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Posted: 6/6/2008 12:39:22 PM | OK, so, I was wondering if you guys could help me out. Once I start talking to men on this site I find that I hit walls with getting to know them and who they really are. I was wondering if you could share with me questions you've been asked in the past that led to good conversation, or that you felt gave you an opportunity to really tell the interested person about yourself. Or, on the other hand, questions that you may have asked people that you felt got you an informative answer.
Any help would be very much appreciated. =) | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 1:01:04 PM | Well I got a couple (a few emails in, of course) of they "where do you want to be in a few years" variety... Which I really like because you can narrow them down or answer as expansively as you feel like, and you can incorporate as much of your past as you want too.
Of course if I got that in a first email, my response would be "really?" | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 1:22:50 PM | I agree, that is hard to do and keep it as a friendly chat. There's only so much you can work into a conversation, then you have to just bust out with direct questions... some people don't like those... especially questions about finances.
Myself, I prefer direct questions. It's to the point instead of going round a bout through a convo.
If I don't know you're asking a question about my habits/goals or how I would respond to a certain situation... you'll most likely get a smartass answer that doesn't really tell you anything. And if the answer to that question was a deal breaker... well... that's not fair to either of us.
And a willingness to ask a direct question displays a level of self confidence and maturity that I like.
LOL.. I've been emailed surveys... I liked that. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 1:49:31 PM | | Read the profile. See something in common. Ask? It doesn't matter what it is, just ask? | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 1:52:34 PM | My experience is that MOST of my correspondence here is very
awkward! The exception is when there is no romance intended, and
then it's great!
I would say, it's a HUGE problem. They say that communication with
another person is 90% non verbal. So obviously, this isn't a good way
to talk to a prospective partner! Since you are being judged just on your
words, you have to be very careful what you write! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 2:02:47 PM | I was once sent a list of questions...... I felt like I was filling out my UCAS application form all over again. 
If you aren't compatible intellectually, you'll flounder for things to talk about either way. Remember that women are better at supporting conversations than men are (in the vast majority of cases, all else being equal). If you are struggling with email, try something different like MSN. I don't think it's quite so easy to hold someone's attention through mail. It's not so conversational.
Different people have different strengths when it comes to communication. Some like to talk with, and others at  . Email is good for the latter; MSN is good for the former. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 2:05:42 PM |
awkward! The exception is when there is no romance intended, and
then it's great!
Zing!!! Me too.
Only when I contact someone in another country, province or continent to just say hi "I like your profile, etc" does the conversation ever go anywhere and things get interesting. Otherwise, communicating is like pulling teeth. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 2:11:40 PM | I had a good conversation with a girl on here about interracial cultures. This was from an earlier conversation about me liking non Asian girls, and her liking Asian guys.
Another one was on movies, about actually enjoying a movie at a more than face value level. It so happened like that we liked the same movie. So that was pretty cool too.
I had one about European architecture/art/design as well because I was saying how much I loved the art/sculptures/structures when I was in Italy. I took some classes in University for Visual communications and culture so that was a long conversation as well. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 2:16:43 PM | | I just read through your profile and noticed that there are hardly any tidbits of information that say a lot about you other than you have kids, you do this. So think about it. A guy wants to ask you about something but just can't find a good angle. So my advice is, put some points of interest in your profile. Write about that trip to the Grant Cannon and how outdoor activities impress you. Write about some thing you like doing and would love to do it with someone else. That way, guys have something to ask you. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 3:07:08 PM | | I have no set pattern or guide for this. I ask random questions. Like what you generally like to do at 3 in the morning. Stupid stuff like that. It seems meaningless, but it's also a good way to get to know people. Little things at a time once I get past the basics and whatnot. My methods are far from normal though... | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 3:41:08 PM | Woah! You can actually learn something meaningful about a person by e-mail?
Please tell me how this works. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 4:21:20 PM | | I really believe that its not specific questions, so much as you keep the conversation going by constantly asking questions, If you end every email in a question, they have something to respond to without seeming to be rushing or pushy, or stalkerish. I know its sad. That make sense? | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 4:23:54 PM | Ask about an awkward or embarassing moment.
As long as it's not too recent, people tend to laugh about past mistakes and lower their guard. Then you can reciprocate - actually - you should always reciprocate. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 9:23:38 PM | What is your favourite breakfast when someone else is making it?
What's your favourite colour lingerie?
Do you like pie?
How many ballcaps do you own?
Who's your daddy?
PC or Mac?
What are you wearing?
Tin foil or Aluminum foil?
Aunt - Is it pronounced ant or ont?
Who let the dogs out?
How many different people do you think you talk to in a day?
Favourite male porn star?
Have any pets?
White or red with grilled squab?
Ever been in handcuffs?
First Album/CD you ever bought?
Favourite kind of juice?
What was the last thing you wasted money on?
Does it matter if your belt matches your shoes?
What is your favourite finger food?
Is your mom a good cook?
Have you ever heard voices in your head?
Are you registered to vote?
Do you have any outstanding warrants?
Ever been in an earthquake?
Can you name an opera?
Do you believe in manscaping?
What scares the bejeebus out of you?
If you could ask me three questions, what would they be?
What did you have for lunch?
Celtics or Lakers?
Paris or Venice?
Paris or Britney?
Tito or Germaine?
What's on the counter in your kitchen?
Do you have any house plants?
Who wrote the book of love?
Do you own any ultra-suede?
Are you married?
Whats the first word out of your mouth when you stub your toe?
Sharks or Jets?
What would you do with $50,000 cash, and only one hour to spend it, at 3 AM?
When was the last time you puked in your mouth a little?
Does your penis have a name?
When was the last time you rode a bus?
Are there any lawsuits pending against you?
Do you have a library card?
Tai chi or yoga?
If you were going to be executed, what would your last meal/words/requested be?
How many pieces of jewelery are you wearing?
Who is your favourite reporter?
Have you ever received anything in a plain brown wrapper?
If you could only keep one - the NRA or the ERA?
Who are your kids named after?
What size shoes do you wear?
What is the best hangover remedy you know of?
Pitcher or catcher?
What was your first job?
Who's on first?
Meditation or prayer?
When did you last go to the zoo?
Fawlty Towers or Absolutely Fabulous?
How long can you hold your breath?
What's that dangly thing at the back of your throat called?
Take out or delivery?
Do you have any recurring nightmares?
Can you tie a tie?
What would be the worst way to die?
What kind of tree would you be?
Who is your hero?
What is the square root of 25?
Left handed or right?
Do you put goo in your hair?
If you were God and could smite anyone you wanted to...who is top of the list?
Can you ride a bike?
What is the grossest thing you've ever had in your mouth?
Who are your favourite five Shakespeare characters?
Ever had a mullet?
Martinis - vodka or gin?
Where's Waldo?
When was the last time you washed your tub?
Who is your favourite neighbour?
How do you make soap?
How many is the most letters of the alphabet you have burped?
What is the name of that blue liquid they keep combs in at the barber shop?
How many piercing do you have?
How do you spell relief?
What was the last parade you went to?
Jeannie or Samantha?
What do you take in your coffee?
Firing squad or electric chair or hung by the neck until you are dead.
Can you drive a stick?
How many teeth do you have?
When is it acceptable to wear black socks while having sex?
Where did Lincoln give the Gettysburg Address?
Star Trek or Star Wars?
Boxers or briefs?
Beatles or Stones?
Dave or Jay?
What kind of pizza?
Who is the oldest person you know?
What frustrates you the most out of all of life's little frustrations?
Where have all the flowers gone?
Do these jeans make my ass look fat?
How would you solve world hunger?
What is your favourite colour?
What is your quest?
What is the capital of Assyria?
What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?
Your place or mine?
Why? | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 9:27:18 PM | One question that leads to a fun discussion is...
"I bumped into an old girlfriend of yours today. Guess what she had to say about you?!" | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 9:43:00 PM | Great question, OP! So yeah...i'm a chick, but after reading, I sort of wanted to chime in.
My experience is that MOST of my correspondence here is very
awkward! The exception is when there is no romance intended, and
then it's great!
I can totally agree with you on that one! The best e-mails seem to be of the "friendly" variety.
That being said, I can discuss just about anything, with just about anyone. Have gotten many e-mails that were cut off, and have sent a few that have been cut off. Thing is, you have to make sure the people you're contacting are in some way compatible with you, and then you can talk to them about a variety of things.
Generally, when i'm contacting someone, I will tell them a funny story, and then ask them if that has happened to them before, or how badly they're wanting to make fun of me? Usually if you start things light, you get a pretty good response.
Asking people what they read is always fun, because you get a feel for the type of person they are, and sometimes you even get good book recommendations! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 10:08:38 PM | just ask him what he see himself in 15 years.
if he makes up goals that is obvious unachievable, he is just trying to impress you and want sex.
if he makes some honest, and achievable goals then it is a good sigh. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 10:23:04 PM | What a great list, Artful! You don't mind if I use some of these, do you?
I can imagine some of them starting quite the debate!
Thanks! | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 10:45:22 PM | If Jean Paul Satre and Freidrich Neitzsche got into a fight, who would win?
Edit: By the way, what IS that blue stuff that the barbers keep the combs in called? | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 11:55:33 PM |
Once I start talking to men on this site I find that I hit walls
Hmm... you seem to be the problem!
Now chill, you asked!
How about trying to actually getting to know what makes a guy tick...then we can talk
As for what can make it flow... well... you just have to have experience, no? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 5:44:24 AM | What's your favorite way to spend a rainy weekend morning?
The answers may seem fairly standard, but they CAN lead to some very interesting conversations. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 5:56:18 AM | Best question was ....
"How is the situation progressing with your foot fungus?"
but she had sent it to the wrong person! | |
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