even though they can't actually have children now or, if able, then don't want to have more children, what I can do is "be daddy to their kids".
Um, that's not exactly what I'm seeking. Think badly of me if you want, but my desire is to have a conventional nuclear family that has children that I fathered.
Second, even though many of these women are quite attractive, many aren't in the same shape as they were in their 20s or 30s. Granted, some of these women are quite athletic, but many aren't and they can't "keep up" in some of the activities that are important to me like going on long wilderness hikes. When I'm talking with a woman, I'm open about this as well and explain that I'd like someone that is in good enough shape and health, to be able to do such activities.
No, age and health aren't necessarily intertwined, but often age does affect health and physical ability.
Lastly and most importantly, THESE WOMEN ARE LIARS!
Am I the only person that doesn't want to date a liar?
What kind of relationship can you have with someone that lies about such basic facts like age?
As an aside, I've also encountered a disturbing number of women seeking to date and lie about their marital status. That's for another thread.
Still, my ultimate question is why this kind of thing seems to be "popping up" with increasing frequency. If you want to date someone younger, or MUCH younger than yourself, then be honest about it.
Don't these women consider things like a younger guy might want to have children and such considerations might uncover their subterfuge, causing them to look bad?
I'm sure there are guys out there doing the same thing and they should be called out for it too.
Still, I wonder why.........? | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 4:03:05 AM | | women, men, people in general are vain -- and they think that age is one of the things they can control - plus we have all lied and told friends - "No you do't look your age - you could easily pass for 5 - hell even maybe 10 years younger " So the problem is all want to believe we are younger -" I may look my age bit I surely don't act it"- how many times has that been said. I have always put my age and the fact that if even I could have children(I can't) that I don't wish to have any more - too old to raise any more - I am a grandmother . Can't say why everyone else doesn't do the same. I have found the person that I was looking for - wish you and all luck with finding theirs. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 5:53:07 AM | Well.......I'm 39 years of age and holding! Every calendar I buy, I cut my birthdate out of it so it never happens!!
OK.......it's hard to be vain and have gray hairs all over your head!!
I have noticed as well that many of the Ladies admit that the date is wrong and list their real age. Not sure how it messed up in the first place, but I appreciate their honesty!
~Sneaks | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 12:51:23 PM | Right now, I am 46. I'm proud of my age, I think I look good for my age. when I'm 50, I'll start counting backwards....
Actually and in truth, TS, I don't understand why men or women will do that. Eventually, you'll get caught out and all trust is ruined. Why should I lie and say I'm in my mid 30's and I want a family, when quite frankly, I'm DONE having kids. My baby days are over! I teach hormonal middle schoolers... THAT will keep anyone from having more children, I swear! I don't look forward to empty nest but... I do NOT want anymore.
So why would I lie about it? I would hope a man would love me for who I am and if I don't have the criteria he's looking for... then we aren't meant to be. I don't want to waste his time as much as I don't want my time wasted.
Some people just need to GROW UP!
(Oh, and Sneaks??? I don't have a SINGLE grey hair on my head!!! and no I don't color either!!!) | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 4:27:40 PM | | Yea I was looking thru profiles and this one caught my attention because he had his age listed as 50. If he's fifty someone rode him hard and put him up wet. Honestly I believe he was closer to 65. Do they think people won't eventually figure it out. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 5:21:27 PM | Zee: PFFFTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!
Tink: ROFLMBO!!!!!!!!! Rode hard and put up wet.....TOO MUCH!!!!
I guess some of us can be vain, but sooner or later, the truth will come out!!
~Sneaks | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 6:19:34 PM | A lie is a lie...if they'll lie about something simple like age...they'll lie about anything...or perhaps everything
I'm 26 and proud!
Yes...!
Believe | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 8:37:01 AM | | I'm very proud to be 33 years young!! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 10:03:58 AM | | my very own brother met a woman on here and she told him the age was wrong she is 50 he is 38 but he talked to her online and by phone and they fell in love and when he brought her to meet the family he said she was 35 but we all knew differently..if she was 35 she was very abused in life...but she eventually told everyone she is 50 and they seem happy together so like I always say age is a number and you are only as old as you feel... | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 3:30:05 PM | age is a number and you are only as old as you feel...
^ I agree. But why lie?
I tell myself I am beautiful all the time .......... don't make it so. LMAO! 
~~Tee
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Posted: 6/5/2008 4:47:17 PM |
I'm sure there are guys out there doing the same thing and they should be called out for it too.
Thunderscribe
I met a guy here. His profile says he is one year younger than myself. We emailed over a month, then moved on to phone calls. I really enjoyed our conversations. He was nice and humorous. Then we had one date. Yes, I said one. The first time I saw him I could not believe what I was seeing. His pictures must be at least 10 years old, maybe 15. If your pictures are old, say so. He looked 60 to 65 and acted like he was 80.
I agree with believeanything. A lie is a lie. No if, ands, or buts about it. And like Thunderscribe, I have a BIG problem with liars.
Why do people tell lies, try to change your mind or "your" plans for "your" future? Basically I think selfishness is the best answer. Sad but so very true...very, very many selfish folks in this world today. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 7:12:44 PM | I still don't know why people do that kind of thing.
I've also experienced as many women saying that they're single or divorced and "oops", they're ACTUALLY only separated or still married and "want some fun".
Apparently my definitions of being single and being monogamous are far different than many of the other folks on this site.
In many ways, I'm an old-fashioned guy with "traditional" values about things like dating and marriage. I realize that makes me something of a dinosaur, but I'm very honest about myself and how I feel.
Sheesh, I keep thinking that I have everything about me and what I seek in my profile, but some folks just keep trying to "slip by".
(shakes head) | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 7:38:18 PM | | Ha... tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 42 yrs old.... yes DOB is 6.6.66 ... am I the devil? hmmm yes at times....lol I am proud of my age and still live life to the fullest! My problem is the reverse.......why on earth would a 20 something want to date a 40 something. I have no interest in dating someone that is closer to my son's age (17) than mine. Yea, I am sure this works for some but I prefer someone closer to my age or older. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2008 8:38:18 PM | Thunderscribe, I feel your frustration. I agree the most important thing is that they lied, one of the foundations of your relationship is then built on something shady.
You have important goals for your life, if one of these ladies would have capture your heart then you would have had to give up something important or break your own heart.
I have been having the same problem with older men ...and younger men...I dont see why someone feels the need to lie about their age...no matter how good you look or THINK you look there is a aging process. The thing that bothers me is the excuse everyone else does it...the thing is no, not everyone else...just the other liars! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 10:47:18 AM | ***APPLAUDES SAPPHIRE***
Thank you so much! You said it perfectly! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 12:00:48 PM |
I have been having the same problem with older men ...and younger men...I dont see why someone feels the need to lie about their age...no matter how good you look or THINK you look there is a aging process. The thing that bothers me is the excuse everyone else does it...the thing is no, not everyone else...just the other liars! Ohhhhh that hurt!! But, you are so very right sapphireeyes!! I couldn't hide my age if I tried.......too many people know me here and I would sooooo get called out for it!
Great response!!
~Sneaks | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 9:53:32 AM |
I've also experienced as many women saying that they're single or divorced and "oops", they're ACTUALLY only separated or still married and "want some fun". - Thunderscribe
Tell you what TS, nice guy that I am, tell me who these already attached ladies are, and I'll have a talk with them...
Tony | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 10:31:10 AM |
age is a number and you are only as old as you feel...
Yep, I feel like a 30 year old..... too bad they are hard to find........ just kidding
I never try to misrepresent my age.... I just celebrate anniversaries of my 29th b-day (13 this year)
~k~ | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 12:36:03 AM | Ok, what does an 80 year old woman have that an 18 year old doesnt?
Tits between her knees! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 7:06:54 PM | Why misrepresent your age!!! well, perhaps one is not willing to accept how old or young they are.. perhaps they want a younger person and to lie about the age they will get what they seek... But, if you lie and misslead then what else are you hidding??? Interesting thought huh??
Hell, people hide behind the PC and think I can lie and misslead.. they will never know... sorry buck-o but, the truth will set you free or loos the one that was ment to be but, because you were not true .. You missed out!!
Good topic!! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 7:34:38 PM | Heck, I'm proud I've made it to 56 and stayed healthy. Some people I've known in the past probably bet I wouldn't make it this far.  You're only as old as you act. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2008 9:47:21 AM | Hate to bring the bad news to ya my man, but this is a traditional issue with many woman who do not wnat to acknowledge their true age, in comparison to say, "How I really Look",. In your case this might not really be an issue if these woman were able give you the family you're looking for in life.
My recommendation is this, use this site as a "tool" to help you in your quest for that child bearing wife, and not the one-basket (so to speak) in your search for your kids mother.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 8:36:24 PM | | Still, my biggest gripe about the whole thing is the lying. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 3:01:39 AM | I'm with you about people lying!! If a simple thing about the truth of your age is so hard to tell what else are you hidding!!!!
No mattew what the resaon is people will tell a little white lie and think nothing about it but, for others it is and can be a huge deal. Times are not like they use to be and people just seem to think it is okay to tell a little while lie.
I'm 38 and I'm proud of it! I would never lie about my age! OHHH myyyy Goodness in a few weeks I will be 39!! eakk!! Now that is a scarry thought... I'm kidding!!
What ever the case may be I hope you find the women that can give you what you seek and not lie about there age! Men and women alike all and will lie about there age, how tall they are and so on just to get noticed! But when the truth comes out! They might risk the chance of that person not understanding and then saying them sad words " Good Bye"
Only you can make the choice if you want to forgive them and let that lie go ( once it is found out) ! I wish you the best in finding what you seek.
LL | |
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