| The term "Ask out"
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:54:37 PM | | I've heard this from a few girls now that they think when a guy asks them out that actually means that the guy is asking to be exclusive. I thought it just meant to ask on a simple date. Is that the true meaning? | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:22:30 PM | | Depends how you put it. Are you saying, "Do you want to go out to a movie this weekend?" or are you saying, "Do you want to go out?" The later usually means a date, the latter leans towards exclusive. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:43:03 PM | | Thanks, good to know. I meant another date, but a girl thought something else. So after how many dates is it good to ask a girl out like the latter? | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:50:25 PM | Depends on how you date, but as far as I can tell there is no magic number, it's all gut instinct. If you only date one person at a time, then whenever you feel things are going well enough that you can suggest it (just to make it official). If you date more than one person at a time and try to choose from the potentials... well, once you think you've figured out which one is the "chosen one" (meh... couldn't think of anything better), do it then.
To be honest... it's not as simple as I'm making it out to be neither. Just reading what I've written I can think of at least half a dozen possible scenarios, but it's going to get confusing if I start going through all of them.
That's why I've chosen the whole hang out thing... there's nothing complex about it so nobody is confused. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:58:48 PM | | What about how most girls hate if you ask them to 'go out' as in be exclusive. How do guys get girlfriends if they can't ask? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 10:29:49 AM | Kidnap them????
I dunno either, just be yourself and go with the flow. If you have been going places together for awhile then maybe just tell her hey,"" we've been spending alot of time together and Id like you to know that you are the only girl I want to spend time with. What do you think about that?? ""And if she says well I thought we were already dating tell her you didnt want to rush her into deciding and you never assume things cause it only makes an ASS outta U and ME. And then make some stupid remark that normally falls outta a guys mouth LOL guys sorry couldnt resist.Good luck regardless. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/11/2008 2:44:12 AM | | thanks. i was told by this guy to introduce the woman as my gf. it's worked four times for him. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:32:47 PM | i wouldn't try that introduction thing if she doesn't know she's your girlfriend...that could backfire horribly.
i'd say the best thing to do is *talk* about whether you are exclusive or not. if you can't TALK about it, then you shouldn't BE it. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:40:58 PM | I think I'll agree with rollergrrrl about the introduction.
It may not be wise to introduce a girl as your "girlfriend", unless you're certain that she does consider herself your girlfriend.
Perhaps a woman, who really does want to be your girlfriend, may be flattered to hear herself being introduced as your girlfriend.
But, maybe a woman, who you've only been on a couple of casual dates with, who's maybe still deciding whether or not she'd like to continue seeing you, would be quickly scarred away if she's suddenly suprised to hear you refering to her as "girlfriend". | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:28:05 AM | | Oh ya a couple of dates is too soon. I would wait longer for sure. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 1:18:54 PM | Does anyone remember the old 50's 60's and 70's terms;
"Dating"?
"Fling"?
"Going Steady"?
"Play Boy"? - I'm not referring to the Magazine.
"Teaser"? or "Tart"?
"Dating" or "Date" is a day or evening two people agree to meet and share a good time without any commitment or strings attached.
"Fling" or "One Night Stand" is a chance happening upon either a date gone to home plate without any commitment or strings attached.
"Going Steady" is when two people mutually decide to see each other exclusively becoming involved in a monogamous relationship with certain commitments and strings attached.
"Play Boy", "Teaser" or "Tart" is men and women who are not ready to settle down and be involved in a monogamous relationship, today known as "Players".
The most confusing term and phrases miss-use in so many profiles is, "Let's start out as friends first". Which means, “I’m not ready to settle down, be committed, have strings attached and begin a monogamous relationship? Meet the new age "Under Cover Players, Tarts and Teasers"
When does the string become attached?
Remember, we are starting out as "friends first".........and the game has begun...This attracts the so called Players, it means to them that you are not looking for a commitment, which makes you a Player and your door is open to date. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:28:23 AM | The most confusing term and phrases miss-use in so many profiles is, "Let's start out as friends first". Which means, “I’m not ready to settle down, be committed, have strings attached and begin a monogamous relationship? Meet the new age "Under Cover Players, Tarts and Teasers" Um... maybe that's what the term means to you?
I think phrases like "lets start out as friends", likely have a diferent meaning to almost every different individual who uses the phrase.
Perhaps some people are refering to no-strings-attached sex? But I think many others are honestly looking for friends.
Maybe some people believe in making people read between the lines. But I think many just prefer to openly state what they want.
At one time, my profile did state something like, I was looking for friends. To me it meant: I was lkooking for friends. If someone stupidly wanted to jump to conclussions, or try to imagine that there was a hidden meaning, I guess that was their problem.
This site does allow you to state that you are specifically looking for sexual encounters. So, if that's what I was looking for, I would just openly state it. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 7:45:38 AM | Sex is sex. Friends is friends. It sounds pretty straight forward to me. I love my friends but I don't want to have sex with them. By the same token I would hope that I could be friends with the person I am having sex with. This may be too hard for some people to figure out but I agree with the above statement. Say what you're looking for and mean it. | |
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| The term Ask out
Posted: 9/14/2008 5:18:23 PM |
But I think many others are honestly looking for friends.
To me, the "friends first" is just a shortened way of saying, "Ok... so my profile says I'm looking for long term, but that doesn't mean that we're at that stage as soon as you e-mail me."
That's why I started putting either friends or hang out as my relationship sought. I got sick of the clingons who thought we were a couple as soon as I responded to the first e-mail. I'm sure it's driven more than that away, but whatever... I'm still breathing so it can't be all that bad. | |
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