| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:47:45 PM | Now, just so you know where I'm coming from, it is not unusual for me to make an effort to wear a dress or skirt and heels on a first date. Of course, it depends on what we plan on doing. If it's something recreational, like bike-riding, then of course, I will dress in something more casual and appropriate.
But what I'm talking here is more along the lines of special request. For example, I was recently asked if I'd like to go dancing. (Duh, what's my name?) Next question: would I wear something sexy, like short and low-cut? In other words, more revealing?
And yet another guy asked me to wear black leather, EVERYTHING, a la "Mistress Dominatrix". Now we're getting into some fantasy territory.
I have yet to date either of these guys, so nothing more to share as yet from my side, other than to admit, I was a bit flattered, in a roundabout way. But then I got to thinking, if you guys want to dress someone, get yourselves a Barbie doll!
So now I'd like to hear from my sister fishies - share the request, whether or not you complied, why or why not, how it made you feel, and the result, thumbs up or thumbs down, and, lastly, if you'd do it again.
Looking forward to your collective replies!
~ DD | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:53:56 PM | | I'd take it on a situation by situation request, if he requested it because he knew we were going somewhere were I'd want to look nice I would not mind..but lets say he asked me to dress up in a Sailer Moon Suit or some such I'd probably drop him like a lead balloon. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:56:00 PM | that's a tough one! I would always wear a skirt and heels on a first date/meeting. but that's how I like to dress anyways. I know a lot of women don't like to wear dresses at all and never heels.
I think most guys (not all) would like to see a lady dressed up a little. And don't we want the guy to put some effort into his appearance for us???
having a guy request that you wear something specific is a little kinky - If he wants to see the real person let her dress herself on that first date and see if he likes her as is. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:58:48 PM | I know some types of clothes seem to go along with certain types of dancing (ballroom, salsa, square dancing, etc...), so I can see wearing an appropriate "costume" for that. Normally, for a nice dinner date, a women will put forth effort and dress accordingly. Maybe a little sexier or little more conservative depending on how well she's gotten to know the guy.
However, if someone I'd never met specifically asked me wear something revealing, sexy, or provocative on a first date.. we wouldn't make it to the first date. To me, that shows he is interested in one thing only and if that's the case, the date would be a waste of my time. But, that might just be me.
Krys | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:01:14 PM | | It depends which guy asked me. I talk to a few on here and some I have known for a while and I feel like we are already "friends" even though we have never met face to face. If one of those guys asked me I would but just a first date request like I love the color pink would you mind wearing it....hell no!! | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:08:48 PM | Other than requesting that you wear something appropriate to the occassion ( are you going to see rally cars or a friends wedding?) He probably shouldn't be asking you to wear anything in particular.. he either likes how you dress or he doesn't, or he's a control freak, or seeing how far he can push you....(ie: controlling and potentially abusive) What's next? Hair colour? Make-up, who you hang out with... your job?
Once the relationship becomes sexual there might be room for apparel titillation if you both get off on that.
Set your boundaries...I bet he backs off. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:16:45 PM | I dress for me and only me. I wear what I like, what I find comfortable and what I feel looks good on me. I do not allow my family, friends or a man to tell me what to wear, just as I do not tell them what to wear.
I think it is demanding to tell someone what to wear. If it is a surprise date he can say dress up or dress down if he wants you to fit in to where you are going and keeping where you are going as a secret. But to say, for example, my favorite color is green so wear green. To me, that is demanding and if he makes demands at the first date, what else is he gonna demand?
~Carrie | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:21:36 PM | I was "told" to dress sexy for a first date many times. They never happened after I refused to comply.
I didn't think coffee, walks or a movie required low-cut, tight tops, mini-skirts and heels.
Never have and never will find it flattering. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:24:24 PM | OP, your "first date" description says this:
I say to hell with 1st dates, let's just skip the preliminaries and dive right in, headfirst!
Right there you've opened the box up completely. I'm amazed that you can possibly be surprised when men are being bold, because in my opinion, you've just removed all the barriers. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:39:13 PM | If I ASKED the guy "hey what should i wear tonight" and he playfully said "just something sexy baby" wink wink then that's ok, but if comes right out and ASKS me to dress kinda slutty for him, ummmmmmmmm yah NO.
and the more you get to know someone - call me old fashioned, but I like it when a guy wants to protect you from other dudes checking out your a$$, as in NOT asking me to hike it up and wear a hooker top LOL | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:40:49 PM | Hello DD,
The way I see it is this. If a guy is asking you to dress a certain way then don't even think about considering him. You need to be yourself and dress the way you like. He is already trying to make you something your not and you haven't even met yet. God knows how bad he would get after a couple of dates. You need to be secure and happy with yourself and if a man doesn't like you the way you are then he's not worth a second llook. These men have some issues and are looking for something you might not want to give..and flattery is the best way to get you to give in.
Be careful and it's okay to be picky
Take care and best of luck | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:51:34 PM | What are you looking for in a relationship? If it's just intimate encounters or casual sex...then go for it...play the pervert's game.
If you think these guys are looking for anything more than that you are terribly niave or just fooling yourself.
Has he asked for naked pictures too? | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:55:01 PM | Would you discuss your sexual likes/dislikes when first chatting with someone online?
Chances are a guy who jumps right into the whole "what are you into?" line of questioning before even meeting you is looking for a sexual encounter.
I would put this in the same category as a guy who asks you to "dress sexy", or in a way that HE finds sexually appealing, on the first date. He's looking for a "sexy time" (ie. casual sex) not a long-lasting relationship.
If you're not looking for casual sex, either of these scenarios is a good way to weed out those who are. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:01:44 PM | I dress to be comfortable, not to impress. I have never liked wearing heels, and no longer can anyway due to a leg injury.
I am clear in my profile re my preference for a casual date.
Having once been in a relationship with a controlling man, I now get my back up and see many red flags if a prospective date considers it his right to suggest how to dress for said date. Recently a man told me that if we were to date I had to dress up. My reply was that we had barely got past the "nice to meet you" and he felt it was ok to try to dictate how I would dress. I am not now, nor have I ever been, comfortable being a showpiece. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:05:08 PM | I think it would be okay to let someone know what is appropriate for the activity planned...like hiking shoes for a hike, casual or dressy...So if he's asking for sexy? if that's the first date activity planned there should be no gripe.
If the two of you hit it off and dressing to get a certain reaction from people watchers is what you find fun, go for it!
However, I would be very concerned if he's telling you what to wear in a controlling way or trying to fit you into the mold of his ideal woman.
Wear what you want to wear. | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:13:12 PM | | I find both requests demeaning. Asking a woman to wear something short and low cut has nothing whatsoever to do with dancing. And don't even get me started on the leather thing! That's beyond absurd. I love to dress up but I'll be damned if I'll dress like a tramp to turn on some jerk I've never met. Just the idea of him suggesting it is a huge turn-off. I wouldn't meet either of them. But that's my feelings regarding their requests. You have to do what feels right for you. Just be careful! | |
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| Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 6/3/2008 4:26:02 PM | No I wouldn't. And I'd probably end up cancelling the date altogether.
I'm a very casual type of person and I don't even own any sexy clothes. Unless you consider jeans and sneakers or sandals sexy, which I highly doubt.
All that would tell me is that we're poorly suited for each other and we obviously made a mistake in thinking we could be a match.
I don't care for fancy or sexy clothes, and I care even less for anyone telling me what to do, let alone a practical stranger I haven't even been out with yet. Lol! Ehh... I don't think so.
JMO | |
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